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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (July 21, 2000)
juiy 21,2000» Livs and Let Live Club holds 12 step meetings and social activities for the lesbian and gay recoveiy comm u nity. Call for current meeting times and activities (2940-A SE Belmont St. 503-238-609 1 1 (1 1 /0 0 ) The Lunch Bunch hosts AA meetings for gays and lesbians, but is open to everyone Meetings daily at noon except Sundays at 1 pm. (Metropolitan Funny Ladies Taa and Posy Society is a social group for lesbians 35 and over, singles or couples. They meet for a potluck on the third Saturday of each month and take camping tnps dunng the summer. Monthly newsletter is $9 per year. (503-232 9714 ) Gentle Giants of Oregon is a group dedicated to Community Church o f Portland, 2400 NE Broadway, providing an accepting, social environment for chubby men, and the men who like them that way. enter on the north side of the building.) (11 /0 0 ) (503-241-4535 or www chubnet net/gentlegiants ) Rainbow Al-Anon meets Thursdays at 6 pm at the ( 11 / 00 ) Portland Metro Prime Timer« is a social group for men. (PO Box 5884, Portland. OR 97228 50-244-7550 or 360-254-1718. pdxpnmetimers@yahoo com .H1 1 /00) PSU Queer« and Allies invites everyone to partici pate in activities and meetings Educational and social programming, support and referral services for persons o f all onentations and colors. (441A Smith Memonal Center, Portland State University campus E-mail: queer- sandallies@mailpdxedu. www ess pdx edu/sfcsg/queersandallies 503-725-5681 701 / 00 ) M CC Church, N W 24th Ave. and Broadway Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is a (503-222-5756). (11 /0 0 ) nonprofit social organization dedicated to raising money for chanties within the gay. lesbian, bisexual and trans Rose City Discussion Club the largest open pan Willamette Valley: Health community ISRC Event Hotline lists upcoming events fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensu (503-306-0700. ISRC@aol.com. al Monthly meetings, workshops, and newsletter. Womenspace provides a 24-hour hot line and shelter w w w geocities. com/WestHollywood/Heights/7887.) ( 11 / 00 ) (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport com. www.teleport.com/~rcdc.) (11 /00) Jewish Gay Men's Group — call for meeting time Together Works, a confidential group for lesbians, and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevt@aol.com.) (11/00) gays, bisexuals, and fnends. meets for socials and dis for women and children who have been abused physical ly, sexually, or emotionally Also hosts a lesbian and bisexual women's support group. (Cnsis: 541-485-6513. business: 541-485-8232. lesbian alliance 541-302-2417.) ( 11/00) PHOTO BY CRYSTAL ENCINAS Kick up your heels when DJ Crystal spins the country western tunes every Wednesday at C.C. Slaughter's. sexual club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, cussions of topics of mutual interest M eets second and fourth Mondays. (7.30 pm May-Sept. 7 pm Oct.-April. First Baptist Church. 125 SE Cowls S t. McMinnville. Don 503-434-6266. 7(11/00) Metro: Physical Recreation The Adventure Group. Portland's gay and lesbian outdoors group, organizes a variety o f activities and social events including hiking, skiing, mountain biking, camping and rafting. (503-452-5680. www adventure- group org.) (11 /00) Border Riders Motorcycle Club . the largest motorcycle club for gay men and fnends in Western Canada and the Pacific Northwest, hosts day runs and camping events. (bcbiker@yahoo com, www.bordemd- ers.org.) ( 11 / 00 ) CLIPS-Cycling Lesbians in Portland meets Mondays at 6 pm for bicycle ndes All nding levels w el come. (503 254-6971 . ) ( \ \ m FOREST Group outings are cooperative adventures for women. Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropnate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome. (503-286-5382 www odm cc pdx edu/~gijm) (11/00) Gal Pals is a new group for single lesbians. (For infor mation visit http //www. geocities. com/RodeoDnve/B0006204454/ 3346/GAL-PAL.html.) (11 /00) K-9 Club is a group of kindred folks and their dogs who meet to hike and talk in Portland parks on the sec ond Sunday of each month (503-285-2986) (1 1/00) Lesbian Equestrian Group Do you have a horse7 Looking to get together with womyn and horses for An informal SOCIAL Leather Night and Red Hanky Social are held the first and third Fnday of each month. (9 pm- 12 am at the Dirty Duck Tavern. 439 NW Third Ave 503-224 8446. PDXSaityDg@aol com) (11/00) equestnan activities in the Pacific Northwest Call Denise at ( 503 ) 654-3865 or Lynn at (503) 777-2339, or e-mail kelrav@rdrop com. (11/00) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love Lesbians Enjoying the Sciences ¡s a fun loving Metro: Arts & Music group o f women who enjoy explonng all aspects of the gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. First Wednesday Social is a potluck for HIV+ peo environment. Activities include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology, rock collecting, camping, kayaking, Please call or e-mail for a current copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events. (Kathe. star gazing, an occasional “ lecture" and a monthly plan 503-909-2002. e mail LGCOregon@aol.com.) (11/00) ple