Image provided by: University of Oregon Libraries; Eugene, OR
About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Nov. 3, 2000)
november 3 .2 0 0 0 Hen and lesbians in the Portland/Vancouver area. ... etter available by mail or e-mail (360-735- 1901, aahtes@aoi com. ) ( 1 1/00) i Thorny R om « a social group for lesbians, pri- Lnly older than 45, who live in the Vancouver/Clark unty area. (Judy 360-906■ 1763, Judy342@cs.com.) is ( 11 / 00 ) Tillamette Valley: Social ance. classes and retreats. (3910 SE 11th A v e . sec ond floor 503-233-2026, ext. 3 www hometown ad. com/djrho5/webpage html.) ( 11 / 00 ) Lesbian and gay meditation group "Compassionate Heart Sangha." meets for meditation in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition. Donation requested (7:30-9 pm Wednesdays at Flanders House. 2926 NE Handers St. Jon 503-239-5539) (11 /00) Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is ILA (Gay and Losbian Alliance) meets at Lane immunity College, Eugene. (541-741-4501, ext. 36.HWOO) a ‘ house church," bnnging gay and straight together (Daily prayer 7:20 am, Sunday gathenng 6 pm at 2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281 -3697.) (11/00) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland By Men'« Discussion Group meets Mondays 1 7:30 to 9 pm at the Koinonia Center, Jl4 Kincaid, Eugene, (Hank 541 484-6259 or Trent at er@6ivaltiance.org.) (11 /00) i County Men's Health Network offers tial events, retreats, workshops and training for bi, i and trans men. Community calendars and mailings fining and networking men to build community from a ssroots perspective. (1966 Garden Ave., Eugene 11-342-5088, ext. 23 tseager@hivalliance.org.) ( 11 / 00 ) prionbsrry Salon, formerly the Coalition to End otry Book Group, meets monthly in Salem for [lucks and discussions of books touching on lesbian. i or bisexual expenence. (Cary 503-363-6036, yandken@aol.com.) 0 1 /00) Lesbian Connection (TLC) Lunch nch meets at 11 am every Sunday at the French i and on the second Friday o f the month from 8 pm at the Fifth Street Market food court in ■ene All women welcome. (Bonnie I -683-2793.) (11/00) holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held dunng the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281 -8868. mccpdx@aol com.) (11 /00) Potter's House Ministries Life Center. Evangelical and charismatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave 503-775-5024.) (11 /00) Radical Fairies Fae Dirt info line: 503-235-0826 ( 11 / 00 ) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Chnst, is an open and affirming congregation offering worship and church school. Child care provided Wheelchair accessible. (10 am Sundays. 700 Manon Sf. NE. Salem. 503-363-3660) ( 11/00) The Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Salem meets on the third Sunday of each month for a potluck. (6 pm. 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) (11/00) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages, children's celebrations and joy. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person's divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlighten ment. (6-7:30 pm. 1578 Commercial St SE, Salem. 503-763-6030.) ( 11/00) Momingsida United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8:30 and 11 am Sundays. 3674 12th St. SE. Salem. 503-364-50l3.)(U /00) SisterSpirit offers women's spintuality celebrations, Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available. All women are welcome. (Office hours. 3-6 pm Tuesday-Fnday at 3430 SE Belmont St.. 4102. Mailing address: PO Box 9246, Portland, OR 97207. sistersp@teleport.com. 503-736-3297.) (11/00) coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Services held at American Legion Hall. 4774 Lilac Lane NE, Salem. Mailing address. Pastor Ken Kerr, PO Box 12753, Salem, OR 97309. 503-315-7923.) (11/00) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging, supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (Sundays at 10 am summer. 9 3 0 and 11 am winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (11/00) YOUTH Metro: Youth Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les- SPIRITUALITY bian-positive community for Catholics and their friends. Mass at 7:30 pm on Fridays followed by a social (Pauhst Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave 503-231-4955.) stro: Spirituality ( 11 / 00 ) ■worth United Church of Christ is a multira- [ multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday ship is at 10 am, and church school for children i concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St. 284-8767. aucc@teleport.com.) Anawim Community. Gay men meet weekly hnstian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm .503-281-0722.) ( 11/00) S t. Stephen's Episcopal Church, the new home of the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcoming all people since 1863. (Wednesday ser vice 12:10 pm; Sunday services 7:45 am and 10 am. Sunday school and child care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street. 