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The Heppner Gazette-Time. Heppner, Oregon, Thursday, December 18, 1980-THREE o Your mental health Coping with the holidays by Terrel I.. Templeman, Ph.D. (Editor's nolc: Thin in the seventh in a scries of articles entitled "Your mental health," Readers arc invited to send comments or questions about these articles to: Dr. Terry Templeman, Morrow County Mental Health Services, P.O. Box 554, Heppner, Oregon, 97B36, The holiday season, with all it's hustle and bustle, is upon us. Traditionally of course, the holiday season is a time of Joy and togetherness. It is less well known that this season is also a time of stress and depression for many people. What is stressful about the holiday season? First, it falls at the end of the year when the weather becomes harsher, the days grow shorter, the nights grow longer, and the landscape looks bleaker. December gives us that first taste of winter, when it is more difficult to get out, more hazardous to travel, and takes more effort just to keep warm . The end of the year is also a time when we reflect on the past and ourselves, what we accomplished during the year and what we did not. For some reason It is often easier to focus more on the negative than the positive aspects of our past actions-pro jcets that never got finished or that waistline that never did slim down. Focusing on the negative about the past can lead to self-criticism and pessimism about the future. Second, we are also more prone to fall into "either-or thinking" at Christmas time. Things have to be perfect or we fee! cheated and disappointed in ourselves. We think of ourselves as either filled with the holiday spirit or as complete Scrooges. There is no room for middle ground. The gifts we select have to be "just right" or we may label ourselves failures as gift givers. Even trivial occurences such as being late with packages, burning dinner, or catching a cold can "ruin" the holidays for us if we get into the United Methodist Christmas musical to be Dec. 21 The community is invited to attend a Christmas musical, 'Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star," being performed by the children and adults of the Heppner United Methodist Church. This delightful play is a fantasy on the Christmas story as it was experienced by the star which snone over the Bethlehem stable. The director is Jean Brazell. Members of the cast are Kim Warren, Kirsten Green. Bobby Krein, Kathleen Brazell. Paula Heatherly. Lori Patterson, Brian Brazell, Christy Stroebcr, Tiffani Harrison, Jeanie Patterson, Trent Harrison, Cindy Strocber. Mike Sheridan, Ken Batty, Kay Patterson. John Bier, Penny Connor. Travis Harrison, Mark Fishburn, Beth Heatherly, Karen Howe, Erin Fishburn. Kurt Helphinstine, Jenny Krein, Rick Koffler, Evan Weygandt, Bryan Wright, Colin Anderson. Kharis Templeman, and the adult choir. The performance is set for Sunday December 21 at 7 p m. in the Heppner United Methodist Church Sanctuary, with refreshments following. "either-or" rut. Third, we are most painfully aware of the loss of a loved one or a family disruption during the holiday. After all, this is the time when family togetherness is emphasized. Feelings of grief over a death or a divorce are very common at Christmas even If the losses themselves occured many months before. Being without any family at this time of year leads to stronger feelings of loneliness than at other times of the year, What can be done to cope with the holiday? First, if you know in advance that this season is a difficult time for you, make allowances for yourself to get through It. Take things one at a time and one day at a time. Don't try to accomplish everything at once and don't put yourself down for not having the "holiday spirit" a much as you would like. Second, if you are feeling pessimistic about the past year, reevaluate the year from someone else' point of view. Would you be as critical of your neighbor's lack of accomplishments as you are of your own? Third, remember that the past does not control the future: you are not bound by any law to live in the same way next year as you lived this year. Fourth, allow yourself to enjoy the holidays as they are, even if they don't live up to your ideas of how they should be. Fifth, schedule activities which get you out of the house and prove to yourself that you don't have to be confined because of the weather or the long nights. Such activities can be as simple as crossing the street to visit a neighbor. Finally, if you are experiencing personal loss at Christmas time, you will probably feel better if you talk about it with someone instead of forcing your way through the holiday with a stiff upper lip. Sharing your feelings with your pastor, a close friend, or a mental health counselor can be very helpful. lone Church of Christ plans Christmas service A Christmas service, sponsored by the Board of Christian Education, is planned for Sunday. Dec. 21 at 5 p.m. at the lone United Church of Christ. The service, under the direction of the Board of Christian Education chairperson. Lorene Griffith, will involve Sunday school children, youth group members and adults. Sunday school teachers. Delia Heideman. Carmen French. Jean Jensen. Linda Conklin and Sharlene Arends will help in leadership. Helen Martin will be accompanist. Many others will share music and the youth will enact a drama entitled "What Are You Looking For?" which includes spoken parts and music. After the service a simple supper will be served. Then the Senior High Youth Fellowship invites everyone to come caroling around the town. The singers will goon foot, and will present Rifts of bread, baked by the youth fellowship, to the elderly of the community. Young children should be accompanied by an adult. MM Am , , Pwa Oiristnag avirogs P Y u JUL O I D A I Cosmetic Center QlMe SMcbs (Mam Only the finest. TJi46fK 8liwW.(.0duo V-'lt StPM Stocking Staffers MOUNTAIN We Have Christmas Decorations In Stock IGtchen Center Oster Tlx old faahioned quality. that you know nd ton, H Mill available in out (in chocolalaa. Ataorted Chocolal takctton conlaina variety of mama, nuU, chewy and enap oanlara. Candies Riunell Stover DA DC Country COFFEEMAtim How 10c ' tVat JL JL 6 Reg. 219 j r. a 12 t up drip filter automatic FARBEIWARE" COUNTRY COFFEEMAKER No 265 Reg. 341 Specie! 2995 POPCORN POPPER Wear-Ever 88 flwLUtf s3s I1I0TMO NOT AM OONNKWfO i. 44M fJluWHl'A dim HEPPNER CONDON ARLINGTON LB Wedding reception in honor of Rills Sat. ' Mr. and Mr. Cecil Rill cordially Invite friends and relatives to an open house wedding reception Saturday, Dec. 20, from 2 to 4 p.m. at 360 S. Main, Heppner. The couple requests no gifts please. Listeners, singers invited to impromtu 'Messiah' In celebration of Christmas, listeners and singers are invited to participate in an impromptu presentation of Handel's "Messiah." at 7:30 p.m.. Tuesday. Dec. 23, at the United Methodist Church in Heppner. The Reverend John Maas says that a simplified score of the "Messiah." especially the Christmas section, will be featured and that there will be no prior rehearsals. Four Instrumentalists have already indicated that they will play, said Maas. Singers and musicians, as well as listeners are invited to attend. Maas added that there will be a small charge for copies of the sheet music. Refreshments will be served. 7271 Christmas v ' i Reg. 8 SUNDAY ONLY RQC Many Many A I V t LV ,0PIH SUNDAY AlJlt CHIWCH ,m 5 PJ. mm Knito-n-bits decide on fair projects by Trina Palmer The Knits-n-Bits 4-H Knit ting Gub held their third meeting on Dec. 3. Club members worked on knitting. Some people have decided what they are going to make for fair. Tareena Nash is making a white sweater. Dawn Palmer is making yellow and white slippers. Trina Palmer is making a pink roll-brim hat and a muffler scarf. Jennifer Rill is making a pullover sweater. Noella and Jennifer Rill were absent this meeting. This meeting was held at Debbie Hyatt's house. Cake and punch were provided by Debbie. This meeting lasted from 3:30 to 5 p.m. The next meeting will be Dec. 17. at 3:30. at Debbie's house. BEECHER'S Jw TV T77"1 TTWT IT 7"7ri A TTh Ci EVE BASH At The lone Legion Hall WED. DEC. 31 8 P.M.-2.30 A.M. 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