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East Oregonian
Saturday, January 9, 2021
DEAR ABBY
Far-fl ung family makes little effort to stay in touch
Dear Abby: I am a 72-year-old divorcee. I
live alone in a 55-and-older community where
I have many friends and an active life.
My three adult children are ages 37 to
43. The eldest lives out of the country with
my 12-year-old grandson. My other son and
his wife live 2,000 miles away and have two
young children, one of whom I saw once three
years ago. My daughter lives with her husband
an hour and a half away. I see them about twice
a year.
My daughter will sometimes answer an
email or text, sometimes not. My sons almost
never contact me, not even on my birthday or
Mother’s Day. From what I understand, they
have little communication with their father or
each other, either.
Is this normal? It breaks my heart. This isn’t
how I raised them. I always encouraged them
to maintain a relationship with their father and
we sent her the link, she has already
their grandmother. Is there anything I
can do? — So Sad in the East
purchased items not on our regis-
Dear So Sad: I’m sorry for your
try. I am gracious, Abby. I thank
heartache, and there is something you
her verbally and follow up with a
can do. Concentrate on your friends,
note in the mail. However, we don’t
people who are willing to return your
have enough room for all the items to
emotional investment. You should
use just when she visits, so I plan to
also ignore Mother’s Day, which is
quietly return or donate them.
an emotionally loaded holiday that
When she’s here and asks why
causes pain not only to mothers
we’re not using her gifts, what do I
J EANNE
like you, but also to those who have
say? I’d prefer not to lie and say some-
P HILLIPS
recently lost their mothers. I think
thing like “the dog chewed it up,” nor
ADVICE
you have suffered enough, don’t you?
do I want to be brutally honest and
Dear Abby: My mother-in-law,
tell her I found the things she bought
“Gladys,” has never liked to shop from a gift
too ugly. — Mom-In-Waiting
Dear Mom-In-Waiting: Find a wide,
list. She prefers to look on her own for a gift
she thinks the person would like. My problem
shallow box that will fi t under a bed. Select
is, most of the things she buys are atrocious.
some of the “atrocious” gifts and use them
My husband and I are expecting our fi rst
when Grandma Gladys comes to visit. If she
child — her fi rst grandchild — and although
asks why you’re not using all of them, explain
that because you already had some of the gifts
she sent, you donated hers to a needy family
who could enjoy them. (It’s a diplomatic
version of the truth.)
Dear Abby: I’m a single woman in my
30s, not a Mrs. and too young for Ma’am. Am
I a Ms.? What do they all stand for? — In
Between M’s
Dear In Between: You qualify for “Ms.,”
if you wish to use it. As you know, “Miss” is
the term used to denote an unmarried woman.
After consciousness was raised regarding
equal rights for women, some began using
“Ms.” in the workplace when they preferred
not to reveal their marital status. Tradition-
ally, in the South, women over 21 are called
“Ma’am” as a sign of respect. Farther north
it’s applied to mature women, although not
all of them appreciate hearing it directed at
them.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 9, 1921
Declaring that he still stood squarely on his campaign slogan
of “economy, a clean city and an effi cient business adminis-
tration of the city government,” Mayor George A. Hartman
Wednesday night made his inaugural address before the city
council and 50 men gathered to witness the action of that body
at its fi rst meeting. The audience was hearty in its applause of
the new mayor’s stated policy. By the end of the week, the street
department, under C.A. Crabtree, superintendent of streets,
had begun cleaning up Pendleton. Old piles of junk which have
reposed behind buildings for months are being ferreted out and
all rubbish which can be found will be ordered removed and
burned. The commissioner and his force are working in coop-
eration with the fi re chief, for the presence of such material is
not only considered unsightly but is usually a fi re menace.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 9, 1971
Marine Lance Cpl. Glen C. Klein, 21, of Pendleton, died
Tuesday aboard the U.S.S. Sanctuary from injuries sustained
earlier that day. He received the wounds from an enemy explo-
sive device while on a platoon size combat patrol in Quang
Nam Province, Republic of Vietnam. Klein, who had been
in the Marine Corps since Sept. 8, 1969, was a member of
Company L, 3rd Battalion, 5th Marines, 1st Marine Divi-
sion. He was born in Pendleton, attended schools here and
was graduated from Pendleton High School. He attended
Blue Mountain Community College for two years. He was
married to June Miller on March 1, 1970, at Halfway. Survi-
vors include the widow, in Pendleton; his father, Henry Klein,
Pendleton; and two brothers, LeRoy, Pendleton, and Ronald,
home on leave from the U.S. Army.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 9, 1996
An Enterprise woman’s stolen pickup has been recov-
ered thanks to her son who spied the vehicle as it was being
driven through Pendleton. Tim McFetridge, 27, of Pendleton,
called his mother, Gayle, in Enterprise when he saw the 1992
Chevrolet pickup being driven by a man he couldn’t identify.
