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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Oct. 20, 2000)
1 October 20.2000 * organized to build a sense of community among gay ! men and lesbians m the Portland/Vancouver area. Newsletter available by mail or e mail (360-735-1901, Socialite s@aol com. >(11/00) The Thorny Roses is a social group for lesbians, pnmar- ily older than 45. who live in the Vancouver/Clark County area. (Judy 360-906-1763. Judy342@cs.com.) (11 /00) Interfaith Spiritual Center. Gay men's spmtuality groups form every other month. Spintual directors from various world religious traditions are available for guid ance. classes and retreats. (3910 SE 11th Ave.. sec ond floor. 503-233-2026. ext. 3 www.hometown aol.com /dirho5/webpage.htm l.) (11 /00) Lesbian and gay meditation group “ Compassionate Heart Sangha," meets for meditation in the Buddhist Vipasana tradition Donation requested (7.30-9 pm Wednesdays at Flanders House. 2926 NE Handers St. Jon 503-239-5539.) ( 11/00) Willamette Valley: Social GALA (Gay and Lesbian Alliance) meets at Lane Community College, Eugene. (541-741-4501. ext. 2336.) (11/00) Gay Men's Discussion Group meets Mondays from 7:30 to 9 pm at the Koinonia Center, 1414 Kincaid, Eugene. (Hank 541-484-6259 or Trent at tseager@hivalhance.org.) (1 1 /00) Lane County Men's Health Network offers social events, retreats, workshops and training for bt, gay and trans men. Community calendars and mailings. Training and networking men to build community from a grass roots perspective. (1966 Garden Ave., Eugene. 541 342-5088. ext 23 tseager@ hivalliance.org.)( 11/00) M arionberry Salon, formedy the Coalition to End Bigotry Book Group, meets monthly in Salem for , potlucks and discussions of books touching on lesbian, gay or bisexual expenence. (Cary 503-363-6036. caryandken@aot.com.) (11 /00) The Lesbian Connection (TLC) Lunch Bunch meets at 11 am every Sunday at the French Horn and on the second Fnday of the month from 5 to 8 pm at f the Fifth Street Market food court in Eugene. All i women welcome. (Bonnie 5 4 1-683-2793.) ( 11/00) Metanoia Peace Community (United Methodist) is a “ house church," bringing gay and straight together. (Daily prayer 7.20 am. Sunday gathenng 6 pm at 2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281-3697.) ( 11/00) Metropolitan Community Church of Portland holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at 9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held during the 11 am worship service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281 -8868 mccpdx@ aol.com.)( 11/00) Potter's House M inistries Life Center. Evangelical and charismatic Chnstian. (3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503- 775-5024.) (11/00) Radical Fairies Fae Dirt info line: 503-235-0826 ( 11 / 00 ) SisterSpirit offers women's spmtuality celebrations, discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and classes. Schedule of events available. All women are welcome. (O ffice hours: 3-6 pm Tuesday-Fnday at 3430 SE Belmont S t. 4102. Mailing address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207. sistersp@ teleport.com. 503-736-3297) (11/00) Southminster Presbyterian Church is a chal lenging. supportive community that welcomes all peo ple. It is the first More Light Presbyterian Church in Oregon. (Sundays at 10 am summer, 9 30 and 11 am winter. 12250 SW Denney Road. Beaverton. 503-644-2073.) ( 11/00) SPIRITUALITY Metro: Spirituality St. Philip Neri gay and lesbian outreach. A gay/les- Ainsworth United Church o f C hrist is a multira cial, multicultural, open and affirming church. Sunday worship is at 10 am. and church school for children runs concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St. B 503-284-8767. aucc@ teleport com.) The Anawim Community. Gay men meet weekly for Chnstian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursdays 503-281-0722.) (11/00) Bridgeport Community Church (U.C.C.) is a growing community of progressive, political people exploring and celebrating the Chnstian faith. We are multicultural, lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our chil dren are valued members. (10 30 am Sundays. 621 NE 76th Ave. 503-258-0992.) (11 /00) Community o f St. Andrew invites all to join a diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellow ship. (9 30 am Sunday Mass. 806 NE Alberta St 503-281-4429.) (W O O ) Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social. (Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street, e-mail, digm- typdx@aol.com.) (1 1 /00) Directions N orthw est (ECWR) helps gay and les bian Chnstians integrate faith and sexuality through Bible study and fellowship. (PO Box 86383. Portland. OR 97286-0383. 503-727-3387.) (11/00) Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service at 10:30 am. (1133 NE 181st Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-2628 eastrose@ teleport.com.) ( 11/00) bian-positive community for Catholics and their fnends. Mass at 7 30 pm on Fndays followed by a social. (Paulist Center. 2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955.) ( 11/00) St. Stephen's Episcopal Church, the new home of the Portland Gay Men's Chorus, has been welcom ing all people since 1863 (Wednesday service 12:10pm. Sunday services 7:45 am and 10 am. Sunday school and child care at 10am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street 503-223-6424) ( 11/00) University Park United Methodist Church is a member of the network of Reconciling Congregations and meets for worship each Sunday at 10 am . (4775 N Lombard St. 503-289-7843)( 11/00) Zion United Church of Christ, an open and affirming congregation, is open to gay. lesbian, bisexual, transgendered and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a Christ-centered, warm, canng, multiage/race/cultural faith community. (Service: 11 am Sundays. 