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Livs and Let Live Club holds 12 step meetings and
social activities for the lesbian and gay recoveiy comm u
nity. Call for current meeting times and activities
(2940-A SE Belmont St. 503-238-609 1 1 (1 1 /0 0 )
The Lunch Bunch hosts AA meetings for gays and
lesbians, but is open to everyone Meetings daily at
noon except Sundays at 1 pm. (Metropolitan
Funny Ladies Taa and Posy Society is a social
group for lesbians 35 and over, singles or couples. They
meet for a potluck on the third Saturday of each month
and take camping tnps dunng the summer. Monthly
newsletter is $9 per year. (503-232 9714 )
Gentle Giants of Oregon is a group dedicated to
Community Church o f Portland, 2400 NE Broadway,
providing an accepting, social environment for chubby
men, and the men who like them that way.
enter on the north side of the building.) (11 /0 0 )
(503-241-4535 or www chubnet net/gentlegiants )
Rainbow Al-Anon meets Thursdays at 6 pm at the
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11 / 00 )
Portland Metro Prime Timer« is a social group for
men. (PO Box 5884, Portland. OR 97228 50-244-7550
or 360-254-1718. pdxpnmetimers@yahoo com .H1 1 /00)
PSU Queer« and Allies invites everyone to partici
pate in activities and meetings Educational and social
programming, support and referral services for persons
o f all onentations and colors. (441A Smith Memonal
Center, Portland State University campus E-mail: queer-
sandallies@mailpdxedu.
www ess pdx edu/sfcsg/queersandallies
503-725-5681 701 / 00 )
M CC Church, N W 24th Ave. and Broadway
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is a
(503-222-5756). (11 /0 0 )
nonprofit social organization dedicated to raising money
for chanties within the gay. lesbian, bisexual and trans
Rose City Discussion Club the largest open pan
Willamette Valley: Health
community ISRC Event Hotline lists upcoming events
fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensu
(503-306-0700. ISRC@aol.com.
al Monthly meetings, workshops, and newsletter.
Womenspace provides a 24-hour hot line and shelter
w w w geocities. com/WestHollywood/Heights/7887.)
( 11 / 00 )
(503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport com.
www.teleport.com/~rcdc.) (11 /00)
Jewish Gay Men's Group — call for meeting time
Together Works, a confidential group for lesbians,
and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevt@aol.com.) (11/00)
gays, bisexuals, and fnends. meets for socials and dis
for women and children who have been abused physical
ly, sexually, or emotionally Also hosts a lesbian and
bisexual women's support group. (Cnsis: 541-485-6513.
business: 541-485-8232. lesbian alliance
541-302-2417.) ( 11/00)
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Kick up your
heels when DJ
Crystal spins the
country western
tunes every
Wednesday at
C.C. Slaughter's.
sexual club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations,
cussions of topics of mutual interest M eets second and
fourth Mondays. (7.30 pm May-Sept. 7 pm Oct.-April.
First Baptist Church. 125 SE Cowls S t. McMinnville.
Don 503-434-6266. 7(11/00)
Metro: Physical Recreation
The Adventure Group. Portland's gay and lesbian
outdoors group, organizes a variety o f activities and
social events including hiking, skiing, mountain biking,
camping and rafting. (503-452-5680. www adventure-
group org.) (11 /00)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club . the largest
motorcycle club for gay men and fnends in Western
Canada and the Pacific Northwest, hosts day runs and
camping events. (bcbiker@yahoo com, www.bordemd-
ers.org.) ( 11 / 00 )
CLIPS-Cycling Lesbians in Portland meets
Mondays at 6 pm for bicycle ndes All nding levels w el
come. (503 254-6971 . ) ( \ \ m
FOREST Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women. Participants are responsible for providing
their own equipment and choosing outings appropnate
for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome.