and their fnends. (Contact Phillip at 503-493-3761.) ( 11 / 00 ) ning potluck. No expenence necessary (645-8 30 pm Lesbian Art Guild Help create an art guild just for les bian visual artists. Call the Lesbian Community Project for the date of the next planning meeting For more infor mation. call 503-223-0071 or 503-2854339. (7/7) The Portland Lesbian Choir welcom es supportive second Thursday planning meeting 503-289-3605 or 503-639-8936 or 503-466-0058 or e-mail to lespnw@aol com. 7(11 /00) Out Dancing teaches partner dancing for same-sex couples at Sally Mack's School of Dance. Classes for different dance styles start the first Fnday of each month (503-236-5129.) (1 1 /00) Lesbian social group for women 50 and over meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7pm. members and volunteers. (50 3 -2 4 1-8994 7(11/00) 503-281-4424. 503-331 -041 5.7 (11 /00) Portland Gay Men's Chorus is open to singers, Long Yang Club—Portland Chapter a social support members and volunteers (503-460-3689 www pdxgmc.org.) 01 /00) group for Asian gays and lesbians and their friends, meets at 8 pm on the first Wednesday and third Sunday The Real Connection is a social gathenng for gay o f each month at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse (503-963-1841 .7(11/00) Portland Gay and Lesbian Community Bowling Association bowls Sundays at 4 pm at Hollywood Lanes, 40th Ave. and Halsey St. (PO Box 80002. Portland. OR 97280-1002. 503-293-0438 BOWLpdx@aol. com. members aol com/BOWLpdx/pcba. html.) (11 /0 0 ) Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream, plus and men who are artists, wnters. musicians or who pursue some creative activity M onthly potlucks on the second Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for advanced levels. (PO Box 5352. Portland. OR Fnday ( Todd 503 236-5763 7(11 /00) self-identifying women who are into SM Play parties are Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a concert band held on the second Saturday o f the month (lululist@hot mailcom. www jps net/wynter/luluspage html, 97228 5352 503-234-9944. www rdrop. com/users/ramblers 7(11/00) open to lesbian, gay. transgendered, bi and supportive musicians and fnends (PO Box 1082. Portland. OR 503 231 -3992.) (05/00) Team Portland Tennis Association plays every Sunday 8 am-noon at the University of Portland Women 97207 503-790-2170 http//community.oregonhvecom/cc/rcgfb.) (11 /0 0 ) Mount Hood Womyn networking professionally and and men players of all skill levels are welcome. (Alex socially (503-701-8302.) (11/00) Godmez 503-282-7210 7(11/00) Northwest Gender Alliance is a social and support Team Quest the athletic and exercise program of Metro: General organization for cross-dressers and transsexuals Monthly open meetings and socials. (PO Box 4928. Project Quest, offers individual and group, indoor and outdoor physical recreation opportunities for peofile liv Bisexual Community Forum is an age and gender Portland. OR 97208 503-646-2802 ing with HIV and AIDS. (5(73-493-0288 7 (11/00) inclusive social, support and education network founded w w w teleport com/~nwga )(U /0 0 ) in 1980 Activities include dances, potlucks. field tnps and a polyamory interest group Meetings are held on the first and third Mondays. (7.30 pm at M o p s Coffee Den. 2853 SE Stark St Laury 503-285-4848 7(11/00) Brother to Brother is a family o f Afncan-Amencan gay and bisexual men dedicated to the empowerment of. and improvement in the quality o f life within our com munity Board meetings every third M onday o f the month at 5:30 pm (Bnan. PO Box 3182. Portland. OR Oregon Bears is a social group for bears and their Southern Oregon: Social admirers Newsletter, activities and monthly social gath enngs (503-240-2813. www oregonbears org ) (11/00) Abdill-Ellis Lambda Community Center hosts ORGAN (Oregon Regional Gay and Naked) is a social club for nude men who enjoy being gay Monthly potlucks and events. Guests are invited to attend two events before deciding on membership (ORGAN. Box 14174. Portland. O R 97293-0174. 7(11/00) PO 97208 503-417-7991 7 (1 1 /0 0 ) Portland Bisexual Alliance hosts social and political Cocksure is a social group for female-bom. gender events for bisexual and bi fnendly people Organizes variant people including FTMs. transguys, genderqueers and significant others W e are based in Portland and welcome folks from Oregon and W ashington For more mfo about our monthly m eetings and e-mail network, call (503) 471-1515. (11/00) Dipstick Lesbians and Dykes with Hot Rods mvite women with cool cars to go cruisin' with them Portland Bi Day rally and publishes calendar of bi events Mixed gender discussion groups are held 7 pm on the first and third Fridays of the month at Laughing Horse Books. 