Upon learning his mother had reported the pickup as stolen,
McFetridge called Pendleton police on his cellular phone.
The pickup was parked at Dairy Queen on Southwest Court
Avenue. Steven D. Byerley, 27, of Lostine, was arrested on
charges of motor vehicle theft, providing offi cers with false
information and for driving with a suspended license.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Jan. 9, 2020, Chinese
state media said a prelimi-
nary investigation into recent
cases of viral pneumonia had
identifi ed the probable cause
as a new type of coronavirus.
In 1788, Connecticut
became the fifth state to
ratify the U.S. Constitution.
In 1793, Frenchman Jean
Pierre Blanchard, using a
hot-air balloon, flew from
Philadelphia to Woodbury,
New Jersey.
In 1861, Mississippi
became the second state to
secede from the Union, the
same day the Star of the
West, a merchant vessel
bringing reinforcements and
supplies to Federal troops at
Fort Sumter, South Carolina,
retreated because of artillery
fi re.
In 1913, Richard Milhous
Nixon, the 37th president of
the United States, was born
in Yorba Linda, California.
In 1916, the World War
I Battle of Gallipoli ended
after eight months with an
Ottoman Empire victory as
Allied forces withdrew.
In 1945, during World
War II, American forces
began landing on the shores
of Lingayen Gulf in the Phil-
ippines as the Battle of Luzon
got underway, resulting in an
Allied victory over Imperial
Japanese forces.
In 1951, the United
Nations headquarters in New
York offi cially opened.
In 1958, President Dwight
D. Eisenhower, in his State
of the Union address to
Congress, warned of the
threat of Communist impe-
rialism.
In 1987, the White House
released a January 1986
memorandum prepared for
President Ronald Reagan
by Lt. Col. Oliver L. North
showing a link between U.S.
arms sales to Iran and the
release of American hostages
in Lebanon.
In 2003, U.N. weapons
inspectors said there was
no “smoking gun” to prove
Iraq had nuclear, chemical
or biological weapons but
they demanded that Bagh-
dad provide private access to
scientists and fresh evidence
to back its claim that it had
destroyed its weapons of
mass destruction.
In 2009, the Illinois House
voted 114-1 to impeach Gov.
Rod Blagojevich, who defi -
antly insisted again that he
had committed no crime.
(The Illinois Senate unan-
imously voted to remove
Blagojevich from offi ce 20
days later.)
In 2015, French secu-
rity forces shot and killed
two al-Qaida-linked broth-
ers suspected of carrying
the rampage at the satirical
newspaper Charlie Hebdo
that had claimed 12 lives, the
same day a gunman killed
four people at a Paris kosher
grocery store before being
killed by police.
Today’s Birthdays: Folk
singer Joan Baez is 80. Rock
musician Jimmy Page (Led
Zeppelin) is 77. Singer Crys-
tal Gayle is 70. Nobel Peace
laureate Rigoberta Menchú
is 62. Rock singer-musi-
cian Dave Matthews is 54.