(503-286-5382 www odm cc pdx edu/~gijm) (11/00)
Gal Pals is a new group for single lesbians. (For infor
mation visit
http //www. geocities. com/RodeoDnve/B0006204454/
3346/GAL-PAL.html.) (11 /00)
K-9 Club is a group of kindred folks and their dogs
who meet to hike and talk in Portland parks on the sec
ond Sunday of each month (503-285-2986) (1 1/00)
Lesbian Equestrian Group Do you have a horse7
Looking to get together with womyn and horses for
An informal
SOCIAL
Leather Night and Red Hanky Social
are held the first and third Fnday of each month. (9 pm-
12 am at the Dirty Duck Tavern. 439 NW Third Ave
503-224 8446. PDXSaityDg@aol com) (11/00)
equestnan activities in the Pacific Northwest Call
Denise at ( 503 ) 654-3865 or Lynn at (503) 777-2339, or
e-mail kelrav@rdrop com. (11/00)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
Lesbians Enjoying the Sciences ¡s a fun loving
Metro: Arts & Music
group o f women who enjoy explonng all aspects of the
gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time.
First Wednesday Social is a potluck for HIV+ peo
environment. Activities include bird watching, nature
walks, archaeology, rock collecting, camping, kayaking,
Please call or e-mail for a current copy of the newsletter
and information about upcoming events. (Kathe.
star gazing, an occasional “ lecture" and a monthly plan
503-909-2002. e mail LGCOregon@aol.com.) (11/00)
ple and their fnends. (Contact Phillip at 503-493-3761.)
(
11 / 00 )
ning potluck. No expenence necessary (645-8 30 pm
Lesbian Art Guild Help create an art guild just for les
bian visual artists. Call the Lesbian Community Project
for the date of the next planning meeting For more infor
mation. call 503-223-0071 or 503-2854339. (7/7)
The
Portland Lesbian Choir welcom es supportive
second Thursday planning meeting 503-289-3605 or
503-639-8936 or 503-466-0058 or e-mail to
lespnw@aol com. 7(11 /00)
Out Dancing teaches partner dancing for same-sex
couples at Sally Mack's School of Dance. Classes for
different dance styles start the first Fnday of each
month (503-236-5129.) (1 1 /00)
Lesbian social group for women 50 and over
meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7pm.
members and volunteers. (50 3 -2 4 1-8994 7(11/00)
503-281-4424. 503-331 -041 5.7 (11 /00)
Portland Gay Men's Chorus is open to singers,
Long Yang Club—Portland Chapter a social
support members and volunteers (503-460-3689
www pdxgmc.org.) 01 /00)
group for Asian gays and lesbians and their friends,
meets at 8 pm on the first Wednesday and third Sunday
The Real Connection is a social gathenng for gay
o f each month at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse
(503-963-1841 .7(11/00)
Portland Gay and Lesbian Community
Bowling Association bowls Sundays at 4 pm at
Hollywood Lanes, 40th Ave. and Halsey St. (PO Box
80002. Portland. OR 97280-1002. 503-293-0438
BOWLpdx@aol. com.
members aol com/BOWLpdx/pcba. html.) (11 /0 0 )
Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream, plus and
men who are artists, wnters. musicians or who pursue
some creative activity M onthly potlucks on the second
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for
advanced levels. (PO Box 5352. Portland. OR
Fnday ( Todd 503 236-5763 7(11 /00)
self-identifying women who are into SM Play parties are
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a concert band
held on the second Saturday o f the month (lululist@hot
mailcom. www jps net/wynter/luluspage html,
97228 5352 503-234-9944.
www rdrop. com/users/ramblers 7(11/00)
open to lesbian, gay. transgendered, bi and supportive
musicians and fnends (PO Box 1082. Portland. OR
503 231 -3992.) (05/00)
Team Portland Tennis Association plays every
Sunday 8 am-noon at the University of Portland Women
97207 503-790-2170
http//community.oregonhvecom/cc/rcgfb.) (11 /0 0 )
Mount Hood Womyn networking professionally and
and men players of all skill levels are welcome. (Alex
socially (503-701-8302.) (11/00)
Godmez 503-282-7210 7(11/00)
Northwest Gender Alliance is a social and support
Team Quest the athletic and exercise program of
Metro: General
organization for cross-dressers and transsexuals
Monthly open meetings and socials. (PO Box 4928.
