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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Feb. 15, 2002)
fflbruary 15,2002 ADVICE ................... ▼.................... everyone is w elcom e. Sunday w orship at 10:30 am intergenerational services and religious education fo r tunities fo r gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning peo (204 SE Mam S t , Estacada. 503-349-4245.) (5 /0 2 ) children. It w elcom es m em bers o f the gay. lesbian, bi ple 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun arid and trans com m unity. N urtures spintual grow th and pro supportive social a ctivitie s. A lso one-on-one support, advocacy, inform ation and referrals fo r Clackam as F irst C ongregational United Church o f C h rist is an open and affirm ing congregation in the liberal C hristian tra ditio n. Sunday w orship is at 10:25 am, and church school fo r children runs concurrently. (1 1 2 6 S W Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) (5 /0 2 ) F irst U nitarian C hurch o f Portland is an open and affirm ing liberal religious com m unity. W e o ffe r a w ide range o f program s to nurture spiritual grow th and com m unity. O ur Sunday services are at 9 and 10:45 am. (1011 S W 12th Ave. 503-228-6389 m otes living by U nitarian U m versalist pnnciples. (4 pm www. w yeast.pnw d. uua. org .) (5 /0 2 ) C ounty service providers. (5 03-969-0060 youthjih de@ ho tm ail.com .) (5 /0 2 ) Zion U nited C hurch o f C h rist an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans fo r G LB T yo u th betw een 13 and 23 in G resham . Sunday. 3915 SE S teele S t. 503-777-3704 and heterosexual people who w ish to w orship in a E xpression is a fre e a rt/e x p re s s io n su p p o rt group C hrist-centered, warm , caring, m u ltiag e/ra ce/cultural H ang o u t and have fun eve ry Friday! S pon sored by R oots and B ranches. (Jonathan 50 3-87 2-9 664 , faith com m unity. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 2 3 rd Ave., ext. 2 8 .)( 5 /0 2 ) Gresham . 503 6 6 5 -8 7 4 1 ) (5 /0 2 ) w w w firstunitahanportland.org.) (5 /0 2 ) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network Washington; Spiritu ality fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180, 4129, Tigard, OR 97223. 503-525-1177 o r 503-9365614. glsenoi@ aol.com.) (5/02) one is le ft ou t in G od's fam ily. G LBT potlucks are held Abundant Life Center. A New Thought C om m unity Outside In operates a clinic fo r anyone who can't qualify m onthly. (1 0:30 am Sunday 1838 S W Jefferson S t. fo r spiritual awakening, transform ing lives through love fo r the Oregon Health Plan as w ell as a needle exchange 503-228-3195. www. fum cpdx. o rg .) (5 /0 2 ) A safe place w here children leam to em body spiritual Full C ircle Temple is a place o f w orship fo r wom en principles. (1 0.30 am Sunday 10009 NE N inth Ave.. Vancouver 360-573-2626.) (5 /0 2 ) service that includes those who inject hormones. Can pro vide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as well F irst U nited M ethodist C hurch o f Portland, a w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no o f all ages offering w orkshops, song and drum circles, m editation room s and altars o f celebration, incorpora t ing w hat you bring to share. (1 0 a m -10 pm Tuesday- East Vancouver U nited M ethodist Church. Sunday 3125 E B urnside S t. 503-238-0675 ) (5 /0 2 ) 5701 M a cA rthur Bfvd. 360-693-4761. Grace Space a m ultidenom inational spiritual center R econciling, w elcom ing. (10 am Sunday. ourclarkcounty. colum bia n.com /27 3/ 7 (5 /0 2 ) led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations (5 pm . Friends o f M ultnom ah. 43 12 SE F irst C ongregational C hurch, United Church o f C hrist. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less S tark S t. 503-287-3216.) (5 /0 2 ) tra ditio nal" in an open and affirm ing congregation Integrity the gay and lesbian m inistry o f the Episcopal (1 2 2 0 N E 6 8 th S t.. Vancouver 360-693-1476. vanucc@ aol.com .) (5 /0 2 ) Church, meets every second Fnday of the month in the M orrison Room at Trinity Cathedral. Euchanst is celebrated God's Holy T erritory. A sp irit-fille d w orship expen- at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 N W ence. seeking G od fo r holiness and w holeness. For 19th Ave. 503-286-9111. www.mtegntyusa.org.) (5 /02) gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone w elcom e1 Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spiritual directors from various world religious traditions are available fo r guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. - ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm W ednesday B ible study and prayer 7807 N E 30th S t., V ancouver 360-885-9461. gm bear68@ netzero.net.) (5 /0 2 ) as fo r those HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices o f Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-sup port group fo r queer youth. (10 am -6 pm Monday-Fndiay 1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (5 /02) P ride P ro je ct brings to g e th e r W ashing ton C o u n ty lesbian, gay. bi. tra n s and q u e stio n in g you th to plan and a tte n d m o nthly social e ve n ts. A lso in fo rm a tio n , re fe rra l, su p p o rt and ad vocacy se rvice s fo r W ashington C ounty. (M o lly 50 3-2 6 0 -5 7 9 2 . m o lly@ p rid e p ro je ct.o rg .) (5 /0 2 ) R ainbow is a m u lticu ltu ra l p e e r su p p o rt and a c tiv ity gro u p fo r gay, lesbian, bi, tra n s and q u e s tio n in g yo u th . (4 :3 0 pm W ednesday M e tro p o lita n C om m unity C hurch o f P ortlan d, 2 4 0 0 N E B roa dw ay 5 0 3 -2 8 1 -8 8 6 8 .) (5 /0 2 ) 503-233-2026. ext. 3. www.spihtone.com /~isc.) (5 /02) Lincoln S treet United M ethodist C hurch is an open and accepting congregation o f progressive C hristians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St. 50 3-231-1930.) (5 /0 2 ) Metanoia Peace Community (U nited M e thod ist) is a "house chu rch," bnnging gay and straight together. (D aily p ra ye r 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm . 2 1 1 6 N E 18th Ave. 503-281-3697 w w w .tearsoup.com /m etanoia.) (5 /0 2 ) M etropolitan Community Church o f Portland holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school fo r children is held during the 11 am w orship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 -8868 m fo@ m ccportland com .) (5 /0 2 ) Portland C enter fo r S p iritu a l G rowth invites you to celebrate your spintuality w ith the Revs. C asey and B erdell M offett-C haney. Liberal, practical; all are w elcom e. (1 0:30 am Sunday. 4828 NE 3 3 rd Ave. 503-481-7591.) (0 5 /0 2 ) Portland Radical Faeries m eet tw ice a m onth w ith potlucks and circles at the fu ll moon and the new moon. O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual grow th and com m unity. C offee hours s ta rt 9:3 0 am Saturdays a t 3 Friends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826. otterG p cez.com .) (5 /0 2 ) Bonnie Lee attempts to share the soul of the Argentine tango in her mixed-media work Feb. 28-March 26 at ONDA Studio P otter's House M inistries is an open, affirm ing, M etropolitan Community Church o f the Gentle Shepherd. (1 0 am every Sunday. 6 30 pm second and brble-exptoring congregation w ith specific outreach in la st Sunday S uite EJF. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver the gay and lesbian com m unity. (1 0 4 5 am Sunday 36 0-69 614 80 Mccgs@ aol com w w w .m ccgs.org.) (5 /0 2 ) 3830 SE 62nd A ve 50 3 -7 7 5 -5 0 2 4 .) (5 /0 2 ) S iste rS p irit o ffers w om en's spiritua lity celebrations, M ichael Servetus U nitarian U niverealist Fellow ship a hom e fo r the liberal religious spirit. discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and (1 0 am Sunday. 4505 E 18th S t., Vancouver. classes. Schedule o f events available A ll wom en are 36 0-695-1891.) (5 /0 2 ) w elcom e. (S uite 102. 34 30 SE B elm ont S t M ailing address: PO Box 9246. P ortland, OR 97207. 503-736-3297. sistersp@ teleport.com .) (5 /0 2 ) Sexual M in o rity Youth R ecreation C enter (SM YRC) o ffe rs drop-in com p u te r access, pool tab le s and an inform al place to hang o u t. Plays h o st to w eekly yo u th sup port groups including W in d fire , Trans Y outh G roup and P ersonal D e ity P roxy (a c re 4 pm -m idnigh t F riday an d S aturday. 2 1 0 0 S E B elm ont S t. 5 0 3 -87 2-9 664 w w w .sm yrc.o rg .) (5 /0 2 ) Youth HIV/STD Prevention P roject provides fun and educational program s along w ith counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ m ent. (503-872-9664.) ( 5 /0 2 ) YouthNet a program o f Love M akes a Family, o ffe rs lenging, supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo F irst C ongregational C hurch, U nited Church o f C h rist is an open and affirm ing congregation o ffe r tutoring and m entoring fo r lesbian, gay, bi and trans ple. It is the firs t M ore Light P resbyterian C hurch in ing w orship and church school. C hild care provided. youth as w ell as fo r children o f LGBT parents O regon. (1 0 am Sunday sum m er, 9:3 0 and 1 1 am W heelchair accessible (1 0 am Sunday 700 M ahon S t. (503-227-1981.) (5 /0 2 ) Sunday w inter. 