The BulleTin • Thursday, January 13, 2022 A7
DEAR ABBY
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Dear Abby: For the past
three years I’ve been with a
man I believe is the love of
my life. Early on, he admit-
ted to a porn addiction that
has plagued him his entire
life and sabotaged past rela-
tionships. With my support,
he began his first real attempt
at recovery, which included a
team of mental health prac-
titioners.
His progress over the past
three years, while not linear,
has been tremendous. He’s
an entirely different person.
I would describe our rela-
tionship as 90% joyful, 10%
agony (he has had four brief
relapses, during which he has
said incredibly hurtful things
to me). I agree the cycle must
be broken, and only he can
do it.
A week ago, he had a diffi-
cult relapse and ended our re-
lationship. His therapist feels
he needs to be on his own to
focus on recovery. While I
am devastated, I agree. But
I can’t understand why he’s
giving up on us forever and
making big decisions like get-
ting off the mortgage on the
house we bought less than
two years ago. He swears it
has nothing to do with me,
and that if it weren’t for this
addiction, he would spend
the rest of his life with me.
If his plan is to live alone,
be single or celibate, and
focus on recovery, why
wouldn’t he also pause on
major financial decisions?
Why is he so completely done
when there is clearly hope for
recovery and reconciliation?
— Broken-hearted in Oregon
Dear Broken-hearted: You
have involved yourself with
someone who has a terrible
track record when it comes to
relationships.
Whatever his plans for the
future may be, he does not
want a committed relation-
ship with you, nor does he
want the financial responsi-
bility and the tie to you that
the house represents, which
is why he wants off the mort-
gage.
It is now time for you to
start looking after your own
needs and goals. If you stay
busy and don’t isolate your-
self, it will lessen the pain you
are feeling.
Dear Abby: My brother di-
vorced his first wife 10 years
ago. Since then, he has mar-
ried a wonderful woman my
family adores.
The problem is, my
ex-sister-in-law insists on
showing up for family events,
which makes these celebra-
tions extremely awkward.
Even her children recognize
how uncomfortable her pres-
ence makes everyone.
I don’t mind being the
“bad guy” and telling her
that she’s no longer welcome
at family events, but I don’t
want to cause an ugly scene.
How can I diplomatically
(but firmly) tell her to stay
away? Any suggestions would
be appreciated.
— Flummoxed in Philadelphia
Dear Flummoxed:
What a sad situation. Your
BROTHER, not you, should
deliver the message to his ex,
well before she shows up at
your next family event. He
should inform her that when
she shows up uninvited, her
presence makes everyone
uncomfortable, and it would
be best that she not impose
again. You could lessen the
hurt by occasionally seeing
her separately, depending
upon the circumstances of
the divorce.
YOUR HOROSCOPE
By Georgia Nicols
Stars show the kind of day you’ll have
dynaMiC | POsiTiVe | aVeraGe | sO-sO | diFFiCulT
MOON ALERT: There are no restrictions to shopping or important deci-
sions today. The Moon is in Gemini.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR THURSDAY, JAN. 13, 2022: you are
focused and driven to achieve what you want to do. you are smart, hard-
working and organized. This allows you to accomplish a lot. This is a quieter,
slower-paced year with a stronger focus on partnerships and close friend-
ships. Take time out for yourself to focus on your needs.
ARIES (March 21-April 19)
Conversations with your daily contacts are important to you to-
day. you won’t take them casually. you want something real and genuine to
take place, not superficial chitchat about the weather. (although, lately, the
weather is not that superficial.) Tonight: Make plans.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20)
you have money on your mind today. This is why you might be fo-
cused on your possessions. you might want to clean something, repair it or
take care of it in some way. you might feel possessive and resistant to lending
something to someone. Tonight: Be thrifty.
GEMINI (May 21-June 20)
Today the Moon is in your sign, which will make you more
emotional than usual. however, the upside is this: For two days every month
when the Moon is in your sign, your luck slightly improves! Try it. ask the uni-
verse for a favor. Tonight: Be practical.
