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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Aug. 4, 2000)
f august 4 .2 0 0 0 « just out 2 g % D ip s tic k Lesbians and D yk es w ith H ot Rods Willamette Valley: Health invite women with cool cars to go cruisin' with them W om enspace provides a 24-hour hot line and shelter for women and children who have been abused physical ly, sexually or emotionally and plays host to a lesbian and bisexual women s support group (Cnsis 541-485-6513, business: 541-485-8232, lesbian alliance: 541-302-2417.) (11/00) SOCIAL I J Metro: Arts & Music F irst W ednesd ay S o c ia l is a potluck for HIV+ peo ple and their fnends. (Contact Phillip at 503-493-3761.) ( 11 / 00 ) (503-284-5546) (11/00) F R IE N D S is a weekly support and discussion group for Afncan Amencan gay and bisexual men that meets Wednesdays 5 to 7 pm (Bnan, 503-287-8651 .H 1 1/00) Funny Ladies Tea and Posy S o c ie ty is a soc : I group for lesbians 35 and older singles or couples They meet for a potluck on the third Saturday of each month and take camping trips during the summer Monthly newsletter is $9 a year (503 232-9714 ) ( 11 / 00 ) G e n tle G iants of O reg o n is a group dedicated to providing an accepting social environment for chubby men and the men who like tnem that way. (503-241-4535 or www chubnet net/genilegiants. ) ( 1 1 / 00 ) im p e ria l S o v ere ig n Rose C o u rt o f O reg o n is a Help create a Lesbian A rt G u ild Call the Lesbian Community Project for the date of the next planning meeting For more information, call 503-223-0071 or 503-285 4339 (11/00) nonprofit social organization dedicated to raising money for charities within the gay. lesbian, bisexual and trans community ISRC Event Hotline lists upcoming events The P o rtlan d Lesbian C h o ir welcomes supoortive members and volunteers (503-241-8994 H 1 1/00) ( 11 / 00 ) P ortland G ay M e n 's C h o ru s is open to singers. J e w is h G ay M e n 's G roup — call for meeting time and place. (503-246-5939. efratmlevi@aol.com.) ( 11 /0 0 ) An informal L e a th e r N ig h t and R ed H anky S ocial are held the first and third Fnday of each month (9 pm- PHOTO BY MARTY DAVIS support members and volunteers. (503-460-3689 www.pdxgmc.org.) (1 1 /0 0 ) (503-306-0700. ISRC@aol.com. www. geocities com/WestHollywood/Heights/ 788 7 ) O reg o n B ears is a social group for bears and their admirers Newsletter, activities and monthly social gath erings (503-240-2813 www oregonbears o rg ) 0 1 /0 0 ) O R G A N (O re g o n R egional Gay and N a k e d ) is a social club for gay men who enjoy being nude Monthly potlucks and events Guests are invited to attend two events before deciding on membership (ORGAN PO Box 14174. Portland, OR 97293-0174)( 11/00) P o rtlan d B isexual A llian ce plays host to social and political events for bisexual and bi-fnendly people, orga nizes Portland Bi Day rally and publisnes calendar of events Mixed-gender discussion groups are held 7 pm on the first and third Fndays of the month at Laughing Horse Books. 3652 SE Division St (503-775-9717. pba@biportiand org www. biportland. org 3(11 /00) P o rtlan d L e ath er A llian ce is a pansexual. not-for- profit organization dedicated to fostenng a positive com munity for safe, sane and consensual alternative adult sexualities in general and S/M/leather/fetish in particu lar (503-727-3148 w ww pdxleatheralhance.org.) ( 11 / 00 ) Portland M e tro P rim e Tim ers is a social group for men. (PO Box 5884. Portland. OR 97228 503-244-7550 or 360-254-1718 pdxpnmetimers@yahoo.com.) (11 /0 0 ) P S U Q u ee rs and A llies offer educational and social programming and support and referral services for peo ple of all onentations and colors. Everyone is invited to participate in activities and meetings (441A Smith Memonal Center. Portland State University campus E-mail: queersandallies@mail.pdx edu www. ess pdx edu/sfcsg/queersandalhes 503-725 5681.)( 11/00) Rose C ity D iscussion C lu b the largest open pan- sexual club in the Northwest, is open to all onentations. fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensu al Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport com. www. teleport com/~rcdc.) ( 11 /00) Togeth er W orks a confidential group for lesbians, gays, bisexuals and fnends, meets for socials and dis cussions of topics of mutual interest Meets second and fourth Mondays. (7.30 pm May-September. 7 pm October-Apnl Firs! Baptist Church. 