12250 S W D enney Road. Beaverton NE, Salem. 50 3-363-3660.) (5 /0 2 ) 503-644-2073.) (5 /0 2 ) St. James Lutheran C hurch a reconciled in First Congregational United Church of Christ is an inclusive Chnstian community, an open and affirming church. C hrist congregation, w elcom es all people fo r traditional (9:30 am Sunday summer, 10:30 am Sunday winter. liturgical w orship. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park 4515 SW W est Hills Road. Corvallis. 541-757-8122.)(5/02) A ve 503-227-2439 ) (5 /0 2 ) St. P h ilip N eri C atholic C hurch o ffe rs a G ay-Straight A lliance o f the U nitarian U niversalist C ongregation o f Salem m eets fo r a gay-positive com m unity fo r C atholics and th e ir friends. potluck on the th ird Sunday o f each m onth. (6 pm M ass at 7:30 pm Fridays follow ed by a social. (P aulist 5090 C enter S t. NE. 503-363-8716.) (5 /0 2 ) C enter. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 3 1 -4 9 5 5 .)( 5 /0 2 ) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group fo r gay. lesbian, and bi youth betw een 14 and 20, m eets on the firs t and Thursdays o f the m onth in Ashland (5 4 1-488-6990 ) (5 /0 2 ) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspirational W ashington Youth com ing all people since 1863. (1 2 .1 0 p m W ednesday messages, children's celebrations and joy every Sunday at the Heart Center We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, Triple P oint o ffers education, support and advocacy and 7:45 and 10 gm Sunday Sunday school and child recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spintu St. Stephen's Episcopal C hurch has been w el care a t 10 am. S outhw est 13th Avenue a t C lay S tre e t al growth, healing and enlightenment. (6 7 :3 0 p m 1578 503-223-6424.) (5 /0 2 ) Commercial St. SE, Salem. 503-7636030 ) (5/02) U nity Church o f Portland is an all inclusive com M om ingsids United M ethodist Church is a recon m unity follow ing C hrist's teachings and celebrating ciling congregation where everyone is welcom e to partici d ive rsity and tru th w ithout trappings fo r 75 years pate in the full life o f the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sunday school and child care available. P otluck firs t Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503-364-5013.) ( 5/0 2 ) Sundays. (1 0 am Sunday 4525 SE S ta rk St. 503-234-7441 u n ityp rtlndffw w d b o rg .) (5 /0 2 ) Sweet S p irit M etropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds w orship at 11 am Sundays follow ed by U niversity Park United M ethodist C hurch is a coffee and fellow ship as w ell as potluck lunches every m em ber o f the netw ork o f reconciling congregations second Sunday. (Am erican Legkxi Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane and m eets fo r w orship at 10 am Sundays (4775 N NE, Salem M ailing address P astor Ken Kerr. PO Box Lom bard S t. 503-289- 7843.) (5 /0 2 ) 12753, Salem , OR 97 309 5 0 3 -3 1 6 7 9 2 3 ) (5 /0 2 ) is a new, open and liberal religious com m unity offering (John 3 6 0 6 9 5 -132 5 .) ( 5 /0 2 ) Willamette V alley Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Q uestioning Youth G roup fo r ages 13 to 18 o ffe rs support, inform ation and fun. Free, con fid ential, ad ult-facilita ted (D rop in 4 6 pm F riday Am azon C om m unity C enter, 27 00 H ifyard Sf.. Eugene 5 4 1 -684 3 4 6 6 ) (5 /0 2 ) 541 -3 4 6 1 1 3 4 .) (5 /0 2 ) (11 am Sunday 3300 SE W oodw ard S t 503-238-1337. w w w w avertyuccorg.) (5 /0 2 ) m ent o f Youth House, 1112 C olum bia S t. in Vancouver (5 pm . Komorua C enter, 1414 K incaid S t . Eugene ty w ith w orship, children's school and child care Wy'east Unitarian U niversalis! Congregation to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group fo r ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday Waveriy Heights Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing com m uni Should an HIV-phobe be educated—or dumped? D ear M s . B ehavior : I wrote to you last year, and your advice was very helpful. For the past few months, I’ve pursued a woman 1 am attracted to and like very much. After we hooked up, an unanticipated problem