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everyone is welcome Sunday worship at 10:30 am.
(204 SE Mam St.. Estacada 503-349-4245.) (11/01)
care at 10 am. SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
503-223-6424.) (11101)
First Congregational United Church of
Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the
liberal Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at
10 25 am, and church school for children runs con
currently. (1126 S W Park Ave. 503-228-7219.)
( 11 / 01 )
Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com
munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating
diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years.
Sunday school and child care available Potluck first
Sundays (10 am Sunday 4525 SE Stark St
503-234-7441 unityprtlnd@wwdb org.)(11/01)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open
and affirming liberal religious community. We offer a
wide range of programs to nurture spintual growth and
community. Our Sunday services are at 9 and
10:45 am. (1011 SW 12th Ave. 503-228-6389.
Mvw firstunitananportland.org.) (5/02)
University Park United Methodist Church is a
member of the network of reconciling congregations
and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays (4775 N
Lombard St. 503-289-7843.)(11/01)
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held
monthly. (10.30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St.
503-228-3195. www.fumcpdx.org.) ( 11 / 01 )
Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for
women of all ages offering workshops, song and
drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebra
tion, incorporating what you bring to share.
(10 am -10 pm Tuesday-
Sunday. 3125 E Burnside
St. 503-238-0675.)
( 11 / 01 )
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation is
a new, open and liberal religious community on the inner
east side of Portland offering intergeneratonal services
and religious education for children It welcomes mem
bers of the gay. lesbian, bi and trans community. Wy'east
nurtures spintual growth and promotes living by Unitarian
Universalist principles. (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele
St. 503-777-3704 www wyeast.pnwd.uua.org.)(5/02)
Zion United Church of Christ an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans
and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a
Hall, 4 774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address:
Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753, Salem, OR 97309
503-315- 7923.) (11/01)
Married woman leaves husband
for another man—or did she?
Metro: Youth
Clackamas County Youth Pride provides oppor
tunities for gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning peo
ple 23 and younger to get together for free, fun and
supportive social activities. Also one-on-one support,
advocacy, information and referrals for Clackamas
County service providers. (503-969-0060
youth_pride@hotmail.com.) (5/02)
Expression is a free art/expression support group for
GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham Hang out
and have fun every Friday! Sponsored by Roots and
Branches (Jonathan 503-8729664, ext 28.7(11/01)
The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education
Network fights to end anti-gay bias in K-12 schools.
(12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180, 4129, Tigard.
OR 97223.
503-525-1177 or
503-936-5614
glsenor@aol.com.)
( 11 / 01 )
Portland Center for
Spiritual Growth invites
you to celebrate your spiri
tuality with the Revs.
Casey and Berdell Moffett-
Chaney. Liberal, practical;
all are welcome. (10.30 am
Sunday 4828 NE 33rd
Ave. 503-481-7591.)
(05/02)
Outside In operates
a clinic for anyone who
can't qualify for the
Oregon Health Plan as
well as a needle
exchange service that
includes exchange for
those who inject hor
mones. It also has
some transitional hous
ing for youth 20 and
younger as well as for
youth who are HIV-pos
itive and younger than
23 It also plays host to
VOICES (Voices of
Individual and
Community
Empowerment from the
Streets), a self-support
group for queer youth.
(10 am -6 pm Monday-
Fnday 1236 SW
Salmon St.
503-223-4121.)
( 11 / 01 )
Grace Space a multi-
denominational spiritual
center led by the Rev.
Stephanie Torres, holds
Sunday evening celebra
tions (5 pm. Friends o f
Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark
St. 503-287-3216.) ( 11/01)
Integrity, the gay and les
bian ministry of the
Episcopal Church, meets
on the second Friday of
each month in the Morrison
Room at Trinity Cathedral.
Eucharist is celebrated at
Mythic Dragonfly by Susan Detroy is on view Dec. 12-16 at Willamette Street
6 45 pm followed by a
potluck and fellowship.
Gallery in Eugene
Pride Project brings
(147 NW 19th Ave
Christ-centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural
together Washington County lesbian, gay, bi. trans and
503-286-9111. www integntyusa.org.) ( 11 / 01 )
faith community. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd A v e ,
questioning youth to plan arid attend monthly social
Gresham. 503-665-874f.J(1 1/01)
Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spintual directors from
events Also information, referral, support and advocacy
various world religious traditions are available for guid
services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792
ance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor, 3910 SE
molly@prideproject.org.) (5/02)
llt h Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3.