503-223-6424.) (\ 1/00) University Park United Methodist Church is a Community Church (U.C.CJ is a community of progressive, political people and celebrating the Christian faith. We are Itural. lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our chil- valued members. (10:30 am Sundays, 621 NE Ave. 503-258-0992) (11 /00) munity of S t Andrew invites all to join a Catholic faith community for prayer and fellow- (9:30 am Sunday Mass. 806 NE Alberta St. 281-4429)(11/00) member of the network of Reconciling Congregations and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289- 7843.) (11/00) Zion United Church of Christ. an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring, multiage/race/cultural faith community. (Service: 11 am Sundays. 2025 NE 23rdAve., Gresham. 503-665-8741.7(11/00) nity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 p r at St Stephens Episcopal Church followed ■ social. (Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay ■ et e-mail: dignitypdx@ad.com.) ( 11/00) Pride Project brings together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (Molly 503-260-5792.) (11/00) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm Mondays at Metropolitan Community Church o f Portland, 2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868.HU/00) Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Center (SM YRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Also plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group), (4-8 pm Wednesday, 4 pm-midmght Friday and Saturday. 424 E Burnside St. 503-872-9664. www.smyrc.org.) (11 /00) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project pro vides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environment (503-872 9664) ( 11/00) i NorthWest (ECWR) helps gay and an Chnstians integrate faith and sexuality i Bible study and fellowship. (PO Box 3. Portland. O R 97286-0383. 503-727-3387.) 0 ) YouthNet a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay. bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-1981)01/00) i Fellowship Unitarian ■list, a welcoming congregation, offers i service at 10:30 am (1133NE 181st Gresham. 503-665-2628 eastrose@tele- lcom .H S/0)) Southern Oregon: Youth United Methodist Church I Congregation, where we really The Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Group of Klamath Falls provides support for gay, lesbian, bi, trans and questioning youth and their allies. (For more information, e-mail boy- toy22@hotmail com. 7(11 /00) i everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 1 am. (204 SE Mam St . EstacadaJO 1/00) I Congregational United Church of I is an open and affirming congregation in I Christian tradition. Sunday worship is at i am, and church school for children runs con- ritly. (1 126 SW Park Ave.. 503-228-7219.) I Circle Temple is a place of worship for i of all ages offering workshops, song jn d i circles, meditation rooms and altars of cele- , incorporating what you bring to share. bm -IO pm Tuesday-Sunday 3125 E Burnside §03-238-0675.) (11/00) qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a nee dle exchange service. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV+ and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOICES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self- support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday. 1236 S W Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) ( U /0 0 ) Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland. (541-488-6990)(11/00) Washington Youth Pam and Maggie sing for their supper Nov. 11 at Touchstone Coffee House JCod Connection Center for Worship, l*rth and Leadership invites you to celebrate spintuality with the Revs Berdell Moffett and Chaney Liberal, practical: all are welcome service every Sunday. 4828 NE 33rd Ave 1-7591J ( 1 1/00) Space, a newly formed multidenommational ual center led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds ay evening celebrations. (5 pm at Unity Church. SE Stark St 5 0 3 2 8 7 -3 2 1 6 )0 1 /0 0 ) . the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal meets on the second Friday of each month m “ 'Son Room at Trinity Cathedral Eucharist is cel- ed at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and feDowshp NW 19th Ave , 503-289-1687.) ------ r ~l1ual Center. Gay men’s spintuality form every other month Spintual directors from *or1d rekgwus traditions are available for guid W ashington Spirituality East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming (10 am Sundays 5701 MacArthur Blvd. Vancouver. 360693-4761 ourdarkcounty cdumtxan.com/273/.7(11 /00) Triple Point Youth Program is a social/support group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13 and 22 in Vancouver. Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3:30-5 30 pm Thurs days at 1104 Main St. Suite M-100 (Amanda 3 6 0 -6 9 3 1 1 8 8 )0 1 /0 0 ) Willamette Valley: Youth First Congregational Church, United Church of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and "less Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18 traditional" in an open and affirming congregation (1220 NE 68th St Vancouver 360-693 1476 7(11/00) offers support, information and fun Free, confiden tial, drop-in (4-6 pm Fndays at Amazon Community Center, 2700 Hilyard S t . Eugene 541 684-3466 ) Metropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sundays 913 W 13th St . Vancouver 360-695-1480 )0 1 /0 0 ) Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. (10 am Sundays 4505 E 18th St 360-6951891.7(11/00) ( 11 / 00 ) Lesbian, gay, biMxual, transgender youth group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Mondays at Koinonia Center. 1414 Kmcatd St . Eugene 541-346-1134 7(11/00) Open up and say eew! Bi braves buttsex but bans blowjobs D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m very much involved in a good gay rela tionship with a man who is 10 years older than me and quite experienced. To my sur prise, the rela tionship started well and grew into a loving one. After a period of time, we came to a mutual agree ment that we were ready to have safer sex. First, we have foreplay, then he performs oral sex on me, then I serve as his bottom man, and if I can recu perate, I serve as his top. Then we have afterplay. This all adds up to quite a fulfilling sexual experience, or so I thought. Here’s the problem: He wants me to perform oral sex on him. I’m a bisexual man and never have been too keen on placing genitals in my mouth. I never have done it, nor do I have the desire to. I don’t mind being versatile in other ways, but I do mind performing oral sex, even though he performs it on me. So any advice would be appreciated. — Mr. Mouth D ear M r . M outh : You haven’t said why you’re opposed to oral sex or whether you’re willing to attempt to overcome your aversion. Do you find penises too dirty and unsightly to put in your mouth? Do you think that you’ll hum in hell for going down on your boyfriend (hut that God will forgive a little butt-boffing)? Or perhaps you’re ambivalent about your sexuality. Maybe you think that only real homos suck dick and that you can continue to call yourself bisexual as long as you keep your jaw clamped shut. (Ms. Behavior has met several allegedly bisexual women who resist acquiring the frightening label “dyke" by never crossing that delightful juicy frontier. Ms. Behavior cannot help hut suspect internalized homophobia.) What seems to be at stake at the moment, though, is your relationship with your current boyfriend. Part of it depends on how flexible you each are about your position. You elaborately describe a “fulfill ing” sex life. But if your boyfriend wants you to go down on him and you won’t do it, he might feel less ful filled than you think. (Ms. Behavior can’t help but men tion you’re in good company— at least among heterosexual women. Charlotte from Sex and the City never wants to blow her boyfriends, and Ms. Behavior’s friend Lulu swears her boyfriend’s nuts smell like mold.) It’s important to consider why you feel the way you do, perhaps with the help of a therapist. Then, if you’re not miraculously cured of your aversion to oral sex, you at least will be able to discuss the issue more openly with your boyfriend. If you’re really lucky, though, maybe you’ll have a conver sion experience. Perhaps in therapy you’ll discover an irrational cause for your distaste, resulting in a dramatic transformation. You might find you want to crawl around on your knees every night after work, unzipping your boyfriend’s trousers with your teeth. But if nothing so dramatic happens, don’t panic. There’s probably a gay man somewhere who won’t mind if you don’t blow him or might even prefer that you keep your filthy mouth off his weenie. D ear M s . B ehavior : My best friend, Karen, has moved in with me while she is between apartments. Although she doesn’t want a relationship with me, she wants (and gets) all the perks of hav ing a relationship. She offers sex very occasionally and gets upset when I tell her I want more or I want to move on. What should I do? I have been pushed away from the relationship dreams and now am ready to move on. She seems to not want that hut won’t admit it. — S.B. D ear S.B.: Moving on is a good idea. If Karen doesn’t share your feelings, she proba bly never will. Believe what she actually tells you rather than your own hopeful inter pretation of her actions. Lesbians often find this hard to believe, but sometimes people are willing to have sex with you even if they don’t want a relationship with you. You sound resentful when you say Karen gets all the perks of having a relationship. But you’re the one who is attaching strings you know she doesn’t want. Don’t give more than you can give freely in a friendship context, and try to avoid having your heart squashed like a bug. This means really moving on emotionally, which probably only will happen once you date other peo ple (or at least become obsessed with someone new) ')■ i n Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. BEHAVIOR at Ms Behavtor@aol. com.
