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East Oregonian
Saturday, August 13, 2022
DEAR ABBY
Man’s controlling behavior still dominates ex’s life
Dear Abby: I was married for almost 20
years to a jealous, controlling man. “Pete”
was emotionally abusive, which I didn’t really
notice because I’m not confrontational. I
would just try to make him happy and ignore
his controlling behavior. Toward the end of
our marriage, I realized how isolated I had
become. I had pushed most of my friends
and family away. They didn’t want to visit
because of Pete’s negative attitude.
Our daughter developed an illness in her
teens that requires 24-hour care. Her illness
didn’t necessarily upset him; what did upset
him is the attention she would require in the
future. He would say things like, “She’s ruin-
ing our retirement. I was looking forward to
having you to myself and not having to deal
with anyone.” This was when I realized how
controlling he was. It felt like I had been
wearing a blindfold and then I could fi nally would you do? — Keeping The Story
see. I immediately fi led for divorce.
Straight
A year afterward, I started seeing an old
Dear Keeping: What would I do? I would,
friend I’ll call “Darren,” someone
once and for all, quit allowing my ex
my husband had often accused me
to control me! I’d call Darren and
of cheating with. (He did that with
talk with him about why I ended
any man I knew.) I really like Darren
the relationship and ask if he would
and can see a future with him. He
consider resuming where the two of
treats my daughter great and doesn’t
us left off . If he is willing, I would
mind that when we go out she has to
move forward. However, if he isn’t,
tag along.
I’d fi nd a licensed psychotherapist
Pete is now saying that if I date
who could give me the tools to avoid
JEANNE
Darren, it’s proof that I cheated on
my ex’s manipulations in the future.
PHILLIPS
him. I don’t want my ex to think for
Dear Abby: My partner and
ADVICE
a minute that our marriage ended
I have a wonderful relationship,
because I cheated, because it’s not
but there is one area of contention
true. So I broke up with Darren because we don’t know how to solve. I like a fi rm
I refuse to accept him being labeled as the mattress. She likes a soft mattress. We bought
person who broke up my marriage. What an adjustable bed, so each of us could fi ne-
tune the settings to our desired comfort level.
It has been a month now, and I hate the
new mattress. I just cannot get comfortable.
It’s so bad I fi nd myself sleeping in another
room just to catch a good night’s rest. As you
can imagine, sleeping apart causes anxiety
between us, and it has been confusing and
stressful for our animals. How do you propose
we solve this in a way that restores peace in
our relationship? — Yawning In Arizona
Dear Yawning: Pay a visit to the store
from which you purchased that adjustable
bed and fi nd out if you need a lesson or two
on how to operate the mattress correctly.
(You won’t be the fi rst, trust me on that.) If
your discomfort persists, sell the bed and
replace it with two twin- or queen-sized
mattresses so you and your partner can at
least share the same room.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago in the East Oregonian
The members of the American Legion, assisted by the
Auxiliary, gave a very pretty party Tuesday evening in the
Watts Auditorium in honor of three of their members who
have recently become benedicts and their brides, who have
recently come to reside here. The honored guests were Mr.
and Mrs. Orville Phelps, Mr. and Mrs. Elmer Parsell, and Mr.
and Mrs. James P. Murphy. The hall was artistically decorated
with asparagus and golden glow. Dancing and card playing
was indulged in. Hrs. Harry Coleman of Tacoma, gave several
vocal selections in her usual pleasing manner. Refreshments
were served.
50 years ago in the East Oregonian
Registration of new students at Hermiston High School and
confi rmation of the Oregon Total Information Service (OTIS)
spring registration for other students will be done at the high
school offi ce today through Thursday.
If there are any questions, parents are encouraged to confer
with counselors at registration time regarding courses for
students and the senior high school program.
25 years ago in the East Oregonian
A Morrow County warrant led to the arrest of a La Grande
man Friday and a $36,000 drug bust.
During a traffi c stop in LaGrande, local police found
John Lee McLaughlin, 20, was wanted on a Morrow County
warrant for failure to appear in court on a charge of driving
while suspended.
Police obtained a search warrant and seized seven pounds
of marijuana, three ounces of methamphetamines and $1,100
worth of cash from McLaughlin’s car. According to police,
the marijuana had a street value of $26,000, while the meth-
amphetamine had a street value of $8,400.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
In 1521, Spanish conqueror
Hernando Cortez captured
Tenochtitlan, present-day
Mexico City, from the Aztecs.
In 1792, French revolu-
tionaries imprisoned the royal
family.
In 1846, the American fl ag
was raised in Los Angeles for
the fi rst time.
In 1889, William Gray
of Hartford, Connecti-
cut, received a patent for a
coin-operated telephone.