Project Quest, offers individual and group, indoor and
outdoor physical recreation opportunities for peofile liv
Bisexual Community Forum is an age and gender
Portland. OR 97208 503-646-2802
ing with HIV and AIDS. (5(73-493-0288 7 (11/00)
inclusive social, support and education network founded
w w w teleport com/~nwga )(U /0 0 )
in 1980 Activities include dances, potlucks. field tnps
and a polyamory interest group Meetings are held on
the first and third Mondays. (7.30 pm at M o p s Coffee
Den. 2853 SE Stark St Laury 503-285-4848 7(11/00)
Brother to Brother is a family o f Afncan-Amencan
gay and bisexual men dedicated to the empowerment
of. and improvement in the quality o f life within our com
munity Board meetings every third M onday o f the
month at 5:30 pm (Bnan. PO Box 3182. Portland. OR
Oregon Bears is a social group for bears and their
Southern Oregon: Social
admirers Newsletter, activities and monthly social gath
enngs (503-240-2813. www oregonbears org ) (11/00)
Abdill-Ellis Lambda Community Center hosts
ORGAN (Oregon Regional Gay and Naked) is a
social club for nude men who enjoy being gay Monthly
potlucks and events. Guests are invited to attend two
events before deciding on membership (ORGAN.
Box 14174. Portland. O R 97293-0174. 7(11/00)
PO
97208 503-417-7991 7 (1 1 /0 0 )
Portland Bisexual Alliance hosts social and political
Cocksure is a social group for female-bom. gender
events for bisexual and bi fnendly people Organizes
variant people including FTMs. transguys, genderqueers
and significant others W e are based in Portland and
welcome folks from Oregon and W ashington For more
mfo about our monthly m eetings and e-mail network, call
(503) 471-1515. (11/00)
Dipstick Lesbians and Dykes with Hot Rods
mvite women with cool cars to go cruisin' with them
Portland Bi Day rally and publishes calendar of bi events
Mixed gender discussion groups are held 7 pm on the
first and third Fridays of the month at Laughing Horse
Books. 3652 SE Division St Open to all (503-775-9717.
pbaQbrportland org. www biportland org 7 (11 / 00)
Portland Leather Alliance is a pansexual. not for-
profit organization dedicated to fostenng a positive com
(503284 5 5 4 6 ) 0 1 /0 0 )
munity for safe. sane, and consensual alternative adult
sexualities m general and S/M /leather/fetish m particular
FRIENDS
(503-727-3148 www pdxleatheralkanceorg.) (WOO)
is
a weekly support and discussion group
or African American gay and bisexual men that meets
Wednesdays 5-7 pm (Bnan. 503287-8651 ) ( \ \ 700)
social events and groups Call for schedule (Mailing
address: PO Box 927 Ashland. OR 97520. Location
281 Fourth St . Ashland. OR 97520 541-488 6990.
lambdacntr@aolcom. www aekca.org.) (\ 1/00)
Washington: Social
MenTalk of Vancouver holds a social on the first
Monday and a discussion group on the third Monday of
each month at 7 pm (Peter 360-576 6595.
Men TalkofVancWA@webtv net 7 ( 11 / 00 )
SW Washington Gay and Lesbian Socialites is
a Vancouver-based organization whose members get
together regularly for social events and activities The
Socialites was organized to build a sense o f community
among gay men and lesbians m the Portland/Vancouver
area Newsletter available by e mail or USPS
(360-735-1901. Sociahtes@aolcom) ( 11 / 00 )
D ear M s .
B ehavior :
My girlfriend and
l were invited to
spend a long week-
end with a fairly
new gay male friend
with whom we’ve
shared a few enjoy
able outings. The
house we were to
visit (his) sounded
incredible— a fabu
lously decorated, beautiful water
front retreat on a quiet island. We’d
been looking forward to the week
end and had planned some day
trips and elegant dinners. We had
even chosen an appropriate house
warming gift to bring our host in
his new home.
