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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Dec. 15, 2000)
1 5 .2 0 0 0 ' nmunity College, Eugene. (541-741-4501. (Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm. worship and church school Child care provided. . 2336 ) (12/00) 2 1 1 6 N E 18th Ave 503-281-3697) (12/00) Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 Manon St M etropolitan Community Church of Portland NE. Salem. 503-363-3660 ) (12/00) holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway The Gay-Straight A lliance of the Unitarian 503-281-8868 mccpdx@aol.com.)(12/00) 5090 Center S t NE 503 3 6 3 -8 7 1 6 ) (12/00) Potter's House M inistries Life Center. Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian (3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024.) (12/00) D ear M s . Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages, B e h a v io r .- ■y Men's Discussion Group meets Mondays pm 7 30 to 9 pm at the Koinoma Center. ¡114 Kincaid. Eugene. (Hank 541 4 84 6 259 Trent eager@hrvalhance o rg .)( 12/00) rim County Mon's Health N etw ork offers social nts. retreats, workshops and training for bi. gay and bhs men Community calendars and mailings Training I networking men to build community from a grass- ots perspective. (1966 Garden Ave., Eugene 11-342-5088. ext. 23. tseager@hivalhance.org.) (12/00) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and arionberry Salon, formerly the Coalition to End „gotry Book Group, meets monthly in Salem for classes. Schedule of events available AH women are wel come. (3-6 pm Tuesday-Fnday Suite 102, 3430 SE otlucks and discussions of books touching on lesbian, Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR ay or bisexual expenence. (Cary 503-363-6036. aryandken@aol.com.) ( 12/00) 97207. 503-736-3297 sistensp@teleport.com.)(6/01) Southm inster Presbyterian Church is a chal j Lesbian Connection (TLC ) Lunch Bunch _ets at 11 am every Sunday at the French Horn and \ the second Friday o f the month from 5 to 8 pm at the Fifth Street Market food court in Eugene All women welcome. (Bonnie 5 4 1 -683-2793.) (12/00) lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9 3 0 and 11 am Sunday winter 12250 SkV Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (12/00) St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les- bian-positive community for Catholics and their fnends SPIRITUALITY Mass at 7:30 pm on Fndays followed by a social. (Paulist Universalist Congregation of Salem meets on the third Sunday of each month for a potluck (6 pm children's celebrations and joy We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spiritual growth, healing and enlighten ment. (6-7 30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem 503-763-6030.)(12/00) Mom ingside United M ethodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8:30 and 11 am Sundays 3674 12th St. SE, Salem 503-364-5013.) (12/00) Sweet S pirit Metropolitan Community Church (M CC ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Amencan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. OR 97309 503-315-7923.)(12/00) Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231 -4955 ) (12/00) S t. Stephen's Episcopal Church the new home Metro: Spirituality YOUTH [ Ainsworth United Church of C hrist is a multiracial, multicultural, open and affirming Metro: Youth church. Sunday worship is at 10 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well (2941 NE Ainsworth S t 503-284-8767. aucc@teleport.com.) as a needle exchange service. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and The Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and younger as well as for youth who are HIV-posi tive and younger than 23. It also plays host to prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday 503-281-0722.) ( VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community 6 / 01 ) Empowerment from the Streets), a self-sup port group for queer youth (10 am-6 pm Bridgeport Community Church (U C C ) Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (12/00) is a growing community o f progressive, politi cal people explonng and celebrating the Chnstian faith We are multicultural, lesbian, Pride Project bnngs together Washington gay, bi and straight, and our children are valued County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning members (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Ave. 503-258-0992.) (12 /0 0 ) Also information, referral, support and advoca Community of S t. A ndrew invites all to cy services for Washington County. (Molly join a diverse Catholic faith comm unity fo r 503-260-5792)112/00) prayer and fellowship. (9.30 am Sunday. Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4:30 pm Monday at 4 pm at St. Stephens Episcopal Church fo l Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. lowed by a social (Southwest 13th Avenue at 2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 -8868 ) (12/00) 806 NE Alberta St. 503-281 4429.) ( 12/00) Clay Street. digmtypdx@aol com .) (1 2 /0 0 ) Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer Directions N orthw est (ECWR) helps gay access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to weekly youth sup and lesbian Chnstians integrate faith and sexu ality through Bible study and fellowship. port groups including Windfire, Trans Youth (PO Box 86383. Portland. OR 97286-0383 503- 727-3387.) ( 12/00) Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Eastrose Fellowship U nitarian Universalist. a welcoming congregation, Fnday and Saturday 424 E Burnside St 503-872-9664. www smyrc.org.) (12/00) offers Sunday service at 10.30 am (1133 NE S .M .I.L .E . is a free education/support group for GLBT youth 13-18 Learn, grow and 181st Ave , Gresham. 503-665-2628. eas- trose@telepor1.com.) (6/0 1 ) have fun! M eets from 5 to 6 30 pm Thursday beginning Jan 11. Sponsored by Roots and Estacada United M ethodist Church Reconciling Congregation, where w e Branches. (Jonathan 503-238-0780. really mean everyone is welcom e Sunday w o r ship at 10.30 am. (204 SE Mam St.. Estacada.) ( 12/00) M s. and Mr. Oregon Leather, Cyd Athene and Charlie Salt, play host to B a n g in ' D ow n the House, a celebration of the w inter holidays at the Egyptian Club, on Dec. 21 First Congregational U nited Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation m the lib eral Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW Park Ave 503-228-7219.) Full Circle Temple is a place o f worship for women of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars o f celebration, incorporat ing what you bring to share. (10 a m -10 pm Tuesday Sunday. 3125 E Burnside S t 5 0 3 2 3 8 -0 6 7 5 ) (12 /0 0 ) n«G od Connection C enter fo r W orship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spintuality with the Revs. BerdeH M offett and Casey Chaney Ltoeral. practical; all are welcome (10 am Sunday 4 8 2 8 N E 3 3 rd A ve 503-481-7591) (12/00) o f the Portland Gay Men s Chorus, has been welcom ing all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care y the gay and lesbian ministry o f the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month in the Momson Room at Trinity Cathedral Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship (147 NW 19th Ave 503-2891687.) Interfaith Spiritual Canter. Gay men's spintuality 9foups form every other month. Spintual directors from ^n ou s world religious traditions are available for guid- *>ce classes and retreats (Second Floor. n th Ave 503-2332026. ext 3 3910 SE '(y}*^me>0wn ^ txrm/dfrhoS/webpage html) Laabian and nay meditation araun 'Compassionate Heart Sangha." meets for meditation "m e Buddhist Vpasana tradition. (7 30-9pm 7 * * w * k y Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St Jon 5032395539) ( 12/00) a house church, . (United M ethodist) is bnngmg gay and straight together Youth H IV /S TD Prevention Project pro vides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environment. (503-872-9664) (12/00) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street. tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans 5 0 3223-6424.) (12/00) youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. University Park United M ethodist Church is a (503 227-1981.)(12/00) member o f the network of Reconciling Congregations and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am (4775 N Lombard St. 5 0 3 2 8 9 7843 ) (12/00) Southern Oregon: Youth Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, The Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Group of Klamath Falls provides support for gay. lesbian, transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to bi. trans and questioning youth and their allies worship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng, m ultiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday (boytoy22@hotmail com. 7(12/00) 2025 NE 23rd Ave . Gresham 503 665-8741.) (12/00) Space a newly formed multidenommational spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations (5 pm U nity Church. 4525 SE Stark S t 503 287-3216 ) 0 2 /0 0 ) ext. 244.) (6 /0 1 ) Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO ) a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets on the first and Thursdays o f the month in Ashland Washington: Spirituality East Vancouver United Methodist Church. (5 4 1 488-6990 ) (12/00) Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday Washington Youth 5701 M acArthur B lv d . Vancouver 3 6 0 69 3 4 7 6 1 ourclarkcounty Columbian com /273/ J (6/01) Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support First Congregational Church, United Church o f C hrist. Two Sunday services, traditional and ‘ less traditional" in an open and affirming congregation group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13 and 22 in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Mam St Suite M-100 (Amanda 3 6 0 69 3 11 8 8 )( 12/00) (1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver 360-693-1476.)