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ton (730-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE
Flanders St. Jon 503239-5539X5/02)
Dignity Portland meets for Mass on Sundays
(503-262-694 7.) (5/02)
Ea it rose Fellowship Unitarian Univarsalist. a
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and
children's religious education at 10 30 am (1133 NE
181st Ave.. Gresham 503 665 2628
eastroseQteleport.com.) (5/02)
Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling
Congregation where we really mean everyone Is wel
come Sunday worship at 10 30 am. (204 SE Mam St..
Estacada. 503-349-4245.) (5/02)
First Congregational United Church of Christ is
an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian
tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am. and church
school for children runs concurrently (1126 SW Park
Ave. 503-228-7219X5/02)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open
and affirming liberal religious community We offer a
wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth and
community. Our Sunday services are at 9 and 10:45 am
(1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-2286389
www hrstumtananportland.org.) (5/02)
First United Methodist Church of Portland a
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held
monthly. (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St.
503-228-3195 www, fumcpdx.org ) (5/02)
Full Circle Temple is a place of worship fo r women
of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles,
meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporat
ing what you bnng to share. (10 am-10 pm Tuesday-
Sunday 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (5/02)
Grace Space a multidenommational spmtual center
led by the Rev Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening
celebrations (5 pm. Fnends o f Multnomah. 4312 SE
Stark St. 503-287-3216X5/02)
Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry of the
Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday o f each
month in the Momson Room at Tnmty Cathedral.
Eucharist is celebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a
potluck and fellowship. (147 NW 19th Ave
503-286-9111. www mteghtyusa.org.)(5/02)
Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spmtual directors from
various world religious traditions are available fo r guid
ance. classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE
11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3.
w w w spmtone.com/~tsc.) (5/02)
Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an
open and accepting congregation of progressive
Chnstians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St.
503-231 -1930.) (5/02)
Metanoia Peace Community (United M ethodist) is
a "house church." bnnging gay and straight together.
(Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm.
2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697.
www. tearsoup com/metanoia.) (5/02)
Sunday school and child care available Potluck first
Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 SE Stark St
503-234 7441 umtyprtlndQwwdborgX5/02)
University Park United Methodist Church is a
member of the network of reconciling congregations
and meets for worship at tO am Sundays. (4775 N
Lombard St 503-289-7843.) (5/02)
Waverty Heights Congregational United
Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing communi
ty with worship, children's school and child care.
( I I am Sunday. 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337.
www wavedyucc.org.) (5/02)
Wy'east Unitarian Univarsalist Congregation
is a new, open and liberal religious community on the
inner east side of Portland offenng mtergenerational
services and religious education for children. It wel
comes members of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans com
munity. W y'east nurtures spmtual growth and promotes
living by Unitarian Umversalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday
3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704
wwwwyeast.pnwd.uua.org.) (5/02)
Zion United Church of Christ an open and
affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bi, trans
and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a
Chnst-centered. warm, canng, m ultiage/race/cultural
faith community. ( I I am Sunday. 2025 NE 23rd Ave..
Gresham. 503 665-8741.) (5/02)
Washington Spirituality-
Abundant Life Center. A New Thought Community
fo r spiritual awakening, transforming lives through love.
A safe place where children learn to embody spmtual
pnnciples (10 30 am Sunday 10009 NE Ninth A v e ,
Vancouver 360-573-2626X5/02)
East Vancouver United Methodist Church.
Reconciling, welcoming. (TO am Sunday.
5701 MacArthur Btvd 360-693-4761
ourclarkcounty Columbian co m /2 73/.) (5/02)
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less
traditional" in an open and affirm ing congregation.
(1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver. 360 693-1476
vanuccQaol.com.) (5/02)
God's Holy Territory. A spint filled worship expen-
ence, seeking God for holiness and wholeness. For
gay, lesbian, bi. trans and straight. Everyone welcome!
( I I am Sunday. 7 pm Wednesday Bible study and
prayer. 7807 NE 30th S t. Vancouver. 360-885-9461.
gmbear68Qnetzero.net.) (5/02)
Metropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday. 6 3 0 pm
second and last Sunday Suite E/F. 2200 Broadway.
Vancouver 360-695-1480 MccgsQaol.com
www.mccgs.org.) (5/02)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Univarsalist
Fellowship, a home for the liberal religious spmt.
(10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver.
