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October 22, 1998 5 Warm Springs, Oregon SpilyayTymoo Community Health news, About Grief: Part two of two In the last issue we defined what Grief was. We discovered why it was important to understand Grief. We understand that grieving people share certain feelings. Tips were shared how you can live with loss and strive to regain a positive outlook. Sources of help and Informa tion: If you need professional help, there are many people and places you can turn to, including counsel ors. Types of counseling: Individual-a one-to-one basis, Group therapy is a process of give and take. Group members help each other by sharing ideas and experi ences. Family counseling focuses on helping the family work through their grief as a unit. Choosing a counselor. 4 High SchoolAlternativeMiddle School All-Indian Free For All Co-Ed Basketball Tournament November 6, 7 and 8 Limit 8 team members First 10 High School teams 6 local4 traveling teams Middle School six team limit 4 local2 traveling To be held at the Toppenish Community Center. For more information, call Youth Activities 865-51 21 , ext. 450451 Message to friends: Listen to Tn the ones listening, Keep your love, consistency, po tential spirit, choice, forgiveness, smile and tears as priorities. These are very important today. Value yours. If you haven't thought about it, think and act in that order. The color of life depends on you. Feel ings you keep, share, learn from. Prevent certain things. (It's hard to be right, easy to be wrong.) Shared by elders in family, handed down, quite an impression, gone but not forgotten, always in my heart. So, to the ones I love very much, you all know who you are. Don't doubt any thing that your heart feels. Don't wait too long. Of course, your heart ; 4 '" . ' r '' If . . ' V Ladiesof the Itk waitisha Ayaiyatma Team 1029 (left to right-standing): Patsy Lenbek, Gladys Squiemphen Nancy Seyler, Dena Thurby and Melva Tanewasha. Front row: Gwen Leonard, Tryna Muilenburg and Nancy Saludo. Not pictured are Connie Blake, Jolene Hintsala, Renee Silversmith Wewa, Sonya Kenyon and Sherri Smith. Thank you to To the editor, Thank you. For the first time Warm Springs had a Women's Walk ing Team in the Annual Portland to Coast Relay August 28-29, 1998. The team name "Itkwaitisha Ayaiyatma" Walking Together, All the Women, consisted of Gwen Leonard, Tryna Muilenburg, Dena Thurby, Connie Blake, Nancy Seyler, Jolene Hintsala, Renee Silversmith Wewa, Gladys Squiemphen, Melva Tanewasha. Patsy Lenbek. Sonya Kenyon, and Donetta Ewack. Driv ers: Nancy Saludo and Sherri Smith. Our total time: 31 hours. 22 minutes. We averaged a 14-minute mile. This Counselors help people to understand themselves, create new goals and adjust to their loss or change. Support Groups Bereavement groups are a source of emotional and practical assistance for people who are coping with the death of a loved one. Parents without partners is a na tional organization that provides help to people who arc separated, di vorccd or widowed. Check around there may be one locally. Widowed persons service groups help persons deal with their loss and all of the new situa tions they may encounter. Support groups also provide en joyable social activities and contact with people who've had similar ex periences. Other organizations and local hospitals may also offer refer ral services and other kinds of assis tance. Vhat can you do for a Grieving person First, try to place yourself in to grieving person's situation. Then, decide what type of support would be most helpful. Here are some ways you can help, especially during the early stages of grief. Offer emotional support; be present if you can. Often just having someone near can be a tremendous help. Don't be afraid to show you care by giving the person a hug or holding his or her hand (if you can't be present, write, phone, send flow ers etc. to show your concern). talks. It' s not crazy, it lives if you let it One day you came around in my space, I let you in my world (I re spect.) Okay. Level with me. Treat me with honesty. Please do be truthful and up front. Reality is not taking on my part. It's giving friendship willingly, from my heart. Puzzle pieces I don't do, it's not find out what part goes where, it's whole or nothing. Back to respect. It always does and will continue to be this way. It works best for me. Yes, I do see you. One question. Are you my friend? If you are, be yourself. No one is u f rr . 