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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Nov. 17, 2000)
ship. (9 30 am Sunday Mass, 806 NE Alberta St. 503-2814429) (11/00) Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social. (Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street e-mail: digm- typdx@aol com.) ( 11/00) Directions Northwest (ECWR) helps gay and les bian Chnstians integrate faith and sexuality through Bible study and fellowship. (PO Box 86383, Portland, OR 97286-0383. 503- 727-3387.) (11/00) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a I welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service at 10:30 am. (1 133 NE 181st Ave., Gresham. 503-665-2628 eastrose@teleport. com. J (5/01) Estacada United Methodist Church Reconciling Congregation where we really mean , everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am. (204 SE Mam St , Estacada.) (11 /00) First Congregational United Church of Christ is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. ( I I 26 SW Park Ave , 503-228-7219.) Full C ircle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebra tion, incorporating what you bring to share. (10 am-10 pm Tuesday-Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) ( 11/00) The God Connection Center for Worship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spirituality with the Revs. Berdell Moffett and Casey Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome. (10 am service every Sunday. 4828 NE 33rd Ave. 503-481-7591.7(11/00) Grace Space, a newly formed multidenominational spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Tones, holds Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm at Unity Church, 4525 SE Stark St. 503-287-3216.) (11/00) Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral. Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship. (147 N W 19th Ave., 503-289-1687.) Interfaith S piritual Center. Gay men's spiritual ity groups form every other month. Spiritual direc tors from various world religious traditions are avail able for guidance, classes and retreats. (3910 SE 11th Ave., second floor 503-233-2026, ext. 3. www. hometown.aol. com/dirho5/webpage. html.) ( 11 / 00 ) Lesbian and gay meditation group. "Compassionate Heart Sangha," meets for meditation in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. Donation requested. (7:30-9 pm Wednesdays at Flanders House. 2926 NE Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539)(\ 1/00) Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is a "house church," bringing gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm at 2116NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697)(11/00) M etropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning w or ship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for chil dren is held during the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway. 503-281-8868 mccpdxQaof com. ) ( 11 / 00 ) Potter's House Ministries Life Center. Evangelical and chansmatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503-775-5024.) (11/00) Radical Fairies Fae Dirt info line: 503-235-0826 ( 11 / 00 ) SisterSpirit offers women’s spirituality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes Schedule of events available. All women are welcome. (Office hours: 3-6 pm Tuesday-Fnday at 3430 SE Belmont St., 4102. Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland, OR 97207. sistersp@teleport.com. 503-736 32 9 7 )1 11/00) Hall. 4 774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753, Salem, OR 97309 503-315- 7923 7(11 /00) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple It is the first More Light Presbytenan Church in Oregon. (Sundays at 10 am summer, 9 30 and 11 am winter. 12250 SW Denney Road, Beaverton. 503-644-2073.)(11/00) " St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les- bian-positive community for Catholics and their fnends Mass at 7:30 pm on Fridays followed by a social (Pauhst Center, 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503 231-4955 ) ( 11 / 00 ) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church, the new home of the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcom ing all people since 1863 (Wednesday service 12:10 pm, Sunday services 7 45 am and 10 am. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223 6424) (11 /00) University Park United Methodist Church is a member of the network of Reconciling Congregations and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843)(11/00) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community (Service 11 am Sundays. 2025 NE 23rd Ave., Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (11/00) W ashington Spirituality East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sundays. 5701 MacArthur Bhd., Vancouver. 360-693-4761. ourclarkcounty columbian.com/273/.) (11/00) First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less traditional" in an open and affirming congregation (1220 NE68th St. Vancouver. 360-693-1476.)(11 /00) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sundays 913 W. 13th YOUTH____________ | Metro: Youth Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV+ and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOIC ES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 SW Salmon St 503-223-4121.)( 11/00) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County lesbian, gay, bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792 ) (11/00) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm Mondays at Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868)(11/00) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Fnday and Saturday. 424 E Burnside St. 503-872-9664. www.smyrc.org.) (11/00) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ ment. (503-872-9664 ) ( 1 1/00) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutoring and mentonng for lesbian, gay, bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227 1981) ( 11/00) St., Vancouver. 360-695-1480.) (11/00) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. (10 am Sundays. 4505 E. 18th St. 360-695-1891.)(11/00) Southern Oregon: Youth The Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Group of Klamath Falls provides support for gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth and their allies. (For more information, e-mail boytoy22@hotmail.com.) Willamette Valley: Spirituality ( 11 / 00 ) First Congregational Church. United Church of Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school. Child care provided. Wheelchair accessible. (10 am Sundays. 