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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Dec. 21, 2001)
dwnwmhwf ? 1, 2001 i ADVICE ........ v........ (204 SE Mam St . Estacada. 503-349-4245.) (5/02) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW Park Ave 503-228- 7219.) (5/02) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community We offer a wide range of programs to nurture spiritual growth and community. Our Sunday services are at 9 and 10 45 am (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-228-6389 www hrstumtananportland o rg ) (5/02) First United Methodist Church of Portland a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10:30 am Sunday. 1838 SW Jefferson St. 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx.org.)(5/02) Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporat ing what you bring to share. (10 am-10 pm Tuesday- Sunday 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (5/02) Grace Space, a multidenominational spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Friends o f Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark St. 503-287-3216.) (5/02) Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month in the Momson Room at Tnnity Cathedral Euchanst is celebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship (147 N W 19th Ave 503-286-9111. www integntyusa.org.) (5/02) Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spmtual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 503-233-2026. ext 3 www.spintone.com/~isc.) (5/02) Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an open and accepting congregation of progressive Christians. (9 am Sunday 5145 SE Lincoln St. 503-231-1930) (5/02) Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is a "house church." bnngmg gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathering 5 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281 3697. www.tearsoup.com/metanoia) (5/02) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 8868 mfoQmccportland.com.) (5/02) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites you to celebrate your spirituality with the Revs. Casey and Berdell Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical: all are welcome (1030 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave 503-481 -7591.) (05/02) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9:30 am Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826 otterQpcez com.) (5/02) Potter's House Ministries is an open, affirming, bible-explonng congregation with specific outreach in the gay and lesbian community. (10 45 am Sunday 3830 SE62nd Ave 503-775-5024.)(5/02) SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available. All women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503- 736-3297 sisterspQteleport.com ) (5/02) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503 644 2073.) (5/02) St. James Lutheran Church, a reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional liturgical worship (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave. 503 227 2439 ) (5/02) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos itive community for Catholics and their fnends Mass at 7 30 pm Fridays followed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955.) (5/02) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223-6424) (5/02) Unity Church of Portland is an all inclusive com munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Sunday school and child care available Potluck first Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 SE Stark St. 503-234- 7441. umtyprtlndQwwdb o rg ) (5/02) University Park United Methodist Church is a member of the network of reconciling congregations and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843) (5/02) Waveriy Heights Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming communi ty with worship, children's school and child care (11am Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St. 503-238-1337. www.waverlyucc.org.) (5/02) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is a new. open and liberal religious community on the inner east side of Portland offenng mtergenerational services and religious education for children. It wel comes members of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans com munity. Wy'east nurtures spmtual growth and promotes living by Unitanan Universalist pnnciples. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3704 www wyeast pnwd uua org.)(5/02) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, tx. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e . Gresham 503-665-8741.) (5/02) Washington Spirituality East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming (70 am Sunday. 5701 MacArthur Btvd 360-693-4761 ourclarkcounty. Columbian, com /273/.) (5/02) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360-693-1476. vanuccQaol.com.) (5/02) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday: 6 3 0 pm second and last Sunday Suite E/F. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver 360-695 1480 MccgsQaolcom www mccgs.org.) (5/02) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship, a home for the liberal religious spirit. (10 am Sunday. 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1891) (5/02) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. is an open and affirming congregation offer ing worship and church school Child care provided. Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503-363-3660 ) (5/02) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an inclusive Chnstian community, an open and affirm ing church. (9 30 am Sunday summer. 10 30 am Sunday winter 4515 S W W est Hills Road. Corvallis. 541 -75 7 8 1 2 2 ) (5/02) Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem meets for a potluck on the third Sunday of each month (6 pm. 5090 Center St NE 503 363-8716 ) (5/02) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspira tional messages, children's celebrations and |oy every Sunday at the Heart Center We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spmtual growth, healing and enlightenment. (6-730 pm 1578 Commercial St. SE. Säern. 503-763-6030.) (5/02) Momingsida United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate m the full life of the congregation (8 30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503-364-0312.) (5/02) Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (M C C ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday (Amencan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Säern Mailing address Pastor Ken Ken. PO Box 12753. Salem. O R 97309 503-315-7923)(5/02) YOUTH Metro: Youth Clackamas County Youth Pride provides oppor tunities for gay. lesbian, tx, trans and questioning peo ple 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities. Also one-on-one support, advocacy, information and referrals for Clackamas County service providers. (503 969-0060 youth_prideQhotmail.com.) (5/02) Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham Hang out and have fun every Fnday1 Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28.) (5/02) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180. *129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525- I I 77 or 503-936-5614 glsenorQaol com.) (5/02) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Ran as well as a needle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject hormones It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday 1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121.)