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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Jan. 19, 2001)
jammy 1 9 .2 0 0 1 z J v a t m a C ^ g T Estacada United Methodiat Church Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 SE Mam St.. Estacada ) (5/01) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs con currently. (1126 S W Park Awe. 503-228-7219.) Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars o f celebra tion, incorporating what you bring to share. (10 am -10 pm Tuesday-Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (5/01) The God Connection Center for Worship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spmtuality with the Revs. Berdell Moffett and Casey Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (10 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave. 503-481-7591.) (5/01) Grace Space, a newly formed multidenominational spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Unity Church. 4525 SE Stark St 503-287-3216.) (5/0 1) Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral. Eucharist is celebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 N W 19th Ave. 503-289-1687.) Interfaith S piritual Center. Gay men's spiritual ity groups form every other month. Spiritual direc tors from various world religious traditions are avail able for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. .503-233-2026. ext. 3. www. hometown, aol. com/djrho5/webpage. html.) (5/01) Lesbian and gay meditation group. "Compassionate Heart Sangha," meets for meditation in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. (7 3 0 -9 pm Wednesday. Flanders House, 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539.) (5/01) Lilith's Daughters is a westside lesbian spiritual group facilitated by Rev. Grace Young. The meet ings are on the 2nd and 4th Fridays of the month at 7 pm in Beaverton. (Grace at 503-643-3209) (5/01 ) Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is a "house church," bnnging gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 6 pm. 2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281 -3697 ) (5/01) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281-8868. mccpdx@aol.com.) (5/01) Potter's House Ministries Life Center. Evangelical and chansmatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024.) (5/01) SisterS pirit offers women's spirituality celebra tions. discussion groups, a drumming circle, work shops and classes. Schedule of events available. All women are welcome. (3-6 pm Tuesday-Friday. Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297. sistersp@teleport.com.) (5/01) Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955)(5/01) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church the new home of the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcom ing all people since 1863 (12:10pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424)(5/01) University Parir United Methodist Church is a member of the network of Reconciling Congregations and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am. (4775 N LombardSt. 503-289-7843)(5/01) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community. ( I I am Sunday. 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (5/01) Washington Spirituality East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday. 5701 MacArthur Blvd., Vancouver 360-693-4761. ourclarkcounty.columbian.com/273/.) (5/01) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360-693-1476)(5/01) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday. 913 W. 13th St.. Vancouver. 360-695-1480.) (5/01) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. (10 am Sunday. 4505 £ 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (5/01) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school. Child care provided. Wheelchair accessible. (10 am Sunday. 700 Mahon St. NE. Salem 503-363-3660.) (5/01) Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a nee dle exchange service. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St. 503-223-4121.)(5/01) Pride Project brings together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792.) (5/01) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth (4 30 pm Monday Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281 -8868.) (5/01) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire. Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midmght Fnday and Saturday. 424 E Burnside St. 503-872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) (5/01) S.M.i.L.E. is a free education/support group for GLBT youth 13-18. Learn, grow and have fun! Meets from 5 to 6:30 pm Thursday beginning Jan. 11. Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan 503-238-0780. ext. 244.) (5/01) Youth H IV /S T D Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly, relaxed envi ronment. (503-872-9664) (5/01) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentoring for lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-1981.) (5/01) The G ay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian U niversalist Congregation of Salem meets on the third Sunday of each month for a potluck. (6 pm. 5090 Center St. NE 50 3 -3 6 3 -8 7 1 6 )(5/01) Southern Oregon: Youth Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every The Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Group of Klamath Falls provides support for gay, lesbian, Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages, children's celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person s divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlighten ment. (6-7:30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem. 503-763-6030)(5/01) Momingside United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8.30 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St SE, Salem 503-364-5013.) (5/01) Sw eet S p irit M etropolitan Community Church (M C C ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Amehcan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem, OR 97309. 