(6/01) M etropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday 913 W 13th St.. Vancouver 360-695-14 8 0 ) (6/01) M ichael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver 3 60-695-1891)(6/01) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Leebian, Bisexual, Tranegendered and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-1S offers support, information and fun Free, confidential, drop-m (4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center, 2700 Hilyard S t . Eugene 5 4 1 684 3 4 6 6 ) (12/00) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church United Church of Chnst. is an open and affirming congregation offering Lesbian, gay. bisexual, transgender youth group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Monday Koinoma Center. 1414 Kincaid S t. Eugene 541 346 11347(12/00) Cock-and-bulldyke stony Is it worth sacrificing fidelity for fertility? I’m a 38-year- old lesbian in a long-term rela tionship, and I’ve been trying to get pregnant using a known donor for a year and a halt. My girlfriend, Abby, inseminates me each month with my friend Joel’s sperm after he masturbates in the next room. I recently read that the odds of getting pregnant during sex are higher than during insemination. I men tioned this to Joel (who has been test ed for every disease known to mankind), and he reluctantly con sented to have sex with me in service of my conception. He said he would bring his boyfriend to make sure he can per form. The problem is that when I mentioned having sex with Joel to Abby, she flipped out. I want to respect her wishes, but I also desperately want to get preg nant. I’ve been thinking about hav ing Joel come over secretly on ovu lation day to have sex with me when I’m home alone, then also keeping our regular evening appointment to have Abby insemi nate me with his sperm, so she won’t suspect anything. I should clarify that my motives are pure. 1 have no sexual feelings for Joel. This just would be about increasing the odds of having a baby. But would it be wrong to omit this information from Abby? — Desperate to Conceive known to increase the odds. Orgasm increases the likelihood of conception, so maybe next time you ovulate, she’d be willing to go down on you just before slipping you the turkey baster. D ear M s . B ehavior : We’re a hip straight couple planning a small wedding, and we don’t know where else to turn. We’ve invited two gay male couples who don’t know one another, and we’re not sure whether we should make any special seating accommodations for them at our reception. We’ve thought about seat ing them together because we think they’d enjoy one another’s company, but we don’t want them to think we’re segregating them. We’re cool for straight people. Really, we are. What should we do? — Ted and Lucy D ear T ed and L ucy : It’s sensitive of you to worry about ghettoizing the queers. Really, it is. Think of it this way: If you had heterosexual friends who shared hobbies like investing, dog breed ing or golf (God forbid), you’d think nothing of seating them at the same table. But on the other hand, if two couples among your friends had nothing in common other than being African American, you probably would hesitate to seat them together, unless they also had shared interests. Use the same criteria with your gay guests that you’d use for the rest of your friends. Ms. Behavior assumes when you go over your list, you’ll try to match people who have similar work or hobbies (whether it’s shopping, litigious behavior or running through hundreds of psychotherapists). So, if your gay friends have any thing in common, seating them together probably would be fine and perhaps even a relief, because hetero sexual unions, regardless of how allegedly hip, sometimes can be maudlin for homos. If, after thinking about it, you realize their only shared interests are, say, makeup and sodomy, it probably would be just as well to mix them in with the rest of your friends and relatives. j n It's sensitive of you to worry about ghettoizing the queers. Really, it is. D ear D esperate to C onceive : Do you think the fact that you don’t actually want to screw Joel makes your deceptive plan more noble? Sexual desire isn’t the only ingredient necessary for betrayal. A weird, furtive connection with Joel and a secret you’ll have to keep from Abby forever don’t seem like the best way to start a family. Try talking about it again with her; explain your motivation for your proposed sexual encounter, and offer to let her hold your hand dur ing the act. If she still shudders at the notion of Joel slipping you his salami, there are other ways to increase the odds of conception. Consult with an open-minded fertility clinic, a physician or even an experienced midwife, if you need that homey feeling. Or perhaps Abby would be more open-minded about another method Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at MsBehavurr4@aol.com. 33