But right before leaving, we
were shocked to receive a cui t e-
mail from our host expressing his
stress over our arrival and asking us
to delay our trip by a day. He went
on to say in the e-mail that our
“messy” dogs were not welcome
(this had previously been discussed
and O K ’ed by him), and with one
day’s notice he told us we should
leave them at home. He also
implied that our visit was too long
and that we’d be overstaying, even
though he’d initially asked us to
lengthen our time with him.
We canceled our weekend, but
now we’re having second thoughts.
As many gay men are known to be
obsessive about possessions and fre
quently unable to express them
selves in a logical manner, should
we have pretended to ignore these
faults in our new friend and gone
ahead with the plans? Do you think
working through this with him will
involve taking on the whole male
psyche and is better left to people
who get paid for it?
— Weekend Thwarted
D ear W eekend T hwarted :
In friendship, as in dating, you
often don’t see what you’re getting
until you get up close. Your host
exposed his neuroses before you
even arrived, which is a bad but
helpful sign. So, you and your girl
friend should consider yourselves
lucky that your visit was thwarted
before you stepped out of your SU V
and into Mr. Poofter’s Island. Now
you can just be irritated in the
comfort and convenience of your
own home, instead of tortured in
the sanctity of his perfectly decorat
ed Museum of the Homosexual
Artifact.
Ms. Behavior imagines that Mr.
P. had to consult with several mem
bers of his Pilates class and his inte
rior designer in order to work up
the courage to ask you to leave
your “messy" dogs home, if he had
n’t, they probably would have shed
their luxurious fur (or worse) onto
the foofy queen’s well-pressed Frette
bed linen. The queen would have
had a hissy fit. Hair pulling would
have ensued. (Helping you visualize
this unpleasant
scene is meant to
affirm that you made
the right decision.)
“Working
through” something
is worthwhile when
there’s a close, long
standing friendship
or at least a comfort
able compatibility
that suggests that a
great friendship is in
the offing. That doesn’t seem to be
the case here.
Ms. Behavior first thought she
was being harsh when she imagined
telling you to dump the hyperele
gant homo, but then she reviewed
the facts:
1. He basically disinvited you.
(There’s nothing wrong with invit
ing friends for a sans-canine visit,
but telling a lesbian to leave her
dogs home without adequate time
to get nurturant doggy care is the
same thing as rescinding the invita
tion.
2. He did it the cowardly way,
via e-mail.
The “’’whole male psyche” is far
too complex a thing to be analyzed
by a couple of lesbians with messy
dogs. But a therapist is also unlikely
to help in this case, since prissy
homosexuals are known to only
hire professionals who empathize
with their aesthetic emphasis.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
Three months ago I met my
boyfriend at a bar and went home
with him. Since then, I’ve never
moved out. My boyfriend is not my
type physically, but I love him
because he is a sweetheart. Now I
am having second thoughts about
this, because I am always thinking
of other guys— primarily cute, thin
guys. I’ve cheated twice because I
get very satisfied looking at a thin
nice body and my boyfriend is a lit
tle fat. He is also about 12 years
older than me. What should I do?
— Frank
D ear F rank :
You have two choices: Ask your
boyfriend for an open relationship
(so that having sex with others
doesn’t involve sneaking around),
or let him go.
Living in your boyfriend’s house
while having sex with “cute, thin
guys” behind his back is not a good
choice. Pinching the fat around
your boyfriend’s abdomen to shame
him into losing weight or making
pig noises when he eats Devil Dogs
would also not be helpful.
You say you love him and that
he’s a sweetheart, so he deserves to
be treated with respect. It also
sounds like he deserves a boyfriend
who isn’t a shallow, vapid user, so
see what you can arrange.
■ Write your confused and conflicted
heart out to Ms. B ehavior at
M sBehavioT@ ad.com .
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