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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Feb. 1, 2002)
fatormry 1. 2002 » ADVICE ............¥ ............ ton (730-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503239-5539X5/02) Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays (503-262-694 7.) (5/02) Ea it rose Fellowship Unitarian Univarsalist. a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education at 10 30 am (1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham 503 665 2628 eastroseQteleport.com.) (5/02) Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation where we really mean everyone Is wel come Sunday worship at 10 30 am. (204 SE Mam St.. Estacada. 503-349-4245.) (5/02) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am. and church school for children runs concurrently (1126 SW Park Ave. 503-228-7219X5/02) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community We offer a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth and community. Our Sunday services are at 9 and 10:45 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-2286389 www hrstumtananportland.org.) (5/02) First United Methodist Church of Portland a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St. 503-228-3195 www, fumcpdx.org ) (5/02) Full Circle Temple is a place of worship fo r women of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporat ing what you bnng to share. (10 am-10 pm Tuesday- Sunday 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (5/02) Grace Space a multidenommational spmtual center led by the Rev Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations (5 pm. Fnends o f Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark St. 503-287-3216X5/02) Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday o f each month in the Momson Room at Tnmty Cathedral. Eucharist is celebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 NW 19th Ave 503-286-9111. www mteghtyusa.org.)(5/02) Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spmtual directors from various world religious traditions are available fo r guid ance. classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3. w w w spmtone.com/~tsc.) (5/02) Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an open and accepting congregation of progressive Chnstians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St. 503-231 -1930.) (5/02) Metanoia Peace Community (United M ethodist) is a "house church." bnnging gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697. www. tearsoup com/metanoia.) (5/02) Sunday school and child care available Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 SE Stark St 503-234 7441 umtyprtlndQwwdborgX5/02) University Park United Methodist Church is a member of the network of reconciling congregations and meets for worship at tO am Sundays. (4775 N Lombard St 503-289-7843.) (5/02) Waverty Heights Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing communi ty with worship, children's school and child care. ( I I am Sunday. 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337. www wavedyucc.org.) (5/02) Wy'east Unitarian Univarsalist Congregation is a new, open and liberal religious community on the inner east side of Portland offenng mtergenerational services and religious education for children. It wel comes members of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans com munity. W y'east nurtures spmtual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Umversalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 wwwwyeast.pnwd.uua.org.) (5/02) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Chnst-centered. warm, canng, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. ( I I am Sunday. 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham. 503 665-8741.) (5/02) Washington Spirituality- Abundant Life Center. A New Thought Community fo r spiritual awakening, transforming lives through love. A safe place where children learn to embody spmtual pnnciples (10 30 am Sunday 10009 NE Ninth A v e , Vancouver 360-573-2626X5/02) East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming. (TO am Sunday. 5701 MacArthur Btvd 360-693-4761 ourclarkcounty Columbian co m /2 73/.) (5/02) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirm ing congregation. (1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver. 360 693-1476 vanuccQaol.com.) (5/02) God's Holy Territory. A spint filled worship expen- ence, seeking God for holiness and wholeness. For gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone welcome! ( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study and prayer. 7807 NE 30th S t. Vancouver. 360-885-9461. gmbear68Qnetzero.net.) (5/02) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday. 6 3 0 pm second and last Sunday Suite E/F. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver 360-695-1480 MccgsQaol.com www.mccgs.org.) (5/02) Michael Servetus Unitarian Univarsalist Fellowship, a home for the liberal religious spmt. (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver. 360-695-1891.) (5/02) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites you to celebrate your spirituality with the Revs Casey and Berdell M offett-Chaney Liberal, practical: all are welcome (10 30 am Sunday. 4828 NE 33rd Ave 503-481 7591.) (05/02) St. Jamec Lutheran Church a reconciled in Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for traditional liturgical worship (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park Ave. 503-227 2 4 3 9 )(5 /0 2 ) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay positive community for Catholics and their fnends Mass at 7 30 pm Fridays foHowectby a social (Paukst Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4 9 5 5 ) (5/02) St. Stephen's Epiecopel Church has been w el coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223-6424.) (5/02) Unity Church of Portland is an all inclusive com munity following Chnst s teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (M C O holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (American Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. OR 97309 503-315-7923 ) (5/02) Metro: Youth Clackamas County Youth Pride provides oppor tumties fo r gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning peo ple 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun and supportive social activities. Also one-on-one support, advocacy, information and referrals for Clackamas County service providers (503 969-0060. youthjpndeQhotmai!com.) (5/02) Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham. Hang out and have fun every Friday1 Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext 2 8 X 5 /0 2 ) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network fights to end anti gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180. 4129. Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177 or 503-936-5614 glsenorQaol.com.) (5/02) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject hormones. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as fo r youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday 1236 SW Salmon S t 503-223-4121X5/02) Pride Project brings together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792. moHyQpndepro/ect o rg X 5 /0 2 ) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868.) (5/02) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop in computer access, pool YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentoring for lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents (503-227-19 8 I X 5/02) Potter's House Ministries is an open, affirm ing, bible-explonng congregation with specific outreach in the gay and lesbian community (1045 am Sunday. 