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'J s i 111 iiimiiiniiijin" i u v..cun iu .aw r . ; DAILY CAPITAL JOURNAL, OALEM, OREGON, THURSDAY, MARCH 24, 1004. nmm i.t fj iVWW w - THREE SCHOOL OF MATRIMONY bofotny Dix Talks In He Usually Att- less and Cnarming Manne:- And Makes Some Suggestions Worthy of Being Setiously Considered It Is ehoerlng nows to loam thatirolo wo aro trying to play, and the tho state of Iowa Is grappling with chief reason that marrlago Is bo often itho divorce evil at tho right end of tho problem. In tliat cnllghtonod commonwealth it Is proposed to estab lish a school whoro young men and women contemplating entering Into the holy estate of wedlock, may tako a course of instruction and receive a diploma for proficiency In knowing how to keop domestic peace, and to this end a bill has boon Introduced into tho legislature asking that the governor bo ompoworcd to appoint a "state director or marrlago roform Instruction." This Is tho first practical plan that has yet been suggested for dealing with one of tho groat moral Issues of our day. In married llfo an ounco of prevention is worth a pound of ali mony, and tho only wtvy to koep pec plo from getting divorcee is to keep them from wanting them. Preachers (may preach and moralists may moral die, but as long as tho bond that holds fa coupio togethor 1b a galling yoke ?and not a silken tlo. Just so long will fthoy break It Tho real cause of too much dlvorco Is too much and too Indiscriminate marrying. Misery the Result of Ignorance. Any obsorvor can toll you that most of tho domestic mlsory In. tho world Is tho result of lgnoranoo. and not I of premeditated mallco. When wo tread upon tho sensibilities of our husbands and wives, when wo rasp their norves, and shock their tastoB, wo do not do it with n sot purpose of aggravating them. Wo do it bo- cause we don't know any bettor. Wo haven't prepared oursolvos for tho a falluro is because it la universally thought that Uio ability to bo a good husband or wlfo Is tho result of in spiration and not intelligence a Bort of craft that any sort of a bluuderlng amateur can pick up and dash off without study or apprenticeship. It Is this misconception that the school of matrimony proposes to com bat. It will raise marrlgao to tho lovel of ono of tlia learned professions, Instead of a Jack leg trado that any idiot can 'practice, and thus will tho first stop bo taken towards tho abol ition of dlvorco, and tho ushering in of tho domestic mlllonntum. If you start two ships out to soil the seas, one of which la piloted- by a skilled navlgutor, and the Othar by an Ignor ant landlubber who has never seen salt wator before, the dullest person alive can toll which vessol will go to pieces on tho rocks. Leaden Roll Leads to Divorce. Just what the curriculum In the school of matrimony will ombraco has not yet been mndo public, but tho girls' courso will undoubtedly be gin with detailed instruction in how to cook and keop houso. Tho first dlsllllualon many nay, most hus bands got 1 from tho bad housokeop lng of tholr wives. -It Ib unromantlc, but it is a truth, that you can drown lovo In muddy coffoo, and choke It to death on tough steak, and slay It beyond tho power of resjrrectlon on soggy biscuit. Do suro that it is at a bad breakfast tablo that the young husband rst begins to suspect that ho has mado a mistake In .his choice of a wife and has missed his affinity. "Exhibit A" In many a dlvorco ease, is a leaden roll. Thoro's no use in saying this is put ting things on a low level. It's sim ply taking human nature as It Is, Plain living and high thinking may bo enough for a phlllsopher. Horoes In novels can live on sentiment alone, but In real life most of us don't get much abovo our surroundings. Wo aro never aritlcal of those who make ua comfortable, but thoro's precious little lovo that can survive an ill kept home. Tho woman who understands the fine art of ioedlng us and mak ing us comfortablo doesn't have to suo for our love. She can command It This Isn't all, howovor. A good table and a clean hearth are much, but thoy are not all, and Inasmuch as all women aro fairly Intelligent, It doos not Becmi like tho school of matri mony might do missionary work in teaching thorn a branch of charaqtor study that would onable thorn to deal with ncumon with tho peculiarities of tho man thoy marry. If womon gavo as much tlmo tp studying their hus bands as o trying to understand Ibson tho world would be a cheorful placo to Hvo in. Then somebody ought to ondow a chair of "perpetual fasclnntlon." Cu pid is always painted with wlngs. That Is to show how oaslly lovo can fly away from u. Womon never grasp tho significance of this. Thoy think becauso a man loves thorn once ho will continue to do so. It Is a ehoerlng thought, and thoy work It for all it is worth. Many a man who marrios a girl becauso of hor dainti ness and charm and amiability, never soee that sldo of hor character