Actor-director Joey Lauren
Adams is 53. Actor Angela
Bettis is 48. Actor Omari
Hardwick is 47. Roots sing-
er-songwriter Hayes Carll is
45.
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PENDLETON
LIGHTHOUSE CHURCH
DIRECTORY
Community Worship
Our Lady of Angels
Catholic Church
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
Iglesia Católica Nuestra
Señora de los Ángeles
565 W. HERMISTON AVE.
First United
Methodist
Church
Pendleton
210 NW 9th St. Pendleton Oregon
(Peace Lutheran Church)
Sunday worship 8:30pm
541-276-2616
Open Hearts,
Open Minds, Open Doors
Patty Nance, pastor
FIRST PRESBYTERIAN
CHURCH
Sunday Service: 9am & 6pm
Tuesday Kingdom Seekers: 7pm
Wednesday Bible Study: 7pm
We offer: Sunday School • Sign Language
Interpreters • Nursery • Transportation • & more!
Pastor Dan Satterwhite
541.377.4252 • 417 NW 21st St. • Pendleton, OR 97801
www.facebook.com/PendletonLighthouseChurch
The Salvation Army
Center for Worship & Service
-Presbyterian Church (USA)-
201 SW Dorion Ave.
Pendleton
Sunday Worship Service
Service of Worship - 10:00 am
Children’s Sunday School -
10:20 am
Fellowship - 11:00 am
www.pendletonpresbyterian.com
10:30 - Worship Service
5:30 Family Fellowship Meal • 6:00 Bible Study
Sunday Mornings
COME AS YOU ARE
Open Hearted...
Open Minded
150 SE Emigrant
(541) 276-3369
1st Service: 8:30am
2nd Service: 10:30am
9:30 - Sunday School
Wednesday Bible Study
Includes Children’s Services
St. Johns
Episcopal Church
Redeemer
Episcopal
Church
Join Us
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Join
On Our Journey
With Jesus.
241 SE Second St. Pendleton
(541)276-3809
www.pendletonepiscopal.org
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Email: chuckb@eotnet.net for link
N.E. Gladys Ave & 7th, Hermiston
PH: 567-6672
We are an all inclusive Church
who welcomes all.
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FAITH LUTHERAN
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in Mission for Christ LCMC
Sunday Worship.........9:00 AM
Bible Study......10:15 AM
Red Lion Hotel
( Oregon Trail Room )
108 S. Main St.
Pendleton
Sunday at 10:30am
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“A Come as
You are Church”
OPEN HEARTS – OPEN DOOR
www.graceandmercylutheran.org
Sunday Worship 8:45 a.m.
Sunday School 10:00 a.m. (Nursery Provided)
Fellowship, Refreshments & Sunday School
Check Out our Facebook Page or
Website for More Information
541-289-4535
Pastor Weston Walker
Grace and Mercy Lutheran Church, ELCA
(First United Methodist Church)
191 E. Gladys Ave. / P.O. Box 1108
Hermiston, Oregon 97838
Also Live Stream at PendletonFirst.com
Community
Presbyterian
Church
Solid Rock
Community Church
14 Martin Drive,
Umatilla, OR
922-3250
541-567-6937
Worship: 10 AM
Sunday School at 11:30
ONLINE and IN-PERSON SERVICES
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712 SW 27TH ST.
www.pendletoncog.com
love God, love people, and make disciples who make disciples
140 SW 2nd St Hermiston, OR 97838
Worship Service: 11:00AM
Sunday School: 9:45
Pastor Wilbur Clark
SundayEvenings
Celebrate Recovery: 6:00
Wednesday Evenings
Family Night: 6:00 pm
Pendleton First Assembly of God
1911 SE Court Ave. PO Box 728
541.276.6417 pendletonfirst.com
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