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SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spiritu ality
m ultiracial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church.
Sunday w orship is at 10 am. and church school fo r
(2941 NE Ainsworth S t
503-284-8767 auccOteleport com) (11/01)
children runs concurrently.
Anawim Community o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r
C hnstian m editation and prayer
pottuck on the th ird Sunday o f each m onth
S t. Philip Non Catholic Church o ffe rs a gay-pos
Interfaith Spiritual Community m eets fo r « s p ra
itiv e com m unity fo r C athohcs and th e ir fnends. M ass at
tionai m essages, cfdd ren s celebrations and jo y every
(Paukst Center,
2408 SE 16th Ave 503 231-4955)01/01)
Sunday at the H eart C enter W e honor and celebrate
7:30 pm Fridays follow ed by a social
Ainsw orth United Church o f C hrist is a
(7:30 pm Thursday
503 281-0722 )(1 1/0 1)
S t. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been w e!
at people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday
and 745 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and chid
care at 10 am. SW 13th Avenue at Clay Street
503-2236424.) 01/01)
com ing
U nity Church o f Portland is an al-mdusive com
exploring and celebrating the C hnstian faith. W e are
munity following Christ's teachxigs and cetebratxig
diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years
Sunday school and chid care available Potluck first
Sundays (10 am Sunday 4525 SE Stark S t
m ulticultural, lesbian, gay. bi and stra ight, and ou r c h il
503-234-7441 urxtyprtlndQwwdborg.)O1/01)
Bridgeport Community Church (U C O is a
grow ing com m unity o f progressive, p o litic a l people
dren are valued m em bers.
(10 30 am Sunday 621 NE
76th Ave. 503 2580992) (1 1 /0 1 )
Community of SL Andrew invites all to (om a diverse
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member of the network of reconakng congregations
and meets for worshp at 10 am Sundays (4775 N
Catholic faith community for prayer and fellowship.
LombardSt 5032837443)01/01)
Dignity Portland m eets fo r M ass on Sundays.
is a new. open and liberal rekgxxis community on the
inner east side of Portland offering mtergenerationai
services and rekgxxis education for ctxldren It wel
comes members of the gay. lesbian, bisexual and bans
gender community Wy'east nurtures spmtual growth
and promotes living by Unitarian Umversakst pnncples
(9.30 am
Sunday 806 NEAbeita St 503 281-4429)0 1/01)
(503-262-6947 ) ( \ \ 101)
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalis! a we!
coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children s
(1133 NE 181st Ave .
Gresham 503665-2628 eastrose&teleport com.) 0 1 /0 1 )
religious education at 10:30 am.
Estacada United M ethodist Church Reconciling
Congregation, w here we realty mean everyone is w el
com e. Sunday w orship at 10:30 am.
(204 SE Main St.
Estacada 503349-4245)01/01)
U nirersaltst Congregation o f Salem m eets fo r a
Christ congregation, welcomes at people for tradrtmrwl
liturgical worstxp (9 and I I am Sunday 1315 SW Park
Ave 5032272439)0 t/O t)
W y'east Unitarian UmversaHet Congregation
(4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele S t 503 777-3704
wvvwwyeastpnwd.uua.org.) (5/02)
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, txsexual.
First Congregational United Church
of Christ is an open and affirm ing congre
gation in the liberal C hnstian tradition
Sunday w orship is at 10:25 am, and church
school fo r children runs concurrently.
(1126 SW Park Ave 503228 7219 )01/01)
First United M ethodist Church of
Portland a w elcom ing and reconciling con
(6 pm
5090 Center St NE 5013634716.) (1 1 /0 1 )
at
(6-7:30 pm 1578 Commercial S t SE. Salem
503-763-6030) (WOO
H om ing lid o United M ethodist C h u rd i is a rec
oncAng congregation wfoere everyone is welcome to
part legate si the fid We of the congregation (8:30 and
11 am Sunday 3674 12th St. SE Salem.
