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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (July 7, 2000)
M y 7.2000 » j u s t M t , 3 3 Good Samaritan Hosprtal. (1040 NW 22nd A ve, Sixth Floor, meeting room B .) (11 /00) Live and Let Live C lub holds 12 step meetings and social activities for the lesbian and gay recovery commu nity. Call for current meeting times and activities. (2940-A SE Belmont S t 503-238-6091.) (11 /00) The Lunch Bunch hosts AA meetings for gays and lesbians, but is open to everyone. Meetings daily at noon except Sundays at 1 pm. (M etropolitan Community Church of Portland, 2400 NE Broadway, enter on the north side o f the building.) (11 /00) Rainbow A l-Anon meets Thursdays at 6 pm at the MCC Church, NW 24th Ave and Broadway. (503-222-5756). (11/00) walks, archaeology, rock collecting, camping, kayaking, star gazing, an occasional "lecture" and a monthly plan ning potluck No experience necessary (6 45-8 30 pm second Thursday planning meeting 503-289-3605 or 503 6398936 or 503-466-0058 or e-mail to lespnwQaol com 7(11 /00) Metro: Physical Recreation Lesbian social group fo r women 50 and over The Adventure Group. Portland's gay and lesbian meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503-281-4424. 503-331 -0415.) (11 /00) Long Yang Club— Portland C hapter a social group for Asian gays and lesbians and their fnends. meets at 8 pm on the first Wednesday and third Sunday of each month at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. (503-963-1841.)(\ 1/00) Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for Willamette Valley: Health Womenspace provides a 24-hour hot line and shelter for women and children who have been abused physical ly, sexually, or em otionally Also hosts a lesbian and bisexual women's support group. (Chsis: 541-485-6513. business: 541-485-8232. lesbian alliance: 541-302-2417 ) ( 1 1/00) SOCIAL self-identifying women who are into SM Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month. (lululistQhot- mailcom. ww.v.ps. net/wynter/luluspage. html, 503-231-3992.) (05/00) M ount Hood Womyn networking professionally and socially. (503- 701 -8302. 7(11 /00) N orthw est Gender A lliance is a social and support organization for cross-dressers and transsexuals. Monthly open meetings and socials. (PO Box 4928. Portland. OR 97208 503-646-2802. www teleport. com/~nwga. 7(11 /00) Oregon Bears is a social group for bears and their admirers. Newsletter, activities and monthly social gath erings. (503-240-2813, www.oregonbears.org.) (11 /00) Metro: A rts & M usic F irst Wednesday S ocial is a potluck fo r HIV-*- people and their fnends (Contact Phillip at 503-493- 3761.) (11/00) ( 11 / 00 ) Portland Gay M en's C horus is open to singers, support members and volunteers. (503-460-3689 www pdxgmc.org.) (11/00) The Real C onnection is a social gathenng for gay men who are artists, wnters, musicians or who pursue some creative activity. M onthly potlucks on the second Fnday (Todd 503-236-5763.) (11 /00 ) ORGAN (Oregon Regional Gay and Naked) is a vanant people including FTMs, transguys, genderqueers and significant others. We are based in Portland and welcome folks from Oregon and W ashington. For more info about our monthly meetings and e-mail network, call (503) 471-1515 (11/00) social club for nude men who enjoy being gay Monthly potlucks and events. Guests are invited to attend two events before deciding on membership. (ORGAN. PO Box 14174. Portland. OR 97293-0174.) (11/00) D ipstick Lesbians and D ykes w ith H ot Rods cal events for bisexual and bi-fnendly people. Organizes Portland Bi Day rally and publishes calendar of bi events Mixed gender discussion groups are held 7 pm on the first and third Fridays of the month at Laughing Horse Books, 3652 SE Division St. Open to all. (503-775-9717. pba@biportland.org. www.txportland.org.) (11/00) ( 11 / 00 ) Im perial Sovereign Rose C ourt o f Oregon is a nonprofit social organization dedicated to raising money for chanties within the gay. lesbian, bisexual and trans community. ISRC Event Hotline lists upcoming events (503-306-0700. !SRC@aolcom, www geocities com /W estH ollyw ood/H eights/7887) ( 11 / 00 ) Jewish Gay M en's G roup— call for meeting time and place (503-246-5939. efraim leviQaol.com .) ( 11/00) An informal Leather N ight and Red Hanky Social are held the first and third Fnday of each month. (9 pm- 12 am at the D irty Duck Tavern. 439 NW Third Ave 503-224 8446. PDXSaltyDgQaol com ) (11/00) Lesbians Enjoying the Sciences is a fun-loving group of women who enjoy explonng all aspects of the environment Activities include bird watching, nature K-9 Club is a group of kindred folks and their dogs who meet to hike and talk in Portland parks on the sec ond Sunday of each month. (503-285-2986) (11 /00) Lesbian Equestrian Group Do you have a horse? Looking to get together with womyn and horses for equestnan activities in the Pacific Northwest. Call Denise at (503) 654-3865 or Lynn at (503) 777-2339, ore-m ail kelrav@rdrop.com. (11/00) ( 11 / 00 ) Cocksure is a social group for female-bom. gender providing an accepting, social environment for chubby men. and the men who like them that way. (503-241 4535 o r www chubnet.net/qentleqiants) FOREST Group outings are cooperative adventures for women. Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropnate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome. (503-286-5382. www.odin.cc.pdx.edu/-gijm) (11/001 Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream, plus and advanced levels (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228-5352. 503-234-9944, www rdrop. com /users/ram blers.) ( 11 / 00 ) Gentle Giants o f O regon is a group dedicated to Mondays at 6 pm for bicycle ndes. All nding levels wel come. (503-254-6971.) (11/00) ( 11 / 00 ) B rother to B rother is a fam ily of African- Amencan gay and bisexual men dedicated to the empowerment of, and improvement in the quality of life within our community Board meetings every third Monday of the month at 5:30 pm. (Brian. PO Box 3182. Portland. OR 97208 503-417-7991.) group for lesbians 35 and over, singles or couples. They meet for a potluck on the third Saturday of each month and take camping trips during the summer. Monthly newsletter is $9 per year (503-232-9714.) CLIPS-Cycling Lesbians in Portland meets pm at Hollywood Lanes. 40th Ave. and Halsey St. (PO Box 80002. Portland. OR 97280-1002. 503-293- 0438 BOWLpdx@aol.com. mem bers aol. com/BOW Lpdx/pcba html.) Bisexual Com m unity Forum is an age and gender-inclusive social, support and education net work founded in 1980. Activities include dances, potlucks, field trips and a polyamory interest group Meetings are held on the first and third Mondays. (7:30 pm at M q o 's Coffee Den. 2853 SE Stark St. Lauiy 503-285-4848.) (W O O ) Funny Ladies Tea and Poey S ociety, is a social motorcycle club for gay men and friends in Western Canada and the Pacific Northwest, hosts day runs and camping events. (bcbiker@yahoo com, www bordemd- ers.org.) ( 11/00) Portland Gay and Lesbian Community Bowling Association bowls Sundays at 4 Metro: General FRIENDS is a weekly support and discussion group for African American gay and bisexual men that meets Wednesdays 5-7 pm (Bnan. 503-287-8651.) (W OO ) Border Riders M otorcycle Club . the largest Out Dancing teaches partner dancing for same-sex couples at Sally Mack's School of Dance. Classes for different dance styles start the first Fnday of each month. (503-236-5129.) ( 11/00) Rose C ity Gay Freedom Band is a concert band open to lesbian, gay, transgendered, bi and supportive musicians and friends. (PO Box 1082. Portland. OR 97207. 503-790-2170. http://com m u mty oregonlive. com /cc/rcgfb.) (11 /00 ) ( 11 / 00 ) outdoors group, organizes a vanety of activities and social events including hiking, skiing, mountain biking, camping and rafting. (503-452-5680, www adventure- group org.) (11/00) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gar dening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time Please call or e-mail for a current copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events. (Kathe, 503-909-2002. e-mail LCCOregon@aol.com) (11 /00) The P ortland Lesbian C ho ir welcomes support ive members and volunteers. (503-241-8994) invite women with cool cars to go cruisin' with them. (Rachel 503-735-1184. Devioune 503-289-3104.) First Baptist Church. 125 SE Cowls St., McMinnville Don 503-434-6266.) (11/00) Portland Bisexual A lliance hosts social and politi P ortland Leather A lliance is a pansexual. not-for- profit organization dedicated to fostenng a positive com munity for safe, sane, and consensual alternative adult sexualities in general and S /M /leather/fetish in particu lar (503-727-3148 wwwpdxleatheralhanceorg.) ( 11 / 00 ) Portland M etro Prime Tim er* is a social group for men. (PO Box 5884 . Portland. OR 97228. 50-244-7550 o r 360-254-1718 pdxpnmetimers@ yahoocom.)( 11 /00) PSU Queers and A llies invites everyone to partici pate in activities and meetings Educational and social programming, support and referral services for persons of all onentations and colors (441A Smith Memonal Center. Portland State University campus E-mail queer- sandalliesQmail pdx.edu www ess pdx edu/sfcsg/queersandalhes 503 725 5681 .7(11/00) Rose C ity Discussion Club, the largest open pan- sexual club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensu al Monthly meetings, workshops, and newsletter (503-972-1869 rcdcQteleport com. www teleport co m /- rcdc ) (11 /00) Together Works, a confidential group for lesbians, gays, bisexuals, and fnends. meets for socials and dis cussions of topics of mutual interest Meets second and fourth Mondays (7 30 pm May Sept.. 7 pm O ct -April Ski Out is a LGBT ski club with outings twice monthly to Mt. Hood and other destinations. Join us for downhill and cross-country skiing, snow boarding or lodge lounging (503-973-3441. www.skiout.org.) (05/00) Team Portland Tennis Association plays every Sunday 8 am-noon at the University of Portland. Women and men players of all skill levels are welcome. (Alex Godinez 503282-7210) (11/00) Team Quest, the athletic and exercise program of Project Quest, offers individual and group, indoor and outdoor physical recreation opportunities for people liv ing with HIV and AIDS (503-493 0288.) (11/00) Southern Oregon: Social A bdill-E llis Lambda Community Center hosts social events and groups. Call for schedule. (Mailing address: PO Box 927 Ashland. OR 97520. Location: 281 Fourth St.. Ashland. OR 97520 541-488-6990. lambdacntr@aol com. www aelcca org ) ( 11 /00) Washington: Social MenTalk of Vancouver holds a social on the first Monday and a discussion group on the third Monday of each month at 7 pm. (Peter 360-576-6595. Men TalkofVancWAQwebtv net.) (11/00) SW Washington Gay and Lesbian Socialites is a Vancouver-based organization whose members get together regularly for social events and activities. The Socialites was organized to build a sense of community among gay men and lesbians in the Portland/Vancouver area Newsletter available by e-mail or USPS. (360 735 1901. Socialites@aol com.) (11 /00) Tha Thorny Rosas is a social group for lesbians, pn manly over 45. who live in the Vancouver/Clark County Wash area Please contact Judy. (360) 906 1763. e- mail: Judy342@cs com (11/00) But don’t make your life unneces sarily dramatic; try not to leap into the warm and juicy lap of lesbianism until you’ve come to accept that it’s what you want and need to do. A bit of pru dence may prevent you from having delusions of control and suffering the fate of many formerly hetero sexual women who have been unceremoniously stripped of the belief that they could just dabble in brief and uncomplicated lesbian affairs while keeping the rest of their lives intact. (Ms Behavior believes that there’s a potato chip commercial that addresses this particular issue.) D ear M s . B ehavior : I’ve been married to a wonderful man for 12 years, but I’m coming to accept that I’m probably a lesbian. I am 35 and very close to my family, who are lov ing but conservative and quite homopho bic (in an ignorant, not a mean, way). I have been so happily mar ried that I think if I told my fami ly 1 was a lesbian they might have me committed (to say nothing of the heartbreak this would create for my wonderful husband). I see now that I have ignored huge signs since age 6, and in the past eight years I have fallen in love with two women— who, luck ily, were heterosexual. But this is starting to get painful and fright ening as I enter my “baby-making” years. My life is very good in many ways, but I fear that it may not be “complete,” whatever that means. I’m not really physically attracted to men. I’ve had one lover in my entire life (my hus band, whom I started dating when we were 18— he was a virgin too). My life has been so linked to this one person and this one path since I was a teen-ager. I have one incredible lesbian friend for sup port, but this is a lot for her to handle. Anyway, 1 enjoyed your book so much and you seem to possess a lot of wisdom along with a wicked sense of humor. I know you don’t have a crystal ball and god knows how many letters you receive, but I thought I’d give this a shot. What the hell should I do? — D. D ear M s . B ehavior : I work for a company com prised of 50 people. I am the token gay male and we have a token lesbian, whom I’ll call Sally. I am out to several straight people, but Sally keeps to herself. I know she’s gay because she goes to the Dinah Shore golf tournament in Palm Springs and has a summer home in Provincetown. I have tried to come out to her several times and wanted to make our relationship gay-friendly, but I have failed miserably. She used to be pleasant, but lately she has been terse and abrupt, which puz zles me. We are working on the same project, and last week she sent me a rude e-mail with insen sitive remarks about my work. This is not the first time I have locked horns with a lesbian. Why do lesbians hate me? I don't see a way to improve this situation. Please help. —R D ear D. j You’re brave to take this on, and probably have no choice. It’s bittersweet that coming out— if that’s where you’re headed— will be difficult because you’re so happy in your marriage. Give yourself time to sort out your feel ings. It may help to imagine your self 10 years from now: Are you happy envisioning yourself with your wonderful husband? Or do you prefer to fantasize about life with a delightful bride? If you make a decision that’s based in truth, your family, your friends and even your husband may ultimately support you. But until then, you’ll need more sup port than you can get from your one dyke friend and Ms. Behavior. That might mean one-on-one therapy, where you can safely dis cuss your confusion. Or, if you call queer support organizations, you can probably find a group of mar- ried-but-confused dykes-in-wait ing, where you can sit in a circle and talk about your longing. [See listing for Late Awakenings in this paper’s Out &. About section.) D ear R: Ms. Behavior doesn’t mean to shock you, but not all lesbians are friendly. Furthermore, Ms. Behavior would have to meet you in person to determine why les bians hate you, or even if it’s true. Sally may dislike your personal ity, but it’s also possible that she’s baring her teeth at you because she’s self-loathing and closeted. The fact that you’re both queer— if she plays golf she must be— may not be enough reason to be friends. If you worked in San Francisco or Manhattan, you’d have plenty of queer coworkers and wouldn’t try so hard to court a grouchy and critical dyke. And if Sally is a closet case, attempts to insert subtle references to gay cul ture in conversation or to induce her to join you in show tunes will probably only annoy her. Write your confused and conflict - ed heart out to Ms. BEHAVIOR at Ms Behavtor@aol. com . ■
