ship. (9 30 am Sunday Mass, 806 NE Alberta St.
503-2814429) (11/00)
Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm
at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social.
(Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street e-mail: digm-
typdx@aol com.) ( 11/00)
Directions Northwest (ECWR) helps gay and les
bian Chnstians integrate faith and sexuality through
Bible study and fellowship. (PO Box 86383, Portland,
OR 97286-0383. 503- 727-3387.) (11/00)
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a
I
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service at
10:30 am. (1 133 NE 181st Ave., Gresham.
503-665-2628 eastrose@teleport. com. J (5/01)
Estacada United Methodist Church
Reconciling Congregation where we really mean
,
everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am.
(204 SE Mam St , Estacada.) (11 /00)
First Congregational United Church of Christ
is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal
Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and
church school for children runs concurrently. ( I I 26 SW
Park Ave , 503-228-7219.)
Full C ircle Temple is a place of worship for
women of all ages offering workshops, song and
drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebra
tion, incorporating what you bring to share.
(10 am-10 pm Tuesday-Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St.
503-238-0675.) ( 11/00)
The God Connection Center for Worship,
Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate
your spirituality with the Revs. Berdell Moffett and
Casey Chaney. Liberal, practical; all are welcome.
(10 am service every Sunday. 4828 NE 33rd Ave.
503-481-7591.7(11/00)
Grace Space, a newly formed multidenominational
spiritual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Tones, holds
Sunday evening celebrations. (5 pm at Unity Church,
4525 SE Stark St. 503-287-3216.) (11/00)
Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the
Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each
month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral.
Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a
potluck and fellowship. (147 N W 19th Ave.,
503-289-1687.)
Interfaith S piritual Center. Gay men's spiritual
ity groups form every other month. Spiritual direc
tors from various world religious traditions are avail
able for guidance, classes and retreats. (3910 SE
11th Ave., second floor 503-233-2026, ext. 3.
www. hometown.aol. com/dirho5/webpage. html.)
( 11 / 00 )
Lesbian and gay meditation group.
"Compassionate Heart Sangha," meets for meditation
in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. Donation requested.
(7:30-9 pm Wednesdays at Flanders House. 2926 NE
Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539)(\ 1/00)
Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is
a "house church," bringing gay and straight together.
(Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm at
2116NE 18th Ave 503-281-3697)(11/00)
M etropolitan Community Church of
Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning w or
ship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for chil
dren is held during the 11 am worship service.
(2400 NE Broadway. 503-281-8868
mccpdxQaof com. ) ( 11 / 00 )
Potter's House Ministries Life Center.
Evangelical and chansmatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd
Ave. 503-775-5024.) (11/00)
Radical Fairies Fae Dirt info line: 503-235-0826
( 11 / 00 )
SisterSpirit offers women’s spirituality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available. All women are
welcome. (Office hours: 3-6 pm Tuesday-Fnday at
3430 SE Belmont St., 4102. Mailing address: PO Box
9246. Portland, OR 97207. sistersp@teleport.com.
503-736 32 9 7 )1 11/00)
Hall. 4 774 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address:
Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753, Salem, OR 97309
503-315- 7923 7(11 /00)
Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal
lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo
ple It is the first More Light Presbytenan Church in
Oregon. (Sundays at 10 am summer, 9 30 and 11 am
winter. 12250 SW Denney Road, Beaverton.
503-644-2073.)(11/00) "
St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les-
bian-positive community for Catholics and their fnends
Mass at 7:30 pm on Fridays followed by a social
(Pauhst Center, 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503 231-4955 )
( 11 / 00 )
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church, the new home
of the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcom
ing all people since 1863 (Wednesday service
12:10 pm, Sunday services 7 45 am and 10 am.
Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest
13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223 6424) (11 /00)
University Park United Methodist Church is a
member of the network of Reconciling Congregations
and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am (4775 N
Lombard St. 503-289-7843)(11/00)
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual,
transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to
worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring,
multiage/race/cultural faith community (Service 11 am
Sundays. 2025 NE 23rd Ave., Gresham.
503-665-8741.) (11/00)
W ashington Spirituality
East Vancouver United Methodist Church.
Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sundays.
5701 MacArthur Bhd., Vancouver. 360-693-4761.
ourclarkcounty columbian.com/273/.) (11/00)
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less
traditional" in an open and affirming congregation
(1220 NE68th St. Vancouver. 360-693-1476.)(11 /00)
Metropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sundays 913 W. 13th
YOUTH____________ |
Metro: Youth
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle
exchange service It also has some transitional housing
for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are
HIV+ and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOIC
ES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment
from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth.
(10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 SW Salmon St
503-223-4121.)( 11/00)
Pride Project bnngs together Washington County
lesbian, gay, bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and
attend monthly social events Also information, referral,
support and advocacy services for Washington County.
(Molly 503-260-5792 ) (11/00)
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity
group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning
youth. (4 30 pm Mondays at Metropolitan Community
Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway
503-281-8868)(11/00)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables
and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to
weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans
Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative
group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midnight Fnday and
Saturday. 424 E Burnside St. 503-872-9664.
www.smyrc.org.) (11/00)
Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun
and educational programs along with counseling and
testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ
ment. (503-872-9664 ) ( 1 1/00)
YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers
tutoring and mentonng for lesbian, gay, bi and trans
youth as well as for children of LGBT parents.
(503-227 1981) ( 11/00)
St., Vancouver. 360-695-1480.) (11/00)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship. (10 am Sundays. 4505 E. 18th St.
360-695-1891.)(11/00)
Southern Oregon: Youth
The Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Group
of Klamath Falls provides support for gay, lesbian,
bi, trans and questioning youth and their allies. (For
more information, e-mail boytoy22@hotmail.com.)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
( 11 / 00 )
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offenng
worship and church school. Child care provided.