again. Sho wears hor dowdy clothes for htm, sho saves hor amiability for others, and hor wit for strangors. I humbly maintain that tho man who pays a woman's bills has n right to tho bost sho can glvo, and I havo never yet known a wlfo who persisted in regard ing her husband as- company who was worth .fixing up for ami ontertalnlng raLCoffee PerfectioiivB1MW!ra I Wc have been selecting, blending and t 11 II J roasting coffee for over half a century. HI Q I Golden Gate is the result of our long i! 1 i coffee experience. Wc cannot improve it. B Could not make it better if wc tried. I 1 No one knows how to blend it but our- i I selves. Golden Gate is fragrantdelicious. If I B High grade grocers sell it. If 8 I IS I and 3 lb. aroma-tight tins. II 18 KSE!!- ? A. FoIger A.Co., San Francisco k"mmn& Tn& last tfiat IS . ' f sP'sl "' ''" A JEa 5 St A Via lTjM I If Sefe Royal Blue Footfoum Last Is the most sensible shoe-shape eve jji? educed All feet ae not alike Some people haven't even two alike But the Footom L&st fits a bigge pef centage of feet than any shape yot eve saw them long enough, ;Iiyou .dp itfl! he long enough, heiote you need an other pair ' Your shoe man ought to he glad td supply you. He will make business fcy doing so. You'll advettise KinV. Let us know if he wont. absolute perfection in this world. At any rate, the school of matrf mony0ia$ a greatjtfrnturo before (t and tt "state dlr&tor of marringt reform,Vlnatruetl.c(tt" is destined to b tne solver of Che' divorce problem. May Ifts tribe fhcmsel What Time Proves. - This thing of being alck and 'loeking: for a ours is a mighty sorloua busi ness. People are not given to Joking even at (be first symptom of tho ap proach of the Orlm Destroyer. Thoy do not want to bo thesubjpcts of ex periment, but want modlolno that hna had tho test of yearn behind It, A medloino that has bean mado and: used for 20 years gives assuranco oC Its worth, and can be takon with a faith that they have tho vory host euro tho world affords'. All this can bo Bald about Dr. dunri's Impreved: Liver Pills as a remedy for sick-head acho, dyspepsia, and indigestion, It begins right nt tho source of tho troublo and romoves tho cause. Sold; by nil drugglBts for 25c per bow One pill for a doso. who had to complain of his defection frOmi his own hearth tone. Tact tho Secret of Generalohlp. A thorough and oxhaustlvo course In the science of tact should also be Included In the curriculum. Why can't wlvos bo taught not to bump up against tho angles in tholr hus band's disposition? Why can't thoy .earn to avoid bringing up subjects on which thoy know boforohand thoy aro going to dlsngrooT Why can't wives be Instructed how to rub tho fur tho right way instead of the wrong way? Of course, men nro often pig headed and unreasonable, but- tho art of 'the ono thing Ib not to treat a crank as If ho woro sano, and when you find you havo stirred up' an ugly tempor to glvo way for tho tlmo boing without a fight Tho secret of gen eralnhlp Is knowing whon to attack and when to retreat Tho most Important thing, though. that women can bo taught Is a rospect for porsonnl liberty, oven for tho lib erty of husbands. Tho rock on which more domestic happlnoss Is wreckod than any othor Is tho theory that tlioro must bo a boss In ovory family. It makes tho marrlago tlo tho tlo that binds and ohnfes, and the homo a prison everybody wants to oscap. There aro womon who marry men morojy to rpjprm them, and who think that n wifp has a divine right to pick out ho,r husband's friends, and neck ties, and religion, and food for him. It never occurs to thorn that by the time a man is old enough to marry ha has d-eeidod on the scheme of life he., likes, boat, and that a woman interferes with that nt hor peril. It Is worth whllo for women to remom bor that there Ib no authentic ac count 'of' anybody over having really loved their jailor. Hut, happily, for marrlago Is a double team that no on,e person oan drive, tho school of matrimony Is to be a comauoatlonal Instltuto, for thore is JUBt as much noed of nien learning how to make a happy homo as there ! Is of women. Thoy, also, sin through lgnoranoo. A man doosu't deliberate ly mat Real Estate Sales. Tho Salem Iron WorkB wero yostor day afternoon sold by A. Bush to A. P. Marcus ct al for $10,000. It. D. Plowman of Boise, Idaho hoi sold to Coolldge and McClnlno 1C8 acres of land on Howard; Pralrlo for $7,000. Abraham Ibach has sold to O, S Hango, 118 acres of land nanr Sllvor- ton for $C,B0O. B. P. Strand and wife havo sold to Albert Olson 32.11 acres In t 0., r 1 o for $22G0.00 . i 1 J. O. A. Uowlby. fif Astoria, has class In which It should be drilled Jn- 'gold to AM Qojohlna, lots 3 and 4 In to his mind that while you can run a block 20, GervalB $16,00. courtship on hot air, It takos money Ahwlla Mnnagre has sold to J. B. to support a family. Ho should be ( Managre block 109 In town or BU taught to repeat "butchor bills, and pau for $1.00 Mry