W
ashington:
Sp
iritu
ality
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity
www.spiritone.com/~isc. ( 11 / 01 )
group for gay. lesbian, tx. trans and questioning youth.
East Vancouver United Methodist Church.
Compassionate Heart Sangha a lesbian and gay
(4:30 pm Wednesday Metropolitan Community Church
Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday.
meditation group, meets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi
o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868)(11/01)
5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693-4761
tion. (7:30-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE
ourclarkcounty. Columbian, com /273/.) (05/02)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539.) ( 11/01)
(SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables
First Congregational Church, United Church
Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an
and an informal place to hang out and plays host to
of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and “ less
open and accepting congregation of progressive
weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans
traditional" in an open and affirming congregation.
Christians (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St
Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative
(1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver 360-693-1476
503-231 1 93 0 .H U /0 \)
group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm-
vanucc@aol.com.) (05/02)
midnight Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St.
Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is
Metropolitan Community Church of the
503-872-9664. www.smyrc.org.) (11/01)
a “house church,' bnnging gay and straight together.
Gentle Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday, 6 30 pm
(Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 5 pm.
Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun
second and last Sunday Suite E/F, 2200 Broadway.
2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697
and educational programs along with counseling and
Vancouver 360-695-1480 Mccgs@aol com
www.tearsoupcom/metanoia.) (5/02)
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ
www.mccgs.org.) (05/02)
ment. (503-872-9664)(11/01)
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
YouthNet a program of Love Makes a Family, offers
Fellowship a home for the liberal religious spirit
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during
tutoring
and mentoring for lesbian, gay, bi and trans
(10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver
the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway.
youth as well as for children of LGBT parents.
360-695-1891.H 05/02)
503-281 8868 info@mccportland.com.) (11/01)
(503-227-1981.)(11/01)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with
potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spiritual
growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave.
(503-235-0826. otter@pcez.com.) (5/02)
Potter's House Ministries is an open, affirming,
bible-explonng congregation with specific outreach in
the gay and lesbian community. (10:45 am Sunday
3830 SE62ndAve 503-775-5024) (5/02)
SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available All women are
welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing
address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207.
503-736-3297. sistersp@ teleportcom)(11 / 01 )
Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal
lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in
Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am
Sunday winter 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503-644-2073.HU/01)
St. James Lutheran Church a reconciled in
Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional
liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park
Ave 503-227-2439) (11/01)
St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos-
itive community for Catholics and their friends Mass at
7 30 pm Fridays followed by a social. (Paulist Center.
2408 SE 16thAve 503-231 4955.)(11/01)
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday
and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid
W illamette V alley Sp iritu ality
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ is an open and affirming congregation offer
ing worship and church school. Child care provided.
Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 Marion St.
NE. Salem 503-363-3660) (11/01)
First Congregational United Church of Christ
is an inclusive Christian community, an open and affirm
ing church. (9:30 am Sunday summer. 10.30 am
Sunday winter 4515 SW West Hills Road. Corvallis
541-757-8122.) ( 5 / 02 )
Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian
Universalist Congregation of Salem meets for a
potluck on the third Sunday of each month. (6 pm
5090 Center St NE 503-363-8716.) ( 11 / 01 )
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for
inspirational messages, children's celebrations and
joy every Sunday at the Heart Center We honor
and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each
person's divine gifts and supporting spiritual growth,
healing and enlightenment. (6-7:30 pm 1578
Commercial St. SE. Salem 503-763-6030) ( 11 / 01 )
The crying game
Southern Oregon: Youth
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO) a
group for gay, lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20.
meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in
Ashland. (541 488-6990 H 1 1/01)
Washington: Youth
Triple Point offers education, support and advo
cacy to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning
youth in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays
in the basement o f Youth House, 1112 Columbia
St. in Vancouver. (John 360-695-1325.) (5/02)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18
offers support, information and fun Free, confiden
tial. adult-facilitated (Drop m 4-6 pm Fnday
Amazon Community Center, 2700 HUyard St..