3652 SE Division St Open to all (503-775-9717. pbaQbrportland org. www biportland org 7 (11 / 00) Portland Leather Alliance is a pansexual. not for- profit organization dedicated to fostenng a positive com (503284 5 5 4 6 ) 0 1 /0 0 ) munity for safe. sane, and consensual alternative adult sexualities m general and S/M /leather/fetish m particular FRIENDS (503-727-3148 www pdxleatheralkanceorg.) (WOO) is a weekly support and discussion group or African American gay and bisexual men that meets Wednesdays 5-7 pm (Bnan. 503287-8651 ) ( \ \ 700) social events and groups Call for schedule (Mailing address: PO Box 927 Ashland. OR 97520. Location 281 Fourth St . Ashland. OR 97520 541-488 6990. lambdacntr@aolcom. www aekca.org.) (\ 1/00) Washington: Social MenTalk of Vancouver holds a social on the first Monday and a discussion group on the third Monday of each month at 7 pm (Peter 360-576 6595. Men TalkofVancWA@webtv net 7 ( 11 / 00 ) SW Washington Gay and Lesbian Socialites is a Vancouver-based organization whose members get together regularly for social events and activities The Socialites was organized to build a sense o f community among gay men and lesbians m the Portland/Vancouver area Newsletter available by e mail or USPS (360-735-1901. Sociahtes@aolcom) ( 11 / 00 ) D ear M s . B ehavior : My girlfriend and l were invited to spend a long week- end with a fairly new gay male friend with whom we’ve shared a few enjoy able outings. The house we were to visit (his) sounded incredible— a fabu lously decorated, beautiful water front retreat on a quiet island. We’d been looking forward to the week end and had planned some day trips and elegant dinners. We had even chosen an appropriate house warming gift to bring our host in his new home. But right before leaving, we were shocked to receive a cui t e- mail from our host expressing his stress over our arrival and asking us to delay our trip by a day. He went on to say in the e-mail that our “messy” dogs were not welcome (this had previously been discussed and O K ’ed by him), and with one day’s notice he told us we should leave them at home. He also implied that our visit was too long and that we’d be overstaying, even though he’d initially asked us to lengthen our time with him. We canceled our weekend, but now we’re having second thoughts. As many gay men are known to be obsessive about possessions and fre quently unable to express them selves in a logical manner, should we have pretended to ignore these faults in our new friend and gone ahead with the plans? Do you think working through this with him will involve taking on the whole male psyche and is better left to people who get paid for it? — Weekend Thwarted D ear W eekend T hwarted : In friendship, as in dating, you often don’t see what you’re getting until you get up close. Your host exposed his neuroses before you even arrived, which is a bad but helpful sign. So, you and your girl friend should consider yourselves lucky that your visit was thwarted before you stepped out of your SU V and into Mr. Poofter’s Island. Now you can just be irritated in the comfort and convenience of your own home, instead of tortured in the sanctity of his perfectly decorat ed Museum of the Homosexual Artifact. Ms. Behavior imagines that Mr. P. had to consult with several mem bers of his Pilates class and his inte rior designer in order to work up the courage to ask you to leave your “messy" dogs home, if he had n’t, they probably would have shed their luxurious fur (or worse) onto the foofy queen’s well-pressed Frette bed linen. The queen would have had a hissy fit. Hair pulling would have ensued. (Helping you visualize this unpleasant scene is meant to affirm that you made the right decision.) “Working through” something is worthwhile when there’s a close, long standing friendship or at least a comfort able compatibility that suggests that a great friendship is in the offing. That doesn’t seem to be the case here. Ms. Behavior first thought she was being harsh when she imagined telling you to dump the hyperele gant homo, but then she reviewed the facts: 1. He basically disinvited you. (There’s nothing wrong with invit ing friends for a sans-canine visit, but telling a lesbian to leave her dogs home without adequate time to get nurturant doggy care is the same thing as rescinding the invita tion. 2. He did it the cowardly way, via e-mail. The “’’whole male psyche” is far too complex a thing to be analyzed by a couple of lesbians with messy dogs. But a therapist is also unlikely to help in this case, since prissy homosexuals are known to only hire professionals who empathize with their aesthetic emphasis. D ear M s . B ehavior : Three months ago I met my boyfriend at a bar and went home with him. Since then, I’ve never moved out. My boyfriend is not my type physically, but I love him because he is a sweetheart. Now I am having second thoughts about this, because I am always thinking of other guys— primarily cute, thin guys. I’ve cheated twice because I get very satisfied looking at a thin nice body and my boyfriend is a lit tle fat. He is also about 12 years older than me. What should I do? — Frank D ear F rank : You have two choices: Ask your boyfriend for an open relationship (so that having sex with others doesn’t involve sneaking around), or let him go. Living in your boyfriend’s house while having sex with “cute, thin guys” behind his back is not a good choice. Pinching the fat around your boyfriend’s abdomen to shame him into losing weight or making pig noises when he eats Devil Dogs would also not be helpful. You say you love him and that he’s a sweetheart, so he deserves to be treated with respect. It also sounds like he deserves a boyfriend who isn’t a shallow, vapid user, so see what you can arrange. ■ Write your confused and conflicted heart out to Ms. B ehavior at M sBehavioT@ ad.com . 31