In 1910, Florence Night-
ingale, the founder of modern
nursing, died in London at age
90.
In 1932, Adolf Hitler
rejected the post of vice chan-
cellor of Germany, saying he
was prepared to hold out “for
all or nothing.”
In 1960, the fi rst two-way
telephone conversation by
satellite took place with the
help of Echo 1.
In 1961, East Germany
sealed off the border between
Berlin’s eastern and western
sectors before building a wall
that would divide the city for
the next 28 years.
In 1995, Baseball Hall of
Famer Mickey Mantle died
at a Dallas hospital of rapidly
spreading liver cancer; he
was 63.
In 2003, Iraq began pump-
ing crude oil from its north-
ern oil fi elds for the fi rst time
since the start of the war.
Libya agreed to set up a $2.7
billion fund for families of the
270 people killed in the 1988
Pan Am bombing.
In 2004, TV chef Julia
Child died in Montecito, Cali-
fornia, two days short of her
92nd birthday.
In 2011, seven people
were killed when a stage
collapsed at the Indiana State
Fair during a powerful storm
just before a concert was to
begin. In eastern Pakistan,
al-Qaida gunmen kidnapped
an American development
expert, Warren Weinstein.
(Weinstein was killed in a
U.S. drone strike in Jan. 2015.)
In 2020, in an interview on
Fox Business Network, Presi-
dent Donald Trump acknowl-
edged that he was starving the
U.S. Postal Service of money
in order to make it harder to
process an expected surge
of mail-in ballots. Israel and
the United Arab Emirates
announced that they were
establishing full diplomatic
relations in a deal brokered
by the U.S.; it required Israel
to halt its plan to annex occu-
pied West Bank land sought
by the Palestinians.
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to a man living near the Texas
A&M University campus
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the death of a law enforcement
offi cer and another man before
the gunman was killed. Helen
Gurley Brown, 90, the long-
time editor of Cosmopolitan
magazine, died in New York.
Five years ago: In a state-
ment, the White House said
President Donald Trump
“very strongly” condemned
individual hate groups such
as “white supremacists, KKK
and neo-Nazis;” the statement
followed criticism of Trump
for blaming the previous day’s
deadly violence at a white
supremacist rally in Charlot-
tesville, Virginia, on “many
sides.” Protesters decrying
hatred and racism converged
around the country, saying
they felt compelled to respond
to the white supremacist rally
in Virginia. Actor, director
and writer Joe Bologna died
at the age of 82.
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140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
end its two-decade war. U.S.
weather offi cials said the aver-
age global temperature in July
made it the hottest month ever
recorded. Grammy-winning
folk singer-songwriter Nanci
Griffi th died at 68.
Today’s Bir thdays:
For mer U.S. Su rgeon
General Joycelyn Elders is
89. Actor Kevin Tighe is
78. U.S. Treasury Secretary
Janet Yellen is 76. Opera
singer Kathleen Battle is 74.
High wire aerialist Philippe
Petit is 73. Hockey Hall of
Famer Bobby Clarke is 73.
Golf Hall of Famer Betsy
King is 67. Movie director
Paul Greengrass is 67. Actor
Danny Bonaduce is 63. TV
weatherman Sam Champion
is 61. Actor Dawnn Lewis
is 61. Actor John Slattery is
60. Actor Debi Mazar is 58.
Actor Quinn Cummings is
55. Actor Seana Kofoed is 52.
Country singer Andy Griggs
is 49. Actor Gregory Fitoussi
is 46. Country musician Mike
Melancon (Emerson Drive) is
44. Actor Kathryn Fiore is 43.
Former White House press
secretary Sarah Huckabee
Sanders is 40. Actor Sebas-
tian Stan is 40. Actor Eme
Ikwuakor is 38. Pop-rock
singer James Morrison is 38.
Actor Lennon Stella is 23.
DIRECTORY
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
541-567-6937
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
PendletonPresbyterian.com
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
M-F Morning Prayer 7am on Zoom
Worship Services On Facebook
10:00am Sundays
All Are Welcome
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
JOIN OUR INCLUSIVE
CONGREGATION
ON OUR JOURNEY WITH JESUS
Services 9:00am Sundays
In-person or streaming on
Facebook or Zoom
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
The Salvation Army
FAITH LUTHERAN
CHURCH
Center for Worship & Service
Sunday Worship Service
9:30 - Sunday School
10:30 - Worship Service
Wednesday Bible Study
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Facebook.com/PendletonPresbyterian
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
COME AS YOU ARE
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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PendletonLighthouseChurch
First Christian
Church
(DISCIPLES OF CHRIST)
in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
215 N. Main • Pendleton
In Person worship Sundays
at 10:00 am
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
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541-564-4538 or email aworkman@eastoregonian.com