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nmunity College, Eugene. (541-741-4501.
(Daily prayer 7 20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm.
worship and church school Child care provided.
. 2336 ) (12/00)
2 1 1 6 N E 18th Ave 503-281-3697) (12/00)
Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sunday 700 Manon St
M etropolitan Community Church of Portland
NE. Salem. 503-363-3660 ) (12/00)
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng
the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway
The Gay-Straight A lliance of the Unitarian
503-281-8868 mccpdx@aol.com.)(12/00)
5090 Center S t NE 503 3 6 3 -8 7 1 6 ) (12/00)
Potter's House M inistries Life Center.
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every
Evangelical and chansmatic Chnstian (3830 SE 62nd
Ave. 503-775-5024.) (12/00)
D ear M s .
Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages,
B e h a v io r .-
■y Men's Discussion Group meets Mondays
pm 7 30 to 9 pm at the Koinoma Center.
¡114 Kincaid. Eugene. (Hank 541 4 84 6 259 Trent
eager@hrvalhance o rg .)( 12/00)
rim County Mon's Health N etw ork offers social
nts. retreats, workshops and training for bi. gay and
bhs men Community calendars and mailings Training
I networking men to build community from a grass-
ots perspective. (1966 Garden Ave., Eugene
11-342-5088. ext. 23. tseager@hivalhance.org.) (12/00)
SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
arionberry Salon, formerly the Coalition to End
„gotry Book Group, meets monthly in Salem for
classes. Schedule of events available AH women are wel
come. (3-6 pm Tuesday-Fnday Suite 102, 3430 SE
otlucks and discussions of books touching on lesbian,
Belmont St. Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR
ay or bisexual expenence. (Cary 503-363-6036.
aryandken@aol.com.) ( 12/00)
97207. 503-736-3297 sistensp@teleport.com.)(6/01)
Southm inster Presbyterian Church is a chal
j Lesbian Connection (TLC ) Lunch Bunch
_ets at 11 am every Sunday at the French Horn and
\ the second Friday o f the month from 5 to 8 pm at
the Fifth Street Market food court in Eugene All
women welcome. (Bonnie 5 4 1 -683-2793.) (12/00)
lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in
Oregon. (10 am Sunday summer. 9 3 0 and 11 am
Sunday winter 12250 SkV Denney Road. Beaverton
503-644-2073.) (12/00)
St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les-
bian-positive community for Catholics and their fnends
SPIRITUALITY
Mass at 7:30 pm on Fndays followed by a social. (Paulist
Universalist Congregation of Salem meets on the
third Sunday of each month for a potluck (6 pm
children's celebrations and joy We honor and celebrate
all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts
and supporting spiritual growth, healing and enlighten
ment. (6-7 30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem
503-763-6030.)(12/00)
Mom ingside United M ethodist Church is a rec
onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to
participate in the full life of the congregation.
(8:30 and 11 am Sundays 3674 12th St. SE, Salem
503-364-5013.) (12/00)
Sweet S pirit Metropolitan Community Church
(M CC ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by
coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every
second Sunday. (Amencan Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane
NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box
12753. Salem. OR 97309 503-315-7923.)(12/00)
Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231 -4955 ) (12/00)
S t. Stephen's Episcopal Church the new home
Metro: Spirituality
YOUTH
[ Ainsworth United Church of C hrist is a
multiracial, multicultural, open and affirming
Metro: Youth
church. Sunday worship is at 10 am, and
church school for children runs concurrently.
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who
can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well
(2941 NE Ainsworth S t 503-284-8767.
aucc@teleport.com.)
as a needle exchange service. It also has
some transitional housing for youth 20 and
The Anawim Community of gay men
meets weekly for Chnstian meditation and
younger as well as for youth who are HIV-posi
tive and younger than 23. It also plays host to
prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday 503-281-0722.)
(
VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community
6 / 01 )
Empowerment from the Streets), a self-sup
port group for queer youth (10 am-6 pm
Bridgeport Community Church (U C C )
Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St.
503-223-4121.) (12/00)
is a growing community o f progressive, politi
cal people explonng and celebrating the
Chnstian faith We are multicultural, lesbian,
Pride Project bnngs together Washington
gay, bi and straight, and our children are valued
County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning
members (10 30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th
youth to plan and attend monthly social events.
Ave. 503-258-0992.) (12 /0 0 )
Also information, referral, support and advoca
Community of S t. A ndrew invites all to
cy services for Washington County. (Molly
join a diverse Catholic faith comm unity fo r
503-260-5792)112/00)
prayer and fellowship. (9.30 am Sunday.
Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and
activity group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans
and questioning youth. (4:30 pm Monday
at 4 pm at St. Stephens Episcopal Church fo l
Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland.
lowed by a social (Southwest 13th Avenue at
2400 NE Broadway. 503-281 -8868 ) (12/00)
806 NE Alberta St. 503-281 4429.) ( 12/00)
Clay Street. digmtypdx@aol com .) (1 2 /0 0 )
Sexual M inority Youth Recreation
Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer
Directions N orthw est (ECWR) helps gay
access, pool tables and an informal place to
hang out. Also plays host to weekly youth sup
and lesbian Chnstians integrate faith and sexu
ality through Bible study and fellowship.
port groups including Windfire, Trans Youth
(PO Box 86383. Portland. OR 97286-0383
503- 727-3387.) ( 12/00)
Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative
group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight
Eastrose Fellowship U nitarian
Universalist. a welcoming congregation,
Fnday and Saturday 424 E Burnside St
503-872-9664. www smyrc.org.) (12/00)
offers Sunday service at 10.30 am (1133 NE
S .M .I.L .E . is a free education/support
group for GLBT youth 13-18 Learn, grow and
181st Ave , Gresham. 503-665-2628. eas-
trose@telepor1.com.) (6/0 1 )
have fun! M eets from 5 to 6 30 pm Thursday
beginning Jan 11. Sponsored by Roots and
Estacada United M ethodist Church
Reconciling Congregation, where w e
Branches. (Jonathan 503-238-0780.
really mean everyone is welcom e Sunday w o r
ship at 10.30 am. (204 SE Mam St..
Estacada.) ( 12/00)
M s. and Mr. Oregon Leather, Cyd Athene and Charlie
Salt, play host to B a n g in ' D ow n the House, a celebration
of the w inter holidays at the Egyptian Club, on Dec. 21
First Congregational U nited Church of
Christ is an open and affirming congregation m the lib
eral Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am,
and church school for children runs concurrently.
(1126 SW Park Ave 503-228-7219.)
Full Circle Temple is a place o f worship for women
of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles,
meditation rooms and altars o f celebration, incorporat
ing what you bring to share. (10 a m -10 pm Tuesday
Sunday. 3125 E Burnside S t 5 0 3 2 3 8 -0 6 7 5 ) (12 /0 0 )
n«G od Connection C enter fo r W orship,
Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate
your spintuality with the Revs. BerdeH M offett and Casey
Chaney Ltoeral. practical; all are welcome (10 am
Sunday 4 8 2 8 N E 3 3 rd A ve 503-481-7591) (12/00)
o f the Portland Gay Men s Chorus, has been welcom
ing all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday and
7:45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care
y the gay and lesbian ministry o f the
Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each
month in the Momson Room at Trinity Cathedral
Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a
potluck and fellowship (147 NW 19th Ave
503-2891687.)
Interfaith Spiritual Canter. Gay men's spintuality
9foups form every other month. Spintual directors from
^n ou s world religious traditions are available for guid-
*>ce classes and retreats (Second Floor.
n th Ave 503-2332026. ext 3
3910 SE
'(y}*^me>0wn ^ txrm/dfrhoS/webpage html)
Laabian and nay meditation araun
'Compassionate Heart Sangha." meets for meditation
"m e Buddhist Vpasana tradition. (7 30-9pm
7 * * w * k y Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St
Jon 5032395539) ( 12/00)
a house church,
. (United M ethodist) is
bnngmg gay and straight together
Youth H IV /S TD Prevention Project pro
vides fun and educational programs along with
counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly,
relaxed environment. (503-872-9664) (12/00)
YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers
at 10 am Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans
5 0 3223-6424.) (12/00)
youth as well as for children of LGBT parents.
University Park United M ethodist Church is a
(503 227-1981.)(12/00)
member o f the network of Reconciling Congregations
and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am (4775 N
Lombard St. 5 0 3 2 8 9 7843 ) (12/00)
Southern Oregon: Youth
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual,
The Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Group
of Klamath Falls provides support for gay. lesbian,
transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to
bi. trans and questioning youth and their allies
worship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng,
m ultiage/race/cultural faith community (11 am Sunday
(boytoy22@hotmail com. 7(12/00)
2025 NE 23rd Ave . Gresham 503 665-8741.) (12/00)
Space a newly formed multidenommational
spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds
Sunday evening celebrations (5 pm U nity Church.
4525 SE Stark S t 503 287-3216 ) 0 2 /0 0 )
ext. 244.) (6 /0 1 )
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO ) a
group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets
on the first and Thursdays o f the month in Ashland
Washington: Spirituality
East Vancouver United Methodist Church.
(5 4 1 488-6990 ) (12/00)
Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday
Washington Youth
5701 M acArthur B lv d . Vancouver 3 6 0 69 3 4 7 6 1
ourclarkcounty Columbian com /273/ J (6/01)
Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support
First Congregational Church, United Church
o f C hrist. Two Sunday services, traditional and ‘ less
traditional" in an open and affirming congregation
group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13
and 22 in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays
and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Mam St Suite
M-100 (Amanda 3 6 0 69 3 11 8 8 )( 12/00)
(1220 NE 68th S t. Vancouver 360-693-1476.)(6/01)
M etropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday 913 W 13th St..