(5/02) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County lesbian, gay, tx. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County (Molly 503-260-5792 mollyQpndeproiect org>.) (5/02) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, tx. trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281 -8868) (5/02) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SM YRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire. Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www smyrc.org.) (5/02) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664) (5/02) YouthNet a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutoring and mentoring for lesbian, gay. tx and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-1981.)(5/02) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO ). a group for gay. lesbian, and tx youth between 14 and 20, meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland (541 488 69 9 0) (5/02) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, tx and trans and questioning youth m Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the base ment of Youth House, 1112 Columbia St in Vancouver (John 360 695 1325) (5/02) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Leebian, Bisexual, Transgender end Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun Free, confidential, adult facilitated (Drop in 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St . Eugene 5 4 1-684 3466) (5/02) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Koinonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St.. Eugene 541 346-1134.) (5/02) Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. lesbian, You'll have to hurry to spend Christinas with the Crawfords— they're only at Theater! Theatre! through Dec. 22 bi. trans and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old m the Salem Keizer area (503581 5535) (5/02) The ex files Pal postpones plans, prefers pokey pickup D ear M s . B ehavior : A few weeks ago, my ex invited me over to watch movies. I was not in the mood, but I said yes. Later in the evening, I called to cancel. (1 didn’t feel obligated to say why.) She said, “Let me get this straight, you made plans with some one else?” 1 said 1 had matters to attend to— 1 wasn’t in the mood for movies and needed to pick up a friend who was released from prison— but 1 didn’t specify. My ex slammed down the phone. Should I have sat through movies when 1 didn’t want to just to spare her feelings? Isn’t part of being an adult understanding that plans change? My ex can be manipulative and fre quently resorts to guilt trips. Then she says she simply is “expressing her feel ings,” but I feel that’s different from guilt tripping so others will act how you want them to act. What do you think? — Confused Friend D ear C onfused F riend : Why did sitting around watching videos with an ex ever seem like a good idea, anyway? Why not just sit in a dark alley and pull your hair out? Plans sometimes need to he bro ken, but it’s not fair to make lukewarm plans just to cancel them when some thing better comes along. Next time, if you know you’re “not in the mood” or you have unresolved anger toward your ex (who doesn’t?), just tell her you’d rather stay home and scrub your bathtub with a toothbrush (the one she left in the medicine cabinet). If you really had to pick up your friend from jail, why couldn’t you tell your ex instead of being mysterious? Try something like, “I’m sorry 1 can’t make it; Susie was just sprung from the joint.” (Ms. Behavior may be naive about penal matters, hut she doesn’t understand why your friend couldn’t catch a ride home from prison in the paddy wagon.) If during your relationship your ex wanted more than you could give, she probably was sometimes manipulative in attempting to have her needs met. Then maybe you were cold, particularly if you felt she was guilt topping you or being clingy. And so the cycle continues. If you do want to he friends with your ex, avoid situa tions that trigger the dynamic that occurred in your relationship. For example, try plan ning only fun outings for a while, so you’ll be less apt to cancel. Or bring her next time you retrieve your recidivist friend. It takes effort to break a pattern, but if you can do it, you’ll j be a lesbian legend in i your community. D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m gay, and I work with two gay guys in a large agency. Larry is my peer, and John is fresh out of college. I sometimes joke around with John and general ly tease the kid, with compliments about his appearance and with mild physical contact. Larry listens to our banter, then responds by being uptight and judgmental. He says stuff like, “Whoa, Jay, you better cool it.” I don’t understand why Larry has to butt in. He denies feeling jealous; he claims it just makes for a bad work environment. Larry is clearly homophobic and doesn’t know fun when he sees it. This is just an innocent expression of gay horsing around in the workplace. How can I make Larry see that? —Jay D ear J ay : Since when is it homophobic to not want to see you rubbing your cor porate suit up against a lowly copy hoy? You want to change Larry’s point of view instead of your own behavior. But if you continue to tease John, you’ll soon be slapped by a corporate matron from the human resources department who will interpret your “joking” as sexual harassment. Gay or not, lewd behavior in the workplace is considered harassment, particularly when one employee holds a more powerful position than the other. You might think you’re “just teasing,” but if John ever were to file such a complaint against you, your job and even your career could he in jeopardy. (You also might find it hard to get a date, because by the time the story gets out, you’ll look like an old lech.) Even if John doesn’t complain, Larry might. If the human resources people think your behavior creates a “hostile work environment,” you also can he fired. Perhaps you could find an outlet for your fun homosexual banter on the way to work, like by focusing your teasing on the cute Starbucks coffee barista. There, at least, the boy would be protected from your wandering hands by the counter. And the worst out come for you, if your flirt ing happens to be unwanted, probably would be a lousy cup of joe. j n Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehaMor@aol.com.
