fflbruary 15,2002
ADVICE
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everyone is w elcom e. Sunday w orship at 10:30 am
intergenerational services and religious education fo r
tunities fo r gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning peo
(204 SE Mam S t , Estacada. 503-349-4245.) (5 /0 2 )
children. It w elcom es m em bers o f the gay. lesbian, bi
ple 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun arid
and trans com m unity. N urtures spintual grow th and pro
supportive social a ctivitie s. A lso one-on-one support,
advocacy, inform ation and referrals fo r Clackam as
F irst C ongregational United Church o f C h rist
is an open and affirm ing congregation in the liberal
C hristian tra ditio n. Sunday w orship is at 10:25 am, and
church school fo r children runs concurrently. (1 1 2 6 S W
Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) (5 /0 2 )
F irst U nitarian C hurch o f Portland is an open
and affirm ing liberal religious com m unity. W e o ffe r a
w ide range o f program s to nurture spiritual grow th and
com m unity. O ur Sunday services are at 9 and
10:45 am. (1011 S W 12th Ave. 503-228-6389
m otes living by U nitarian U m versalist pnnciples. (4 pm
www. w yeast.pnw d. uua. org .) (5 /0 2 )
C ounty service providers. (5 03-969-0060
youthjih de@ ho tm ail.com .) (5 /0 2 )
Zion U nited C hurch o f C h rist an open and
affirm ing congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans
fo r G LB T yo u th betw een 13 and 23 in G resham .
Sunday. 3915 SE S teele S t. 503-777-3704
and heterosexual people who w ish to w orship in a
E xpression is a fre e a rt/e x p re s s io n su p p o rt group
C hrist-centered, warm , caring, m u ltiag e/ra ce/cultural
H ang o u t and have fun eve ry Friday! S pon sored by
R oots and B ranches. (Jonathan 50 3-87 2-9 664 ,
faith com m unity. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 2 3 rd Ave.,
ext. 2 8 .)( 5 /0 2 )
Gresham . 503 6 6 5 -8 7 4 1 ) (5 /0 2 )
w w w firstunitahanportland.org.) (5 /0 2 )
The
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
Washington; Spiritu ality
fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW
North Dakota St., Suite 180, 4129, Tigard, OR 97223.
503-525-1177 o r 503-9365614. glsenoi@ aol.com.) (5/02)
one is le ft ou t in G od's fam ily. G LBT potlucks are held
Abundant Life Center. A New Thought C om m unity
Outside In operates a clinic fo r anyone who can't qualify
m onthly. (1 0:30 am Sunday 1838 S W Jefferson S t.
fo r spiritual awakening, transform ing lives through love
fo r the Oregon Health Plan as w ell as a needle exchange
503-228-3195. www. fum cpdx. o rg .) (5 /0 2 )
A safe place w here children leam to em body spiritual
Full C ircle Temple is a place o f w orship fo r wom en
principles. (1 0.30 am Sunday 10009 NE N inth Ave..
Vancouver 360-573-2626.) (5 /0 2 )
service that includes those who inject hormones. Can pro
vide transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as well
F irst U nited M ethodist C hurch o f Portland, a
w elcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no
o f all ages offering w orkshops, song and drum circles,
m editation room s and altars o f celebration, incorpora t
ing w hat you bring to share. (1 0 a m -10 pm Tuesday-
East Vancouver U nited M ethodist Church.
Sunday 3125 E B urnside S t. 503-238-0675 ) (5 /0 2 )
5701 M a cA rthur Bfvd. 360-693-4761.
Grace Space a m ultidenom inational spiritual center
R econciling, w elcom ing. (10 am Sunday.
ourclarkcounty. colum bia n.com /27 3/ 7 (5 /0 2 )
led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening
celebrations (5 pm . Friends o f M ultnom ah. 43 12 SE
F irst C ongregational C hurch, United Church
o f C hrist. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less
S tark S t. 503-287-3216.) (5 /0 2 )
tra ditio nal" in an open and affirm ing congregation
Integrity the gay and lesbian m inistry o f the Episcopal
(1 2 2 0 N E 6 8 th S t.. Vancouver 360-693-1476.
vanucc@ aol.com .) (5 /0 2 )
Church, meets every second Fnday of the month in the
M orrison Room at Trinity Cathedral. Euchanst is celebrated
God's Holy T erritory. A sp irit-fille d w orship expen-
at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 N W
ence. seeking G od fo r holiness and w holeness. For
19th Ave. 503-286-9111. www.mtegntyusa.org.) (5 /02)
gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone w elcom e1
Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spiritual directors from
various world religious traditions are available fo r guidance,
classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. -
( I I am Sunday. 7 pm W ednesday B ible study and
prayer 7807 N E 30th S t., V ancouver 360-885-9461.
