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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Oct. 5, 2001)
October 5 .2 0 0 1 ADVICE .................... ▼ .................... SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spiritu ality m ultiracial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday w orship is at 10 am. and church school fo r (2941 NE Ainsworth S t 503-284-8767 auccOteleport com) (11/01) children runs concurrently. Anawim Community o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r C hnstian m editation and prayer pottuck on the th ird Sunday o f each m onth S t. Philip Non Catholic Church o ffe rs a gay-pos Interfaith Spiritual Community m eets fo r « s p ra itiv e com m unity fo r C athohcs and th e ir fnends. M ass at tionai m essages, cfdd ren s celebrations and jo y every (Paukst Center, 2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231-4955)01/01) Sunday at the H eart C enter W e honor and celebrate 7:30 pm Fridays follow ed by a social Ainsw orth United Church o f C hrist is a (7:30 pm Thursday 503 281-0722 )(1 1/0 1) S t. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been w e! at people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid care at 10 am. SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-2236424.) 01/01) com ing U nity Church o f Portland is an al-mdusive com exploring and celebrating the C hnstian faith. W e are munity following Christ's teachxigs and cetebratxig diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years Sunday school and chid care available Potluck first Sundays (10 am Sunday 4525 SE Stark S t m ulticultural, lesbian, gay. bi and stra ight, and ou r c h il 503-234-7441 urxtyprtlndQwwdborg.)O1/01) Bridgeport Community Church (U C O is a grow ing com m unity o f progressive, p o litic a l people dren are valued m em bers. (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave. 503 2580992) (1 1 /0 1 ) Community of SL Andrew invites all to (om a diverse 1 1 P x . i I -A mm ** »' - A<------A - .V i - u m v e n n y r a r e u n i t v a h m u n m i s i v m i i v n to a member of the network of reconakng congregations and meets for worshp at 10 am Sundays (4775 N Catholic faith community for prayer and fellowship. LombardSt 5032837443)01/01) Dignity Portland m eets fo r M ass on Sundays. is a new. open and liberal rekgxxis community on the inner east side of Portland offering mtergenerationai services and rekgxxis education for ctxldren It wel comes members of the gay. lesbian, bisexual and bans gender community Wy'east nurtures spmtual growth and promotes living by Unitarian Umversakst pnncples (9.30 am Sunday 806 NEAbeita St 503 281-4429)0 1/01) (503-262-6947 ) ( \ \ 101) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalis! a we! coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s (1133 NE 181st Ave . Gresham 503665-2628 eastrose&teleport com.) 0 1 /0 1 ) religious education at 10:30 am. Estacada United M ethodist Church Reconciling Congregation, w here we realty mean everyone is w el com e. Sunday w orship at 10:30 am. (204 SE Main St. Estacada 503349-4245)01/01) U nirersaltst Congregation o f Salem m eets fo r a Christ congregation, welcomes at people for tradrtmrwl liturgical worstxp (9 and I I am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 5032272439)0 t/O t) W y'east Unitarian UmversaHet Congregation (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele S t 503 777-3704 wvvwwyeastpnwd.uua.org.) (5/02) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, txsexual. First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirm ing congre gation in the liberal C hnstian tradition Sunday w orship is at 10:25 am, and church school fo r children runs concurrently. (1126 SW Park Ave 503228 7219 )01/01) First United M ethodist Church of Portland a w elcom ing and reconciling con (6 pm 5090 Center St NE 5013634716.) (1 1 /0 1 ) at (6-7:30 pm 1578 Commercial S t SE. Salem 503-763-6030) (WOO H om ing lid o United M ethodist C h u rd i is a rec oncAng congregation wfoere everyone is welcome to part legate si the fid We of the congregation (8:30 and 11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE Salem. 503364 5013)01/01) O -------------* * »- » S _ . .^ p iriT r f w i r o p - o - t t t i u a i - n - r u i j T m M m i m u n k n l y l ^ o n --------------L in v n (M C O holds worshq) at 11 am Sundays M ow ed by coffee and felowshfi as w el as potluck lunches every second Sunday (Amencan Legon Hal. 4774 Uac Lane NE. Salem Matlmg address Pastor Ken Ken. PO Box 12753. Säern. OR 97309 5033137923 )01/01) YOUTH____________ | Metro: Youth Expression is a free art/expresswn support group for GLBT youth between 13 and 23 si Gresham Hang out and have fun every Friday* Sponsored by Roots and Branches (Jonathan 5034729664 ext 2 8 X 1 1 /0 1 ) Outside In operates a d n e for anyone wrfio can't quairfy for the Oregon Health Plan as w el as a neede exchange service that sidudes exchange for those who ryect hormones It also has some transitional housxig for youth 20 and younger as wel as for youth who are HtV positrve and younger than 23 It also plays host to VOICES (Voces of Indvrdual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self stpport group for queer youth (10 am6 pm Monday Friday 1236 SW Salmon St 503 223-4121.) 