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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Dec. 7, 2001)
33 ADVICE ................... ▼.................... everyone is welcome Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 SE Mam St.. Estacada 503-349-4245.) (11/01) care at 10 am. SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424.) (11101) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10 25 am, and church school for children runs con currently. (1126 S W Park Ave. 503-228-7219.) ( 11 / 01 ) Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years. Sunday school and child care available Potluck first Sundays (10 am Sunday 4525 SE Stark St 503-234-7441 unityprtlnd@wwdb org.)(11/01) First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and affirming liberal religious community. We offer a wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth and community. Our Sunday services are at 9 and 10:45 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-228-6389. Mvw firstunitananportland.org.) (5/02) University Park United Methodist Church is a member of the network of reconciling congregations and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843.)(11/01) First United Methodist Church of Portland, a welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held monthly. (10.30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St. 503-228-3195. www.fumcpdx.org.) ( 11 / 01 ) Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebra tion, incorporating what you bring to share. (10 am -10 pm Tuesday- Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) ( 11 / 01 ) Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is a new, open and liberal religious community on the inner east side of Portland offering intergeneratonal services and religious education for children It welcomes mem bers of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans community. Wy'east nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele St. 503-777-3704 www wyeast.pnwd.uua.org.)(5/02) Zion United Church of Christ an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Hall, 4 774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753, Salem, OR 97309 503-315- 7923.) (11/01) Married woman leaves husband for another man—or did she? Metro: Youth Clackamas County Youth Pride provides oppor tunities for gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning peo ple 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and supportive social activities. Also one-on-one support, advocacy, information and referrals for Clackamas County service providers. (503-969-0060 youth_pride@hotmail.com.) (5/02) Expression is a free art/expression support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham Hang out and have fun every Friday! Sponsored by Roots and Branches (Jonathan 503-8729664, ext 28.7(11/01) The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools. (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180, 4129, Tigard. OR 97223. 503-525-1177 or 503-936-5614 glsenor@aol.com.) ( 11 / 01 ) Portland Center for Spiritual Growth invites you to celebrate your spiri tuality with the Revs. Casey and Berdell Moffett- Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (10.30 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave. 503-481-7591.) (05/02) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service that includes exchange for those who inject hor mones. It also has some transitional hous ing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-pos itive and younger than 23 It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am -6 pm Monday- Fnday 1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) ( 11 / 01 ) Grace Space a multi- denominational spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebra tions (5 pm. Friends o f Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark St. 503-287-3216.) ( 11/01) Integrity, the gay and les bian ministry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Friday of each month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral. Eucharist is celebrated at Mythic Dragonfly by Susan Detroy is on view Dec. 12-16 at Willamette Street 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. Gallery in Eugene Pride Project brings (147 NW 19th Ave Christ-centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural together Washington County lesbian, gay, bi. trans and 503-286-9111. www integntyusa.org.) ( 11 / 01 ) faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e , questioning youth to plan arid attend monthly social Gresham. 503-665-874f.J(1 1/01) Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spintual directors from events Also information, referral, support and advocacy various world religious traditions are available for guid services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792 ance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor, 3910 SE molly@prideproject.org.) (5/02) llt h Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3. W ashington: Sp iritu ality Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity www.spiritone.com/~isc. ( 11 / 01 ) group for gay. lesbian, tx. trans and questioning youth. East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Compassionate Heart Sangha a lesbian and gay (4:30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday. meditation group, meets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868)(11/01) 5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693-4761 tion. (7:30-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE ourclarkcounty. Columbian, com /273/.) (05/02) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539.) ( 11/01) (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables First Congregational Church, United Church Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an and an informal place to hang out and plays host to of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and “ less open and accepting congregation of progressive weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans traditional" in an open and affirming congregation. Christians (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693-1476 503-231 1 93 0 .H U /0 \) group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm- vanucc@aol.com.) (05/02) midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St. Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is Metropolitan Community Church of the 503-872-9664. www.smyrc.org.) (11/01) a “house church,' bnnging gay and straight together. Gentle Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday, 6 30 pm (Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm. Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun second and last Sunday Suite E/F, 2200 Broadway. 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697 and educational programs along with counseling and Vancouver 360-695-1480 Mccgs@aol com www.tearsoupcom/metanoia.) (5/02) testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ www.mccgs.org.) (05/02) ment. (503-872-9664)(11/01) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at YouthNet a program of Love Makes a Family, offers Fellowship a home for the liberal religious spirit 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during tutoring and mentoring for lesbian, gay, bi and trans (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. 360-695-1891.H 05/02) 503-281 8868 info@mccportland.com.) (11/01) (503-227-1981.)