2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham. 503-665-8741.) ( 11/00) Washington: Spirituality Universalist Congregation of Salem meets on the third Sunday of each month for a potluck. (6 pm, 5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716 ) (11/00) Interfaith Spiritual Community meets every Sunday at the Heart Center for inspirational messages, children s celebrations and py. We honor and celebrate all sacred paths, recognizing each person s divine gifts and supporting spintual growth, healing and enlighten ment. (6-730 pm 1578 Commercial St. SE. Salem 503-763-6030.) (11/00) Morningside United Methodist Church is a rec onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to participate in the full life of the congregation. (8 30 and 11 am Sundays 3674 12th St. SE. Salem 503-364-5013.) ( 11/00) Sweet Spirit Metropolitan Community Church (MCC) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every second Sunday. (Services held at Amencan Legion Hall. 4 7 74 Lilac Lane NE. Salem Mailing address: Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753. Salem. OR 97309. 503315-7923.) (11/00) YOUTH Metro: Youth Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle exchange service. It also has some transitional housing for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are HIV+ and younger than 23. It also plays host to VOIC ES (Voices of Individual and Community Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Fnday 1236 SW Salmon St. 503-223-4121.)( 11 / 00 ) Pride Project bnngs together Washington County lesbian, gay. bi, trans and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events Also information, referral, support and advocacy services for Washington County. (M olly 503-260-5792.) ( 11 / 00 ) Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning youth. (4 30 pm Mondays at M etropolitan Community Church o f Portland. 2400 NE Broadway. 503-281-8868.) ( 11 / 00 ) Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center (SMYRC) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Also plays host to weekly youth support groups including Windfire. Trans Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative group). (4-8 pm Wednesday. 4 pm-midmght Fnday and Saturday 424 E Burnside St 503-872 9664. www smyrc.org.) (M/00) Youth HIV/STD Prevention Project provides fun and educational programs along with counseling and testing to queer youth in a fnendly. relaxed environ ment. ( 503 - 872 - 9664 .) ( 11 / 00 ) YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers tutonng and mentonng for lesbian, gay, bi and trans youth as well as for children of LGBT parents. (503-227-19 8 1 )( 11 / 00 ) East Vancouver United Methodist Church. Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sundays. 5701 M acArthur B lvd . Vancouver. 360-693-4761 ourclarkcounty colum bian.com /273/.) (11 /00) First Congregational Church, United Church o f C hrist. Two Sunday services, traditional and “ less traditional' in an open and affirming congregation. (1220 NE 68th St. Vancouver. 360-693 1476 )(11 /00) Southern Oregon: Youth The Sexual M inority Youth Recreation Group o f Klamath Falls provides support for gay, lesbian, bi. trans and questioning youth and their allies. (For more information, e-mail boytoy22@hotmail.com) ( 11 / 00 ) Estacada United M ethodist Church Reconciling Con gregation, where we really mean Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SOYO). a group for gay. lesbian, and bi youth aged 14-20 meets on the first and Thursdays of the month in Ashland (541-488-6990 ) everyone is welcome. Sunday wor ship at 10 30 am. (204 SE Mam St . Estacada.) ( 11/00) ( 11 / 00 ) First Congregational United Church o f C hrist is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal Chnstian tradition Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and church school for children runs concurrently. (1 126 SIN Park Ave.. 503 228-7219) Washington Youth Triple Point Youth Program is a social/sup- Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for women of all ages offenng workshops, song and drum circles, meditation rooms and altars of celebration, incorporating what you bnng to share. (lO am -IO pm Tuesday-Sunday 3125 E Burnside St. 503238 0 6 7 5 ) 0 1/00) F in d an a lte r ego a t th e G ra y s to n e G a lle ry 's 1 6th a n n u a l m ask S h o w th ro u g h N ov. 12 ___________ The God Connection Center fo r Worship, Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate your spmtuality with the Revs Berdell Moffett and Casey Chaney Liberal, practical: all are welcome (10 am service every Sunday 4828 NE 33rd Ave 503-481 7 S 9 1.)(W 0 0) M etropolitan Community Church of the Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sundays 913 W 13th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1480) (11/00) Willamette Valley: Youth Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. (10 am Sundays 4505 E. 18th St Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered and Questioning Youth Group for ages 13-18 offers 360-695-1891) (11/00) support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop m (4-6 pm Fndays at Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard S t . Eugene 541 -684 3466.) (11/00) Grace Space, a newly formed multidenommational spintual center led by the Rev Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening celebrations (5 pm at Unity Church. 