gm bear68@ netzero.net.) (5 /0 2 )
as fo r those HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also
plays host to
VOICES (Voices o f Individual and
Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-sup
port group fo r queer youth. (10 am -6 pm Monday-Fndiay
1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (5 /02)
P ride P ro je ct brings to g e th e r W ashing ton C o u n ty
lesbian, gay. bi. tra n s and q u e stio n in g you th to plan
and a tte n d m o nthly social e ve n ts. A lso in fo rm a tio n ,
re fe rra l, su p p o rt and ad vocacy se rvice s fo r
W ashington C ounty. (M o lly 50 3-2 6 0 -5 7 9 2 .
m o lly@ p rid e p ro je ct.o rg .) (5 /0 2 )
R ainbow is a m u lticu ltu ra l p e e r su p p o rt and
a c tiv ity gro u p fo r gay, lesbian, bi, tra n s and q u e s
tio n in g yo u th . (4 :3 0 pm W ednesday M e tro p o lita n
C om m unity C hurch o f P ortlan d, 2 4 0 0 N E B roa dw ay
5 0 3 -2 8 1 -8 8 6 8 .) (5 /0 2 )
503-233-2026. ext. 3. www.spihtone.com /~isc.) (5 /02)
Lincoln S treet United M ethodist C hurch is an
open and accepting congregation o f progressive
C hristians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St.
50 3-231-1930.) (5 /0 2 )
Metanoia Peace Community (U nited M e thod ist) is
a "house chu rch," bnnging gay and straight together.
(D aily p ra ye r 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm .
2 1 1 6 N E 18th Ave. 503-281-3697
w w w .tearsoup.com /m etanoia.) (5 /0 2 )
M etropolitan Community Church o f Portland
holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school fo r children is held during
the 11 am w orship service. (2400 NE Broadway.
503-281 -8868 m fo@ m ccportland com .) (5 /0 2 )
Portland C enter fo r S p iritu a l G rowth invites
you to celebrate your spintuality w ith the Revs. C asey
and B erdell M offett-C haney. Liberal, practical; all are
w elcom e. (1 0:30 am Sunday. 4828 NE 3 3 rd Ave.
503-481-7591.) (0 5 /0 2 )
Portland Radical Faeries m eet tw ice a m onth w ith
potlucks and circles at the fu ll moon and the new
moon. O pen to all men seeking alternative spiritual
grow th and com m unity. C offee hours s ta rt 9:3 0 am
Saturdays a t 3 Friends C offeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave.
(503-235-0826. otterG p cez.com .) (5 /0 2 )
Bonnie Lee attempts to share the soul of the Argentine tango in her mixed-media
work Feb. 28-March 26 at ONDA Studio
P otter's House M inistries is an open, affirm ing,
M etropolitan Community Church o f the Gentle
Shepherd. (1 0 am every Sunday. 6 30 pm second and
brble-exptoring congregation w ith specific outreach in
la st Sunday S uite EJF. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver
the gay and lesbian com m unity. (1 0 4 5 am Sunday
36 0-69 614 80 Mccgs@ aol com w w w .m ccgs.org.) (5 /0 2 )
3830 SE 62nd A ve 50 3 -7 7 5 -5 0 2 4 .) (5 /0 2 )
S iste rS p irit o ffers w om en's spiritua lity celebrations,
M ichael Servetus U nitarian U niverealist
Fellow ship a hom e fo r the liberal religious spirit.
discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and
(1 0 am Sunday. 4505 E 18th S t., Vancouver.
classes. Schedule o f events available A ll wom en are
36 0-695-1891.) (5 /0 2 )
w elcom e. (S uite 102. 34 30 SE B elm ont S t M ailing
address: PO Box 9246. P ortland, OR 97207.
503-736-3297. sistersp@ teleport.com .) (5 /0 2 )
Sexual M in o rity Youth R ecreation C enter
(SM YRC) o ffe rs drop-in com p u te r access, pool
tab le s and an inform al place to hang o u t. Plays h o st
to w eekly yo u th sup port groups including W in d fire ,
Trans Y outh G roup and P ersonal D e ity P roxy (a c re
4 pm -m idnigh t F riday an d S aturday. 2 1 0 0 S E
B elm ont S t. 5 0 3 -87 2-9 664 w w w .sm yrc.o rg .) (5 /0 2 )
Youth HIV/STD Prevention P roject provides fun
and educational program s along w ith counseling and
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ
m ent. (503-872-9664.) ( 5 /0 2 )
YouthNet a program o f Love M akes a Family, o ffe rs
lenging, supportive com m unity that w elcom es all peo
F irst C ongregational C hurch, U nited Church
o f C h rist is an open and affirm ing congregation o ffe r
tutoring and m entoring fo r lesbian, gay, bi and trans
ple. It is the firs t M ore Light P resbyterian C hurch in
ing w orship and church school. C hild care provided.
youth as w ell as fo r children o f LGBT parents
O regon. (1 0 am Sunday sum m er, 9:3 0 and 1 1 am
W heelchair accessible (1 0 am Sunday 700 M ahon S t.