Eugene 541-684 3466 ) ( 5/02)
Momingsido United Methodist Church is a rec
onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to
participate n the full life of the congregation (8.30 and
11 am Sunday 3674 12th St SE. Salem
503364 031 2 .) ( 5 / 02 )
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
(5 pm Koinonie Center. 1414 Kincaid St., Eugene
541 346-1134 ) (11/01)
Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community
Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays
followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck
lunches every second Sunday (American Legion
Rainbow Youth is a support group for gay. les
bian, bi. trans and questioning youth and their
friends between 13 and 17 years old in the Salem-
Keizerarea (503 581 5535 ) (11/01)
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I am a straight
married woman who
has been having an
affair with Henry, a
married man. I love
him enough to have
moved here without
my husband more
than a year ago.
Recently, Henry’s
wife left him. Three
months ago, he told me
he’s decided he’s a
cross-dresser.
I’m still here for
him. But now he’s tell
ing me he wants breast implants and
wants to keep his cock.
I’m deeply in love with this man.
He really wants this operation. (I
think he really wants to get rid of his
cock, too.)
But what will he be when this is
done? Do you know any woman who
has a female as her girlfriend, or is it
generally always men?
Whenever I suggest things, he just
gets mad and thinks I’m criticizing him,
but I’m really just trying not to make him
be embarrassed.
I just think he is hurt that his wife
left, and he’s trying to move to a higher
level. He hasn’t had time to heal, and
he’s been treating me like crap because
he doesn’t understand himself.
I moved hundreds of miles to get this
sad? Any advice?
— P.O.G.
changes to be with
him.
You asked whether
Ms. Behavior knows
women who have
females as girlfriends.
In fact, she does.
These women are
lesbians. Are you pre
pared to join the club?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I have a suitor who
on more than one
occasion has told me
he loves me. I have let
him know in no
uncertain terms the feeling is not
mutual.
We are in each other’s company
about three times each month, and each
time I end up sucking his dick. (It’s that
irresistible.) I always hate myself when
we part, but that’s the way it goes.
Twice he tried to do my buns, and
each time it was a disaster. I told him he
is too big, but actually, I just don’t want
to be done by him (if you know what I
mean).
He treats me very nicely, but there is
no mental stimulation. In fact, most of
his conversations border on annoying.
Now he wants me to accompany
him on a trip to the Caribbean this
winter, no strings attached, and it will
cost me nothing. I am a firm believer
in, “There is no free lunch.” What
should I do?
— Beturixt and Between
D ear B etwixt and B etween .-
D ear P.O.G.:
Henry does not sound like a mere
Some people would enjoy a free trip
cross-dresser. A cross-
to the Caribbean
dresser might want to
even if it meant
But what will he be
borrow your lacy bra,
they had to sign a
but a transsexual
contract
to
be
when this is done?
wants breasts of his
sodomized by, say,
Do you know
own.
Pee-Wee Herman
The only person
and Newt Gingrich
any woman who has a
who can answer who
before and after
he’ll be when this is
female as her girlfriend, each elaborate pre
done is Henry. He at
paid island meal.
or
is
it
generally
least should be able to
You might try to
tell you his intentions
convince
yourself
always men?
and how he wants to
you’re an adventur
live.
ous guy who would
Then at least you will know how to
n’t mind a fling with a dolt on an exot
introduce him at cocktail parties— for
ic island. But your Pretty Woman in the
example, “T his is my girlfriend,
Caribbean fantasy quickly will turn ugly
Henry.” (Plus, it seems only polite to
when you’re face down on your beach
infortn one’s partner about whether
towel and realize the guy relentlessly
one intends to keep particular organs,
trying to poke you with his irresistible
even if they don’t take up more than 6
organ is not, in fact, Richard Gere.
inches of space.)
Because you already have men
Don’t excuse Henry if he treats you
tioned you hate yourself after a mere
“like crap.” Whether he has breasts or a
blow job with this suitor, a Caribbean
penis or both, you deserve to be treated
vacation might shred the tattered rem
with kindness and respect.
nants o f your self-esteem. You’re right
You obviously care a lot for Henry.
that there’s no free lunch; it’s better to
But it doesn’t sound like he’s been
buy your own meal at Burger King than
straight with you about his enormous life
to spend a bikini-clad week with a
changes.
bore, feigning sexual interest while
It’s doubtful that Henry’s decision
protecting your buns from his
happened as a result of his wife leaving
Whopper. JTH
him; decisions about gender dysphoria
are often grueling and develop slowly.
Write your confused and conflicted
It sounds like he was hiding it from
heart out to Ms. B ehavior at
you, even while you were making
M sBehavior@ aol. com .