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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Sept. 1, 2000)
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I ing that comes with having have met the man of my your dishes in the same cup dreams, and we agree we want boards and your panties in the to spend our lives together same drawer, it’s worth telling instead of just having a summer him. fling. At worst, if he says no, The problem is I cannot find maybe you can try it long-dis the courage to ask him to move tance for a while and see how it with me. I have tried to change works. Maybe he’ll agree to the relocation part of my con move with you later on, once tract with the company hut you’ve established your life in have been denied. the new city and he can see My boyfriend has a life here what it’s like to be there with you. and would have to move away from friends and W hen you find a good match— there’s no family for me. (1 don’t have that problem, such thing as “perfect”— it’s worth trying to because I already have moved away from my find a way to make it work. Ms. Behavior friends and family to be here.) always votes for romance. 1 am a traveling consultant and will be If you both want the relationship, you’ll fig gone throughout the week and only available ure it out together. But this means having to to see him on the weekends anyway, so flying have a conversation about it, Missy. back and forth each week is not a problem for me. But the advantage of moving together is D ear M s . B ehavior : we could start a whole new life together. W hat are your views on lesbian age differ Work wouldn’t be a problem for him if he ences? In your opinion, do you think age dif moved with me; I already found him a very well-paying job where we could relocate. This ference should be a factor in getting involved sounds to me like the per in a relationship with fect opportunity for both of someone? (T h e age differ I f you both us, but I am scared he is not ence I’m talking about is going to like the idea. a 16-year-old and a 20- want the relationship, He has said he would not year-old.) you'll fiaure it out together. especially like a long-dis —R tance relationship with me. But this means having But on the other side, he D ear R : to have a conversation said we could work through Ms. Behavior wonders anything that comes into if you’re the fresh young about it, Missy. our paths because we are in thing trying to seduce the love and life always throws a “older woman” or the couple twists to make sure it is true love. lecherous 20-year-old tempted by a supple Still, 1 am wondering if we should continue younger girl. Certain 16-year- old girls can with our relationship. 1 am not sure whether to look as mature as 20-year-olds, but it isn’t usu move. ally true; 16-year-olds aren’t usually relation I do not want to lose him, but on the other ship material (except maybe for other 16-year- hand, I do not want to jeopardize both of our olds). careers as well. What should a person do when Plus, in some states, the older woman might he has found the perfect match? risk being arrested if, for example, the teen-ager’s — Should I C om e or Should We G o parents chtxjse to press charges. (O f course, jail * might be part of the fantasy.) D ear S hould I C ome Age is often a factor in relationships, or S hould W e G o : although not necessarily a problem. If you were It sounds like you’re trying to make all the older and the age difference were larger, it decisions in your tiny little head. might he expressed as an im Does your boyfriend even balance in financial or social know you might move power, particularly in away? If you’re so in terms of career. love with each other, However, the dif how can you plan ference you’re talk what you’ll do ing about sounds without discussing more like junior all of this with varsity lacrosse him? player vs. college Ms. Behavior sophomore, in suspects you might which case you have a little of the need not worry about Control Queen gene. standing under the If partnership is a new dyke corporate ladder concept for you, you’ll need (unless you’re superstitious or an antidote to the control rhing. fashion sensitive). Practice these two sentences: “Here are my thoughts on the situation. What do you think?” ■ Write your confused and conflicted heart out to O n the practical end, if you’re only avail Ms. B ehavior at M sBehavior@ aol.com . able on the weekends, it might not initially matter that much if your boyfriend moves