Vancouver 360-695-14 8 0 ) (6/01)
M ichael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship. (10 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t .
Vancouver 3 60-695-1891)(6/01)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Leebian, Bisexual, Tranegendered and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-1S offers
support, information and fun Free, confidential, drop-m
(4 6 pm Friday Amazon Community Center,
2700 Hilyard S t . Eugene 5 4 1 684 3 4 6 6 ) (12/00)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church United Church of
Chnst. is an open and affirming congregation offering
Lesbian, gay. bisexual, transgender youth
group for ages 25 and younger meets every
Monday (5 pm Monday Koinoma Center. 1414 Kincaid
S t. Eugene 541 346 11347(12/00)
Cock-and-bulldyke stony
Is it worth sacrificing fidelity for fertility?
I’m a 38-year-
old lesbian in a
long-term rela
tionship, and
I’ve been trying
to get pregnant
using a known
donor for a year
and a halt. My
girlfriend, Abby,
inseminates me
each month
with my friend
Joel’s sperm after
he masturbates
in the next
room.
I recently read
that the odds of
getting pregnant during sex are higher
than during insemination. I men
tioned this to Joel (who has been test
ed for every disease known to
mankind), and he reluctantly con
sented to have sex with me in service
of my conception.
He said he would bring his
boyfriend to make sure he can per
form. The problem is that when I
mentioned having sex with Joel to
Abby, she flipped out.
I want to respect her wishes, but
I also desperately want to get preg
nant. I’ve been thinking about hav
ing Joel come over secretly on ovu
lation day to have sex with me
when I’m home alone, then also
keeping our regular evening
appointment to have Abby insemi
nate me with his sperm, so she
won’t suspect anything.
I should clarify that my
motives are pure. 1 have
no sexual feelings for
Joel.
This just would be
about increasing the odds
of having a baby. But
would it be wrong to omit
this information from Abby?
— Desperate to Conceive
known to
increase the
odds. Orgasm
increases the
likelihood of
conception, so
maybe next time
you ovulate,
she’d be willing
to go down on
you just before
slipping you the
turkey baster.
D ear M s .
B ehavior :
We’re a hip
straight couple
planning a small
wedding, and we
don’t know
where else to turn. We’ve invited two
gay male couples who don’t know one
another, and we’re not sure whether
we should make any special seating
accommodations for them at our
reception. We’ve thought about seat
ing them together because we think
they’d enjoy one another’s company,
but we don’t want them to think
we’re segregating them.
We’re cool for straight people.
Really, we are. What should we do?
— Ted and Lucy
D ear T ed and L ucy :
It’s sensitive of you to worry
about ghettoizing the queers. Really,
it is.
Think of it this way: If you had
heterosexual friends who shared
hobbies like investing, dog breed
ing or golf (God forbid),
you’d think nothing of
seating them at the same
table. But on the other
hand, if two couples
among your friends had
nothing in common
other than being African
American, you probably
would hesitate to seat them
together, unless they also had
shared interests.
Use the same criteria with your
gay guests that you’d use for the rest
of your friends. Ms. Behavior
assumes when you go over your list,
you’ll try to match people who have
similar work or hobbies (whether
it’s shopping, litigious behavior or
running through hundreds of
psychotherapists).
So, if your gay friends have any
thing in common, seating them
together probably would be fine and
perhaps even a relief, because hetero
sexual unions, regardless of how
allegedly hip, sometimes can be
maudlin for homos. If, after thinking
about it, you realize their only shared
interests are, say, makeup and sodomy,
it probably would be just as well to
mix them in with the rest of your
friends and relatives. j n
It's sensitive
of you to worry
about ghettoizing
the queers.
Really, it is.
D ear D esperate to C onceive :
Do you think the fact that you
don’t actually want to screw Joel
makes your deceptive plan more
noble? Sexual desire isn’t the only
ingredient necessary for betrayal.
A weird, furtive connection with
Joel and a secret you’ll have to keep
from Abby forever don’t seem like
the best way to start a family. Try
talking about it again with her;
explain your motivation for your
proposed sexual encounter, and
offer to let her hold your hand dur
ing the act.
If she still shudders at the notion
of Joel slipping you his salami, there
are other ways to increase the odds
of conception. Consult with an
open-minded fertility clinic, a
physician or even an experienced
midwife, if you need that homey
feeling.
Or perhaps Abby would be more
open-minded about another method
Write your confused and conflicted
heart out to Ms. B ehavior at
MsBehavurr4@aol.com.
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