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■ Thursday, April 13
8 p.m.—University Jazz Combo
Night, The Buzz Coffeehouse. Free.
Until 10 p.m.
8 p.m.—Magical Thursday, WOW
Hall, 291 W. Eighth Ave. D.J. dance, $6
at the door. Until 1 a.m.
8 p.m. — Eugene Symphony Orches
tra, Silva Concert Hall, One Eugene
Center. Tickets $12-36.
9 p.m. — Pop Roast with Robert Wil
son and Bass 0*Solo (acoustic), Sam
Bond’s Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. $3-5
cover.
9:30 p.m. —Jam Session, Jo Federi
go’s Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E.
Fifth Ave. Free.
9:30 p.m. — Lorelei (acoustic jazz,
blues, swing), The Buzz Coffeehouse.
Free. Until 11:30 p.m.
10 p.m.—‘80s Dance Night (dance),
John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. No cov
er charge for women; men $2.
■ Friday, April 14
8 p.m. — Persona (film), 180 PLC. $2
students, $3 general public.
8 p.m.—Woody Guthrie’s American
Song, Soreng Theater, Hult Center,
One Eugene Center. Tickets $16-25.
9 p.m.—Open Mk Night, The Buzz
Coffeehouse. Free.
9:30 p.m.—Lazoo, Jo Federigo’s
Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth
Ave. $3 cover.
10 p.m.—Basic Assumptions and
Free Radicals (rock), John Henry’s,
136 E. 11th Ave. $3 cover charge.
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■ Saturday, April 15
2 p.m.—Woody Guthrie’s American
Song, Soreng Theater, Hult Center,
One Eugene Center. Tickets $16-25.
7 p.m.—Jaimie Maderas-Wood, Chez
Ray’s Restaurant, 30 W. 10th. Ave. No
cover.
9 p.m.—Eugene Blackman,
da’Refuge, 1171 Fairfield. Ave. Until
1 a.m. Free.
9 p.m.—U-Gene Band, Chez Ray’s
Restaurant, 30 W. 10th. Ave. No cov
er.
9 p.m.—Derrick Cameron and Joel
Clements (stand-up comedy), Scan
dals Night club, 2222 Centennial
Blvd. $6 cover.
9:30 p.m.—Lazoo, Jo Federigo’s
Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth
Ave. $3 cover.
9:30 p.m. — Jamie Rust (acoustic
folk), The Buzz Coffeehouse. Free. Un
til 11:30 p.m.
10 p.m.—Olen Kent Presents, Hot
For Chocolate and Cat Dancers (vari
ety), John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. $3
cover charge.
■ Sunday, April 16
4 p.m.—Irish Jam, Sam Bond’s
Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. Free.
5 p.m.—International Night (dinner
and dance), EMU. $11 students, $14
faculty and general public; $13 stu
dents, $16 faculty and general public.
Group discounts available.
6:30 p.m.—Chris LeDoux, Silva Con
cert Hall, Hult Center, One Eugene
Center. Tickets $22.50-27.50.
8 p.m.—Laura Kemp, Katie Henry
and Francine Allen (acoustic), Sam
Bond’s Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. $3-5
cover.
9 p.m.—System 13, Porch Monkeez
(rock), John Henry’s, 136 E.11th Ave.
$1 cover charge.
9:30 p.m.—Mark Alan (acoustic gui
tar and vocals), Jo Federigo’s Restau
rant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave.
$3 cover.
■ Monday, April 17
6:30 p.m.—Open Mic, Jo Federigo’s
Restaurant and Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth
Ave. Free.
10 p.m.—Mixology 101 (trance, jun
gle), John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave.
No cover charge for women; $2 cover
for men.
■ Tuesday, April 18
2:30 p.m. — Ethic Studies lecture:
Native American Creative Expression,
Room 138, Gilbert Hall. Free.
6 p.m.—Y2G: Gender Perceptions in
the New Millennium reception, Adel I
McMillan Gallery, EMU. Until 7:30
p.m.
6:30 p.m.—Chefs Night Out, Hult
Center Lobby, One Eugene Center.
Tickets $50.
8 p.m.—Phi Beta Benefit Recital
(Mark Beudert, tenor), Central Luther
an Church, 1857 Potter St.
8p.m.—University Ensemble Con
cert, Room 198, Music Byilding.
Graduate composition students pres
Photo courtesy Paul Hemphill
Eugene Blackman plays with da’Refuge at 1171 Fairfield Ave. Saturday, April 15
from 9 p.m. to 1 a.m. Admission is free..
ent new music. Free.