Wheelchair accessible. (10 am Sundays. 700 Manon
St. NE. Salem. 503-363-3660.) ( 11/00)
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a
The Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian
Universalist Congregation of Salem meets on the
third Sunday of each month for a potluck. (6 pm,
5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) (11 /00)
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every
Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages,
children's celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate
all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts
and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlighten
ment. (6-7:30pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem.
503-763-6030) (11/00)
Momingside United Methodist Church is a rec
onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to
participate in the full life of the congregation
(8 3 0 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St SE. Salem.
503 364-5013.) ( 11/00)
Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church
(MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by
coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every
second Sunday. (Services held at American Legion
group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets
on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland.
(541 -4886990 7(11 /00)
Washington: Youth
Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support
group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13
and 22 in Vancouver, Wash. Meets 6 8 pm Tuesdays
and 3:30-5:30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Main St. Suite M
100. (Amanda 360-693-1188.) (11/00)
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18 offers
support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop-in.
(4-6 pm Fndays at Amazon Community Center.
2700 Hilyard St.. Eugene 541-684 3466.) (11 /00)
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth
group for ages 25 and younger meets every
Monday (5 pm Mondays at Komoma Center.
1414 Kincaid St.. Eugene 541 346-1134.) (11/00)
Lesbians
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This little piggy
Is playing footsie the same as playing abound?
D ear M s .
B ehavior :
I’m a gay male
in a relationship
for two years. I’m
in love, hut part
of me wants to
actively explore a
fetish.
I’ve had a foot
fetish since child-
htxxl that 1 never
have acted on.
Now, I find myself
wanting to.
I’ve been surf
ing the Net
recently for Web
sites about this
and have been in
contact with
other men who share my interest. My
question is: Would this he considered
cheating in terms of my relationship?
My partner never would go for
this. H e’s very ticklish, and I’d have
to endure a constant array o f jokes
and teasing.
I’d rather just seek it elsewhere
and not divulge it to him. I’m one o f
the few gay men in the world who
actually has morals, and it bothers me
to consider doing this. Help!
— Raymond the F.F.
D ear R aymond th e F.F.:
O h, what’s wrong with a little
innocent foot fondling? You can take
a toe between your lips without any
health risks (other than athlete’s
tongue), and a toe is way smaller and
cuter than a penis, right? H as Ms.
Behavior made your case for you?
It sounds like you and your partner
are monogamous. If it bothers you to
consider acting out your fetish secre
tively, you must think it’s beyond the
agreement of your relationship, whether
or not you want to call it cheating.
So, you need to either change your
agreement (with your boyfriend’s con
sent) or try to interest him in your
fixation.
If you’re ashamed of your fetish,
Internet sites might help with your
feelings of isolation. But clandestine
involvement with members o f a furtive
foot society probably will lead to in-
person meetings. And secret intimate
contact with other men will create dis
tance between you and your partner.
Why are you so sure your partner
would tease you? Ms. Behavior
assumes he might indulge your fetish
even if he doesn’t share it.
Tell your partner you want to fulfill
your fantasies with the man you love.
Tell him that you’re afraid he’ll ridicule
you but that you long to wrap your hot
wet lips around his tender pink digits.
Then, if he does make fun of you, ytni
always can ask him if he’d mind if you
sucked someone else’s toes.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I’m a lesbian with an ex-girlfriend
dilemma. W hen Jennifer left me a
year ago, she took Jimbo, our beloved
Germ an shepherd.
S h e only
recently adm it
ted he is as
much mine as
he is hers. Now,
sh e’s talking
about letting me
have him som e
o f the time,
which I’d really
like, but I’m
afraid Jennifer is
just using the
dog as an excuse
for daily c o n
tact. S h e ’s ap o l
ogized about
keeping me
from the dog
and has told me
she w ants to do
the right thing now.
I’m trying to get Jennifer to com
mit to how often I can have J imbo,
but she insists couple’s therapy is the
only way we can resolve the issue.
T his seems ridiculous, because she
refused to go to therapy with me
when we were still a couple.
Jennifer has a new partner but acts
like I’m her wife. Sh e cooks me meals
and brings me presents, which she
never did when we were together.
I don’t think she really wants me
back, but she’s not happy I have a
new girlfriend. Should 1 go to couple’s
therapy with my ex ?
— Jim bo’s Other Mother
D ear J imbo ’ s O th er M o th er :
Couple’s therapy with Jennifer
would be trouble. If you go, even with
the short-term plan to talk about the
dog, she will have succeeded in sucking
you in and probably will come up with
all sorts of drama to keep you there.
Besides, regardless o f what you say
to Jennifer, she unconsciously will
receive the message that you’re still
with her. C ouple’s therapy is, after all,
for couples.
Tell her in person what you think
is fair in terms o f canine custody.
Write it down for her very clearly,
too, because she’ll be tempted, con
sciously or not, to create confusion as
a way o f remaining engaged with you.
Lim it yourself to two conversa
tions with Jennifer about the dog: one
in which you explain what you want
and another in which you negotiate
after she’s had time to consider your
request.
If Jennifer really wants to do the
right thing, she’ll do it without
manipulating or torturing you. If she’s
not capable o f that, you might have
to think about how much involve
ment you want.
Ms. Behavior realizes one pet never
can replace another. But if Jim bo
doesn’t come back to you in any sig
nificant way, maybe getting a dog with
your new girlfriend will be a represen
tation o f creating a new family.
in
Write your confused and conflicted
heart out to M s. BEHAVIOR at
MsBehavioif&aol.com.