125 SE Cowls St.. McMinnville. Don 503-434-6266 H 1 1/00) Metro: Physical Recreation The A d ve n tu re G roup Portland s gay and lesbian outdoors group, organizes a vanety of activities and social events including hiking, skiing, mountain biking, camping and rafting. (503-452-5680. www,adventure- group org.) (\ MOD) B o rd e r R id ers M o to rc yc le C lu b the largest motorcycle club for gay men and fnends in Western Canada and the Pacific Northwest, plays host to day runs and camping events (bcbiker@yahoo com. www bordemders org.) (11 /0 0 ) C L IP S -C y c lin g Lesbians in P ortland meets Mondays at 6 pm for bicycle ndes All nding levels wel come. (503-254-6971.) (11/00) FO R E S T G roup outings are cooperative adventures for women Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their skill and fitness level All skill levels welcome. (503-286-5382 www odm.cc.pdx eduZ-gi/m) ( 11/00) G al Pals is a new group for single lesbians (For infor mation visit www geocities. com/RodeoDnve/B0006204454/3346/ GAL-PAL htm!) ( 11/00) It's a study in contrasts as the ISRC presents the fifth annual Leather and Lace Show at Em bers Avenue Aug. 10 K -9 C lu b is a group of kindred folks and their dogs who meet to hike and talk in Portland parks on the sec ond Sunday of each month. (503 285 2 9 8 6 )( 11/00) Lesbian E questrian G roup Do you have a horse7 Looking to get together with womyn and horses for equestnan activities in the Pacific Northwest? (Denise The Real C o n n e c tio n is a social gathenng for gay men who are artists, wnters or musicians or who pursue some creative activity. Monthly potlucks on the second Fnday (Todd 5 0 3 -2 3 6 -5 7 6 1 ) (1 1 /0 0 ) Rose C ity G ay F re ed o m B an d is a concert band open to lesbian, gay, tx. trans and supportive musicians and fnends. (PO Box 1082. Portland. OR 97207. 503-790-2170. commumty.oregonlive.com/cc/rcgfb.) midnight at the Dirty Duck Tavern, 439 NW Third Ave 503-224-8446. PDXSaltyDg@aol com) (11/00) L esbians Enjoying th e S ciences is a fun loving group of women who enjoy explonng all aspects of the environment. Activities include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology, rock collecting, camping, kayaking, star gazing, an occasional 'lecture" and a monthly plan ning potluck. No expenence necessary (645-830 pm Bisexual C o m m u n ity F o ru m is an age and gender inclusive social, support and education network founded in 1980 Activities include dances, potlucks. field tnps and a polyamory interest group. Meetings are held on the first and third Mondays. (7 30 pm at Mo/o's Coffee Den. 2853 SE Stark St Laury 503-285-4848) ( 1 1 /0 0 ) B rother to B ro th e r is a family of Afncan Amencan gay and bisexual men dedicated to the empowerment of and improvement in the quality of life within our commu nity Board meetings every third Monday of the month at 5 30 pm (Bnan. PO Box 3182. Portland. OR 97208 503 417-7991.)U \/0 Q ) Lesbian G arden C lub is a group of women who love gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time Please call or e-mail for a current copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events (Kathe 503-909-2002. e-mail LGCOregon@aol.com.)(1 1/00) L e sb ia n social g ro u p fo r w o m en 5 0 and o ld er O u t D ancing teaches partner dancing for same-sex couples at Sally Mack's School of Dance Classes for different dance styles start the first Fnday of each month. (503-236-5129.) (11/00) meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503 642-3360. 503-331-0415.) ( 11/00) P o rtlan d G ay and Lesbian C om m unity B ow ling A ssociation meets Sundays at 4 pm at second Thursday planning meeting 503-289-3605 or 503-466-0058 or e-mail to lespnw@aol com.) (11 /00) Metro: General 503 654 3865. Lynn 503-777-2339. e-mail ketrav@rdrop com.) (11/00) Long Yang C lu b —P o rtla n d C h a p te r a social group for Asian gays and lesbians and their fnends, meets at 8 pm on the first Wednesday and third Sunday of each month at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. (503-963-184 l.)(1 U 0 0 ) Lulu's P ervy P layhouse is a social group for self identifying women who are into S M Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month (luluhstQhot mail com. www spiretech.com/~awnhe/lulu htm. 503-231 3992) (1 1 /0 0 ) C ocksure is a social group for female-bom. gender M o u n t H o o d W om yn network professionally and socially (503 701-8302.)(W OO ) vanant people including FTMs. transguys, genderqueers and significant others W e are based in Portland and welcome folks from Oregon and Washington. For more m o about our monthly meetings and e-mail network, call 503-471-1515 ( t i / 0 0 ) N o rth w e s t G e n d e r A llian ce is a social and support organization for cross-dressers and transsexuals Monthly open meetings and socials (PO Box 4928. Portland. OR 97208 503-646-2802 www teleport com/-nwga 3(11 /00) Hollywood Lanes. 