360-695-1891.) (5/02)
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites
you to celebrate your spirituality with the Revs Casey
and Berdell M offett-Chaney Liberal, practical: all are
welcome (10 30 am Sunday. 4828 NE 33rd Ave
503-481 7591.) (05/02)
St. Jamec Lutheran Church a reconciled in
Chnst congregation, welcomes all people for traditional
liturgical worship (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 S W Park
Ave. 503-227 2 4 3 9 )(5 /0 2 )
St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a
gay positive community for Catholics and their fnends
Mass at 7 30 pm Fridays foHowectby a social (Paukst
Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231 4 9 5 5 ) (5/02)
St. Stephen's Epiecopel Church has been w el
coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday
and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child
care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
503-223-6424.) (5/02)
Unity Church of Portland is an all inclusive com
munity following Chnst s teachings and celebrating
diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years
Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church
(M C O holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by
coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every
second Sunday. (American Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane
NE. Salem. Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box
12753. Salem. OR 97309 503-315-7923 ) (5/02)
Metro: Youth
Clackamas County Youth Pride provides oppor
tumties fo r gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning peo
ple 23 and younger to get together fo r free, fun and
supportive social activities. Also one-on-one support,
advocacy, information and referrals for Clackamas
County service providers (503 969-0060.
youthjpndeQhotmai!com.) (5/02)
Expression is a free art/expression support group for
GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham. Hang out
and have fun every Friday1 Sponsored by Roots and
Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext 2 8 X 5 /0 2 )
The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network fights to end anti gay bias in K-12 schools.
(12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180. 4129. Tigard.
OR 97223. 503-525-1177 or 503-936-5614
glsenorQaol.com.) (5/02)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle
exchange service that includes exchange for those who
inject hormones. It also has some transitional housing
for youth 20 and younger as well as fo r youth who are
HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to
VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community
Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group
for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday 1236 SW
Salmon S t 503-223-4121X5/02)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and
attend monthly social events Also information, referral,
support and advocacy services for Washington County.
(Molly 503-260-5792. moHyQpndepro/ect o rg X 5 /0 2 )
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity
group for gay lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth.
(4 30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church
o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281 8868.) (5/02)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SMYRC) offers drop in computer access, pool
YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family,
offers tutonng and mentoring for lesbian, gay. bi
and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT
parents (503-227-19 8 I X 5/02)
Potter's House Ministries is an open, affirm ing,
bible-explonng congregation with specific outreach in
the gay and lesbian community (1045 am Sunday.
3830 SE 62nd Ave 503 775-5024.) (5/02)
lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in
Oregon (10 am Sunday summer. 9 3 0 and 11 am
Sunday winter 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503644-2073.) (5/02)
onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to
participate in the full life of the congregation (8 30 and
11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem
503-364-5013X5/02)
Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project pro
vides fun and educational programs along with
counseling and testing to queer youth in a friend
ly. relaxed environment (503-872 96 6 4) (5/02)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with
potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spmtual
growth and community Coffee hours start 9:30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave
(503-2350826 otterQpcez.com.) (5/02)
Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal
Momingsido United Methodist Church is a rec
tables and an informal place to hang out and
plays host to weekly youth support groups includ
ing W indfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal
Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday
and Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Friday and
Saturday 2100 SE Belmont S t 503-8729664
www smyrc. org.) (5/02)
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held dunng
the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway
503-281-8868 infoQmccportland.com)(5/02)
SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available All women are
welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing
address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207
503 736-3297 sisterspQteleport com.) (5/02)
(tonal messages, children's celebrations and (oy every
Sunday at the Heart Center. We honor and celebrate all
sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and
supporting spmtual growth, healing and enlightenment
(6-7.30pm 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem
503-763-6030) (5/02)
Southern Oregon: Youth
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach
(SOYO). a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth
between 14 and 20. meets on the first and
Thursdays of the month in Ashland
(541 488 6 9 9 0 ) (5/02)
Konstantin struggles with a
mighty Oedipal complex in
Chekhov's The Seagull through
Feb. 3 at Newmark Theatre
Washington: Youth
Triple Point offers education, support and advo
cacy to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning
youth in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays
m the basement of Youth House. 1112 Columbia St. xi
Vancouver (John 360695 1325X5/02)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ is an open and affirm ing congregation offer
Willamette Valley Youth
ing worship and church school Child care provided
W heelchair accessible (W a rn Sunday 700 Manon St.