01/01) fam ily GLBT potiucks are held m onthly Pride Project bmgs together Washxigton County lesbian, gay. b . bans and questxmng youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also nform atm referral, support and advocacy services for Washxigton County (Moly 503 260-5792 moly^phdepro/ect org ) (11 /01) (10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St. 503-228-3195 www fumcpdx org.) 01/01) Full Circle Temple is a place o f w orship fo r women o f all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles, m editation rooms and attars of celebration, incorporating what you bong to (IOam-10 pm Tuesday-Sunday 3125E Burnside St 503238-067 5 )0 1 /0 1 ) share Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, hsex- ual, bans and questionxig youth Portland C enter fo r Spiritual Growth invites you to celebrate your s p iri (4 30 pm Wednesday Metropoktan Commnty Church of Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 5032814468 )01/01) tu a lity w ith the Revs. C asey and B erdell M o ffe tt C haney Liberal, practical: all are 10 30 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave 503-481 - 7591.) (0 5 /0 2 ) w elcom e ( Sexual M inority Youth Recreation C enter (S M Y R O offers drop« com Grace Space, a m ultidenom inahonal s p iri put er access, pool tables and an «formal place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups «during Windfire Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group) tual cen ter led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm Fnends of Multnomah. 4312 SE Stark S t 503 287-3216.) ( 1 1 /0 1 ) (44 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm mtdnqht Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belmont St 5034729664 www.smyrc.org.) (1 1 /0 1 ) Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry o f the Episcopal Church, m eets on the second Friday o f each m onth « the M om son Room at Tnmty C athedral Euchanst is celebrated at (147 NW 19th Ave. 5032869111 www mlegntyusa org) 01/01) ship Broadway actor Barry Morse (right, m his fugitive days) is among the performers during Out on Broadway on O c t 11, a benefit for Esther's Pantry Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spmtual directors from various w orld religious traditions are available fo r guidance, (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave 5032332026. ext 3. www spmlone.com/sc. (1 1/01 ) classes and retreats transgender and heterosexual people m 4 k > wish to wor- shp xi a Chnst-centered, warm, caring, multiage/ race/cuKural faith community. (I I am Sunday 2025 NE Youth W V /S T D Prevention Pro ject provides fun and educational programs along with counsekng and test- ng to queer youth in a foendy. relaxed environment (503472-9664 7(11/01) Compassionate H eart Sang ha a lesbian and gay YouthNet a program of Love Makes a FanWy. offers tutonng and mentonng for lestxan. gay. br and bans youth as w el as for cfddren of LGBT parents m editation group, m eets m the B uddhist Vipasana tra d i (503227 1941)01/01) (7 30-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders S t Jon 5032395539 )01/01) tion Lincoln S treet United M ethodist Church is an open and accepting congregation o f progressive 23rd Ave . Gresham 5036654741)01/01) East Vancouver United M sthodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthurBM 3606934761 ouixiarkcounty Columbian com/273/) (11/01) M eta no ia Peace Community (U nited M e th o d ist) is First Congregational Church. United Church o f C hrist Two Sunday services, badrtional and "less a "house chu rch," bunging gay and stra ight together (Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 6 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave. 5032813697 www learsoup.com/metanoia)01/01) M etropolitan Comm unity Church o f Portland holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w o rs h p services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school fo r children is held during (2400 NE Broadway 503 281 8868 mfoOmccportland com.) 01/01) the 11 am w o rsh p service P o tter'* House M inistries Life Center. Evangelical and chansm atic C hnstian (3830 SE 62nd discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and classes Schedule o f events available A ll w om en are (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont S t Mating address PO Box 9246. Portland. OP 97207 503-7343297 sisterspdteleportcom) d 1/01) w elcom e Southm instar Presbyterian Church is a ch a t lenging. supportive com m unity that w elcom es a t peo pie It is the fx s t M ore Light P resbyterian C hurch in (10 am Sunday summer. 9 X and 11 am Sunday wn ter 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503644 2073)01/01) O regon St. Jamas Lutharaa Chu rch, a reconciled in Southern Oregon: Youth Southern Oregon Youth Outreach CSOYO) a group for gay. lestxan. and tx youth between 14 and 20. meets on the first and Thursdays of the month si Ashland (541-488-6990X 11/01) traditional’ in an open and affxrrxng congregation (1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver 360693 1476)01/01) Metropolitan Community C hurdi of tho Contfci Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday; 6 30 pm second and last Sunday Sute E/F. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver ■ 3606931480 Mccgsdaol com www mccgs org) (11/01) Michael S in Jitu i Unitarian U n h im liit Washington: Youth Triple Point offers educator). support and acfeocacy to gay. lestxan. br and bans and quesborxng youth xi Vancouver Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays xi the base ment of Youth House. 