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----------------------------------------Mumwni j f * |35 ADVICE .............▼............. pottucks and discussion o f books touching on the le s bian. gay o r bisexual experience. (C ary 503-363-6036 m arionbenysaknO aol.com .) (U /O D various vmrid religious tradffions are available for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor, 391 OSE I lb Ave 503-233-2026, ext. 3. www.spiritone.com /~isc. (11/01) The Lesbbw Com u ctiow (TLO Lunch Bunch C o m p a s s lo n aSs H e a r t S a n g h a . a lesbian and gay m editation group, m eets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi tion. (7.30-9 pm W ednesday. Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders S t Jon 5 0 3 -239-5539.)(1 1/01) m eets 11 am Sundays at the French Horn and 5-8 pm on the second Friday o f the m onth at the F ifth S treet M arket food court in Eugene A ll wom en welcom e. (Bonnie 54/-683-2793.7 (1 1 /0 1 ) Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an Communication breakdown Fellowship a home lo r the liberal religious spirit. (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver. 360-695-1891.) ( U /0 D Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church, United Church o f Christ. is an open and affirm ing congregation o ffe r The Lesbian Sawing and Project Group, a fun social organization, m eets in C orvallis. (Joan 5 4 1-928-5745.) (1 1/01) open and accepting congregation o f progressive C hristians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St. 503-231-1930.) (1 1 /0 1 ) ing w orship and church school. C h id care provided. W heelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 M anon St. NE. Salem. 503-363-3660.) ( 11/01) The Lesbian Social Group m eets in Eugene to eat. talk, laugh and w ork on projects ranging from sewing to artw ork to photo abum s. (541 -513-2754.) (1 1 /0 1 ) M itin o ii P m c i Community (U nited Gay-Straight Alliance o f the Unitarian Universalist Congregation o f Salem m eets M ethodist) is a "house church," bringing gay and straight together (D aily p ra ye r 7.20 am. Sunday gathering 6 pm 2116 NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697. w w w .tearsoup.com /m etanoia) (1 1 /0 1 ) Metr opolitan Community Church of Portland Metro: Spirituality Ainsworth United Church of C hrist is a m ulti racial, m ulticultural, open and affirm ing church. Sunday w orship is at 10 am, and church school fo r children runs concurrently. (2 9 4 1 NE A insw orth St. 503-284-8767. auccQ teleport.com .) (1 1 /0 1 ) Anawim Community o f gay men m eets w eekly fo r Chnstian m editation and prayer. (7.3 0 pm Thursday. 5 0 3 -2 8 1-0722.) (1 1 /0 1 ) Bridgeport Community Church (UCQ is a growing community of progressive, political people exploring and cele brating the Chnstian faith. We are multicultural, lesbian, gay, bi and straight, and our children are valued members. (10:30 am Sunday. 621 NE 76th Ave 503-258-0992.) (11/01) Community of St. Andrew invites all to join a diverse C atholic faith com m unity fo r prayer and fe llow ship. (9:30 am Sunday. 806 NE A lberta St. 5 0 3 -2 8 1 4 4 29 .) (1 1 /0 1 ) Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social. (Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street dignitypdxO aolcom .H U /0 \ ) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalis! a wel coming congregation, offers Sunday service and children's religious education at 10:30 am. (1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-2628. eastm seQ teleport.com .) (11/01) Estacada United M ethodist Church Reconciling Congregation, w here we really mean holds ecum enical Sunday m orning w orship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school fo r children is held during the 11 am w orship service (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 infoO m ccportland.com .) (1 1 /0 1 ) Potter's House M inistries Life Center. Evangelical and charism atic Chnstian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024.) ( U /0 D SisterSpirit offers wom en's spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drum m ing circle, w orkshops and classes. Schedule o f events available. A ll women are welcom e. (S uite 102. 3430 SE Belm ont S t M ailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297. siste rsp O te le po rt.co m .)( \ 1/01) fo r a potluck on the third Sunday o f each m onth. ( 6 pm. 5090 C enter S t. NE. 503-363-8716.) (1 1 /0 1 ) Interfaith Spiritual Community m eets fo r inspira tional messages, children's celebrations and jo y every Sunday at the Heart C enter W e honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine g ifts and supporting spiritual grow th, healing and enlightenm ent. (6 -7 3 0 pm. 1578 Com m ercial St. SE. Salem. 5 0 3 -7 6 3 -6 0 3 0 .H U /O D Momingside United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcom e to participate in the full life o f the congregation. (8 3 0 and 11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364-5013.) (11 /0 1 ) Sweat S pirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCO holds w orship at 11 am Sundays follow ed by Southminster Presbyterian Church coffee and fellow ship as w ell as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Amencan Legion Hall. 4 774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem M ailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. O R 97309. 503-315-7923 7 (1 1 /0 1 ) St. James Lutheran Church, a reconciled in C hnst congregation, welcom es all people fo r traditional liturgical w orship. (9 and 11 am Sunday. 