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Estacada United Methodiat Church
Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean
everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am.
(204 SE Mam St.. Estacada ) (5/01)
First Congregational United Church of
Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the
liberal Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at
10:25 am, and church school for children runs con
currently. (1126 S W Park Awe. 503-228-7219.)
Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for
women of all ages offenng workshops, song and
drum circles, meditation rooms and altars o f celebra
tion, incorporating what you bring to share.
(10 am -10 pm Tuesday-Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St.
503-238-0675.) (5/01)
The God Connection Center for Worship,
Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate
your spmtuality with the Revs. Berdell Moffett and
Casey Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome.
(10 am Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave. 503-481-7591.)
(5/01)
Grace Space, a newly formed multidenominational
spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres,
holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm. Unity
Church. 4525 SE Stark St 503-287-3216.) (5/0 1)
Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the
Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each
month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral.
Eucharist is celebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a
potluck and fellowship. (147 N W 19th Ave.
503-289-1687.)
Interfaith S piritual Center. Gay men's spiritual
ity groups form every other month. Spiritual direc
tors from various world religious traditions are avail
able for guidance, classes and retreats. (Second
Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. .503-233-2026. ext. 3.
www. hometown, aol. com/djrho5/webpage. html.)
(5/01)
Lesbian and gay meditation group.
"Compassionate Heart Sangha," meets for meditation
in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. (7 3 0 -9 pm
Wednesday. Flanders House, 2926 NE Flanders St.
Jon 503-239-5539.) (5/01)
Lilith's Daughters is a westside lesbian spiritual
group facilitated by Rev. Grace Young. The meet
ings are on the 2nd and 4th Fridays of the month at
7 pm in Beaverton. (Grace at 503-643-3209) (5/01 )
Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is
a "house church," bnnging gay and straight together.
(Daily prayer 7:20 am. Sunday gathering 6 pm.
2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281 -3697 ) (5/01)
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held dunng
the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway.
503-281-8868. mccpdx@aol.com.) (5/01)
Potter's House Ministries Life Center.
Evangelical and chansmatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd
Ave 503-775-5024.) (5/01)
SisterS pirit offers women's spirituality celebra
tions. discussion groups, a drumming circle, work
shops and classes. Schedule of events available. All
women are welcome. (3-6 pm Tuesday-Friday.
Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St Mailing address:
PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. 503-736-3297.
sistersp@teleport.com.) (5/01)
Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955)(5/01)
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church the new home
of the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcom
ing all people since 1863 (12:10pm Wednesday and
7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child care
at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
503-223-6424)(5/01)
University Parir United Methodist Church is a
member of the network of Reconciling Congregations
and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am. (4775 N
LombardSt. 503-289-7843)(5/01)
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual,
transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to
worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring,
multiage/race/cultural faith community. ( I I am Sunday.
2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (5/01)
Washington Spirituality
East Vancouver United Methodist Church.
Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday.
5701 MacArthur Blvd., Vancouver 360-693-4761.
ourclarkcounty.columbian.com/273/.) (5/01)
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less
traditional" in an open and affirming congregation.
(1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360-693-1476)(5/01)
Metropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday. 913 W. 13th St..
Vancouver. 360-695-1480.) (5/01)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship. (10 am Sunday. 4505 £ 18th St..
Vancouver 360-695-1891.) (5/01)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offenng
worship and church school. Child care provided.
Wheelchair accessible. (10 am Sunday. 700 Mahon St.
NE. Salem 503-363-3660.) (5/01)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a nee
dle exchange service. It also has some transitional
housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for
youth who are HIV-positive and younger than 23. It
also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual
and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a
self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm
Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St.
503-223-4121.)(5/01)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and
attend monthly social events. Also information, referral,
support and advocacy services for Washington County.
(Molly 503-260-5792.) (5/01)
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity
group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning
youth (4 30 pm Monday Metropolitan Community
Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway
503-281 -8868.) (5/01)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables
and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to
weekly youth support groups including Windfire. Trans
Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative
group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midmght Fnday and
Saturday. 424 E Burnside St. 503-872-9664
www.smyrc.org.) (5/01)
S.M.i.L.E. is a free education/support group for
GLBT youth 13-18. Learn, grow and have fun! Meets
from 5 to 6:30 pm Thursday beginning Jan. 11.
Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (Jonathan
503-238-0780. ext. 244.) (5/01)
Youth H IV /S T D Prevention Project provides
fun and educational programs along with counseling
and testing to queer youth in a fnendly, relaxed envi
ronment. (503-872-9664) (5/01)
YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers
tutonng and mentoring for lesbian, gay. bi and trans
youth as well as for children of LGBT parents.
(503-227-1981.) (5/01)
The G ay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian
U niversalist Congregation of Salem meets on
the third Sunday of each month for a potluck. (6 pm.
5090 Center St. NE 50 3 -3 6 3 -8 7 1 6 )(5/01)
Southern Oregon: Youth
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every
The Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Group
of Klamath Falls provides support for gay, lesbian,
Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages,
children's celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate
all sacred paths, recognizing each person s divine gifts
and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlighten
ment. (6-7:30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem.
503-763-6030)(5/01)
Momingside United Methodist Church is a rec
onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to
participate in the full life of the congregation.
(8.30 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St SE, Salem
503-364-5013.) (5/01)
Sw eet S p irit M etropolitan Community
Church (M C C ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays
followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck
lunches every second Sunday. (Amehcan Legion
Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address:
Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem, OR 97309.