CANCER (June 21-July 22)
Today you prefer to play things low-key or work behind the scenes
because it feels better. you feel more comfortable. safer. (you like to have a
warm feeling in your tummy.) stay out of the limelight. Find a cubbyhole to
do your work. Tonight: research.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22)
Today your interactions with friends and groups are more im-
portant. a conversation with a friend might be significant. Perhaps this
person will spur you to reassess your future goals. you also might give further
thought to your relationship to a group. (“are these my people?”) Tonight:
Get advice.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)
For two days every month, the Moon sits at the top of your chart,
which calls attention to you. in particular, bosses, parents and the police no-
tice you more than usual. (hmmm, good to know.) eyes are on you today, so
be aware in case you have to do some damage control. Tonight: listen.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)
Today you long to travel or do something to expand your hori-
zons. you’re hungry for life, adventure and exciting experiences! if you can
travel, by all means, do so. Go someplace you’ve never been before. shake
things up a little. Tonight: learn something.
SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)
Today your emotional experiences are more intense than usual.
For example, you might attract people to you who are powerful and intense.
Possibly, you desire something that belongs to someone else. you might feel
envious or jealous. (We’ve all been there.) Tonight: Check your finances.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)
Because the Moon today is directly opposite your sign, it means you
will turn your attention to your most personal relationships: spouses, close
friends and partners. you might be a bit needy. Conflicts will be more emo-
tional. Guard against knee-jerk reactions. Tonight: Take a moment to think
things through.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)
Very likely, you will have to set aside some part of your day to per-
form a service for someone, do a favor for them or work on their behalf. This
doesn’t mean you’re being a martyr. it’s just what’s happening. you also
might give more thought to your health or a pet today. Tonight: Work.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)
This is a playful, fun-loving day! you want to play and socialize
with others. sports events, fun activities with kids, social outings, movies, the
theater, long lunches and dinners with friends will be great choices. romance
might make your heart go pitter-patter. Tonight: Teach.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20)
Today you will be happy to cocoon at home and relax among
familiar surroundings because it feels good. you also will welcome an op-
portunity to do some navel gazing and take stock of your life and what’s
happening at the moment. (it’s good to check in now and then.) Tonight:
listen to family.
TODAY
IN HISTORY
By The Associated Press
Today is Thursday, Jan. 13, the 13th
day of 2022. There are 352 days left
in the year.
Today’s Highlight in History:
in 2021, President donald Trump
was impeached by the u.s. house
over the violent Jan. 6 siege of the
Capitol on a charge of “incitement
of insurrection,” becoming the only
president to be twice impeached.
in 1733, James Oglethorpe and
some 120 english colonists arrived
at Charleston, south Carolina,
while en route to settle in pres-
ent-day Georgia.
in 1794, President George Wash-
ington approved a measure add-
ing two stars and two stripes to
the american flag, following the
admission of Vermont and Ken-
tucky to the union.
in 1898, emile Zola’s famous de-
fense of Capt. alfred dreyfus,
“J’accuse,” was published in Paris.
in 1941, a new law went into effect
granting Puerto ricans u.s. birth-
right citizenship. novelist and poet
James Joyce died in Zurich, swit-
zerland, less than a month before
his 59th birthday.
in 1982, an air Florida 737 crashed
into Washington, d.C.’s 14th street
Bridge and fell into the Poto-
mac river while trying to take off
during a snowstorm, killing a total
of 78 people, including four motor-
ists on the bridge.
in 1987, West German police ar-
rested Mohammed ali hamadi,
a suspect in the 1985 hijacking of
a TWa jetliner and the killing of a
u.s. navy diver who was on board.
in 1990, l. douglas Wilder of Vir-
ginia became the nation’s first
elected Black governor as he took
the oath of office in richmond.
in 1992, Japan apologized for forc-
ing tens of thousands of Korean
women to serve as sex slaves for
its soldiers during World War ii, cit-
ing newly uncovered documents
that showed the Japanese army
had had a role in abducting the so-
called “comfort women.”
