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f U1 The week in K^L'ntertainmmt ■ Thursday, April 13 8 p.m.—University Jazz Combo Night, The Buzz Coffeehouse. Free. Until 10 p.m. 8 p.m.—Magical Thursday, WOW Hall, 291 W. Eighth Ave. D.J. dance, $6 at the door. Until 1 a.m. 8 p.m. — Eugene Symphony Orches tra, Silva Concert Hall, One Eugene Center. Tickets $12-36. 9 p.m. — Pop Roast with Robert Wil son and Bass 0*Solo (acoustic), Sam Bond’s Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. $3-5 cover. 9:30 p.m. —Jam Session, Jo Federi go’s Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. Free. 9:30 p.m. — Lorelei (acoustic jazz, blues, swing), The Buzz Coffeehouse. Free. Until 11:30 p.m. 10 p.m.—‘80s Dance Night (dance), John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. No cov er charge for women; men $2. ■ Friday, April 14 8 p.m. — Persona (film), 180 PLC. $2 students, $3 general public. 8 p.m.—Woody Guthrie’s American Song, Soreng Theater, Hult Center, One Eugene Center. Tickets $16-25. 9 p.m.—Open Mk Night, The Buzz Coffeehouse. Free. 9:30 p.m.—Lazoo, Jo Federigo’s Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. $3 cover. 10 p.m.—Basic Assumptions and Free Radicals (rock), John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. $3 cover charge. _ ■ Saturday, April 15 2 p.m.—Woody Guthrie’s American Song, Soreng Theater, Hult Center, One Eugene Center. Tickets $16-25. 7 p.m.—Jaimie Maderas-Wood, Chez Ray’s Restaurant, 30 W. 10th. Ave. No cover. 9 p.m.—Eugene Blackman, da’Refuge, 1171 Fairfield. Ave. Until 1 a.m. Free. 9 p.m.—U-Gene Band, Chez Ray’s Restaurant, 30 W. 10th. Ave. No cov er. 9 p.m.—Derrick Cameron and Joel Clements (stand-up comedy), Scan dals Night club, 2222 Centennial Blvd. $6 cover. 9:30 p.m.—Lazoo, Jo Federigo’s Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. $3 cover. 9:30 p.m. — Jamie Rust (acoustic folk), The Buzz Coffeehouse. Free. Un til 11:30 p.m. 10 p.m.—Olen Kent Presents, Hot For Chocolate and Cat Dancers (vari ety), John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. $3 cover charge. ■ Sunday, April 16 4 p.m.—Irish Jam, Sam Bond’s Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. Free. 5 p.m.—International Night (dinner and dance), EMU. $11 students, $14 faculty and general public; $13 stu dents, $16 faculty and general public. Group discounts available. 6:30 p.m.—Chris LeDoux, Silva Con cert Hall, Hult Center, One Eugene Center. Tickets $22.50-27.50. 8 p.m.—Laura Kemp, Katie Henry and Francine Allen (acoustic), Sam Bond’s Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. $3-5 cover. 9 p.m.—System 13, Porch Monkeez (rock), John Henry’s, 136 E.11th Ave. $1 cover charge. 9:30 p.m.—Mark Alan (acoustic gui tar and vocals), Jo Federigo’s Restau rant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. $3 cover. ■ Monday, April 17 6:30 p.m.—Open Mic, Jo Federigo’s Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. Free. 10 p.m.—Mixology 101 (trance, jun gle), John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. No cover charge for women; $2 cover for men. ■ Tuesday, April 18 2:30 p.m. — Ethic Studies lecture: Native American Creative Expression, Room 138, Gilbert Hall. Free. 6 p.m.—Y2G: Gender Perceptions in the New Millennium reception, Adel I McMillan Gallery, EMU. Until 7:30 p.m. 6:30 p.m.—Chefs Night Out, Hult Center Lobby, One Eugene Center. Tickets $50. 8 p.m.—Phi Beta Benefit Recital (Mark Beudert, tenor), Central Luther an Church, 1857 Potter St. 8p.m.—University Ensemble Con cert, Room 198, Music Byilding. Graduate composition students pres Photo courtesy Paul Hemphill Eugene Blackman plays with da’Refuge at 1171 Fairfield Ave. Saturday, April 15 from 9 p.m. to 1 a.m. Admission is free.. ent new music. Free. 8:30 p.m.—Barbara Dzuro Jazz Pi ano, Jo Federigo’s Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. Free. 9 p.m.—Giant Sand, Brokebackand M Ward, Sam Bond’s Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. $7 cover. 10 p.m.—Justice League of America Night at the House (house), John Hen ry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. No cover charge for women; $2 cover for men. ■ Wednesday, April 19 noon—Lecture: Gender Equity in Higher Education in Vietnam, Room 330, Hendricks Hall. Free. 5 p.m.