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About Medford mail tribune. (Medford, Or.) 1909-1989 | View Entire Issue (July 18, 1960)
MOHUM'. ML It l9 8 B. MEDFORD. MAIL TRIBUNE, MEDFORD, Family Council FECIAL! mm Editor'! Note! me Family Coun cil conilila ol a Judie, piychia- " trill, three clergymen, a newIaper editor, a women'! editor and twe writer!, Rarh article' ! a eummarjr of an actual caie hlitory. The Council report on problem! that have been dealt with by reiponilble ageucle! and counselor! MUdrtd R. - I can't take his gambling any more. Jim R. - I can't lake her nagging. e Mildred R. - My husband and I are in our early 30s and have live children. Our mar riage has been one long mis ery from the beginning. At the bottom of it all is Jim's gambling. He has been at it for the past ten years and there's no sign of his ' turning over a new leaf. He's always promising, but he , never does. He claims that he has made more than he has lost and he will present loads of figures to prove it, but all I know is that we' have nothing and we're always in debt. I can't go on this way any longer. I feel like just' run ning away from everything. Jim R, - It's just plain silly . to talk about my gambling. I don't gamble any more than the next fellow - ah occasion- . al bet on the horses or a card game, that's all. And 1 have had some real winnings.. .... The real trouble is that Mildred is a nag. She. always has been and always will be. She goes all over. the. place complaining about me - to her family, my family friends .. anyone who'll listen to her. If Mildred's disgusted with everything, I'm twice as dis gusted. I can't take her nag-, ging any more. One of these days I just won't .come. home at all and then she'll see how he likes it without. me The Council: Mildred and Jim seem to be suffering from the same disease - emotional childishness. Psychologists find that gamblers are nearly all alike at . heart. They believe in magic the way children or primitive peoples do.- Feeling helpless against the larger forces of life, they set up a mental Image of a world In which destiny will work for or against them according to certainly mysterious 1 a w s. They believe that certain days are "lucky" or certain words or ritualistic actions will put the gods in their favor. The mature individual ac cepts the fact that he usually reaps as he sows. . Accident occasionally works either for or against him, but these oc casions are few. On the whole, he knows he makes any worthwhile gains through hard work. Mildred shows her childish ness in another way - a way more natural to women than gambling. She looks for some stronger, probably older per son to help her out of her dif ficulties. She doesn't accept the fact that at the age of 30 only she can help herself to a better Hie. Mildred and Jim each have the urge to run away from one another and the life they have created.' This is just another bit of childishness They know, at heart, that they need one another and their family life and they wouldn't be happy any other place. Mildred and ' Jim can straighten out their difficul ties if they agree to Work to gether like two adults. A bud get should be worked but showing where every penny goes. Jim should get a small percentage to use any way he likes. If he wants to' gam ble with that it should be his privilege. Mildred should Vnake the ef fort to be attractive and hap py and create a pleasant home atmosphere. She should be aware that her nagging and complaining undermine her husband's self-respect and make him seek pleasure away from home. She can make a better husband of him by be ing a better wife. (Copyright 1960, General Feature! Corp.) 4-H NEWS Crackerjacks Cooking Club The last meeting of the Crackerjacks 4-H Cooking club was held at the home of Mrs. Warren Loffer. C h r 1 sllnc Lewandowskl called the meeting to order. A discussion was held on the county fair and demonstra tions. Luanna Loffer Invited guest, Joanne Smith, Mrs. Loffer reviewed the group on muffins, Mary Ann Snider, Reporter Portland -(UP1I- Multnomah county police arrested five Portland youths at a drive-in i restaurant here Saturday when a mob of an estimated 100 persons failed to break ' up and began threatening vio j jr j . 1 'V, .twit r. , . - -. v - - The Bedroom Buy - of the Year! - irBooViclseBed U 0 a Oecorive I c- PROOF Fabulous 11 -Piece BED k Compare with any $299.95 Set! CARLOAD PURCHASE PRICE cfl NO DOWN PAYMENT! It pays to drive out to Cereirral Point! AGAIN: We don't MEET low prices; we MAKE them! Hiway 99-Central Point Phone NO 4-1226 Wo Carry Our Own Aecounttl Alwayi Plenty of FREE Parkingl Viw per month Free Delivery