in 2000, Microsoft chairman Bill
Gates stepped aside as chief ex-
ecutive and promoted company
president steve Ballmer to the
position.
in 2001, an earthquake estimated
by the u.s. Geological survey at
magnitude 7.7 struck el salvador;
more than 840 people were killed.
in 2011, a funeral was held in Tuc-
son, arizona, for 9-year-old Chris-
tina Taylor Green, the youngest
victim of a mass shooting that also
claimed five other lives and critically
wounded rep. Gabrielle Giffords.
in 2020, at a royal family summit
in england, Queen elizabeth ii bro-
kered a deal to secure the future
of the monarchy; it would allow
Prince harry and his wife, Meghan,
to live part-time in Canada.
Ten years ago: The italian luxury
liner Costa Concordia ran aground
off the Tuscan island of Giglio and
flipped onto its side; 32 people
were killed.
Five years ago: Federal prose-
cutors in detroit announced that
Takata Corp. had agreed to plead
guilty to a single criminal charge
and pay $1 billion in fines and res-
titution for concealing a deadly
defect in its air bag inflators. lord
snowdon, the society photogra-
pher and filmmaker who married
Britain’s Princess Margaret and
continued to mix in royal circles
even after their divorce, died in
london at age 86.
One year ago: Five-time Olympic
swimming medalist Klete Keller
was charged with participating in
the deadly riot at the u.s. Capitol
after video emerged that appeared
to show him among those storm-
ing the building. The u.s. govern-
ment carried out its first execution
of a female inmate in nearly seven
decades; a Kansas woman, lisa
Montgomery, who strangled an
expectant mother in Missouri and
cut the baby from her womb, re-
ceived a lethal injection at a federal
prison complex in indiana. sieg-
fried Fischbacher, part of the en-
tertainment duo siegfried and roy
who performed in las Vegas with
their famed white tigers, died at 81.
Today’s Birthdays: actor Frances
sternhagen is 92. TV personal-
ity nick Clooney is 88. Comedian
Charlie Brill is 84. actor Billy Gray is
84. actor richard Moll is 79. rock
musician Trevor rabin is 68. r&B
musician Fred White is 67. rock
musician James loMenzo (Mega-
deth) is 63. actor Kevin anderson
is 62. actor Julia louis-dreyfus is
61. rock singer Graham “suggs”
McPherson (Madness) is 61. Coun-
try singer Trace adkins is 60. actor
Penelope ann Miller is 58. actor
Patrick dempsey is 56. actor su-
zanne Cryer is 55. actor Traci Bing-
ham is 54. actor Keith Coogan is 52.
TV producer-writer shonda rhimes
is 52. actor nicole eggert is 50. ac-
tor ross McCall is 46. actor Michael
Pena is 46. actor Orlando Bloom is
45. Meteorologist Ginger Zee (TV:
“Good Morning america”) is 41. ac-
tor ruth Wilson is 40. actor Julian
Morris is 39. actor Beau Mirchoff
is 33. actor liam hemsworth is 32.
nhl center Connor Mcdavid is 25.
“(South Salem is) usually
the team that wins the
league, so to start out league
play with a win over the
projected top team in the
league was fun to do.
We just played as a team,
which is what we need
to do every game.”
Mountain View
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Sophomore Kasey Booster
found fellow sophomore Avery
Andrews under the basket to
take the lead with 15 seconds
left, then Booster put the game
out of reach with a pair of free
throws in the closing seconds.
It was Mountain View’s first
win over South Salem since the
two schools joined the MVC in
2018. (The teams did not play
each other during the short-
ened season last spring.) The
Saxons won by an average of
25 points in the four previous
matchups.
“They are usually the team
that wins the league, so to start
out league play with a win
over the projected top team in
the league was fun to do,” said
Booster, who scored 24 points
including all 12 of the Cou-
gars’ points in the first quarter.
“It was stressful, but we did a
really good job of picking each
other up and giving each other
energy. We just played as a
team, which is what we need to
do every game.”