1315 S W Park Ave. 503-2 2 7 -2 4 3 9 ) (1 1 /0 1 ) Metro: Youth is a chal lenging, supportive com m unity that welcom es all peo ple. It is the firs t M ore Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summ er. 9:30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (1 1 /0 1 ) St. Philip Neri Catholic Church o ffers a gay-pos itive com m unity fo r C atholics and th e ir friends. M ass at 7:30 pm Fridays follow ed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 5 0 3 -2 3 1-4955.) ( 11/01) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been w el com ing all people since 1863. (12.10 pm W ednesday and 7.45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care a t 10 am. S W 13th Avenue at Clay S treet Expression is a free art/expression support group fo r GLBT youth between 13 and 23 in Gresham Hang out and have fun every Fnday! Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-872-9664. ext. 28. 7 (1 1 /0 1 ) Outside In operates a clinic fo r anyone who can't qualify fo r the O regon Health Ran as w ell as a needle exchange service that includes exchange fo r those who inject horm ones. It also has some transitional housing fo r youth 20 and younger as w ell as fo r youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices o f Individual and Com munity Empowerment from the S treets), a self-support group fo r queer youth. (IO a m -6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St. 5 0 3 -2 2 3 -4 /2 / 7 (1 1 /0 1 ) Prids Project brings together W ashington County lesbian, gay. bi, trans and questioning youth to plan and attend m onthly social events. Also inform ation, referral, support and advocacy services fo r W ashington County. (M olly 5 0 3 -2605792 m ollyO pndeprqect org .7 (11 /0 1 ) Rainbow is a m ulticultural peer support and activity group fo r gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm Wednesday. M etropolitan Com m unity Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868 7 (1 1 /0 1 ) Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) o ffers drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an inform al place to hang out and plays host to weekly youth support groups including W indfire, Trans Youth G roup and Personal D eity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm M onday and Wednesday. 4 pm- midmght Friday and Saturday 2100 SE Belm ont S t 503-872 9664 www sm yrc.org.) (11 /0 1 ) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides everyone is welcom e Sunday w orship at 10 30 am. (204 SEM am S t.. Estacada 503-349-4245 .7 (1 1 /0 1 ) First Congregational United Church of C hrist is an open and affirm ing congregation in the liberal C hristian tradition Sunday w orship is at 10 25 am. and church school fo r children runs concurrently (1126 S W Park A ve 503-228- 7219 ) (1 1 /0 1 ) First United Methodist Church o f Portland, a welcom ing and reconciling congregation, believes no one is le ft out in G od's fam ily GLBT potlucks are held m onthly (10:30 am Sunday 1838 S W Jefferson St. 503-228-3195 www fu m cfxlx.o rg ) (1 1 /0 1 ) Full Circle Temple is a place o f w orship fo r wom en o f all ages offering w orkshops, song and drum circles, m editation room s and altars o f celebration, incorporat ing what you bnng to share. (10 a m -10 pm Tuesday- Sunday 3125 E Burnside St. 5 0 3 2 3 8 -0 6 7 5 .) (11 /0 1 ) jk il ^ n n n « n f l n u I no O uoa ironnecnon T I a YouthNet. a program o f Love M akes a Family, o ffers tutoring and m entonng fo r lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as fo r children o f LGBT parents. (503-227-1981 ) ( U / O D 503 223-6424.) (1 1 /0 1 ) Unity Church o f Portland is an all-inclusive com m unity follow ing C hrist's teachings and celebrating diversity and truth w ithout trappings fo r 75 years. Sunday school and child care available Potluck firs t Sundays (1 0 am Sunday 4525 SE S tark S t 503-234-7441. u m ty p rtln d O w w d b o rg )(U /0 \ ) University Park United Methodist Church is a m em ber o f the netw ork o f reconciling congregations and m eets fo r w orship at 10 am Sundays (4775 N Lom bard S t. 503 289-7843 ) (1 1 /0 1 ) Zion United Church of C hrist an open and affirm ing congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgender and heterosexual people who w ish to w or ship in a C hrist-centered, warm , caring, m ultiage/race/cultural faith comm unity. (11 am Sunday 2025 NE 2 3 rd A ve.. Gresham 5 0 3 -6 6 5 8 7 4 1 )1 11/01) Southern Oregon: Youth Southern O re g o n Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group fo r gay. lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20, m eets on the firs t and Thursdays o f the month m Ashland (541-488 6 9 9 0 7 (1 1 /0 1 ) Washington: Youth Teen to Teen Sexual M inority Youth Program o ffe rs education, support and advocacy to gay, lesbian, bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver. Wash M eets 6 8 pm Tuesdays and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays in Suite M 100 at Cascade AIDS Project, 1104 Mam St (Amanda 3 6 0 6 9 3 1 /8 8 7 (1 1 /0 1 ) - -L » roc worvnip. -----* -----M.