(503-227-1981.) (5 /0 2 )
Sunday w inter. 12250 S W D enney Road. Beaverton
NE, Salem. 50 3-363-3660.) (5 /0 2 )
503-644-2073.) (5 /0 2 )
St. James Lutheran C hurch a reconciled in
First Congregational United Church of Christ is an
inclusive Chnstian community, an open and affirming church.
C hrist congregation, w elcom es all people fo r traditional
(9:30 am Sunday summer, 10:30 am Sunday winter.
liturgical w orship. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park
4515 SW W est Hills Road. Corvallis. 541-757-8122.)(5/02)
A ve 503-227-2439 ) (5 /0 2 )
St. P h ilip N eri C atholic C hurch o ffe rs a
G ay-Straight A lliance o f the U nitarian
U niversalist C ongregation o f Salem m eets fo r a
gay-positive com m unity fo r C atholics and th e ir friends.
potluck on the th ird Sunday o f each m onth. (6 pm
M ass at 7:30 pm Fridays follow ed by a social. (P aulist
5090 C enter S t. NE. 503-363-8716.) (5 /0 2 )
C enter. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 3 1 -4 9 5 5 .)( 5 /0 2 )
Southern Oregon: Youth
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a
group fo r gay. lesbian, and bi youth betw een 14 and 20,
m eets on the firs t and Thursdays o f the m onth in
Ashland (5 4 1-488-6990 ) (5 /0 2 )
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspirational
W ashington Youth
com ing all people since 1863. (1 2 .1 0 p m W ednesday
messages, children's celebrations and joy every Sunday at
the Heart Center We honor and celebrate all sacred paths,
Triple P oint o ffers education, support and advocacy
and 7:45 and 10 gm Sunday Sunday school and child
recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spintu
St. Stephen's Episcopal C hurch has been w el
care a t 10 am. S outhw est 13th Avenue a t C lay S tre e t
al growth, healing and enlightenment. (6 7 :3 0 p m 1578
503-223-6424.) (5 /0 2 )
Commercial St. SE, Salem. 503-7636030 ) (5/02)
U nity Church o f Portland is an all inclusive com
M om ingsids United M ethodist Church is a recon
m unity follow ing C hrist's teachings and celebrating
ciling congregation where everyone is welcom e to partici
d ive rsity and tru th w ithout trappings fo r 75 years
pate in the full life o f the congregation (8 30 and 11 am
Sunday school and child care available. P otluck firs t
Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503-364-5013.) ( 5/0 2 )
Sundays. (1 0 am Sunday 4525 SE S ta rk St.
503-234-7441 u n ityp rtlndffw w d b o rg .) (5 /0 2 )
Sweet S p irit M etropolitan Community Church
(MCC) holds w orship at 11 am Sundays follow ed by
U niversity Park United M ethodist C hurch is a
coffee and fellow ship as w ell as potluck lunches every
m em ber o f the netw ork o f reconciling congregations
second Sunday. (Am erican Legkxi Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane
and m eets fo r w orship at 10 am Sundays (4775 N
NE, Salem M ailing address P astor Ken Kerr. PO Box
Lom bard S t. 503-289- 7843.) (5 /0 2 )
12753, Salem , OR 97 309 5 0 3 -3 1 6 7 9 2 3 ) (5 /0 2 )
is a new, open and liberal religious com m unity offering
(John 3 6 0 6 9 5 -132 5 .) ( 5 /0 2 )
Willamette V alley Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and
Q uestioning Youth G roup fo r ages 13 to 18
o ffe rs support, inform ation and fun. Free, con fid ential,
ad ult-facilita ted (D rop in 4 6 pm F riday Am azon
C om m unity C enter, 27 00 H ifyard
Sf.. Eugene
5 4 1 -684 3 4 6 6 ) (5 /0 2 )
541 -3 4 6 1 1 3 4 .) (5 /0 2 )
(11 am Sunday 3300 SE W oodw ard S t 503-238-1337.
w w w w avertyuccorg.) (5 /0 2 )
m ent o f Youth House, 1112 C olum bia S t. in Vancouver
(5 pm . Komorua C enter, 1414 K incaid S t . Eugene
ty w ith w orship, children's school and child care
Wy'east Unitarian U niversalis! Congregation
to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in
Vancouver, W ash M eets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group fo r ages 25 and younger m eets every M onday
Waveriy Heights Congregational United
Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing com m uni
Should an HIV-phobe
be educated—or dumped?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I wrote to you last
year, and your advice
was very helpful.