40th Avenue and Halsey Street (PO Box 80002. Portland. OR 97280-1002 503 293-0438 BOWLpdx@aol com members ao! com/BOWLpdx/pcba htm l) (11/00) R osatow n R am blers. Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream, plus and advanced levels (PO Box 5352. Portland. OR 97228-5352 503 234 9944. www.rdrop.com/users/rambters) (1 1/00) Team P o rtlan d Tennis A ssociation plays every Sunday 8 am-noon at the University of Portland Women and men players of all skill levels are welcome (Alex Godinez 503 282-7210 ) ( \ 1/00) Team Q uest, the athletic and exercise program of Project Quest, offers individual, group, mdoor and out door physical recreation opportunities for people living with HIV and AIDS (503-493 0288 H 1 1/00) D ear M s . B ehavior : with her two dad dies, absolutely no hand jobs in the liv ing room. My long-term boyfriend, Larry, has a ter, Heather, whom D ear M s . I've never met. He’s B ehavior : bringing her to visit 1 recently ended this month, and a three-year rela she’s planning to tionship with a stay with us for the woman 1 met in summer. prison. This woman The problem is thinks prison is that I’m not sure lesbian paradise, how to behave and she’s been around her. there 12 years! Ordinarily, Larry We both had and I are aftec- drug charges; I did tionate. For exam less than three ple, when I pick years. She can’t Parental patience him up at the air make parole be must be practiced, port, I usually give cause she chooses him a long, deep to do her time on else daughter will be kiss. her knees, if you driven to disgust Would that be catch my drift. 1 inappropriate in was celibate. front of his daughter? Also, should I ended the relationship and we refrain from hand holding or met someone online. She moved in massaging each other while she vis two weeks ago. I tried to break this its? When I mentioned it to Larry, off because I wasn’t comfortable he told me not to worry, that we’d with the age difference. She’s 19, just see how it goes. If I butch it up I’m 40. or act less affectionate, is that But she won my heart. Now, homophobic? every time I say or do something, —Jack she says, “You think just because I’m 19....” It’s driving me nuts, and D ear J ack : I don’t want to break up because I Wouldn’t you have been love her. Who’s uncomfortable, and repulsed, as a teen-ager, to watch how do we deal with it? your mother slip your father the —A ngelDyke tongue? Homophobia isn’t really the issue; teen-agers are horrified by D ear A ngel D yke *. parental sexuality, even when their You and your teen-ager are both parents are straight. Sixteen-year- uncomfortable, because it’s hard old girls are especially easy to dis not to be “Mommy” with a 19-year- gust. old. Try not to take care of her too You and Larry should be gradual much; don’t make all her meals, in your affectionate behavior and don't say, “Clean your room Affection suggestion When people say, “I don’t want to break it off because I love her,” it really means, “This may wrench my guts and tempt me to drink hemlock, but l can’t give it up y et,” around Heather. If her threshold for grossness is exceeded from the beginning, she probably won’t accept you. So, when you meet them at the airport, shake Heather’s hand, and give Larry a manly embrace. (OK, the manly part is optional.) If, after a few days of witnessing hand holding during meals, Heather still hasn’t regurgitated your homo sexual dinner, you can assume that small gestures of affection are OK. Don’t try to get her to call you “Daddy” (unless Larry already does). Don’t buy yourself a pair of clam diggers and a Britney Spears CD in attempt to impress her; there’s nothing more pathetic than middle-aged people trying to be hip. And even once she seems com fortable, draw a careful line be tween affection and overt sexuality. No matter how cool Heather seems right this minute, young lady.” It will be deadly for your sex life and make you feel old. Ms. Behavior isn’t sure where the prison girlfriend fits in, but maybe you like uneven power dynamics. Was she in charge of rationing cigarettes or body cavity searches? How’d you have a rela tionship if you were celibate? (Or is this just a 1950s pulp fantasy?) When people say, “I don’t want to break it off because I love her,” it really means, “This may wrench my guts and tempt me to drink hem lock, but I can’t give it up yet.” Love is a force of nature. Ms. Behavior sometimes offers gentle cautions, but she won’t stand in the way. ■ Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B e h a v i o r at MsBehavior@aoi.com.