8:30 p.m.—Barbara Dzuro Jazz Pi
ano, Jo Federigo’s Restaurant and
Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. Free.
9 p.m.—Giant Sand, Brokebackand
M Ward, Sam Bond’s Garage, 407
Blair Blvd. $7 cover.
10 p.m.—Justice League of America
Night at the House (house), John Hen
ry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. No cover charge
for women; $2 cover for men.
■ Wednesday, April 19
noon—Lecture: Gender Equity in
Higher Education in Vietnam, Room
330, Hendricks Hall. Free.
5 p.m.—MusEvenings! extended
viewing hours of museum exhibits,
Museum of Art, 1430 Johnson lane.
Free, Until 8 p.m.
8 p.m. —The Skatalites and Bargain
Music (ska/ reggae), WOW Hall, 291 W.
Eighth Ave. $10 advance, $12 at the
door.
8 p.m.—University Ensemble Con
cert, Beall Concert Hall, 961 E. 18th
Ave. $3 students and senior citizens,
$5 general.
9 p.m.—Bluegrassjam, Sam Bond’s
Garage, 407 Blair Blvd. Tips accepted.
9:30 p.m.—Paul Paydos Jam Session
(variety), Jo Federigo’s Restaurant and
Jazz Club, 259 E. Fifth Ave. Free.
10 p.m. — Justice League of America
Night at the House (dance hall house),
John Henry’s, 136 E. 11th Ave. No cov
er charge for women; $2 cover for
men.
Boyfriend has mutual attraction to another woman
Ask Harlan
Dear Harlan,
My boyfriend and I have become friends
with this woman he works with. We have
gone out with her and her husband before
and really enjoy each other’s company.
A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend
told me he is attracted to her and that if he
were single and she were single, he’d pur
sue a relationship with her. He told me
that he has also told her this, and the feel
ing is mutual. Now, I get nervous when
they’re alone together.
He often compliments her on the way
she looks, but he does the same for me. He
told me he loves me too much to cheat on
me and I have nothing to worry about. I’ve
heard that before in past relationships and
have gotten hurt.
What do I do? I love him and enjoy be
ing with him, but I feel threatened.
— A little concerned
Dear Concerned,
I think it’s great that your boyfriend
tells you about every woman that he
wants. It’s so very hard to find a guy who
can be so brutally honest that he has total
disregard for your feelings and emotional
well-being. He’s a real keeper!
What’s this guy thinking?
You need to ask him because I have no
idea. Maybe he’s trying to make you jeal
ous. Maybe he’s trying to push you away.
Maybe he’s just a complete idiot with zero
common sense.
You have every right to feel threatened,
and you have every right to dump him if
you don’t like his answer. A healthy rela
tionship is about trust, but how can you
trust him when he tells you this woman
would act on her feelings if she wasn’t
married? It’s absurd.
If you do stay with him, don’t put up
with this ever again.
Dear Harlan,
So, I went out with this guy for four
years. I thought he was the one. Then, I
guess he decided he needed to play the
field in his last year in college.
We "broke up" in October but main
tained the physical portion of the relation
ship until January. We got back to school
and he started dating this little girl he
takes to the bars and brings to his friends
house in front of me.
He and I have since had a few encoun
ters in which we couldn’t control our
physical attraction for each other and end
ed up in bed. One of which was the day
she left for spring break. He told me he has
no intention of telling his new girl about
our sexual encounters.
She has the right to know if someone
she is sleeping with is sleeping with some
one else, not just relationship speaking,
but that is just not safe sex.
Am I crazy because I want to tell her
everything? What should I do, if anything?
— Super Bitter Ex
Dear Bitter,
That’s so sweet of you to be so con
cerned about her sexual safety. Someone
else might think you’re telling her out of
bitter spite rather than public health.
If you want to tell the girl, then tell the
girl, but don’t pretend it’s for her well-be
ing. This isn’t about her. It’s about you re
senting your boyfriend for dating this “lit
tle girl.” You’re upset and you’re angry
and you’re trying to fool yourself.
It’s childish, and it’s wrong. Stop ob
sessing over the guy and move forward. If
anything, he sounds like a creepy cheater
you’re better off avoiding.
*Harlan is not a licensed psychologist, therapist or
physician, but he is a licensed driver. Write Harlan
via e-mail at harlan@helpmeharlan.com or on-line
at www.helpmeharlan.com. All letters submitted
become the property of the column.
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