503364 5013)01/01)
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(M C O holds worshq) at 11 am Sundays M ow ed by
coffee and felowshfi as w el as potluck lunches every
second Sunday (Amencan Legon Hal. 4774 Uac Lane
NE. Salem Matlmg address Pastor Ken Ken. PO Box
12753. Säern. OR 97309 5033137923 )01/01)
YOUTH____________ |
Metro: Youth
Expression is a free art/expresswn support group for
GLBT youth between 13 and 23 si Gresham Hang out
and have fun every Friday* Sponsored by Roots and
Branches (Jonathan 5034729664 ext 2 8 X 1 1 /0 1 )
Outside In operates a d n e for anyone wrfio can't
quairfy for the Oregon Health Plan as w el as a neede
exchange service that sidudes exchange
for those who ryect hormones It also
has some transitional housxig for youth
20 and younger as wel as for youth who
are HtV positrve and younger than 23 It
also plays host to VOICES (Voces of
Indvrdual and Community Empowerment
from the Streets), a self stpport group
for queer youth (10 am6 pm Monday
Friday 1236 SW Salmon St
503 223-4121.) 01/01)
fam ily GLBT potiucks are held m onthly
Pride Project bmgs together
Washxigton County lesbian, gay. b . bans
and questxmng youth to plan and attend
monthly social events. Also nform atm
referral, support and advocacy services for
Washxigton County (Moly 503 260-5792
moly^phdepro/ect org ) (11 /01)
(10 30 am Sunday 1838 SW Jefferson St.
503-228-3195 www fumcpdx org.) 01/01)
Full Circle Temple is a place o f w orship fo r
women o f all ages offering workshops, song
and drum circles, m editation rooms and attars
of celebration, incorporating what you bong to
(IOam-10 pm Tuesday-Sunday 3125E
Burnside St 503238-067 5 )0 1 /0 1 )
share
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support
and activity group for gay. lesbian, hsex-
ual, bans and questionxig youth
Portland C enter fo r Spiritual
Growth invites you to celebrate your s p iri
(4 30 pm Wednesday Metropoktan
Commnty Church of Portland. 2400 NE
Broadway 5032814468 )01/01)
tu a lity w ith the Revs. C asey and B erdell
M o ffe tt C haney Liberal, practical: all are
10 30 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd
Ave 503-481 - 7591.) (0 5 /0 2 )
w elcom e (
Sexual M inority Youth Recreation
C enter (S M Y R O offers drop« com
Grace Space, a m ultidenom inahonal s p iri
put er access, pool tables and an «formal
place to hang out and plays host to
weekly youth support groups «during
Windfire Trans Youth Group and
Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group)
tual cen ter led by the Rev. Stephanie
Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations.
(5 pm Fnends of Multnomah. 4312 SE
Stark S t 503 287-3216.) ( 1 1 /0 1 )
(44 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm
mtdnqht Friday and Saturday 2100 SE
Belmont St 5034729664
www.smyrc.org.) (1 1 /0 1 )
Integrity, the gay and lesbian m inistry o f
the Episcopal Church, m eets on the second
Friday o f each m onth « the M om son Room
at Tnmty C athedral Euchanst is celebrated at
(147 NW 19th Ave. 5032869111
www mlegntyusa org) 01/01)
ship
Broadway actor Barry Morse (right, m his fugitive days) is
among the performers during Out on Broadway on O c t 11, a
benefit for Esther's Pantry
Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spmtual directors from
various w orld religious traditions are available fo r guidance,
(Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave
5032332026. ext 3. www spmlone.com/sc. (1 1/01 )
classes and retreats
transgender and heterosexual people m 4 k > wish to wor-
shp xi a Chnst-centered, warm, caring, multiage/
race/cuKural faith community. (I I am Sunday 2025 NE
Youth W V /S T D Prevention
Pro ject provides fun and educational
programs along with counsekng and test-
ng to queer youth in a foendy. relaxed environment
(503472-9664 7(11/01)
Compassionate H eart Sang ha a lesbian and gay
YouthNet a program of Love Makes a FanWy. offers
tutonng and mentonng for lestxan. gay. br and bans
youth as w el as for cfddren of LGBT parents
m editation group, m eets m the B uddhist Vipasana tra d i
(503227 1941)01/01)
(7 30-9 pm Wednesday Flanders House. 2926 NE
Flanders S t Jon 5032395539 )01/01)
tion
Lincoln S treet United M ethodist Church is an
open and accepting congregation o f progressive
23rd Ave . Gresham 5036654741)01/01)
East Vancouver United M sthodist Church.
Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthurBM 3606934761
ouixiarkcounty Columbian com/273/) (11/01)
M eta no ia Peace Community (U nited M e th o d ist) is
First Congregational Church. United Church
o f C hrist Two Sunday services, badrtional and "less
a "house chu rch," bunging gay and stra ight together
(Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 6 pm.
2116 NE 18th Ave. 5032813697
www learsoup.com/metanoia)01/01)
M etropolitan Comm unity Church o f Portland
holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w o rs h p services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school fo r children is held during
(2400 NE Broadway
503 281 8868 mfoOmccportland com.) 01/01)
the 11 am w o rsh p service
P o tter'* House M inistries Life Center.
Evangelical and chansm atic C hnstian
(3830 SE 62nd
discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and
classes Schedule o f events available A ll w om en are
(Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont S t Mating
address PO Box 9246. Portland. OP 97207
503-7343297 sisterspdteleportcom) d 1/01)
w elcom e
Southm instar Presbyterian Church is a ch a t
lenging. supportive com m unity that w elcom es a t peo
pie It is the fx s t M ore Light P resbyterian C hurch in
(10 am Sunday summer. 9 X and 11 am
Sunday wn ter 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503644 2073)01/01)
O regon
St. Jamas Lutharaa Chu rch, a reconciled in
Southern Oregon: Youth
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach CSOYO) a
group for gay. lestxan. and tx youth between 14 and 20.
meets on the first and Thursdays of the month si
Ashland (541-488-6990X 11/01)
traditional’ in an open and affxrrxng congregation
(1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver 360693 1476)01/01)
Metropolitan Community C hurdi of tho Contfci
Shepherd. (10 am every Sunday; 6 30 pm second and
last Sunday Sute E/F. 2200 Broadway. Vancouver
■ 3606931480 Mccgsdaol com www mccgs org) (11/01)
Michael S in Jitu i Unitarian U n h im liit
Washington: Youth
Triple Point offers educator). support and acfeocacy
to gay. lestxan. br and bans and quesborxng youth xi
Vancouver Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays xi the base
ment of Youth House. 1112 Cotumtxa St xi Vancouver
(John 360695- 1325X 5/02)
Fellow ship a home for the tberal rekgxxis spxfl
(10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th St . Vancouver
360-695-1891.)01/01)
Ave 503- 775-5024.) (11/01)
S isterS p irit o ffe rs w om en's spintuakty cefe bra txxis,
D e a r M s . B e h a v io r :
My best friend
(and longtime ex)
Jim is happy in a new
relationship with a
man also named Jim.
My Jim has had a
lifelong problem with
debt, including school
loans and credit cards
up the wazoo. He
often has sought my
help with budgets and
organization.
The two Jims
have been together
for a year. They are
happy, have bought real estate and
have merged like lesbians.
My Jim is particularly happy
because his boyfriend, a stockbroker, is
richer than God. He doesn’t seem to
have a single problem anymore and is
basically very content, 1 presume
because his boyfriend has paid off his
debts; bought the new home, furniture
and lifestyle; and basically created a
comfy nest for the two of them.
Here’s the problem. My Jim owes
me $7,000 from loans through the
years. Because 1 never in a million
years thought he’d be
able to pay it back, I for
gave him the loan.
Is it OK for me to
have a frank talk with
Jim about the money
and his new situation? It
seems indelicate to point
out his newfound stand
ing as a rich househus-
band, yet if his new Jim
is paying people off, why
shouldn’t he pay me?
How can I explain that 1
forgave him the loan because 1 never
thtxight he’d have two pennies to rub
together?
Please don’t tell me to let it go;
$7,000 is a lot of money!! I want the
money and the friendship with both
of the Jims.
— Frien d o f Jim (s )
W ashington Spiritu ality
C hnstians.