------ m Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spntuakty w ith the Revs Casey and Berde* M offett Chaney Uberal, practical: a l are welcom e (10 am Sunday 4828 NE 3 3 rd A ve 503-481-7591 7(11/01) East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcom ing (1 0 am Sunday Grace Spece. a m ultidenom m ationa! spiritual center led by the Rev Stephanie Tomes, holds Sunday evening celebrations (5 pm Friends o f M ultnom ah. 4312 SE S tark S t 503 287-3216.) (1 1 /0 1 ) Integrity the gay and lesbian m m istiy o f the Episcopal Church, m eets on the second Friday o f each month m the M om son Room at Trinity C athedral Eucharist is celebrated at 6 45 pm follow ed by a potluck and fellow ship (147 N W 19th A ve 5 0 3 -2 8 9 -1 6 8 7 ) ( U /0 D Interfaith Spiritual Center. Washington Spirituality Spiritual directors from Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Youth Group fo r ages 13 to 18 offers 5701 M acA rthur Blvd 360-6934761. ourclarkcounty Columbian c o m /2 7 3 /) (1 1 /0 1 ) support, inform ation and fun Free, confidential, drop-m (4-6 pm Friday Amazon Com m unity Center. 2700 H ily a rd S t. Eugene 54 / 684 3 4 6 6 /(1 1 /0 1 ) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ Two Sunday services, traditional and "less Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Youth Group fo r ages 25 and younger meets every M onday traditional" m an open and affirm ing congregation. (1220 NE 68th S t . Vancouver 360-693 1476 ) (W 0 D (5 pm Komorua Center. 1414 Kincaid S t Eugene 541-346-1134 7(1 1 /0 1 ) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday 913 W 13th St.. Rainbow Youth is a support group fo r gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth and their fnends between 13 and 17 years old in the Satem- Vancouver 360-695 1 4 8 0 7 (1 1 /01 ) M kheel Servetus Unitarian Universalist Keizer area (503 58 / 5535 7(1 1 /0 1 ) D ear M s . B ehavior : Help! M y boyfriend has a signif icant hearing problem that’s affecting our relationship, which is otherwise stable and loving. Here’s what I mean. I say, “ I can’t wait to be with you this weekend.” Rodrigo hears: “ I can’t see you Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday. W ell, I probably could see you if I wanted to, but I don’t want to. In fact, 1 hate you." 1 say: "H on ey, you are the best man I ever have been with. L e t’s be together always.” R odrigo hears, “ I’m settling for you because I’ve used up my energy on thousands o f men w ho are far more excitin g than you are.” Th e thing is, my boyfriend and his low self-esteem have been in therapy for several years. H e’s a wonderful man, but sometimes I feel like 1 ought to follow his therapist home and give her a good shaking. I mean, what’s the deal? A n y guy would kill to have him as a boyfriend, and every one knows it but him. Do you have suggestions for a new kind o f hear ing aid? fun and educational program s along w ith counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ m ent. (503-872 9 6 6 4 ) ( U / 0 D O il paintings by Jesse G eisheker are on view at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave., through July 31 Smitten guy says one thing, insecure boyfriend hears another D ear L arry : It’s hard to tell whether your boyfriend needs a hearing aid or you need speech therapy. Ms. Behavior sus pects your one-sided “he said, he said” conflict leaves out Rodrigo’s version o f the story, which might sound more like this: Larry says: “Oh, I remember that shirt. It used to look really great on you before you gained all that weight around your waistline.” Larry thinks he said, “That shirt looks good on you.” Then you act shocked when you realize Rodrigo feels hurt (your clue is that he’s crying into a box o f dough nuts), and you deny his reality. Rodrigo might be insecure, as you suggest, but it’s also possible you’re an insensitive clod. Either way, despite your declarations o f love in this advice column, verbal communica tion between the two o f you clearly has gone awry. Maybe you should explore alter nate forms o f expression: Consider doing a performance piece about your love. Take a mime class to learn gestures and facial expressions for illus trating your d evo tion. O r if you’re into something more prim itive, try wrapping your boyfriend in a fuzzy blanket and rocking him while cooing softly in his ear. D ear M s . B ehavior : M y former best friend and my former lover have formed some kind o f psy cho bond recently, a support group for the mean and stingy. Frankly, I ’d gotten pretty fed up w ith both o f them: O n e is a co n summate liar and a cheat, and the other is insufferably self-centered and ungenerous. W ith the help o f my lovin g friends and my therapist, I’ve vow ed to stay away from both o f them. G etting out o f their clutches was difficult for me because I used to be a A \ I f a \ pushover. I’ve vowed to spend time only with people who A \ I / A are genuine ^ 1 and kind and have a moral clue. But what do I do with my feel ings of betrayal? — Former Doormat D ear F ormer D oormat : I f you “ used to be a pushover,” you might need to cultivate the A n gry Dyke within. You’ll need a pair o f heavy boots in which to practice stomping around in silent rage. A t the same time, learn to medi tate. Train your mind to focus on peaceful, loving thoughts. If you can learn to feel both fierce and calm, you will be the Sapphic Dalai Lama, inspiring happy thoughts and spreading love and light through out the universe. T h e universe, by the way, is perfect in its self-regulation; the planets have aligned to bring your ex and your former friend together. You couldn’t possibly concoct a more suitable means o f justice than what these tw o w ill inflict on one another. So just accept the gift you’ve been given and remember to say thank you. j n Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at KisBehaiiodQaol.com.
