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East Oregonian
Saturday, November 20, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Substance abuse pits family members against each other
Dear Abby: I’m a 35-year-old woman
whose father refuses to get along with me
no matter how hard I try. Our relationship
was always strained due to the alcoholism
he has struggled with since my childhood,
made worse by the fact that I became an
addict. I’ve been in recovery for a while,
and I’m clean and sober now.
He and my mother took guardianship
of my two sons, ages 12 and 7, because my
disease rendered me unable to care for them
at that time. I have mentioned getting my
kids back after I acquire more clean time;
neither of my parents wants that. I know
Dad resents me deeply, both because he has
my kids and also because of my addiction.
If I can forgive him for what his alco-
holism has put me through, why can’t he
forgive me? I don’t understand why he
has to hate me. Believe me, he hates me! I
just want him to treat me the same way he accumulated more clean time, regaining
treats my older brother and sister. I need custody of your children may become a
help with this situation. Counsel-
viable option, and something to
ing is not an option; I know he will
discuss with a lawyer at that time.
refuse. — Hurting In Michigan
Dear Abby: My wife has
Dear Hurting: A predisposi-
star ted slur ping her food at
tion to addiction can run in fami-
dinner. I think it started after we
lies. I suspect that the person your
returned from a vacation three
father hates is himself, and that he
months ago. I’m convinced she
saw a lot of himself in you while
didn’t do it before then because
we have taken a couple of vaca-
you were using. That you are now
JEANNE
sober is a constant reminder of
tions recently where it would
PHILLIPS
what a failure he is, which may be
have been noticeable because of
ADVICE
why he treats you the way he does.
the quiet, intimate places in which
While counseling for him may
we dined.
be out, it doesn’t mean that you
Because of the COVID quaran-
couldn’t benefit from it. Please consider tine, I realize that tensions can be height-
it. Although it won’t make your father love ened, and I have tried not to make too much
you, it may help you to handle his unpleas- of this. I am reluctant to speak up about it
antness more effectively. Once you have because during my first marriage, even the
slightest noise when eating would upset my
ex-wife, and I think it would be unfair for
me to have the same pet peeve.
This may seem like I’m overly sensi-
tive, but her slurping and heavy breathing
every time she takes a bite, even with dry
food, is making dinner time uncomfort-
able for me. I have pointed it out in a casual
way, but it seems she is unaware of just
how loudly she is eating. What can I do to
reach a compromise on this? — Uncom-
fortable Diner
Dear Diner: While your sensitivity to
this might be related to the problems you
had with your first wife, because this is a
recent change in your current wife’s behav-
ior, it should be checked out by her doctor.
I am less concerned about her “slurp-
ing” than about the labored breathing you
described when your wife is eating.
DAYS GONE BY
100 years ago — 1921
Many thousands of dollars of damage has been incurred
in Umatilla county as a result of the heaviest November snow
storm that has fallen in this section of the state during the
past 25 years. After about 55 hours of continuous storm two
feet of snow covered groaning buildings, broke telephone and
telegraph wires, impeded street traffi c, almost completely
blocked rail traffi c and caused the collapse of some roofs.
The Happy Canyon pavilion proved the fi rst storm casualty
in Pendleton when the roof caved in under the weight of the
snow. As a result the entire pavilion is a wreck, the roof having
fallen in upon the dance fl oor and the walls being damaged
by the cave-in.
50 years ago — 1971
In Arlington these days, the Honkers are the prime topic
of conversation. The Honkers are the members of Arling-
ton’s high school football team which will meet Huntington
Saturday afternoon in the semifi nals of the Oregon Class A
Eight-Man football playoff s. Eighty-nine-year-old Minnie
McClaskey, sporting a recently purchased $10 Honker boost-
ers jacket, says she is hoping to get a ride to the game. The
prospects of winning a state crown was a major topic of busi-
ness in the month’s city council meeting and Wednesday’s
chamber of commerce luncheon. Mayor and chamber pres-
ident Foster Odom was checking out possible bus transpor-
tation for adults in the community. As for city recorder Bud
Allen, he said, “I’m going to Huntington if I don’t break a leg
before then.”
25 years ago — 1996
Hunting has long been a way of life for many in northeast
Oregon. But that doesn’t mean the sport is free of discord
locally. The Oregon Department of Fish and Wildlife added a
portion of the Ukiah big game management unit to the Colum-
bia Basin extended elk season this year. That move fostered
controversy among some biologists who say the month-long
either-sex hunt is too broad, and complaints from some hunt-
ers who are confused by boundaries and requirements. The
Columbia Basin extended season has been in place for several
years and the last two years have included the Columbia Basin
Unit and part of the Biggs Unit, stretching east to the John
Day River. A portion of the Ukiah Unit was added this year
to address the build-up of the resident elk herd in the McKay
Creek drainage. Because part of the hunt boundary doesn’t
follow a natural or man-made feature, like a road, some hunt-
ers end up on the wrong side and have been cited by State
Police.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Nov. 20, 1945, 22
former Nazi officials went
on trial before an interna-
tional war crimes tribunal
in Nuremberg, Germany.