(11/01) Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave. (503-235-0826. otter@pcez.com.) (5/02) Potter's House Ministries is an open, affirming, bible-explonng congregation with specific outreach in the gay and lesbian community. (10:45 am Sunday 3830 SE62ndAve 503-775-5024) (5/02) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available All women are welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297. sistersp@ teleportcom)(11 / 01 ) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am Sunday winter 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.HU/01) St. James Lutheran Church a reconciled in Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439) (11/01) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos- itive community for Catholics and their friends Mass at 7 30 pm Fridays followed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16thAve 503-231 4955.)(11/01) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid W illamette V alley Sp iritu ality First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offer ing worship and church school. Child care provided. Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 Marion St. NE. Salem 503-363-3660) (11/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an inclusive Christian community, an open and affirm ing church. (9:30 am Sunday summer. 10.30 am Sunday winter 4515 SW West Hills Road. Corvallis 541-757-8122.) ( 5 / 02 ) Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem meets for a potluck on the third Sunday of each month. (6 pm 5090 Center St NE 503-363-8716.) ( 11 / 01 ) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspirational messages, children's celebrations and joy every Sunday at the Heart Center We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spiritual growth, healing and enlightenment. (6-7:30 pm 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem 503-763-6030) ( 11 / 01 ) The crying game Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO) a group for gay, lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20. meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland. (541 488-6990 H 1 1/01) Washington: Youth Triple Point offers education, support and advo cacy to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays in the basement o f Youth House, 1112 Columbia St. in Vancouver. (John 360-695-1325.) (5/02) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, information and fun Free, confiden tial. adult-facilitated (Drop m 4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center, 2700 HUyard St.. Eugene 541-684 3466 ) ( 5/02) Momingsido United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate n the full life of the congregation (8.30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem 503364 031 2 .) ( 5 / 02 ) Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Koinonie Center. 1414 Kincaid St., Eugene 541 346-1134 ) (11/01) Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday (American Legion Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. les bian, bi. trans and questioning youth and their friends between 13 and 17 years old in the Salem- Keizerarea (503 581 5535 ) (11/01) D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a straight married woman who has been having an affair with Henry, a married man. I love him enough to have moved here without my husband more than a year ago. Recently, Henry’s wife left him. Three months ago, he told me he’s decided he’s a cross-dresser. I’m still here for him. But now he’s tell ing me he wants breast implants and wants to keep his cock. I’m deeply in love with this man. He really wants this operation. (I think he really wants to get rid of his cock, too.) But what will he be when this is done? Do you know any woman who has a female as her girlfriend, or is it generally always men? Whenever I suggest things, he just gets mad and thinks I’m criticizing him, but I’m really just trying not to make him be embarrassed. I just think he is hurt that his wife left, and he’s trying to move to a higher level. He hasn’t had time to heal, and he’s been treating me like crap because he doesn’t understand himself. I moved hundreds of miles to get this sad? Any advice? — P.O.G. changes to be with him. You asked whether Ms. Behavior knows women who have females as girlfriends. In fact, she does. These women are lesbians. Are you pre pared to join the club? D ear M s . B ehavior : I have a suitor who on more than one occasion has told me he loves me. I have let him know in no uncertain terms the feeling is not mutual. We are in each other’s company about three times each month, and each time I end up sucking his dick. (It’s that irresistible.) I always hate myself when we part, but that’s the way it goes. Twice he tried to do my buns, and each time it was a disaster. I told him he is too big, but actually, I just don’t want to be done by him (if you know what I mean). He treats me very nicely, but there is no mental stimulation. In fact, most of his conversations border on annoying. Now he wants me to accompany him on a trip to the Caribbean this winter, no strings attached, and it will cost me nothing. I am a firm believer in, “There is no free lunch.” What should I do? — Beturixt and Between D ear B etwixt and B etween .- D ear P.O.G.: Henry does not sound like a mere Some people would enjoy a free trip cross-dresser. A cross- to the Caribbean dresser might want to even if it meant But what will he be borrow your lacy bra, they had to sign a but a transsexual contract to be when this is done? wants breasts of his sodomized by, say, Do you know own. Pee-Wee Herman The only person and Newt Gingrich any woman who has a who can answer who before and after he’ll be when this is female as her girlfriend, each elaborate pre done is Henry. He at paid island meal. or is it generally least should be able to You might try to tell you his intentions convince yourself always men? and how he wants to you’re an adventur live. ous guy who would Then at least you will know how to n’t mind a fling with a dolt on an exot introduce him at cocktail parties— for ic island. But your Pretty Woman in the example, “T his is my girlfriend, Caribbean fantasy quickly will turn ugly Henry.” (Plus, it seems only polite to when you’re face down on your beach infortn one’s partner about whether towel and realize the guy relentlessly one intends to keep particular organs, trying to poke you with his irresistible even if they don’t take up more than 6 organ is not, in fact, Richard Gere. inches of space.) Because you already have men Don’t excuse Henry if he treats you tioned you hate yourself after a mere “like crap.” Whether he has breasts or a blow job with this suitor, a Caribbean penis or both, you deserve to be treated vacation might shred the tattered rem with kindness and respect. nants o f your self-esteem. You’re right You obviously care a lot for Henry. that there’s no free lunch; it’s better to But it doesn’t sound like he’s been buy your own meal at Burger King than straight with you about his enormous life to spend a bikini-clad week with a changes. bore, feigning sexual interest while It’s doubtful that Henry’s decision protecting your buns from his happened as a result of his wife leaving Whopper. JTH him; decisions about gender dysphoria are often grueling and develop slowly. Write your confused and conflicted It sounds like he was hiding it from heart out to Ms. B ehavior at you, even while you were making M sBehavior@ aol. com .
