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THE BULLETIN • WEDNESDAY, JANUARY 13, 2021 A7 NBA DEAR ABBY Write to Dear Abby online at dearabby.com or by mail at P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069 Dear Abby: I’m a 24-year- old woman who has been married for four years. My husband, “Jerry,” and I have two young boys. Jerry is mil- itary. I stay at home with the kids and work part time on- line on an associate degree. We struggle financially, but our basic needs are met and, overall, I’m happy with my life. My problem is I’m finding myself struggling to control a very strong temper. The kids or my husband may be get- ting on my nerves, or I’m late turning in an assignment, or I’m unable to get housework done — these frustrations build up inside and make me want to throw a fit, scream or throw things, essentially NOT be the cool, responsible adult I typically am. I know this is incredibly immature, and I realize I’m well off in the grand scheme of things, but this anger still brews. I have never had a problem controlling my tem- per before. Can you help? — Fired Up in Florida Dear Fired Up: The quar- antines and lockdowns may be part of the cause of your near meltdowns. Many peo- ple are stressed and spread thin, and the isolation isn’t helping. Because you are constantly with your children, it’s im- portant that you manage your emotions before vent- ing them on your little ones, which can be destructive. When an adult yells or acts out in front of a small child, the child will often shut down out of fear that violence may follow. This is why it’s so im- portant for you to find appro- priate ways to express your emotions. My booklet “The An- ger in All of Us and How To Deal With It” offers sug- gestions for directing angry feelings in a healthy way. It can be ordered by send- ing your name and address, plus a check or money or- der for $8 (U.S. funds) to Dear Abby Anger Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Mor- ris, IL 61054-0447. Shipping and handling are included in the price. Sometimes when people are frustrated, they lose their temper with those presently around them. In situations like this, it’s im- portant to evaluate the source of what might really be irri- tating you rather than misdi- rect your anger at a blameless target. The ability to control your emotions is crucial so your children won’t grow up thinking that exploding is normal. There are healthy ways of dealing with frustra- tion. Among them: leaving the room, going for a walk or, better yet, a short run, or say- ing to yourself, “Please, Lord, don’t let me lose my temper!” before opening your mouth. Dear Abby: My boss has been making passes at me for the last five months, even though I have told him it makes me uncomfortable. We went out to dinner once, and he is insisting that we do it again. How do I say no to this married man and still keep my job? — Uncomfortable in the South Dear Uncomfortable: Ask your employer if he is sat- isfied with your job perfor- mance. Tell him a social rela- tionship with a married man is not what you signed on for and, if he becomes punitive, document it and point out that what he is doing could be considered sexual harass- ment. Former Ducks star Boucher carving out role with Raptors BY JOEL ODOM The Oregonian It took Chris Boucher less than a minute to make an im- pact on Monday night as the former Ducks star was back in Oregon with his Toronto Rap- tors to take on the Portland Trail Blazers. After checking in off the bench at the 4:37 mark of the first quarter, Boucher grabbed a defensive rebound, then drilled a three-pointer to put the Raptors up 21-11. Mo- ments later, Boucher put in a layup, drew a foul on CJ Mc- Collum and converted the three-point play. By the end of the night, on his 28th birthday, Boucher would log a season-high 32 minutes, drain 5 of 8 three-pointers, score 20 points, pull down eight rebounds and block three shots. Of course, Boucher would have preferred to leave the Moda Center with a victory. Instead, the Raptors lost by one point for the second consec- utive night, falling 112-111 to the Blazers to drop to 2-8 on the season. Even as the Raptors have struggled, the 6-foot-9 Boucher has been a bright spot. He has carved out a sig- nificant role off the bench and averaged 14.3 points, 6.2 re- bounds and 2.6 blocks in 22.2 minutes per game — all career highs. Those numbers are similar to Boucher’s averages in his fi- nal season at Oregon in 2016- 17, when he averaged 11.8 points, 