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MEDFORD MAIL TRIBUNE, MEDFORD. OREGON MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 10, 1962 A 7 FAMILY COUNCIL Edttor'i note: The Family Coun cil consists of a judge, a psychia trist three clergymen, three editors and a women's editor. Kach article Is a summary of a family disagree ment presented to the Council. The Council deals with prublems, major and minor, encountered by guid ance counselors and social workers. Edited by Mrs. Alma Denny. (Copy, right by General Features Corp.) Kate S. - I love to ie alone. Joseph S. - Then why did she get married? Kate S. - Married or not, isn't everyone entitled to some time to call her own? My husband is like a little boy. He wants me at his side 24 hours a day. I was an only child, with a room of my own. I'm used to lots of quiet and solitude. Even now I enjoy closing my eyes and thinking deep thoughts, without interrup tion. But this annoys my hus band. He'll break in to ask me the time, even with clocks all around him. We've been married six months. I know marriage means sharing, and I enjoy sharing my time with Joe. But he wants all of it. I feel like a full - time baby-sitter, not a wife. Joseph S. - What did Kate expect? A diamond ring, a wedding, a honeymoon, a new home, and then - back to life as usual? I thought marriage means two become one. You don't go your separate ways any more. Kate says she loves me, but having me around seems to annoy her. If you love someone, you can't get enough of him, can you? Walk in the park, go to the movies, take a boat ride -everywhere you see people '.n pairs. But Kate likes to go alone and tells me to do the same. Once in a while she gives me a break and we go for a drive or play cards to gether. Is she a wife or a prima donna? The Council: It's fear, on both sides here, that's caus ing such extreme demands by one mate upon the other. Kate fears for her precious island of privacy. Joseph sees the one thing he wanted most in marriage - a constant com panion - slipping away. Naturally, extreme and al most hysterical demands bring extreme and almost childlike reactions. Let's calm down. It's true, Joe, that marriage makes two people one, but one what? One couple with one set of goals. One of those goals is to make the other half more fulfilled and ef fective than he or she could possibly have been alone. Each is still a separate person as well as a mate. Joe must show his recognition of that fact, through respect for Kate's request for time in which to ponder and medi tate. Thus far he has frighten. ed her with his possessive- ness. She is gasping for some free air. Kate, on the other hand, has the new task of lea.ning how to share - not just her toothpaste, her closet and her time, but herself! A success ful marriage doesn't just hap pen; it must be labored o- cr. If she truly loves Joe, she will sense his shyness and sympathize with his "lost ness" when alone among others. In these early years of their marriage, she will stay close to him, helping him to grow in social poise and self confidence. This is the small sacrifice she must make, temporarily we hope, in re turn for the added richness marriage brings to her own life. Chances are that this mu tual determination to meet each other's needs will lead to Joe offering Kate large gobs of time for herself, a..d to Kate accompanying him, in turn, to meetings, classes and hobby clubs. It'll be more fun to be together when it's optional. When two people marry they remain two people. But love makes them two less selfish people. FBI Ye Swift's Fresh Dressed Not Frozen Spiced Luncheon Meal Worrell's Pure S Pork Just the Thing for lunches. 6-Lb. Tin JUST 19 Smoked Pork Rolls Bar S Boneless. Fully Cooked. Mild, Fine Flavor. 4 to 5 lbs. SPECIAL Fresh Ground Beef Lean, Tender Beef. 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