3830 SE 62nd Ave 503 775-5024.) (5/02) lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon (10 am Sunday summer. 9 3 0 and 11 am Sunday winter 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503644-2073.) (5/02) onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503-364-5013X5/02) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project pro vides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friend ly. relaxed environment (503-872 96 6 4) (5/02) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spmtual growth and community Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave (503-2350826 otterQpcez.com.) (5/02) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal Momingsido United Methodist Church is a rec tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups includ ing W indfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont S t 503-8729664 www smyrc. org.) (5/02) holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 infoQmccportland.com)(5/02) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207 503 736-3297 sisterspQteleport com.) (5/02) (tonal messages, children's celebrations and (oy every Sunday at the Heart Center. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spmtual growth, healing and enlightenment (6-7.30pm 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem 503-763-6030) (5/02) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20. meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland (541 488 6 9 9 0 ) (5/02) Konstantin struggles with a mighty Oedipal complex in Chekhov's The Seagull through Feb. 3 at Newmark Theatre Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advo cacy to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays m the basement of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St. xi Vancouver (John 360695 1325X5/02) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing congregation offer Willamette Valley Youth ing worship and church school Child care provided W heelchair accessible (W a rn Sunday 700 Manon St. NE. Salem 503 363 3 6 6 0 X 5 /0 2 ) Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Tranegender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers First Congregational United Church of Christ support, information and fun Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop m 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center. 2700 H4yatdSt. Eugene 5 4 1684 3466) (5/02) is an inclusive Chnstian community, an open and affirm ing church (9 30 am Sunday summer. 10 30 am Sunday winter 4515 SW West HiHs Road. Cotvalks 5 4 1 ■ 757-8122.) (5/02) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Univerealist Congregation of Salem meets for a Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, potluck on the third Sunday o f each month (6 pm 5090 Center S t NE 503 363 8 7 1 6 )(5/02) bi. trans and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old m the Salem Keizer area (503 581-5535) (5/02) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for mspira (5 pm. Koinoma Center. 1414 Kincaid S t . Eugene 541 346-1134) (5/02) Screwed Jilted and loosey-goosey lovers need to cut their losses D ear M s . B ehavior : 1 met my friend Ryan when he was a call boy. Our fourth time together, during our first all-nighter, 1 offered him a chance to change his life. 1 would support him and ask for no sexual favors. After nine months of seeing each other, 1 rented an apartment for him. Several months later, I offered him a ’95 Jeep Wrangler to use. He could title it in his name and insure it hut let me hold the actual title. After two short weeks we had a nasty fight and we have not gotten hack together since, except for two quick dinner dates without spending the night together. I got fed up and asked for the Jeep back; Ryan refused, and 1 got a lawyer to write a letter. He still refused. I do still love him, hut 1 can see he has used me. Am 1 wrong to ask for the Jeep back and go through with a lawsuit? Ryan is seeing someone else now. He is paying for his own apartment and has a job. — Steve D ear S teve : Ms. Behavior cannot offer legal advice, hut when she imagines herself in judicial robes (as she often does) the title issue strikes her as fishy. If you did not intend for Ryan to keep the Jeep, you should have kept the title in your own name. You might feel used, hut the deal you made to “change Ryan’s life” was not one-sided. Your agreement helped Ryan, but keeping him also made you feel good (i.e., powerful, sexy or desired). So try not to feel victimized by a situation you arranged. You’ll be more at peace if you can see both you and Ryan benefited from the relationship. Now Ryan has a job and is paying for his own apartment, so it sounds like your assistance did help him. When you offered him the opportunity to change his life, wasn’t your intention at least partly to be generous? You say you love him. If that’s true, your feel ings for him probably did not end the moment you stopped sleeping together. Maybe it actually would make you both feel happy if you allow him to keep the Jeep. D ear M s . B ehavior .- My girlfriend of five years called me recently to dump me because one of her gay male friends shared with her that I had spent the night at his place. Yes, it was that kind of sleepover. She did not know I was bisexual, and 1 saw no reason to tell her. When she informed me she did not want to see me again, I said, “Fine." I was tired of her B.S. anyway. Now I am fully immersed in the gay lifestyle and have no intention of doing any more switch-hitting. When my ex realized I was not going to ask for her forgiveness and try to make amends, she got really pissed. Now she really wants me back. What should I do? — Undecided D ear U ndecided : Why were you so hostile toward your girlfriend? “Who me?” Ms. Behavior hears you saying. Yes, you. You didn’t just have sex with some other loosey-goosey dyke. You had sex with a gay man. But it’s wasn’t just some random poofter you boffed, it was your girl friend’s friend. You kept your “sleep- over” with him a secret from your girl friend, which presumably created some drama because of her friendship with him. You saw “no reason” to tell your girlfriend you’re bisexual, and you also apparently forgot to inform her you’re a cheater. (It doesn’t sound like you were having an open relationship.) You stirred up a lot of drama, and now you don’t seem to feel responsible for any of it. You talk about how your ex feels (pissed) and what your ex wants (allegedly you, although, frankly, it’s hard to imagine why) without mentioning how you feel or what you want. When she dumped you, your only response was “Fine.” Now that she wants you back, you don’t know what you want. If your ex were the one writing for advice, Ms. Behavior would suggest thera py, since she seems to suffer from a fright ening lack of ability to protect herself. You should consider therapy, too. A skilled counselor might help you to discover what lurks beneath your layer of icy detachment. Perhaps you were wounded by Mommy or Daddy. Clean it up, and you might be lucky enough to find there’s even something pleasant under there. jn Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBetawm^kiol. com.