6.1 rebounds and 2.5 blocks as he and Jordan Bell gave the Ducks a stellar defen- sive tandem before Boucher suffered a torn ACL during the Pac-12 tournament. Oregon State YOUR HOROSCOPE Continued from A5 By Madalyn Aslan Stars show the kind of day you’ll have õ õ õ õ õ DYNAMIC | õ õ õ õ POSITIVE | õ õ õ AVERAGE | õ õ SO-SO | õ DIFFICULT HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR WEDNESDAY, JAN. 13, 2021: Goal-oriented, proud and autonomous, security and standing are important to you. This year, take a chance on a project you have doubts about, as it will be tremendously successful. Remember that money isn9t everything. If sin- gle, you meet someone this year who hasn9t had the advantages you have, and this is the one. If attached, you are with your prince or princess. VIRGO is the original princess and the pea. ARIES (March 21-April 19) õõõõõ Today unexpectedly ushers in hours of joy and laughter with different people. Focus on the future. Determine your most important pri- orities. Affirmations and meditations are especially valuable. Observe and listen. Meet others halfway to resolve tensions. Tonight: It all becomes quite intriguing. TAURUS (April 20-May 20) õõõõ Economics and social conditions can affect your profession. Consider external factors and use them as guidelines. You are not an island. There is a strong awareness of how your destiny interconnects with the world around you. Tonight: Capitalize on valuable contacts. GEMINI (May 21-June 20) õõõõõ Wanderlust strikes today. A trip overseas or cross-country would be uplifting and fantastic. It9s a shame we are in the middle of COVID. Try visiting places of historical and spiritual significance instead. Tonight: Record in a journal and interpret them to gain insight of a higher self. CANCER (June 21-July 22) õõõõõ Others make suggestions about money management. You may develop a new job skill or are offered a second job. Act on it quickly. But check with your inner psyche before acting too quickly on unsolicited advice. Tonight: Clear your slate. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22) õõõõõ You9ll seek different partnerships and feel like a relationship has run its course. There9ll be new schedules at work and different job skills need- ed. Your versatility allows you to adapt beautifully. Tonight: Others comment they didn9t know you as well as they thought. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22) õõõõõ There can be a new psychic rapport with pets. There9s a more pro- gressive daily routine, and you have good luck if searching for a job or using time with the utmost efficiency. The financial outlook brightens. Tonight: Your judgment is good. Make choices and commitments. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22) õõõõ You9ll feel like a child today. You9ll enjoy gambles and intriguing risks. Adventurous leisure activities have appeal. Regarding love, you9ll seek a situ- ation that is thrilling rather than safe and secure. Business takes a back seat to social and creative interests. Tonight: Relax. SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21) õõõõ You9ll be making decisions about family and private life. You9ll be evaluating your residence with care and deciding whether to keep it or im- prove it. You learn some interesting facts about family members. Tonight: Do not act out any of their characteristics. Just your own. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21) õõõõõ You9ll feel the urge to travel a bit. A new vehicle, perhaps a bicycle or Jeep, could seem to fit your needs. Don9t write emails or letters or make phone calls if you9re upset. Be patient with a neighbor or sibling. Travel in your mind. Tonight: Researching history. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19) õõõõõ Today emphasizes appreciation of possessions. You can add to a collection or find a treasure in an antiques store. Browsing online through shops is an appealing pastime. If you need a new garment or jewelry, you can locate the perfect item now. Tonight: Celebrating quietly. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18) õõõõõ There9s considerable excitement today. Don9t cling to the past. You9re about to be jolted out of a rut. Travel is likely. The gambler and adven- turer within you awakens. You9re weary of the details of a routine and long for expansion. Tonight: Stay cheerful. