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MONDAY. AUGUST 8. 13B2
MEDFOHD MAIL TRIBUNE. MEDFOHD, OREGON
FAMILY
COUNCIL
Editor's nnte: Tha Family
Council rnnslus of a Judge, a
piyehiatrlit, thrci clergymen,
three edtton and a women'i editor,
Rich article ! a lummary of a
family dttagreement presented to
the council. The Council dealt
ttllh problem!, major and minor,
encountered by guidance roun.
telorm and locial worker!. Kdlted
by Mm. Alma Denny. (Copyright
oj General features iorp.j
Calvin B. I know I'm i
fool for sticking with my
wife, but I still love her.
Nettie J. He is ready to
agree to the most humiliating
terms ever heard of
Calvin B. I have 23 years
of marriage behind me, dur
ing 18 of which my wife has
been unfaithful to me at var
ious times. Time after time,
I closed my eyes and pre
tended I didn't see, hoping
things would improve. In the
past five years we ve occu
pied separate rooms, and for
the last 11 months there have
been no marital intimacies
between us.
About a month ago I pack
ed and left. But I was assail
ed by the most unbearable
grief and loneliness, and I re
turned after four days. My
wife was colder than ever,
and we had a big row. She
said if I didn't get out, she
would. I told her I still lov
ed her and wanted to live
with her. Finally she agreed
to ftay on two conditions
that I never approach her
physically, and that I never
object to her seeing the other
fellow.
I said okay, but I know I
should get out and divorce
her.
Nettie J. Did you ever
see a grown man lev himself
be made such a fool of? Cal
is my brother, a sweet fellow
and a hard-worker. He sup
ports that faithless wife of
his end two of the four child
ren. Who knows whether
they're his or not? The other
two kids are married.
During the past 18 years
I've had to run over and
pinch-hit in Cal's home dur
ing week ends and holidays
when Ada was away. She's
had this lover all that time.
I urged Cal to do something
about such a wicked situa
tion. Our friends told him he
was a laughingstock among
Ada's crowd, and they advis
ed him to talk to a lawyer.
But that woman carts a spell
over him. He just wants to
stay married to her under
any terms.
I can see where it would
be a messy matter to start
divorce proceedings. T h e
other man is married, too.
But where Is Cal's pride?
Tha Council) Is Cal a man
or a mouse? Up to now he
appears to be very much of
a mouse and no one. except
Minnie Moure, would want
him around. He's condoning
an Intolerable situation. He
can't stand living with Ada
and looking on while she
cheats, and he can't stand
leaving her. This mnkes his
clinging behavior resemble
that of a whipped animal,
with no recourse but to stick
around for more. No wonder
his sifter and his friends have
lost patience with Urn, and
his wife continues to taunt
him.
What you call ' love" for
your wandering wife, Cal, is
merely a compound of habit,
fear and cowardice. Your on
ly hope now is to be able to
take a firm stand and demand
that your wife give her mar
riage her full attention and
try lo restore it. Else she
must lose it.
You will certainly need
outside help to fortify your
determination, to help you
summon up some rrlf-rcspert
and dignity in dealing with
your wife. We suggest that
you enlist your clergyman
or contact a service orgnni
zntion such as the Salvation
Army or Family Service as.
sanation for aid from a mar
riace counselor. Y o u must
chart your strategy, set up
an overdue campaign to sal
vage what you can for your
self and the children in the
form of a decent home and
an honorable place in the
community.
Perhaps Ada is actually
waiting or a show of strength
from you, Cal. Her contempt
rise witli each escapade of
hers you permit. Your advis
ors may decide that you
should leave her flat. At lirst
she may not mind your dis
appearance. But after a while I
she'll see clearly what she s '
left with: a dead relationship j
with you. and an ugly affair
with a married man. j
As to the future, it depend?
upon what feelings are left j
you after the smoke clears I
from your marriagc-m-namc-only.
At one time you and
Ada loved each other. You
say you had five good years
together. If she can recognize
right from wrong and choose
right, and If you choose to
forgive, maybe there can he
a 25th anniversary still. Oth
erwise, accept a clean, swift
break and end officially what
enrled sloppily 18 year ago.
You must decide which is
more Intolerable - - life with
Ada or life without her. It
ought not to have taken so
long to ihoose.
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