NE. Salem 503 363 3 6 6 0 X 5 /0 2 )
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Tranegender and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers
First Congregational United Church of Christ
support, information and fun Free, confidential, adult
facilitated (Drop m 4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community
Center. 2700 H4yatdSt. Eugene 5 4 1684 3466) (5/02)
is an inclusive Chnstian community, an open and affirm
ing church (9 30 am Sunday summer. 10 30 am
Sunday winter 4515 SW West HiHs Road. Cotvalks
5 4 1 ■ 757-8122.) (5/02)
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian
Univerealist Congregation of Salem meets for a
Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian,
potluck on the third Sunday o f each month (6 pm
5090 Center S t NE 503 363 8 7 1 6 )(5/02)
bi. trans and questioning youth and their fnends
between 13 and 17 years old m the Salem Keizer area
(503 581-5535) (5/02)
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for mspira
(5 pm. Koinoma Center. 1414 Kincaid S t . Eugene
541 346-1134) (5/02)
Screwed
Jilted and loosey-goosey lovers
need to cut their losses
D ear M s . B ehavior :
1 met my friend
Ryan when he was a
call boy. Our fourth
time together, during
our first all-nighter, 1
offered him a chance
to change his life. 1
would support him and
ask for no sexual
favors.
After nine months
of seeing each other, 1
rented an apartment for
him. Several months later, I offered
him a ’95 Jeep Wrangler to use. He
could title it in his name and insure it
hut let me hold the actual title.
After two short weeks we had a
nasty fight and we have not gotten
hack together since, except for two
quick dinner dates without spending
the night together.
I got fed up and asked for the Jeep
back; Ryan refused, and 1 got a lawyer
to write a letter. He still refused.
I do still love him, hut 1 can see he
has used me. Am 1 wrong to ask for
the Jeep back and go through with a
lawsuit?
Ryan is seeing someone else now.
He is paying for his own apartment
and has a job.
— Steve
D ear S teve :
Ms. Behavior cannot offer legal
advice, hut when she imagines herself
in judicial robes (as she often does)
the title issue strikes her as fishy. If
you did not intend for Ryan to keep
the Jeep, you should have kept the
title in your own name.
You might feel used, hut the deal
you made to “change Ryan’s life” was
not one-sided. Your agreement helped
Ryan, but keeping him also made you
feel good (i.e., powerful, sexy or
desired).
So try not to feel victimized by a
situation you arranged. You’ll be more
at peace if you can see both you and
Ryan benefited from the relationship.
Now Ryan has a job and is paying
for his own apartment, so it sounds like
your assistance did help him. When
you offered him the opportunity to
change his life, wasn’t your intention
at least partly to be generous?
You say
you love
him. If
that’s true,
your feel
ings for him
probably did not
end the moment you
stopped sleeping together. Maybe it
actually would make you both feel
happy if you allow him to keep the
Jeep.
D ear M s . B ehavior .-
My girlfriend of five years called
me recently to dump me because one
of her gay male friends shared with
her that I had spent the night at his
place. Yes, it was that
kind of sleepover.
She did not know I
was bisexual, and 1 saw
no reason to tell her.
When she informed
me she did not want to
see me again, I said,
“Fine." I was tired of
her B.S. anyway.
Now I am fully
immersed in the gay
lifestyle and have no
intention of doing any
more switch-hitting.
When my ex realized I was not going
to ask for her forgiveness and try to
make amends, she got really pissed.
Now she really wants me back.
What should I do?
— Undecided
D ear U ndecided :
Why were you so hostile toward
your girlfriend?
“Who me?” Ms. Behavior hears
you saying. Yes, you.
You didn’t just have sex with some
other loosey-goosey dyke. You had sex
with a gay man.
But it’s wasn’t just some random
poofter you boffed, it was your girl
friend’s friend. You kept your “sleep-
over” with him a secret from your girl
friend, which presumably created
some drama because of her friendship
with him.
You saw “no reason” to tell your
girlfriend you’re bisexual, and you also
apparently forgot to inform her you’re
a cheater. (It doesn’t sound like you
were having an open relationship.)
You stirred up a lot of drama, and
now you don’t seem to feel responsible
for any of it. You talk about how your
ex feels (pissed) and what your ex
wants (allegedly you, although,
frankly, it’s hard to imagine why)
without mentioning how you feel or
what you want.
When she dumped you, your only
response was “Fine.” Now that she
wants you back, you don’t know what
you want.
If your ex were the one writing
for advice, Ms. Behavior
would suggest thera
py, since she seems to
suffer from a fright
ening lack
of ability
to protect
herself.
You
should
consider
therapy, too. A
skilled counselor might help you to
discover what lurks beneath your
layer of icy detachment.
Perhaps you were wounded by
Mommy or Daddy. Clean it up, and
you might be lucky enough to find
there’s even something pleasant
under there.
jn
Write your confused and conflicted heart out
to Ms. B ehavior at MsBetawm^kiol. com.