a,wjoman to break her heart. and whin, he tramples all over tho flowers n hor soul It Is Just becauso h was to untaught ho couldn't read the "keep off the grass" signs with which aw woman's nature Is hedged In. Hv man contemplating nrntrl-. roony. should begin In a kindergarten grocory bills, and gas bills, and dry goods bills, and millinery bills, and doctor's bills' and all othor bills and ills to which matrimony Is heir, until ho could say thorn backwards or for wards, or in his sleep. Thon it would not como to him with suph a Bhock of surprlso whon ho found out that his wlfo couldn't work miracles, and that It wasn't cheaper for two to Hvo than ono, after all, Can't Depend on Matrimony for Mir. ade. Men s'hould also bo grounded In tho geography of woman's charactor so that they will learn that tho girl who Is bounded on tho north by silliness. and on tho south by Ignorance and on tho east by -oxtravagilnco, and on the west by solnshnoss and laziness, and whoso chlof characteristic Is a vol canic temper in a constant stato of oruption, Is a no man's land from which a wise marlnor will steer away. No man who is In lovo will bollevo It, but matrimony works no mlraolos in a woman. Tho latitude of her ton gue and tho longltudo of her patience never change. Walking to tho altar nover yot converted a butterfly Into a usoful household grub or changed a snappish shrew into a meok Qrls olda. Prospeatlvo husbands should also bo taught that If flattery was usoful before marriage It Is an absolute nee- ? eeslty afterwards. Most men after the wedding let up on compliments and chocolate creams, as If marriage ex.; traoted a woman's sweet tooth. This Is a mistake. It is strange, but a faat nevertheless, that words, and not deeds count with a woman, and that as long as hor husband wilt hold one of hor hands she Ib perfeotly content ' to work the othor ono to the bone' for him. I It wouk) also add no little to do mestic felicity If husbands could be taught when a hat Is a confection and a bargain at $G0, .whoa a sltfrt "sets" rrght.atjd when It is a subject for tears,(and how to hook up A waUt In tho back without wilting tholr col lars and using language In which no gentleman should Indulge In the pres ence of a woman. But perhaps this is asking too much. There can be no T. A. Williams, olerk of tho court at Hillings, Mont, has illuapponrod', with constdorablo money. ' r 0Z0D0NT Prslly Teeth In a 6etd Moutfc ro like Jewels well su Onr tt men and women havo mulo Oozodont tha Standard. BEST . TEETH C&4t)9a9WS4)46e& NORTHWEST NURSERIES. Wholesale and Retail. Fruit trees and shrubbery of all kinds. All Btock freo from pests and diseases. Largo stock of best winter applos, lata keepers a specialty. Trees de livered free In Salem. Addreso T. D. JONES, Salem, Or. Proprietor. 8 Wrlto for catalog. 3-10-lmd-w J" . i .M.i ... .. I. Seed I Potatoes EARLY R08E EARLY OHIO EARLY VERMONT EARLY SUNRISE BEAUTY OF HEBRON. Cholso selected seed' at the lowest prlco In tho olty OARDEN SEEDS IN BULK. Do not buy old seels In pack ets, but buy pure, fresh seeds In bulk. Flower swds and Sweet Poos -a specialty. D. A. White &Son 301 Commercial Street, Salem. i TPf7 - r H3L CHICAGO. D argest makers of good ahozs In tie world. r . J. L. Stockton & 6o., Agents, Saleinv EIGHTY-FIFTH BIRTHDAY OF BLIND HYMN WRITER mimmn It t HHT-H-H- V Bridgeport, Conn Marsh 24 Miss FasuJ MUpsbj the famous blind hywnpftrrjter,, today celebrated her etefafyfallh birthday In the full pos ielg of-al her faculties but the ose 'fifhlfcio' bor. Miss Qrooby Uvea wlh,W sister. Mrs. Carrie Illder, and ra her old age Ib fully as active as In her youth. Mlas firosby became blind In her lnfasety, owing to Improper traUoent for a fevej; When she was 15 years oW she entered the New York Jastl- Uea fer the blisd. gha was so At hi br sue tiat she) subsequently recei? pa apfoltwl, as teaefaw of rMecte. SNtglisb grammar, Oreek. Americas, ItagMeb a4 Keas& history in the IbU(hUo. While still a " Capital National t Bank of Salem, transacts a general it t Z?Z "ST Trt P inking busjne... Only N : s i ; ; Udnal Bank In Marlon county, ; sH)8. whieb were, st to rousle by George F. Root Among the best known are "Rosalie, the Prairie Flow eft" "Haiel DjIL" "Good-by. Prou4 World, I'm Going Home," "The Hon, eysuqkle Glen" and "There's Music In the Air." She also wrote the words for the cantatas, "The Flower Qu$ea" and "The PJIgrlm' Father." Miss Orofcby, In 1864, took up liynw writing and since that time has writ' tea nearly three thousand of . thftts, notable among which Is "Safe is tbs Anns of Jesus," There Is seMom a reUgtoufl meetlag at wbloh one or more of Miss Crosby's fcymmi are sot so. a(l the deep reMgleas pathoa of her writing has tiee felt la may lasdu. Savings j J Bank S I :: Department . lays three per gent Interest en savings ateousts. Deposits ; of ONE DOLLAR or more re- ' reived at any Urn. Pas book ; bHw4 to Mh depositor. Urt 1 i H 1 1 It W 114'H-Hr-H'