4525 SE Stark S t 503 287-3216 ) ( 1 1 /00) Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the Episcopal Church, meets on the second Fnday of each month m the Mom son Room at Trinity Cathedral Euchanst is cel ebrated at 6 45 pm followed by a potluck and fellowship (147 NW 19th Ave . 503 289 1687) port group for gays, lesbian, bi and trans youth between 13 and 22 in Vancouver, Wash Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3 30-5 30 pm Thursdays at 1104 Main St. i M -100 (Amanda 1-693-1188) (11/00) Willamette Valley: Spirituality First Congregational Church. United Church of Chn§t. is an open and affirming congregation offenng worship and church school Child care provided Wheelchair accessible (10 am Sundays 700 Manon S t NE. Salem 503 3633660 ) (11/00) The Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender youth group fo r ages 25 and younger meets every Monday (5 pm Mondays at Komoma Center. 1414 Kincaid S t . Eugene 5 4 1 346-1134 ) (11/00) ••*3 5 lipping the scales Snubbed dyke demands decent service D ear M s . B ehavior : I appreciate your column and read it religiously. 1 My question per tains to the inequality within our community. As lesbians, it seems we are not treated equally by our brothers. To keep this short, I’ll share only one example. My experience has been that whenever I go out to a gay/les- hian bar and the bartender is male, I never get fair serv ice. If a man walks up to the bar after me, he always get faster, more atten tive service. It appears that the bar tender is strained even to look at me, let alone ask me what I’d like to drink. It is a Catch-22 situation. Women/leshians are accused of poor tipping, yet we frequently receive rot ten service. So, why tip that kind of service? Plus, if we are assertive and say something, then of course we are labeled “bitchy,” and the cycle contin ues. How do you suggest handling this inequality within our own community? — Risky definitely not focused on build ing my skills on the task at hand. She’s an attractive, sophisticated older woman who never has experienced the rapturous bliss of making love with another woman. She accepts me for the out, soft- butch, rebel les bian 1 am. At times, we share eye-to-lip, then eye-to-eye glazed glances as well as seemingly innocent touches, and when we meet in the hall between classes, she often tells me she was thinking of me. No elaboration, just that she was thinking of me. At other times, especially when I’ve decided that today is the day I’m going to find out whether she’s interested in taking our friend ship further, she seems to he with drawn, shy or nervous about being around me. My dilemma is, at this point in our friendship, should I risk all to pursue intimacy with this lady who my fan tasies are made of? — Hanging by a Thread D ear R isky : Ms. Behavior will start with the assumption that you’re not the kind of lesbian who sits at the bar with nine friends who drink a total of 36 beers, eat 45 meatball heroes, split the bill to the penny based on who got the most meatballs, then tips two bucks. She also will assume that the bartender is not a shallow, crotch-gazing party boy. With those as givens, if you’re rea sonable customers, you should get decent service. If you don’t, poor tip ping with no comment is not the solu tion; it only perpetuates the cheap- dyke stereotype. (It’s also an excuse for lesbians who really ARE cheap to feel justified about their bad manners and for gay men who dislike dykes to think the bad service was warranted.) So, when the bartender snubs you, say something direct, but stick to the situation at hand, describing why you’re displeased. Do not try to educate him about the entire cultural, political and socioeconomic structure that per petuates the oppression of your sisters. Don’t, for example, remind him that lesbians only get 49 cents for every dollar a man cams. He doesn’t care. And if you annoy him, he might not wash your glass properly. D ear H anging by a T hread : What’s your other choice? To sit in class and drool on your notebook? It’s hard for Ms. Behavior to understand why you perceive this as a big risk. You clearly don’t want a friendship with this woman, anyway; you want her breath on your neck (or your thighs or whatever). So, there’s not much point in sitting around in a worked-up state without finding out whether she’s interested, too. It’s true, Ms. Behavior usually advises against messing around with straight women. On the other hand, it’s possible your friend really is a fledgling dyke who’d like nothing bet ter than “the rapturous bliss of mak ing love with another woman.” And everyone has to start some where. So, if you want to pursue a relationship with her (and don’t mind dealing with all the issues that come with someone's first queer relation ship), tell her how you feel. Be aware she might be the kind of straight woman who’ll flirt and fanta size but not dabble. If she tells you she’s not interested, believe her. Even if she expresses ambivalence and goes back and forth, forget it. You’d be signing up for drama and trauma and probably torture. So, stay away, unless you like that sort of thing. D ear M s . B ehavior : A friend and I are continuing our training in our respective technical fields. We spend a lot of time in and out of class together. However, when we’re sitting so close that 1 can feel her breath on my neck, my mind is j[7] Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B E H A V IO R at KisBehavior@aol.com.