700 Manon St. NE. Salem. 503-363-3660.) ( 11/00) Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a The Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem meets on the third Sunday of each month for a potluck. (6 pm, 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) (11 /00) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages, children's celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlighten ment. (6-7:30pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem. 503-763-6030) (11/00) Momingside United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation (8 3 0 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St SE. Salem. 503 364-5013.) ( 11/00) Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Services held at American Legion group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland. (541 -4886990 7(11 /00) Washington: Youth Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13 and 22 in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6 8 pm Tuesdays and 3:30-5:30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Main St. Suite M 100. (Amanda 360-693-1188.) (11/00) Willamette Valley: Youth Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18 offers support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop-in. (4-6 pm Fndays at Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St.. Eugene 541-684 3466.) (11 /00) Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Mondays at Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid St.. Eugene 541 346-1134.) (11/00) Lesbians Enjoying the Sciences get together Nov. 18 for a discussion on wild mushrooming This little piggy Is playing footsie the same as playing abound? D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m a gay male in a relationship for two years. I’m in love, hut part of me wants to actively explore a fetish. I’ve had a foot fetish since child- htxxl that 1 never have acted on. Now, I find myself wanting to. I’ve been surf ing the Net recently for Web sites about this and have been in contact with other men who share my interest. My question is: Would this he considered cheating in terms of my relationship? My partner never would go for this. H e’s very ticklish, and I’d have to endure a constant array o f jokes and teasing. I’d rather just seek it elsewhere and not divulge it to him. I’m one o f the few gay men in the world who actually has morals, and it bothers me to consider doing this. Help! — Raymond the F.F. D ear R aymond th e F.F.: O h, what’s wrong with a little innocent foot fondling? You can take a toe between your lips without any health risks (other than athlete’s tongue), and a toe is way smaller and cuter than a penis, right? H as Ms. Behavior made your case for you? It sounds like you and your partner are monogamous. If it bothers you to consider acting out your fetish secre tively, you must think it’s beyond the agreement of your relationship, whether or not you want to call it cheating. So, you need to either change your agreement (with your boyfriend’s con sent) or try to interest him in your fixation. If you’re ashamed of your fetish, Internet sites might help with your feelings of isolation. But clandestine involvement with members o f a furtive foot society probably will lead to in- person meetings. And secret intimate contact with other men will create dis tance between you and your partner. Why are you so sure your partner would tease you? Ms. Behavior assumes he might indulge your fetish even if he doesn’t share it. Tell your partner you want to fulfill your fantasies with the man you love. Tell him that you’re afraid he’ll ridicule you but that you long to wrap your hot wet lips around his tender pink digits. Then, if he does make fun of you, ytni always can ask him if he’d mind if you sucked someone else’s toes. D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m a lesbian with an ex-girlfriend dilemma. W hen Jennifer left me a year ago, she took Jimbo, our beloved Germ an shepherd. S h e only recently adm it ted he is as much mine as he is hers. Now, sh e’s talking about letting me have him som e o f the time, which I’d really like, but I’m afraid Jennifer is just using the dog as an excuse for daily c o n tact. S h e ’s ap o l ogized about keeping me from the dog and has told me she w ants to do the right thing now. I’m trying to get Jennifer to com mit to how often I can have J imbo, but she insists couple’s therapy is the only way we can resolve the issue. T his seems ridiculous, because she refused to go to therapy with me when we were still a couple. Jennifer has a new partner but acts like I’m her wife. Sh e cooks me meals and brings me presents, which she never did when we were together. I don’t think she really wants me back, but she’s not happy I have a new girlfriend. Should 1 go to couple’s therapy with my ex ? — Jim bo’s Other Mother D ear J imbo ’ s O th er M o th er : Couple’s therapy with Jennifer would be trouble. If you go, even with the short-term plan to talk about the dog, she will have succeeded in sucking you in and probably will come up with all sorts of drama to keep you there. Besides, regardless o f what you say to Jennifer, she unconsciously will receive the message that you’re still with her. C ouple’s therapy is, after all, for couples. Tell her in person what you think is fair in terms o f canine custody. Write it down for her very clearly, too, because she’ll be tempted, con sciously or not, to create confusion as a way o f remaining engaged with you. Lim it yourself to two conversa tions with Jennifer about the dog: one in which you explain what you want and another in which you negotiate after she’s had time to consider your request. If Jennifer really wants to do the right thing, she’ll do it without manipulating or torturing you. If she’s not capable o f that, you might have to think about how much involve ment you want. Ms. Behavior realizes one pet never can replace another. But if Jim bo doesn’t come back to you in any sig nificant way, maybe getting a dog with your new girlfriend will be a represen tation o f creating a new family. in Write your confused and conflicted heart out to M s. BEHAVIOR at MsBehavioif&aol.com.
