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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (May 3, 2002)
ft m f I i f i t # c #1I 90.7 PORTLAND ............▼.............. NEWS, PUBLIC AFFAIRS AND Bad manners MUSIC THAT YOU WON'T HEAR ANY W HE RE E L S E . LISTEN FOR TH IS WAY O UT Don’t get too chummy with cheapskates and drunks AT 6 PM EVERY TUESDAY. EVERY BOOK OF GAY EROTICA ALWAYS IN STOCK! D ear M s . B ehavior : ( new ) On the Couch. Three muscular bucks get naked and wrestle (I think it’s wrestling...) $40. <@)JacJr the Stripper. Daddy-boy artist Julius returns with filthy new picture-story book. $27. ( new ) Masculine Scent. Not a cologne but a new picturebook of dreamy Asian men. $20. DOWNTOWN @ 927 SW OAK • 226-8141 I O t A N N I V E tl R S A R Y C O N C E R T ! f re i r h r t n t; A urora chorus J O A N S Z Y M K O , DIRECTOR S A T U R D A Y SC H N ITZE R C O N C E R T HALL MAY 4 • 8:°° P|vi RESERVED: $15. $18. $25 PC PA BOX O f FICE <g f a s t i XX: 503.224.8499 AURORA CHORUS: 503.AURO RA.1 NO ONE TURNED »WAT DUE TO IACR 0E f UNOS—SPACE AVAILABLE i n i g h t o n l y ! 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M U Balroom Queer Pride week is brought to you by the 2002 Pride Planning Committee Individual program s are sponsored by the Rainbow Continuum, OSU W om ens Center, IS O S U ,T h e Queer Resource Center, ASOSUS LGBTQQI and W om ens Task Forces, the Asian/Pacrfic American Student Union, Hewlett-Packard C o m p an y an d S tu d e n t In v o lv e m e n t s D iv e rs ity and D ev elo p m e n t and W o m en s C en ter row n*Tnwn n r a- rue R w ntow canTirmutn tt 7 -« « c * th > Q utm *M ou»e« Ctrrrm 7S7-«wi w w w ,o(\$Tt<lw /cA U A rdA I\ ___________ ________ ___________/ ing or even 28 days of rehabilitative treatment for the pathologically parsimonious. I would like to know what you think about people who are just plain cheap. 1 have a friend, D ear M s . B ehavior : Julie, who I have My ex-lover Barry known since college. showed up a drunken We are now Kith in mess on my dixirstep our 40s. last weekend. He was Over the years, I reeking of booze and have been invited to raving like a lunatic. many parties (from His wife (that’s right, birthdays to brunches) wife) and he had had a with Julie where she is big public drunken the only person who brawl and she kicked doesn’t contribute. I him out. kept my mouth shut I put down my aKiut this until last Kxrk, threw an extra year, when she told log on the fire, made a me she was embar pot of coffee and let rassed that she did not him stay the night on bring a present to our the sofa. I felt sorry for friend’s 40th. (Every Barry, although I’ll admit I was thankful all the one else did, and she realized this during the while for being spared this drunken drama on a opening of the presents.) daily basis. 1 gently explained to her that it’s always The thing is, after he left the next morning good manners to bring something when you are invited to a social engagement—even if (of course he went back to his wife; he always does), I felt upset and anxious and kind of it’s just a Kiwi of potato salad! After our talk, Julie started contributing something, depressed. Should I call him and tell him his actions do have consequences? I think he whether it was a bottle of wine or box of should know. candy. 1 was so relieved aKiut this. — Ambushed But for some reason, Julie recently regressed and didn’t bring anything to the last two par ties she and I attended. I couldn’t believe it. I D ear A mbushed : Barry won’t stop showing up at your house want to shake her. like a drunken mess just because it makes you Julie is putting herself through graduate feel anxious and depressed. Drunks are a bit school, which we all know is quite expen more self-centered than that. sive, hut she makes six figures a year, so Remind Barry that one 1 really think she should he of the benefits of your more considerate. Do you have any advice for me? breakup is that you don’t M y ex-lover have to play Florence —Jen B arry showed up Nightingale anymore. D ear J en : (His wife doesn’t either, a drunken mess Ms. Behavior enthusiasti hut she’ll have to figure on m y doorstep cally joins you in your dis that out for herself.) The last weekend dain for the cheap. Next to hard part for you will he He was reeking sticking to it, but if sym kleptomania and had hygiene, it’s the worst char pathetic friends turn him of booze and acteristic in a friend. away when he’s “reeking raving like a What do these shameless of booze and raving like a lunatic. His wife misers hope to do with the lunatic,” Barry might (th at’s right, wife) someday seek help for his few dollars they neglected to spend on wine or potato problem. and he had had salad, anyway? They’re not a big public saving their money for D ear M s . B ehavior : drunken brawl charm school. And please, After reading your and she kicked allow Ms. Behavior to pre wonderful hook, I still empt any P.C. or Marxist let him out. can’t figure out which of ters by emphasizing we’re your categories I fit into. talking about people who are I hate expensive stingy, not broke. brunches. I hate Barbra Streisand and Don’t waste your breath on your penny- Disney. Clubs annoy me. I love to hake, I pinching friend. You’ve already explained the think Scully from The X-Files is the perfect joys of gift giving, and Julie won’t hear your woman, I’m an interactive designer, and I do message of abundance. step aerobics. Is that enough to go on? If you ever develop the impulse to date —Steve Julie, don’t. If you are just friends and she chooses to attend her friends’ parties empty- D ear S teve : handed, her cheapness does not reflect on Ms. Behavior might have to see you to he you. sure, hut it sounds like you probably fit into one Of course, if she were your girlfriend, it of her new categories: Suburban HouscFag. JH would reflect on you, and you’d he forced to investigate more extreme measures, whether Write your confused and conflicted heart out to they involved positive reinforcement, sham- Ms. B E H A V IO R at MsBehavujr@aol.com.