(Almost a year later, the Inter-
national Military Tribune
sentenced 12 of the defen-
dants to death; seven received
prison sentences ranging from
10 years to life; three were
acquitted.)
In 1789, New Jersey
became the fi rst state to ratify
the Bill of Rights.
In 1947, Britain’s future
queen, Princess Elizabeth,
married Prince Philip, Duke
of Edinburgh, at Westminster
Abbey.
In 1952, President-elect
Dwight D. Eisenhower
announced his selection of
John Foster Dulles to be his
secretary of state.
In 1962, President John F.
Kennedy held a news confer-
ence in which he announced
the end of the naval quarantine
of Cuba imposed during the
missile crisis, and the signing
of an executive order prohib-
iting discrimination in federal
housing facilities.
In 1967, the U.S. Census
Bureau’s Population Clock at
the Commerce Department
ticked past 200 million.
In 1976, the boxing drama
“Rocky,” starring Sylvester
Stallone, premiered in New
York.
In 1984, pop star Michael
Jackson was inducted into
the Hollywood Walk of Fame
with the unveiling of his star
in front of a horde of scream-
ing fans.
In 1985, the fi rst version of
Microsoft’s Windows operat-
ing system, Windows 1.0, was
offi cially released.
In 2000, lawyers for Al
Gore and George W. Bush
battled before the Florida
Supreme Court over whether
the presidential election
recount should be allowed to
continue.
In 2003, Michael Jack-
son was booked on suspicion
of child molestation in Santa
Barbara, California. (Jackson
was later acquitted at trial.)
Record producer Phil Spector
was charged with murder in
the shooting death of an actor,
Lana Clarkson, at his home in
Alhambra, California. (Spec-
tor’s fi rst trial ended with a
hung jury in 2007; he was
convicted of second-degree
murder in 2009 and sentenced
to 19 years to life in prison. He
died in January 2021.)
In 2012, former boxing
champion Hector “Macho”
Camacho was shot while
sitting in a car in his home-
town of Bayamon, Puerto
Rico. (Camacho died four
days later after doctors
removed him from life
support.)
In 2015, Jonathan Pollard,
a former U.S. Navy intelli-
gence analyst, was released
from prison after 30 years
behind bars for spying for
Israel. (After five years of
parole, Pollard moved to Israel
in December 2020.)
Today’s Birthdays: Actor
Estelle Parsons is 94. Comedian
Dick Smothers is 83. President
Joe Biden is 79. Singer Norman
Greenbaum is 79. Actor Veron-
ica Hamel is 78. Broadcast
journalist Judy Woodruff is 75.
Singer Joe Walsh is 74. Actor
Richard Masur is 73. Opera
singer Barbara Hendricks
is 73. Former national secu-
rity adviser John Bolton is 73.
Actor Bo Derek is 65. Former
NFL player Mark Gastin-
eau is 65. Reggae musician
Jimmy Brown (UB40) is
64. Actor Sean Young is 62.
Pianist Jim Brickman is 60.
Actor Ming-Na is 58. Actor
Ned Vaughn is 57. Rapper
Mike D (The Beastie Boys) is
56. Rapper Sen Dog (Cypress
Hill) is 56. Actor Callie Thorne
is 52. Actor Sabrina Lloyd
is 51. Actor Joel McHale is
50. Actor Marisa Ryan is 47.
Country singer Dierks Bentley
is 46. Actor Joshua Gomez is
46. Actor Laura Harris is 45.
Olympic gold medal gymnast
Dominique Dawes is 45.
Country singer Josh Turner is
44. Actor Nadine Velazquez
is 43. Actor Jacob Pitts is 42.
Actor Andrea Riseborough is
40. Actor Jeremy Jordan is 37.
Actor Dan Byrd is 36. Actor
Ashley Fink is 35. Rock musi-
cian Jared Followill (Kings of
Leon) is 35.
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CHURCH DIRECTORY
Solid Rock
Community Church
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
541-567-6937
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
Community
Presbyterian
Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
First Christian
Church
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
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CHURCH
215 N. Main • Pendleton
10:30 - Worship Service
Sundays at 11:00am
In Person worship Sundays
at 11:00am
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
32742 Diagonal Rd.
Hermiston, OR
Office Phone: 541-276-5358
Hours: M-F 9:00am-1:00pm
PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252
417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
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Center for Worship & Service
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150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
N.E. Gladys Join
Ave & Us
7th, Hermiston
541-567-6672
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Red Lion Hotel
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Redeemer
Episcopal
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241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
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Sunday Holy Communion: 9am
Wednesday Holy Communion: Noon
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