503-315- 7923.) (5/01) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal BY KATY DA Branches. Meets Fridays from 5-7 pm in Gresham (Call Jonathan to reserve your spot. 503-238-0780 ext 2 4 4 ) (5/01) bi. trans and questioning youth and their allies. (boytoy22@hotmail.com.) (5/01) Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland. (541-488-6990) (5/01) Washington: Youth Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13 and 22 in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3:30-5:30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Main St. Suite M-100. (Amanda 360-693-1188.) (5/01) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18 lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (5/01) Metro: Youth St. Philip NeH gay and lesbian outreach A gay/les Expression is a free art/expression support group for bian-positive community for Catholics and their friends Mass at 7:30 pm on Fridays followed by a social (Paulist GLBT youth 13-18 who live in the Gresham area. Learn, grow and have fun! Sponsored by Roots and offers support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop-in. (4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hityard St . Eugene. 541-684-3466.) (5/01) Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday. (5 pm Monday Koinonia Center. 1414 Kincaid St.. Eugene 541-346-1134 ) (5/01) Shrink rap Therapist mangles the language of love D ear M s . B ehavior : I am a 41 -year-old lesbian with a prob lem. My therapist has a very strong accent; she sounds like Natasha Badinoff. She also can misuse (abuse) the language. Anyway, I am recently single. The other day when I was talking to her about a new doll 1 am dating, she asked me if this woman also was “rebouncing.” 1 don’t know how to respond. 1 am aware there might be deeper issues than the linguistic one. My question is twofold: Do you think 1 need another shrink, and do you think it is O K if this doll and 1 rebounce together? — Worried Dyke D ear W orried D yke .- If English is not your therapists native tongue, but she’s helpful in other ways, you should cut her some slack and forgive her lack of cunning linguistics. It would be appropriate, however, to be frightened by an English-speaking ther apist specializing in malapropisms. Fuzzy boundaries in therapy are bad enough, but improper usage is far more egregious. It’s deadly to the ears, the soul and one’s confidence in a professional. Ms. Behavior herself once leapt from the couch when her therapist said, “ I can understand why so-and- so’s behavior would exasperate your uncomfortability.” H ELLO ? Ms. Behavior was so traumatized, she had to spend weeks with a new therapist talking about her old thera pist’s violent massacre o f the language. (For those who might be tempted to write and sheepishly ask about the problem with the aforementioned man gled sentence, the words should have been “exacerbate” and “discomfort," two words with which every mental health professional should be familiar.) A s for whether you and your new date can rebound together, it depends. Are you prepared for transference beyond the usual? The worst-case scenario: Your new girlfriend emotionally confuses you with her ex, projects her nasty breakup feelings onto you and then gets mad at you for not comforting her like a good mother. If you’re able to rebounce from such atrocities without too much uncomfortability, Ms. Behavior would encourage you to dive right in. D ear M s . B ehavior : Last spring I began dating a man who seemed sweet. Each time he came over, I made a great meal and we made love. I was single and a little lonely, despite a full life. He just had broken up with someone after five years. 1 didn’t ask for a com m itm ent. We had a blast at the gay pride parade, or so I thought, but then his tune changed and he acted mean and told me I was m oving too fast. I told him that 1 couldn’t help how I felt but that 1 under stood he wasn’t ready to become som eone’s lover so soon. T he day he broke up with me he was really nasty. I was heartbroken. Recently, he visited the store where I work and left a message say ing that he didn’t want to disturb me but that he hoped all was O K. Perhaps this was som ething like an apology, but I reacted very negatively. He didn’t say that he was sorry or that he’d done anything wrong. I felt that trying to “make nice” after break ing my heart without saying he was sorry was inappropriate. I crumpled his note and have no intention o f calling him. I’m seeing som eone wonderful now anyway. I did fall in love with the first guy but wasn’t expecting any commitment so quickly. Maybe I’m being silly get ting worked up over this because he probably doesn’t care or even know I disapprove o f this behavior. I’m angry because o f how he treat ed me and because he didn’t allow any closure: Everything happened so abruptly, and it ruined my summer. W hat do you advise? I’d love to get over this. I value your opinion and enjoyed your book. — Tom D ear T o m : T h e best way to get over this is not to look back, so congratulations on m oving on. Although you say you’re happy with som eone new, Ms. Behavior hopes you’re not harboring secret fantasies o f resuming a romance with Mr. Am bivalence. The best thing about your relation ship with him is that it ended quickly. People who become mean or inconsis tent and end things badly often will do it again, in an even more hurtful way, if you give them another chance to do so. Ms. Behavior has nothing against the concept o f forgiveness; it’s just that in the absence o f a sincere apology and desire to behave differently, there’s no reason to think someone is capable of more than he already has shown you. You sound like you have a lot to offer to a boyfriend, and Ms. Behavior hopes the new one turns out to be wor thy of your love. (If the real problem is that you exude the scent of desperation, you’ll find out soon enough, when the new Mr. Wonderful’s tcxithbrush disap pears from your bathroom.) j n Write your confused and conflicted heart out to M s. BEHAVIOR at | MsBetatToristaoI.com.