arose. Previously, I was with someone for five years who was diag nosed with HIV three years into our relationship. I haven’t been with her for two years. When I told this new woman about it, she automatically judged me. She accused me of having AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases. I hadn’t felt it was relevant to tell her about my past before we had a sex ual encounter becaase I repeatedly have tested negative for HIV and STDs. I am aware AIDS is a sensitive issue and have a lot of knowledge per taining to the disease. I don’t believe she does— because of how she reacted. Should I be judged because I was in a relationship with a woman who was HlV-posi- tive? Can someone say “no” to me regarding sex ual relations because of that? Even if I have proof showing I’m negative for HIV and STDs? What if this woman could be my soulmate? — DisappointecLond H u rt, Yet Trying to U nderstand a tive group). (4 -8 pm M onday a n d W ednesday, W illamette Valley: Spiritu ality S outhm inster Presbyterian C hurch is a chal The fear factor Rainbow Youth is a support group fo r gay. lesbian, Metro: Youth bi. trans and questioning youth and their friends Clackam as County Youth Pride provides oppor betw een 13 and 17 years old in the Salem -Keizer area D ear D isappointed E t c .: No, you shouldn’t be judged because you were with a woman who was HIV-positive. But yes, someone can reject you for that or any other reason, and it doesn’t have to be politically correct or rational; that’s just how it is with sex and love. Some people who are phobic about HIV can be educated. But when you’re romantically interested in someone, the role of educator is not a fun one. You can state the facts about transmission, but you wouldn’t want to feel like you were persuading her to have sex with you. Remember, an aversion can be very powerful. Some lesbians would not have sex with you because you ate meat in 1989, had sex with a man sometime in your past or once used a public restroom. Others would feel safe only if you allowed them to boil you first. When you meet a woman who feels that way, do not try to change her mind. Let the differences between you stand as a symbol for all the ways you’re not compatible and head for the door. As for the soulmate issue, you don’t have to worry. If you meet a woman who does not urgently want to devour you (at least for the first six months), she is not your soulmate. D ear M s . B ehavior : I met this guy, Chip, at my best friend Joe’s sex party. It was my first time at one of these sex/drug bashes, and it was indeed wild— K and Liquid Crystal and everyone walking around naked. It was supposed to be a fisting party, but everyone got wasted and only a few people actually got down to it— one of them was Chip. The rest of us watched him take it up the ass; it was stimulating, to say the least. When it was over and we just were chilling out, I talked to Chip and really got to know him. We spent a lot of time talking and connecting; we didn’t have any sexual contact at all. The next afternoon while every one got ready to leave, Chip shyly came over and gave me a piece of paper with his number on it. Joe thinks I’m crazy. He says Chip is a hustler and was prac tically the paid enter tainment at his party. When I asked Joe if he actu ally hired Chip to be fisted, he said he didn’t. He said Chip showed up with some guy with a mean crack addiction who turns tricks for money. He says Chip is likely to have a similar lifestyle, although Chip told me he works in a camera shop and wants to be a photographer. Should I call him? — Love in A ll the W rong Places D ear L ove in A ll the W rong P laces : Some people who like to be the center of attention at a sex party are very nice people. Chip might be one of them. However, if you call Chip with the intention of dating him, don’t envi sion quiet nights at home playing Scrabble and eating chicken pot pies. Envision yourself with him at a party. Imagine yourself standing by the drinks watching your boyfriend assume the same “stimulating” posi tion while everyone dips into the Chip bowl. If you do call, remember that peo ple rarely change. Ms. Behavior emphasizes this now because she does not want to receive a letter in two years about how you fell in love with the fistee at a sex party and now you’re miserable because he hasn’t developed any new hobbies. | n Whte your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehawrr@aol. com.