(9 am Sunday 5145 SE Lincoln S t
503231-1930)01/01)
Friend expects payback from rags-to-riches ex
sacred paths, recogno ng each person s drvxie g ifts and
s rp p o rtn q spiritual grow th, beahng and enkghtenm ent
gregation. believes no one is le ft out in G od's
6:45 pm follow ed by a potluck and fellow
A fool and his money
W illamette V alley Spiritu ality
F irst Congregatio nal Church. U nited Chu rch
of C hrist is an open and affxrrxng congregation offer
xig worshp and church school Chid care prowled
Wheelcha» accessfole (10 am Sunday 700 Manor St
NE. Salem 5033633660 )01/01)
Willamette V alley Youth
Gay, Laahlaa. BisaxuaL Tn
Qua »boning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers
support, xiformatxm and fun Free, conhdenhal. drop«
(4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center.
2700 tdyardSt.. Eugene 541684 3466)01/01)
Gay, BisaxuaL Tn
i for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
F irst C ongregational United Chu rch o f C hriat
(5 pm Kotnonm Center. 1414 Knead St . Eugene
541-346-1134X 11/01)
is an xidusrve Chnstian community, an open and affxm
xig church (9 X am Sunday summer. 1030 am
Sunday waiter 4515 SW West Hds Road. Corvaks
Ratuhuw Youth s a support gnxp for gay. lestxan.
5 4 / 757-8122X 5/02)
txsexual. transgender and qucstxxxng youth and the»
Inends between 13 and 17 years old xi the Salem-
Keoer area 0 0 *5 8 1 ^ 5 3 5 ) (11/01)
D e a r F r ie n d
of
J i m ( s ):
Lucky thing Jim’s desperation took
the form of being broke. Imagine if
he’d had kidney failure and you’d
helped him out!
Ms. Behavior envisions your con
versation: “Jim, 1 never guessed you’d
land a boyfriend with two perfectly
functioning kidneys. Isn’t it time we
contacted a surgeon to retrieve mine?”
Because you forgave Jim the loan,
standing in line with your hand out
would seem tacky. If you insist on dis
cussing it, tell him simply and directly
that if he’s ever in a position to repay
you, it would help you. But do not act
resentful when the Jims fly to European
health spas, and do not cry when they
visit wearing matching Rolexes.
If you do talk about it, say it once
and never bring it up again. Think of
it like this: If Jim hadn’t had anything
nice to wear and you’d donated your
favorite frock to his limited wardrobe,
you might feel stir
rings of longing for it
back once Jim
snagged a fabulous
Parisian designer who
filled his closet with
stunning outfits. But
even then you only
could notify him of
your feelings tasteful
ly: “Jim, if you some
day find that you
don’t actually need
that slimming black
velvet and lace gown,
and it’s just taking up
space in your closet, I
wouldn’t mind having it back.”
Money is, of course, a little tricki
er. It takes up little space and is not
necessarily irreplaceable, and the
question of need vs. desire is not
clear-cut.
Only when pressed, for example,
will Ms. Behavior reveal that her
desire for a pair of Manolo Blahnik
shoes might he lower priority than her
need for Pan-Asian food, world peace
and oral sex. (She declines to com
ment, however, on comfortable shoes
vs. tribadism.)
D e a r M s . B e h a v io r :
Tonight my wife,
“Brenda,” has gone on a
date with another
woman. I’ve agreed to it,
but I don’t approve. She
has said recently that
she loves me “millions”
and wants to spend the
rest of her life with me
but that at this moment
in time she doesn’t
“fancy” me.
She met this girl about six weeks
ago. She assured me this is only a fan
tasy or experiment. What should I do?
— R ita
D ear R
it a :
Stop agreeing to things that make
you feel had. They only will twist you
and your relationship into a pretzel.
You can’t keep Brenda happy by
agreeing to let her date someone else.
She thinks she can keep you hooked
by saying she wants to spend “the rest
of her life” with you— at least the part
that happens when she’s not at the
movies or in a bubble hath with
another woman.
Grow a backbone, and tell her
what you want. Then, if it doesn’t
work out between you and Brenda,
toss her gently to the curb*. At least
you won’t have to blame yourself for
having been a spineless jellyfish.
* “Toss her to the curb” is a
metaphor for breaking up. Ms.
Behavior added “gently” to further
clarify, so she won’t receive angry let
ters from people who mistakenly think
she advocates spousal abuse. JT1
Write your confused an d conflicted heart out
to
Ms. B ehavior at MsBefaiMOT@floi.com.