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20) õõõ Today makes you sympathetic and helpful, but also more emotional than usual. You9ll put changes on hold and recognize a need for conformity. Get extra rest and be patient with yourself. You take a little longer than planned for projects. Tonight: Old memories are strong. Oregon State has been as active as any FBS program in finding the players through the portal. Since the fall of 2018, Smith has acquired 16 FBS or FCS transfers, including four during the past month. Five Oregon State start- ers during the 2020 season were FBS transfers in center Nathan Eldridge (Arizona), quarterback Tristan Gebbia (Nebraska), linebacker Av- ery Roberts (Nebraska), right tackle Brandon Kipper (Ha- waii) and punter/kickoff Caleb Lightbourn (Nebraska). In addition, receivers Ty- jon Lindsey (Nebraska) and Tre’Shaun Harrison (Florida State) played significant min- utes this past season. Kipper, it should be noted, signed in February of 2018, prior to the start of the transfer portal. Only two portal transfers of- ficially didn’t work out for Or- egon State in defensive tackle Charles Moore (Auburn) and safety Myles Green-Richards (Washington State). The latest group of OSU transfers — receiver Makiya Tongue (Georgia), running back Deshaun Fenwick, cor- nerback E.J. Jones (Kansas) and offensive lineman Heneli Bloomfield (Utah State) — are expected to make an impact the next several years. Clearly, Smith was in need of players when he took over Or- egon State’s football program in December of 2017. But the base of talent has improved heading into 2021. If this con- tinues, does it make sense to add to the roster through ag- gressive use of the transfer portal? Smith says probably, yes. “Percentages wise, we’re still going to sign the most from high school,” Smith said. “But we’re still going to look at junior colleges and now, the transfer portal.” Smith looks at roster build- ing as “avenues,” with four such streets leading to players. High school recruiting is the busi- est avenue, filled out by junior colleges, transfer portal and walk-ons. Using the transfer portal to acquire players is part of Smith’s strategy going forward. “It’s an avenue to help your roster,” Smith said. “So long term, we will probably continue Steve Dykes/AP photo Toronto Raptors’ Chris Boucher, left, tries to shoot as Portland Trail Blazers Carmelo Anthony, center, and Enes Kanter, right, defend during Monday night’s game in Portland. “(Chris Boucher is) playing at a super-high level. I think we all know he’s continued to grow each and every year. But yeah, he’s certainly been a real bright spot. I think, again, he plays with great tenacity always and I think that always puts you in good position.” Now in his third season with the Raptors, Boucher has hit the 20-point mark four times in 10 games after doing so just three times in 62 regular-sea- son games last season. “I think when the preseason started, I started on a bad foot, just not playing with a lot of energy,” Boucher told reporters Monday night. “Coach (Nick Nurse) told me I can’t have a day off, especially coming off the bench, I got to be ready all the time. I just started focusing on those things and just trying to be consistent and find a way to help the team, no matter what it is.” Boucher is hitting threes at a clip of 47.2% and ranks No. 2 in the league in player effi- ciency rating at 27.97. “He’s playing at a super-high level,” Nurse told reporters. “I think we all know he’s contin- ued to grow each and every year. But yeah, he’s certainly been a real bright spot. I think, again, he plays with great te- nacity always and I think that always puts you in good posi- tion.” The Raptors, who are play- ing their home games in Tampa, Florida, because of travel restrictions in place in Canada amid the pandemic, now head back to Florida after going 1-3 in their four-game trip to the West. But after dropping those three games by a combined nine points, Boucher said there were positives to take away from the trip. “You can tell we’re back to playing Raptors basketball and I think everybody started see- ing a little bit of flash of the way we could play,” Boucher said. “We’ve just got to be able to finish games.” to be selective. If there are po- sitions of need or a way we can upgrade that position, we’re go- ing to look into doing it.” But using the transfer portal in 2021 and beyond isn’t just an Oregon State thing. “Every program, you need to be looking at it,” Smith said. “Every program is going to end up losing players into it. It’s a part of roster management.” — Nick Nurse, Toronto Raptors head coach