1112 Cotumtxa St xi Vancouver (John 360695- 1325X 5/02) Fellow ship a home for the tberal rekgxxis spxfl (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver 360-695-1891.)01/01) Ave 503- 775-5024.) (11/01) S isterS p irit o ffe rs w om en's spintuakty cefe bra txxis, D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : My best friend (and longtime ex) Jim is happy in a new relationship with a man also named Jim. My Jim has had a lifelong problem with debt, including school loans and credit cards up the wazoo. He often has sought my help with budgets and organization. The two Jims have been together for a year. They are happy, have bought real estate and have merged like lesbians. My Jim is particularly happy because his boyfriend, a stockbroker, is richer than God. He doesn’t seem to have a single problem anymore and is basically very content, 1 presume because his boyfriend has paid off his debts; bought the new home, furniture and lifestyle; and basically created a comfy nest for the two of them. Here’s the problem. My Jim owes me $7,000 from loans through the years. Because 1 never in a million years thought he’d be able to pay it back, I for gave him the loan. Is it OK for me to have a frank talk with Jim about the money and his new situation? It seems indelicate to point out his newfound stand ing as a rich househus- band, yet if his new Jim is paying people off, why shouldn’t he pay me? How can I explain that 1 forgave him the loan because 1 never thtxight he’d have two pennies to rub together? Please don’t tell me to let it go; $7,000 is a lot of money!! I want the money and the friendship with both of the Jims. — Frien d o f Jim (s ) W ashington Spiritu ality C hnstians. (9 am Sunday 5145 SE Lincoln S t 503231-1930)01/01) Friend expects payback from rags-to-riches ex sacred paths, recogno ng each person s drvxie g ifts and s rp p o rtn q spiritual grow th, beahng and enkghtenm ent gregation. believes no one is le ft out in G od's 6:45 pm follow ed by a potluck and fellow A fool and his money W illamette V alley Spiritu ality F irst Congregatio nal Church. U nited Chu rch of C hrist is an open and affxrrxng congregation offer xig worshp and church school Chid care prowled Wheelcha» accessfole (10 am Sunday 700 Manor St NE. Salem 5033633660 )01/01) Willamette V alley Youth Gay, Laahlaa. BisaxuaL Tn Qua »boning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers support, xiformatxm and fun Free, conhdenhal. drop« (4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 tdyardSt.. Eugene 541684 3466)01/01) Gay, BisaxuaL Tn i for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday F irst C ongregational United Chu rch o f C hriat (5 pm Kotnonm Center. 1414 Knead St . Eugene 541-346-1134X 11/01) is an xidusrve Chnstian community, an open and affxm xig church (9 X am Sunday summer. 1030 am Sunday waiter 4515 SW West Hds Road. Corvaks Ratuhuw Youth s a support gnxp for gay. lestxan. 5 4 / 757-8122X 5/02) txsexual. transgender and qucstxxxng youth and the» Inends between 13 and 17 years old xi the Salem- Keoer area 0 0 *5 8 1 ^ 5 3 5 ) (11/01) D e a r F r ie n d of J i m ( s ): Lucky thing Jim’s desperation took the form of being broke. Imagine if he’d had kidney failure and you’d helped him out! Ms. Behavior envisions your con versation: “Jim, 1 never guessed you’d land a boyfriend with two perfectly functioning kidneys. Isn’t it time we contacted a surgeon to retrieve mine?” Because you forgave Jim the loan, standing in line with your hand out would seem tacky. If you insist on dis cussing it, tell him simply and directly that if he’s ever in a position to repay you, it would help you. But do not act resentful when the Jims fly to European health spas, and do not cry when they visit wearing matching Rolexes. If you do talk about it, say it once and never bring it up again. Think of it like this: If Jim hadn’t had anything nice to wear and you’d donated your favorite frock to his limited wardrobe, you might feel stir rings of longing for it back once Jim snagged a fabulous Parisian designer who filled his closet with stunning outfits. But even then you only could notify him of your feelings tasteful ly: “Jim, if you some day find that you don’t actually need that slimming black velvet and lace gown, and it’s just taking up space in your closet, I wouldn’t mind having it back.” Money is, of course, a little tricki er. It takes up little space and is not necessarily irreplaceable, and the question of need vs. desire is not clear-cut. Only when pressed, for example, will Ms. Behavior reveal that her desire for a pair of Manolo Blahnik shoes might he lower priority than her need for Pan-Asian food, world peace and oral sex. (She declines to com ment, however, on comfortable shoes vs. tribadism.) D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : Tonight my wife, “Brenda,” has gone on a date with another woman. I’ve agreed to it, but I don’t approve. She has said recently that she loves me “millions” and wants to spend the rest of her life with me but that at this moment in time she doesn’t “fancy” me. She met this girl about six weeks ago. She assured me this is only a fan tasy or experiment. What should I do? — R ita D ear R it a : Stop agreeing to things that make you feel had. They only will twist you and your relationship into a pretzel. You can’t keep Brenda happy by agreeing to let her date someone else. She thinks she can keep you hooked by saying she wants to spend “the rest of her life” with you— at least the part that happens when she’s not at the movies or in a bubble hath with another woman. Grow a backbone, and tell her what you want. Then, if it doesn’t work out between you and Brenda, toss her gently to the curb*. At least you won’t have to blame yourself for having been a spineless jellyfish. * “Toss her to the curb” is a metaphor for breaking up. Ms. Behavior added “gently” to further clarify, so she won’t receive angry let ters from people who mistakenly think she advocates spousal abuse. JT1 Write your confused an d conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBefaiMOT@floi.com.