For the past few
months, I’ve pursued a
woman 1 am attracted
to and like very much.
After we hooked up, an
unanticipated problem
arose.
Previously, I was
with someone for five
years who was diag
nosed with HIV three
years into our relationship. I haven’t
been with her for two years.
When I told this new woman
about it, she automatically judged me.
She accused me of having AIDS and
sexually transmitted diseases.
I hadn’t felt it was relevant to tell
her about my past before we had a sex
ual encounter becaase I repeatedly
have tested negative for HIV and
STDs. I am aware AIDS is a sensitive
issue and have a lot of knowledge per
taining to the disease. I don’t believe
she does— because of how she reacted.
Should I be judged because I was
in a relationship with a woman who
was HlV-posi-
tive? Can
someone say
“no” to me
regarding sex
ual relations
because of
that? Even if I
have proof showing I’m negative for
HIV and STDs? What if this woman
could be my soulmate?
— DisappointecLond H u rt,
Yet Trying to U nderstand
a tive group). (4 -8 pm M onday a n d W ednesday,
W illamette Valley: Spiritu ality
S outhm inster Presbyterian C hurch is a chal
The fear factor
Rainbow Youth is a support group fo r gay. lesbian,
Metro: Youth
bi. trans and questioning youth and their friends
Clackam as County Youth Pride provides oppor
betw een 13 and 17 years old in the Salem -Keizer area
D ear D isappointed E t c .:
No, you shouldn’t be judged
because you were with a woman who
was HIV-positive. But yes, someone
can reject you for that or any other
reason, and it doesn’t have to be
politically correct or rational; that’s
just how it is with sex and love.
Some people who are phobic
about HIV can be educated. But
when you’re romantically interested
in someone, the role of educator is
not a fun one. You can state the facts
about transmission, but you wouldn’t
want to feel like you were persuading
her to have sex with you.
Remember, an aversion can be
very powerful. Some lesbians would
not have sex with you because you ate
meat in 1989, had sex with a man
sometime in your past or once used a
public restroom. Others would feel
safe only if you allowed them to boil
you first.
When you meet a woman who
feels that way, do not try to change
her mind. Let the differences between
you stand as a symbol for all the ways
you’re not compatible and head for
the door.
As for the soulmate issue, you
don’t have to worry. If you meet a
woman who does not urgently want
to devour you (at least
for the first six
months), she is not
your soulmate.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I met this guy,
Chip, at my best friend
Joe’s sex party. It was
my first time at one of
these sex/drug bashes,
and it was indeed
wild— K and Liquid
Crystal and everyone
walking around naked.
It was supposed to be a fisting
party, but everyone got wasted and
only a few people actually got down
to it— one of them was Chip. The
rest of us watched him take it up the
ass; it was stimulating, to say the least.
When it was over and we just were
chilling out, I talked to Chip and
really got to know him. We spent a
lot of time talking and connecting; we
didn’t have any sexual contact at all.
The next afternoon while every
one got ready to leave, Chip shyly
came over and gave me a piece of
paper with his number on it.
Joe thinks I’m crazy. He says Chip
is a hustler
and was prac
tically the
paid enter
tainment at
his party.
When I asked
Joe if he actu
ally hired Chip to be fisted, he said he
didn’t.
He said Chip showed up with
some guy with a mean crack addiction
who turns tricks for money. He says
Chip is likely to have a similar
lifestyle, although Chip told me he
works in a camera shop and wants to
be a photographer.
Should I call him?
— Love in A ll the W rong Places
D ear L ove in A ll the W rong
P laces :
Some people who like to be the
center of attention at a sex party are
very nice people. Chip might be one
of them.
However, if you call Chip with the
intention of dating him, don’t envi
sion quiet nights at home playing
Scrabble and eating chicken pot pies.
Envision yourself with him at a party.
Imagine yourself standing by the
drinks watching your boyfriend
assume the same “stimulating” posi
tion while everyone dips into the
Chip bowl.
If you do call, remember that peo
ple rarely change. Ms. Behavior
emphasizes this now because she does
not want to receive a letter in two
years about how you fell in love with
the fistee at a sex party and now
you’re miserable because he hasn’t
developed any new hobbies. | n
Whte your confused and conflicted heart out
to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehawrr@aol. com.