1 ,, Lv our sponsor & was not iust one person's team but all of us as a team. Everyone enjoyed themselves and throughout the relay, got caught up in the excitement from the beginning to the end as we all crossed the finish line with Sonya at Seaside! A tremendous thank you to our sponsor, tribal member Deni Leonard of DLA Financial, Inc. out of San Francisco. His symbol for his com pany is the earth with eagle feathers circling it. From that, the team name was created. Thank you Dallas Winishut for helping us come up with the team name. Andy Leonard also supported us with helpful hints Be a eood listener. A good friend who's a sympathetic listen can be a great comfort to a grieving person. Encourage independence. A grieving person may need an occa sional reminder that he or she can handle the responsibilities of a new way of life. Be patient. Keep in mind that it takes time for someone who's been badly hurt to accept his or her loss and to deal with the changes it has caused. Rf nSfflirt thS grieving person. After the initial shock has passed, you can help him or her to realize that the pain will lessen. You can do this by sharing your feelings and talking about any similarexperiences you' ve had. Tell the person you understand what he or she is going through, but avoid using the phrase "I know just how you feel". ProyiriP practical assistance. Help with everyday chores. Re lieve the person of some of the rou tine chores such as grocery shop ping, doing house work, etc. Assist with cards and letters. Of fer to help write thank-you notes and other correspondence. Lend a hand at meals. Bring something you've made to the person's home or extend an invita tion for dinner at your home. Answer the telephone. Offer to screen phone calls and take mes sages. Remember... .recovery takes time. People often need the most your heart nprffint We all laush. crv. make mis takes, learn, touch, feel, see, smell, communicate, hear in our hearts and with our ears. I I've let you share my heart. , i It consists of speaking of failures, -asking for help, lessons, solutions, awareness. Blessings today I have ' for you to be safe, learn from mis takes made, let your rainbow show. Be proud. Let no one or nothing detour you from honesty my friend. It's well worth every minute, truth... I gave you friendship. It' s yours. I gave it to you to have endurance, j. strength, wisdom, comfort, confi dence, most of all, loyalty. God Bless. My prayers are with you. ' Twink , m f1 I I u ; ( i r . 14 1 '4k , supporters and support. Tyrna's sister and hus band were kind enough to have 1 1 of us stay at their home the night before the relay. To our alternates for stand ing by to be on the team for nearly the year. You are encouraged to partici pate next year to keep walking! But our families and friends were very supportive of us as we trained at various areas of the reservation. We thank them for letting us put one foot in front of the other as we w alked out the front door nearly every day to walk. Team 1020 Itkwaitisha Ayaiyatma help after the initial shock of a loss wears off. Continue to provide sup port for as long as it's needed. Some misconceptions about Tears are sign of weakness. Wrong. Tears are a way to release very intense feelings. Certainly there is no shame in showing how you feel about losing someone you loved. It's best to avoid discussing a loss with a grieving person. False. Grieving people are grateful to friends who help keep memories alive, and are not afraid t talk openly about the pain created by the loss. Children should be sheltered from grief. Not true. Kids need to grieve. Be sensitive to their need by telling them about the loss in an hon est, loving way. They too, need an open, caring person to talk with about their grief. An end to grief mean an end to . caring about a loved one. Not at all. Love lasts beyond grief through a commitment to living life fully. So, loss and grief are a natural part of life. Remember, recovery from grief will be easier if you: Understand, Believe, Learn to accept and seek help. Learn to live life. Thank you agai n for the input. We welcome any comments or if you would like information on any other subjects give us a call at 553-4922 or write to us at C.H.E.T; PO Box C; Warm Springs, OR 97761. . Annual Halloween Carnival Thursday, October 29 Warm Springs Community Center Bring the whole family! Congratulations to Danell & Otis on the birth of their Twiny TwinTwinz!! From Eileen & Sterling A Special "Happy Birthday" to our mother Flora Frank We love you very much. Think of you all the time, and miss you very much! Love vour Lil' Monsters, Ericson "Lil Man", Shannon, "Bobos" & Davina "Neena" A special Happy Birthday to my sister Flora Frank We're thinking of you!! Love your lil' sister, Rachel, Avery, Leonard & Elvis A very Happy Birthday wish out to my Big Sister "Flora Fawn Frank" I'm thinking of you on your special day, and praying that everything in life is going your way! With lots of love Your lil' sis, Eileen & Sterling Happy 6th Birthday Jason Royce, 1016 We love you very much & hope you enjoy your party! Love, Taylor & Mom Jason Royce: Happy 6th Birthday October 19, Hope you had a great one! ! ! Love you always, Auntie Earlene & Lee-Lee Happy 29th