503-315- 7923.) (5/01)
Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal
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Branches. Meets Fridays from 5-7 pm in Gresham
(Call Jonathan to reserve your spot. 503-238-0780 ext
2 4 4 ) (5/01)
bi. trans and questioning youth and their allies.
(boytoy22@hotmail.com.) (5/01)
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a
group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets
on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland.
(541-488-6990) (5/01)
Washington: Youth
Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support
group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13
and 22 in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays
and 3:30-5:30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Main St. Suite
M-100. (Amanda 360-693-1188.) (5/01)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18
lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in
Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9.30 and 11 am
Sunday winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton
503-644-2073.) (5/01)
Metro: Youth
St. Philip NeH gay and lesbian outreach A gay/les
Expression is a free art/expression support group for
bian-positive community for Catholics and their friends
Mass at 7:30 pm on Fridays followed by a social (Paulist
GLBT youth 13-18 who live in the Gresham area.
Learn, grow and have fun! Sponsored by Roots and
offers support, information and fun. Free, confidential,
drop-in. (4-6 pm Fnday Amazon Community Center.
2700 Hityard St . Eugene. 541-684-3466.) (5/01)
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth
group for ages 25 and younger meets every
Monday. (5 pm Monday Koinonia Center. 1414 Kincaid
St.. Eugene 541-346-1134 ) (5/01)
Shrink rap
Therapist mangles the language of love
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I am a 41 -year-old
lesbian with a prob
lem.
My therapist has a
very strong accent; she
sounds like Natasha
Badinoff. She also can
misuse (abuse) the
language.
Anyway, I am
recently single. The
other day when I was
talking to her about a
new doll 1 am dating,
she asked me if this
woman also was
“rebouncing.” 1 don’t
know how to respond.
1 am aware there might be deeper
issues than the linguistic one. My
question is twofold: Do you think 1
need another shrink, and do you
think it is O K if this doll and 1
rebounce together?
— Worried Dyke
D ear W orried D yke .-
If English is not your therapists
native tongue, but she’s helpful in other
ways, you should cut her some slack and
forgive her lack of cunning linguistics.
It would be appropriate, however, to be
frightened by an English-speaking ther
apist specializing in malapropisms.
Fuzzy boundaries in therapy are
bad enough, but improper usage is far
more egregious. It’s deadly to the ears,
the soul and one’s confidence in a
professional.
Ms. Behavior herself once leapt
from the couch when her therapist
said, “ I can understand why so-and-
so’s behavior would exasperate your
uncomfortability.” H ELLO ?
Ms. Behavior was so traumatized,
she had to spend weeks with a new
therapist talking about her old thera
pist’s violent massacre o f the language.
(For those who might be tempted to
write and sheepishly ask about the
problem with the aforementioned man
gled sentence, the words should have
been “exacerbate” and “discomfort,"
two words with which every mental
health professional should be familiar.)
A s for whether you and your new
date can rebound together, it depends.
Are you prepared for transference
beyond the usual?
The worst-case scenario: Your new
girlfriend emotionally confuses you
with her ex, projects her nasty breakup
feelings onto you and then gets mad at
you for not comforting her like a good
mother. If you’re able to rebounce from
such atrocities without too much
uncomfortability, Ms. Behavior would
encourage you to dive right in.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
Last spring I began dating a man
who seemed sweet. Each time he
came over, I made a great meal and
we made love.
I was single and a little lonely,
despite a full life. He just had broken
up with someone after five years.
1 didn’t ask for a com m itm ent.
We had a blast at
the gay pride
parade, or so I
thought, but then
his tune changed
and he acted mean
and told me I was
m oving too fast.
I told him that 1
couldn’t help how I
felt but that 1 under
stood he wasn’t
ready to become
som eone’s lover so
soon. T he day he
broke up with me he
was really nasty. I
was heartbroken.
Recently, he visited the store
where I work and left a message say
ing that he didn’t want to disturb me
but that he hoped all was O K.
Perhaps this was som ething like an
apology, but I reacted very negatively.
He didn’t say that he was sorry or
that he’d done anything wrong. I felt
that trying to “make nice” after break
ing my heart without saying he was
sorry was inappropriate.
I crumpled his note and have no
intention o f calling him. I’m seeing
som eone wonderful now anyway.
I did fall in love with the first guy
but wasn’t expecting any commitment
so quickly. Maybe I’m being silly get
ting worked up over this because he
probably doesn’t care or even know I
disapprove o f this behavior.
I’m angry because o f how he treat
ed me and because he didn’t allow
any closure: Everything happened so
abruptly, and it ruined my summer.
W hat do you advise? I’d love to
get over this. I value your opinion and
enjoyed your book.
— Tom
D ear T o m :
T h e best way to get over this is
not to look back, so congratulations
on m oving on. Although you say
you’re happy with som eone new, Ms.
Behavior hopes you’re not harboring
secret fantasies o f resuming a romance
with Mr. Am bivalence.
The best thing about your relation
ship with him is that it ended quickly.
People who become mean or inconsis
tent and end things badly often will do
it again, in an even more hurtful way, if
you give them another chance to do so.
Ms. Behavior has nothing against
the concept o f forgiveness; it’s just that
in the absence o f a sincere apology and
desire to behave differently, there’s no
reason to think someone is capable of
more than he already has shown you.
You sound like you have a lot to
offer to a boyfriend, and Ms. Behavior
hopes the new one turns out to be wor
thy of your love. (If the real problem is
that you exude the scent of desperation,
you’ll find out soon enough, when the
new Mr. Wonderful’s tcxithbrush disap
pears from your bathroom.) j n
Write your confused and conflicted
heart out to M s. BEHAVIOR at
| MsBetatToristaoI.com.