The Cougars thus far this
season have been a composed
group despite being relatively
young. The starting lineup
Tuesday night included just
one senior in Angelina Glasser,
Outdoors
Continued from A5
Mountain whitefish have
a subterminal mouth, which
helps them feed on a variety
of food items on the bottom
of streams such as immature
— Kasey Booster, Mountain View
girls basketball player
Brian rathbone/The Bulletin
Mountain View’s Angelina Glasser
shoots a layup during the Cou-
gars’ win over South Salem Tues-
day night at Mountain View High.
one junior in Allie Neet, and
three sophomores in Ruby
Haarberg, Booster and An-
drews.
Mountain View also has a
new coach this season. Corbett
— who spent nearly a decade
as an assistant coach at Moun-
tain View prior to coaching the
Redmond boys team — took
over for Megan Dickerson,
who led the program the previ-
ous four seasons.
“We all went in with a pos-
mayflies, stoneflies and cad-
disflies, which the Deschutes
River has in abundance.
“We have known for a long
time that the Lower Deschutes
River has an abundance of
mountain whitefish, which
anglers frequently catch while
itive mindset,” Booster said.
“We thought that even though
we were having a new coaching
staff, it doesn’t mean we can’t
be a winning team with a good
record.”
When Corbett stopped
coaching after the 2015-16 sea-
son at Redmond, he thought
his time leading a program had
come to an end.
“I wasn’t sure I was going to
be a head coach again,” Corbett
said. “It has been a great start
to the year and I can’t complain
about that.”
MVC play will continue
for Mountain View Thursday
night at Summit.
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angling for trout,” said Jason
Seals, ODFW Deschutes Dis-
trict fish biologist. “However,
we never suspected that the
Deschutes could have the state
and possible world-record
mountain whitefish, so this
was a great surprise.”
Simons
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McCollum has missed 15
games after suffering a col-
lapsed lung and is now await-
ing the birth of his first child.
Portland is also without fellow
starters Norman Powell be-
cause of COVID-19 protocols
and Larry Nance Jr. because of
right knee inflammation.
Simons is hardly alone
among the league’s young play-
ers who have been garnering
more minutes as coronavirus
cases spike.
Miami’s Omer Yurtseven,
23, has had double-digit re-
bounds in his last 11 games
and was the first NBA player
this season to have four con-
secutive games with at least
16 rebounds heading into
Wednesday night’s game
against Atlanta. He’s been get-
ting more playing time while
Bam Adebayo and Dewayne
Dedmon are both hurt.
“I think everybody’s see-
ing it this year, probably more
so than any other year ever in
the NBA, is that young guys
are getting opportunities and
they’re taking big-time advan-
tage of it,” Sacramento Kings
interim coach Alvin Gentry
said. “You look at a kid like
Simons, who everybody feels
like is a good player. As to how
good that is? Well, if you play
on a team with the two back-
court players (the Blazers) have
here, there’s just not a whole lot
of time for you to play. So now
that he’s got extended minutes,
you can see what he can do.”
Craig Mitchelldyer/aP
Portland Trail Blazers’ Anfernee Simons, left, dribbles around Atlanta
Hawks’ Clint Capela during the second half Jan. 3 in Portland.
One of the pitfalls of taking
over the starting job, and ca-
pably performing in it, is that
defenses are now keying in on
Simons.
“I’m learning every single
game, playing through mis-
takes, trying to be aggressive
in certain areas. I know a lot of
teams are going to start throw-
ing me a lot of attention,” Si-
mons said.
“Just being prepared for that
and know how to counter it.
I think I’m handling it pretty
well.”
Simons is in his fourth sea-
son in the league. He was a
first-round draft pick by the
Blazers in 2018 out of the IMG
Academy in Florida. When he
moved into the backup point
guard role ahead of last sea-
son, Lillard wholeheartedly en-
dorsed him, saying: “I believe
in Ant.”
“They just want me to play
my game. Everybody’s say-
ing shoot the ball, make plays,
and everybody’s giving me the
confidence to do that,” Simons
said. “So it makes it much eas-
ier. I’m not going into the game
worrying about the burden
that’s on my shoulder, or the
weight that’s on my shoulder.”