—MusEvenings! extended viewing hours of museum exhibits, Museum of Art, 1430 Johnson lane. Free, Until 8 p.m. 8 p.m. —The Skatalites and Bargain Music (ska/ reggae), WOW Hall, 291 W. Eighth Ave. $10 advance, $12 at the door. 8 p.m.—University Ensemble Con cert, Beall Concert Hall, 961 E. 18th Ave. $3 students and senior citizens, $5 general. 9 p.m.—Bluegrassjam, Sam Bond’s Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. Tips accepted. 9:30 p.m.—Paul Paydos Jam Session (variety), Jo Federigo’s Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. Free. 10 p.m. — Justice League of America Night at the House (dance hall house), John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. No cov er charge for women; $2 cover for men. Boyfriend has mutual attraction to another woman Ask Harlan Dear Harlan, My boyfriend and I have become friends with this woman he works with. We have gone out with her and her husband before and really enjoy each other’s company. A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend told me he is attracted to her and that if he were single and she were single, he’d pur sue a relationship with her. He told me that he has also told her this, and the feel ing is mutual. Now, I get nervous when they’re alone together. He often compliments her on the way she looks, but he does the same for me. He told me he loves me too much to cheat on me and I have nothing to worry about. I’ve heard that before in past relationships and have gotten hurt. What do I do? I love him and enjoy be ing with him, but I feel threatened. — A little concerned Dear Concerned, I think it’s great that your boyfriend tells you about every woman that he wants. It’s so very hard to find a guy who can be so brutally honest that he has total disregard for your feelings and emotional well-being. He’s a real keeper! What’s this guy thinking? You need to ask him because I have no idea. Maybe he’s trying to make you jeal ous. Maybe he’s trying to push you away. Maybe he’s just a complete idiot with zero common sense. You have every right to feel threatened, and you have every right to dump him if you don’t like his answer. A healthy rela tionship is about trust, but how can you trust him when he tells you this woman would act on her feelings if she wasn’t married? It’s absurd. If you do stay with him, don’t put up with this ever again. Dear Harlan, So, I went out with this guy for four years. I thought he was the one. Then, I guess he decided he needed to play the field in his last year in college. We "broke up" in October but main tained the physical portion of the relation ship until January. We got back to school and he started dating this little girl he takes to the bars and brings to his friends house in front of me. He and I have since had a few encoun ters in which we couldn’t control our physical attraction for each other and end ed up in bed. One of which was the day she left for spring break. He told me he has no intention of telling his new girl about our sexual encounters. She has the right to know if someone she is sleeping with is sleeping with some one else, not just relationship speaking, but that is just not safe sex. Am I crazy because I want to tell her everything? What should I do, if anything? — Super Bitter Ex Dear Bitter, That’s so sweet of you to be so con cerned about her sexual safety. Someone else might think you’re telling her out of bitter spite rather than public health. If you want to tell the girl, then tell the girl, but don’t pretend it’s for her well-be ing. This isn’t about her. It’s about you re senting your boyfriend for dating this “lit tle girl.” You’re upset and you’re angry and you’re trying to fool yourself. It’s childish, and it’s wrong. Stop ob sessing over the guy and move forward. If anything, he sounds like a creepy cheater you’re better off avoiding. *Harlan is not a licensed psychologist, therapist or physician, but he is a licensed driver. Write Harlan via e-mail at harlan@helpmeharlan.com or on-line at www.helpmeharlan.com. All letters submitted become the property of the column. From mild to/ EXCLUSIVELY It doesn t have to be dirty to be good EXOTIC • EROTIC TOYS-VIDEOS-LINGERIE 1166 South A • Springfield • 726-6969 • Open 24 Hours (Almost) 006441 A Dozen Wrapped Roses for $1995
