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TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 8, 1960 8 B. MEDFOHD MAIL TRIBUNE, MEDFORD, ORE. square look at self they'd sea The Family Council ' Editor's NoterThe ramlljr cooncll consist, of a Judge, a psychia trist, three clergymen, three editors and a women's editor. Each article is a etimmary of an actual caaa history. The Council reports on problems that have keea deail with by responsible agencies and aounselors, .... vorce, the real reason was Reglna's mother and father. She's an only child and they just never let go. Her mother is a busybody who knows more about housekeeping and babies than anyone in the world. And her father has re tired and has all the time in world to hang around, play with tho children, do Retina's errands, and fill in his day just being her "Popsy-Wopsy." Right now Regina lives a few doors away from her par ents. When I asked whether she'd consider moving to an other state, she said she couldn't do that to her folks. "I'm all they have!" was her answer. The parents don't think much of me: They'd rather was a campus idol, studying medicine, and both our fath ers chipped in to set us up and support us. When my baby came, they moved us into the house I'm in now, which happens to be near my parents' home. I was divorced when the second baby was only a year old. My husband had quit his studies and was working for his father. Be tween them they are coughing up a good alimony and sup port check for me and the children each month. But I don't know what I would have done without my parents. My husband was stingy, abusive and unfaith ful. He struck me and fright ened the children. We are all better off this way. He has remarried and has visitation rights to see the children. So far this is working out, al though the children don't seem to enjoy seeing him and he runs in and out faster each time. My parents would be only too glad to see me settled, with a father for my children. But how can I think of marry ing Chester who wants me to turn my back on them? The Council: While it's hard to say who is responsible for Reglna's jellyfish response to strong personalities, it's easy to suggest where to start in firming things up for her with herself I Regina is the key to a more wholesome life for all the people mentioned above - except, perhaps, her former husband who found his own key. It's doubtful whether Ches ter can set In motion the be lated weaning of child from parents and parents from child that is so necessary, Such deep-rooted immaturity as we see here may need psychiatric attention before Regina sees her true relation ship with her parents. And until she docs, she cannot move ahead to an adult rela tionship with anyone and hope that it thrives. Here is a girl who has never seen herself as a per son, only as a daughter. What ever is all right for her par ents is all right for her And what's been super-all right for them has been to intensify and prolong their parent-role so that they'll never have to hustle and find other ways to fill their days, as do normal ly loving parents when their children grow up. Regina, to their subconscious delight, has never grown up. What Regina says in praise of them is really an indict ment. "I'm all they have! She shouldn't be. It's about time they came up with a few other interests. 'Selfless?" That's not always a compli ment. Maybe they're running from self, neglecting self, when if they took a good a few faults and correct them. In puillng up stakes and making an Independent lifo for herself, with Chester or another man, Regina is not turning her back on her par ents. She is turning her back on childhood and helpless ness. No man can be happily married to a puppet. (Copyright 1960. General Features Corp.) not have Reglna marry at all, I guess, so they could be sure of having her at their beck and call the rest of their lives. But if she insists on marry ing, they'd prefer a rich guy, because she'd lose part of the big alimony she's getting. How can I help Reginu see what they're doing to her? Regina S.-Chcstcr has made the past year the happiest of life, except when he starts picking on my parents. My happiness is all they want, and through all my suffering they suffered along with me. My previous marriage was in my first year at college when I was 17. My husband Chatter B.-If ihe'd only Chester B.-I'm 30, a gov ernment worker, and in love with a charming divorcee of 25 who has two young chil dren. We have wonderful limes together, both with and without the children along. I would marry her tomorrow except for one problem-her parents. 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