birthday??? Sherri L Smith 10-25-98 Love, The Thurbys Happy Birthday Mom We love you and miss you Have lots of fun and think about us Love always, Peters P.Davida DonalliaRomelleDiego JJPDJ MadelinePuppie-From Albuquerque, NM Happy Birthday Auntie Sherri Love you very much! Bubs Mitch ( ... .4 Thank you all for everything To the editor, On behalf of my family and ex tended family, I would like to thank everyone who came to my home and helped in the tragic death of my daughter, Tiffany Anne Wolfe, to the Police officers who kept us up dated and still to this day are working with us. To my church family and friends who have stood by myself and my husband Celcdonio and other daughter Lalani Plazola. To the Tribes in their wonderful contribution and the Tribal Council who helped. Especially to the Tribal elders who did such a wonderful cer emony for my daughter, I cannot thank you all enough for all that you did to make my family welcomed. A special thank you to Sarah, Lucy and Esther and to all the others that helped make things better, and you know who you are. Please accept my thank yous and May God bless you all. May God Bless Love Always, Paulette & Celedonio Ruiz To Byron Scott: October 19th, Wishing you a Happy Birthday! From: Jessica & Jason Tufti Salmon Powwow results sent The Return of the Columbia River Salmon Powwow held in Richland, Washington on September 12, 1998 sends the following list of winners. 7-12rrirl'fiFan,v&Tingle 1 st-Angela Bellinger, WSO; 2nd- Farrellyn Bellinger, WSO, 3rd- Tawya Andrews, Lapwai, ID 7-12 r.irl's Traditional lst-Courtney Buck, Lapwai, ID, 2nd-Jayshawn Reed, White Swan, WA 13-17 Girl's Fanrv & Tingle lst-Tatiane Penny, Lapwai, ID, 2nd-Lena Young Running Crane, White Swan, WA, 3rd-Christine Wesley, Harrah, WA 13-17 Girl's Traditional lst-Maggie Sweowat, White Swan, WA, 2nd-Whitney Buck, Lapwai, ID, 3rd-Lauissa Bellinger, WSO i 7-12 TY'" Fanev & Grass lst-Wesley Walsey, Granger, WA, 2nd-Victor Barkley, Pendleton, OR, 3rd-Eli Sweowat, White Swan, WA 7-?. Roy's Traditional lst-Andrew George, Granger, 4 1 , 4 . .' i Art! ' i If.' i 1 .'.X.J" Shawnrae Gabriel, October 15, 1981. Happy Birthday-Eh! I am very proud of your strengths that you've shown. You are a Grizzly at heart. I'm sorry that I couldn't be there for your day. I know you had a great day. Keep dancing for all your people. Con tinue living the good life that you have chosen and been blessed with. Much Love & Prayers, Your Dad Ivan Candidate asks for support To all the residents of Jefferson County, Government must respond and consider the needs of each individual in this county. I am committed to a system that bases its decision on com mon sense and honesty. A county government that will operate openly and is run like a successful business. Jefferson County, with its vast geographical size, diverse economi cal resources and rich cultural heri tage, will need strong and fair leader ship as it plans for growth. I have the ability and experience to face chal lenges that will guide our county with a positive approach. It would be an honor to serve as your commissioner. Bringing an hon est perspective and an open approach to the county's needs. If you believe that Jefferson County needs common sense gov ernment and a fresh approach, vote for Frank Morton, County Commis sioner. Thank you, Frank Morton Halloween Dance Friday, October 30 Community Center Girls 16 and Under Basketball Tournament November 14, 15 Sponsored by the Spokane Tribe Drug Elmination Program in Wellpinit, WA $100 per team Contact Phil Haugen 509.258.7617 or Tiger Peone 509.258.7242 PO Box 284, Ford, WS 99013 Deadline: October 30 WA, 2nd-Teddy Walsey, Granger, WA 3rd-Anthony Maldenado, Granger, WA 13-17 Rov's Fancy & Grass lst-Lonnie Allen, Satus, WA 2nd Kenny Allen, 3rd-Damian Wilson, Lapwai, ID 117 Rov's Traditional lst-Maynard Wilson, III, Lapwai, ID, 2nd-Chris Paul, White Swan, ID Women's Fancy lst-Laverna Thompson, 2nd Karen Luciai, Wapato, WA 3rd Patricia Thompson, Granger, WA Woman's Traditional lst-Wilma Buck, White Swan, WA2nd-KatrinaWalsey,Satus,WA 3rd-Regina Madplume, Browning, MT Men's Fancy . lst-Gerry Smith, Toppenish, WA 2nd-Wilson Totus, Toppenish, WA 3rd-Ted Umtuch, Pendleton, OR lst-Rodney Totus, Toppenish, WA 2nd-Wilson Powaukee, Lapwai, ID 3rd-Clendon Allen, Lapwai, ID Men's Golden Ace 1st Wesley Tyas, Pendleton, OR JelizMiversario Que coda momentofeRz Que Juntos fuujan pasado Sea tvocado am alegria y 'seasiempm recardado. . . yqueentos ctias por venir ftumente sufefiddad ydamoTCfuefwijlosune 'Dure una etermdad Joy 1 . A -- J f I Carlitos Reynoso It has been 8 whole years since the day you were born. Although you had some fears, you've come a long way, for October 27th is a very special day. I know you are onty the BIG 8 But it only makes you more great. Happy Birthday Son!! Love you lots-Your Mom, whom you've made so proud i
