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East Oregonian
Saturday, May 29, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Sisters react diff erently in longtime rift with mom
Dear Abby: Seventeen years ago, when
my sister “Elise” and I were 19 and 25, our
mother kicked us both out. I have long since
forgiven her, and I have a happy relationship
with her. Elise, on the other hand, has never
let it go. I don’t understand why, because
she’s the older of us, and 25 was a normal
age to leave the nest.
Elise refuses to see our mother unless
someone drives out to pick her up, so every
holiday and birthday my stepfather picks her
up and drives her round trip. Even when my
sister is there, she speaks to no one, not even
me. Mom and I talk and beg her to join us,
while Elise sits off to the side and refuses
to join in. I have planned girls’ trips for the
three of us with the same result.
I long for a relationship with Elise, but
not a one-sided one. I feel bad for
admitting she has a problem and
Mom and for her, because I’m sure
a desire to do something about it.
Elise is lonely. I feel like a horri-
Unless that happens, there’s noth-
ble person when I say I have a
ing you or your parents can do to
sister but we are not close. Do you
“help” her.
think there’s any hope? — Missing
Dear Abby: I am a 63-year-
Normal in Michigan
old man, bor n “Thomas J.
Dear Missing Normal: There
Reilly.” I was legally adopted at
may be a lot more wrong with your
14,
although I had lived with my
JEANNE
sister than a case of hard feelings.
adoptive parents since I was 6
PHILLIPS
As you stated, 17 years ago it was
months old and was given their
ADVICE
normal for 25-year-old women to
surname, “Johnson.” My wife of
leave their parents’ home and live
42 years recently passed. My adop-
independently or with a contemporary. If, tive parents died several years ago, and my
at age 41, Elise is as isolated and uncom- brother, who was also adopted by the John-
municative as you describe, she may need sons, has been gone two years.
the help of a psychotherapist to get back
My mother always wanted me to search
on track. Of course, this would entail her for my birth family, but out of respect for
her and Dad, I never did. Now, because I
have no adoptive relations left in my life,
I’m considering changing my name back to
Reilly, but I’m ambivalent about it. I want
to reengage with my birthright, yet remain
respectful to the Johnsons, who lovingly
raised me as their own. My heart has two
halves, and I don’t know which to nurture.
— Confused in the East
Dear Confused: The line “What’s in
a name? A rose by any other name would
smell as sweet” is a classic in English liter-
ature. In a situation like yours, however, it
may not hold true. You honored your adop-
tive parents and your brother every day of
their lives. If you feel changing your name
would make your heart whole, then follow
through with what you need to do.
DAYS GONE BY
From the East Oregonian
100 Years Ago
May 29, 1921
Who can supply a new name for Cabbage Hill which will
do justice to the beautiful view of the Inland Empire which
is aff orded from its crest? An S.O.S. has been sent out by
members of the county court for suggestions that will enable
the top point of the grade to receive a name that will be in
keeping with its character. A realization that prosy Cabbage
Hill is not appropriate as a name came to Judge I.M. Schannep
when he heard Herbert Nunn, state highway engineer, declare
recently at Portland that the view from Cabbage Hill was the
most beautiful scenic sight he had seen from any highway in
the whole state of Oregon, not even excepting the Columbia
river highway. One suggestion that was made by the county
judge was “Wonderview.”
50 Years Ago
May 29, 1971
St. Andrew’s School, operated by the Catholic Church
since 1889, will be discontinued next week. The school, 10
miles southeast of Pendleton, will continue to be used for
recreational and educational activities by members of the
parish. The 50-some students in the 82-year-old school, which
includes the fi rst through eighth grades, will be able to attend
St. Joseph’s Academy next year. Their tuition will be paid
by the church. Blamed for the discontinuance were an erod-
ing fi nancial situation, a declining number of students and
fewer members of the order of sisters which has provided the
teachers.
25 Years Ago
May 29, 1996
Ten old buildings around Echo are being submitted to the
state historical society for historical status in hopes the desig-
nation will bring more tourists to town and free up some
grant money for restoration. The city is preparing a multiple
property listing application to get about 10 buildings scat-
tered around town declared historical. Since the signifi cant
structures are spread around town, Echo could not apply for a
historical district designation. Along with the Echo Grocery,
the researchers are working on City Hall, the Umatilla
Masonic Lodge Hall, the Koontz Building, the Koontz House,
the Echo Methodist Church, the Edwards Building, the Echo
Tavern and St. Peter’s Catholic Church. The 10th building is
still being decided, but there are plenty from which to choose,
City Administrator Diane Berry said.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On May 29, 2020, fi red
Minneapolis police offi cer
Derek Chauvin was arrested
and charged with third-de-
gree murder and second-de-
gree manslaughter in the
death of George Floyd. (He
would be convicted in April
2021 on those charges as well
as second-degree uninten-
tional murder.)
In 1790, Rhode Island
became the 13th original
colony to ratify the United
States Constitution.
In 1914, the Canadian
ocean liner RMS Empress
of Ireland sank in the St.
Lawrence River in eastern
Quebec after colliding with
the Norwegian cargo ship
SS Storstad; of the 1,477
people on board the Empress
of Ireland, 1,012 died. (The
Storstad sustained only
minor damage.)
In 1953, Mount Everest
was conquered as Edmund
Hillary of New Zealand and
Tensing Norgay of Nepal
became the fi rst climbers to
reach the summit.
In 1973, Tom Bradley was
elected the fi rst Black mayor
of Los Angeles, defeating
incumbent Sam Yorty.
In 1977, Janet Guthrie
became the fi rst woman to
race in the Indianapolis 500,
fi nishing in 29th place (the
winner was A.J. Foyt).
In 1985, 39 people were
killed at the European Cup
Final in Brussels, Belgium,
when rioting broke out and
a wall separating British and
Italian soccer fans collapsed.
In 1988, President Ronald
Reagan and Soviet leader
Mik hail S. Gorbachev
opened their historic summit
in Moscow.
In 1998, Republican elder
statesman Barry Goldwa-
ter died in Paradise Valley,
Arizona, at age 89.
In 2009, a judge in Los
Angeles sentenced music
producer Phil Spector to 19
years to life in prison for the
murder of actor Lana Clark-
son. (Spector remained in
prison until his death in Janu-
ary 2021.)
In 2014, Starbucks closed
thousands of stores for part
of the day to hold training
sessions for employees on
unconscious bias, in response
to the arrests of two Black
men in Philadelphia at one of
its stores.
In 2015, the Obama
administration formally
removed Cuba from the U.S.
terrorism blacklist.
In 2019, in his fi rst public
remarks on the Russia inves-
tigation, special counsel
Robert Mueller said charging
President Donald Trump with
a crime was “not an option”
because of federal rules, but
he emphasized that the inves-
tigation did not exonerate the
president.
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