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8B — THE OBSERVER & BAKER CITY HERALD TUESDAY, JULY 7, 2020 COFFEE BREAK Unequal division of housework puts marriage on stormy path DEAR ABBY: I have been mar- ried for seven years and have two children. My husband and I both work full-time, yet I do almost all of the household chores. I have asked him repeat- edly to help ease my workload and stress by dividing the chores more equitably, but my requests are met minimally and temporarily. This has caused arguments, tension and resentment. He says, “You and I value dif- ferent things,” or, “This isn’t what I want to focus on at home,” or, “Your standards are too high and have negatively impacted your relationship with our kids.” I do ask our kids to clean up routinely because I want them to be active members of this household, and this is how I was raised. It’s putting a strain on my mar- riage and affecting my feelings toward my husband. Do I need to let this go? Or are my priorities DEAR misplaced? — OUT OF ABBY BALANCE DEAR OUT OF BALANCE: From your husband’s perspective, why should he have to help with the housework if he can jawbone you into doing the lion’s share? Perhaps you should offer him a choice — participate more or someone will have to be hired to take some of the burden off your shoulders. As to your children, please stick to your guns. It is important they master basic housekeeping skills so that when they become adults, they will be able to take care of themselves. Few chil- dren relish the idea of doing housework, but many of them do it anyway as a way to earn an allowance. DEAR ABBY: I was happily married to the same woman for 51 years. “Jane” was married 42 years to the same man. We were both widowed. We hooked up and were enjoying our time together, but after about three years it all changed. Do you believe in split person- alities, the Jekyll and Hyde thing? Jane started falsely accusing me of having affairs with other women. The last two women she accused me of being involved with I don’t even know. The accusa- tions have been coming more fre- quently. One day she’s fi ne; the next day she is accusing me. Jane doesn’t like vulgar lan- guage, and normally she doesn’t use it. But when she’s accusing me of communicating with these women, she uses words that would make a sailor blush! A researcher’s fi rst guess was the early stages of Alzheimer’s. I know she is paranoid, but why? — HATES THE CHANGE DEAR HATES: A person- ality change such as you have described can be a symptom of Alzheimer’s disease, but it can also be caused by small strokes and other dementias. Jane’s para- noia could also be a symptom of a physical illness. If she has family, it is very important that you inform them about what’s happening so they — and you — can encourage her to be evaluated physically and neurologically. If you do, it might save not only her life but also your sanity. DEAR ABBY: When I was 21, my grandparents told me, “It’s better to be loved than to be right.” Fifty years later, I’m still trying to follow that advice because it’s so true. Sometimes it is very hard to practice, but I will never forget those words. — KEN DEAR KEN: Anything that encourages folks to get along better is good advice in my book. People sometimes place too much importance on trying to be right. Now, allow me to share an adage with you that I learned from MY grandfather: “I never learned any- thing while I was talking.” La Pine man completes restoration of legendary WWII plane By Jackson Hogan EO Media Group SUNRIVER — After a year and a half of work, “Rosie The Rocketer,” a WWII-era Piper L-4H air- plane, has returned to its original 1944 condition, when it was outfi tted with bazookas to blast Nazi tanks in France. La Pine resident Colin Powers, who recently com- pleted extensive restoration of the plane in his garage, has restored many World War II planes. But bringing the plane fl own by U.S. Army pilot and WWII hero Charles “Bazooka Charlie” Carpenter back to life was his favorite project, he said. “It’s been an honor to do this airplane for the family of Maj. Carpenter,” Powers, 84, said. “I’m very happy the way it turned out.” During combat in France, Carpenter strapped three bazookas to each wing of the frail reconnais- sance plane. Carpenter used that plane, which he nicknamed “Rosie The Rocketer,” to blow up multiple Panzer tanks north of the town of Nancy. After the war, Car- penter returned to the U.S. and became a high school teacher. The plane stayed in Europe, where it eventually wound up in an Austrian aviation museum. After a long series of events, Massachusetts arti- facts nonprofi t The Collings Foundation tracked down the plane and shipped it to Powers to renovate in early 2019. Powers said he fi nished the renovation right on schedule, as the plane will be sent back to Massachu- setts in late July, where it will be on display at The Collings Foundation’s museum. Originally, Powers planned to get the plane licensed with the Fed- eral Aviation Administra- tion and fl y it at an experi- mental aircraft convention in Oshkosh, Wisconsin this summer. The COVID-19 pandemic canceled those plans. 73rd Anniversary SALE Value at Every Price Be safe, practice social distancing. Photo by Ryan Brennecke/EO Media Group Colin Powers points to a small green box on the top of the 1944 Piper L-4H while talking about the restoration process of the plane Saturday, June 27, at the Sunriver Airport. The box was added by U.S. Army pilot Charles Carpenter as a rear view mirror to see enemy planes approaching from behind. “It just saddens me that I can’t fl y it,” Powers said. Still, the plane — which sits in a hangar at the Sun- river Airport — looks just as it did in 1944. The bot- toms of both wings have “invasion stripes” painted on them, which many allied WWII planes had around the time of the Normandy invasion, to prevent troops from shooting at their own aircraft, Powers said. Swivel Rockers $ Five Drawer Chest 299 499 $ • Free Delivery • In-Store Credit • 70 Store Buying Power • Decorating Assistance 1520 ADAMS AVENUE La GRANDE, OREGON 97850 There’s also a black-and- white photo in the cockpit of Carpenter’s wife and daughter. The photo was given to Powers by the daughter in the photo, Carol Apacki. “A lot of guys in these planes, they put up a picture of (actress) Betty Grable, but not him,” Powers said. In October, Powers invited Apacki — now a 77-year-old resident of Granville, Ohio — and Apacki’s daughter, Erin Pata, to see the plane. Pata, a graphic designer, re-painted the “Rosie The Rocketer” logo on the side of the plane in an identical fashion to her grandfather’s original design. “She did a masterful job, and really worked hard to make it exactly like it was in the original,” Apacki said. Apacki said she’s kept in contact with Powers during the plane’s renovation. “Awesome is the word that comes to mind; it’s unbelievable,” Apacki said. “It’s the ending of a really long journey.” Apacki hopes that the restoration of her father’s plane will show younger generations the power and bravery that ordinary people can possess. Rustic Oak Finished Entertainment Center $ 699 HOURS:Mon. - Fri. 9:30 am-6:30 pm Sat. 9:30 am-5:30 pm Sun. 12 noon-4 pm (541) 963-4144 • 888-449-2704
