COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, September 26, 2020
East Oregonian
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DEAR ABBY
Wife starts to resent man’s constant demands for gifts
Dear Abby: I feel uncomfortable receiv-
ing gifts, and I fi nd it hard to meet my hus-
band’s requests for constant gifts, espe-
cially when I feel I already give so much.
He constantly asks me to buy him things,
some of which are very expensive.
I’m a saver, not a spender, and I try to
watch my budget. I already pay all the
household bills, even though we make the
same amount of money. I owned my house
before we met, and he chips in with occa-
sional upgrades and maintenance or takes
me out to dinner once in a while. But I
pay for the vast majority of expenses, as
well as perform the majority of chores. I
have sacrifi ced and paid for all our vaca-
tions because I wanted the experience, and
I accept that.
The problem is, he seems to feel unap-
preciated, suggesting that if I gifted him
more often, he would know he was con-
stantly thought of. He says he buys me ran-
dom gifts — usually small items to which they are requested.
there are strings attached or implied reci-
Whether your husband is greedy, selfi sh
procity. These requests, especially when or extremely needy, I can’t guess, but the
he buys for himself quite a bit,
balance is off in your marriage.
seem like a smack in the face to
This is why I’m recommending
me. I feel he’s impulsive with pur-
you consult a marriage and fam-
chases, and won’t be happy until I
ily therapist. If your husband is
have nothing left.
willing to go with you and discuss
How do I handle meeting my
these issues, they can be resolved.
husband’s need for constant val-
If not, please go alone so you can
idation without going bankrupt
gain clearer insight into what (and
or having all the love sucked out
whom) you are dealing with.
J EANNE
from resentment? Mentioning my
Dear Abby: My mother likes
P HILLIPS
fi nancial limitations doesn’t seem
to
tell
people where to sit at every
ADVICE
to quench his thirst for more. —
family gathering. It can be any-
Excessive in New York
where, including at a restaurant or
Dear Excessive: If my reading of your even at my aunt’s house. It’s annoying and
letter is accurate, you are doing all the feels disrespectful.
heavy lifting in your marriage. What,
I’m 49, and my girls are in their early
exactly, is your husband contributing 20s. I try to be patient, but she doesn’t con-
except to ask for more? Gifts are supposed sider health conditions or if someone is
to be freely given, not dispensed because left-handed.
My older daughter was severely trauma-
tized by a former neighbor and doesn’t do
well with strangers. A few years ago, my
cousin’s boyfriend came, and my mother
ordered my daughter to sit next to him. It
was horrible for my daughter. We tried one
more time last year at a restaurant, and it
was the same. Since then, we have skipped
family gatherings. I don’t know why she
feels she has to tell us what to do. Please
help. — Pushed Around in Kentucky
Dear Pushed: Have you talked to your
mother about this? She may, for whatever
reason, need to feel she is in control. If she
isn’t hosting the gathering, this may be her
way of maintaining dominance in her rela-
tionship with her sister, her children and
grandchildren.
I’m not sure you can change your mother,
but please don’t cut yourself off from the
rest of your family. If you aren’t seeing
them individually, please consider it.
DAYS GONE BY
100 YEARS AGO
Sept. 26, 1920
Lettie, the far-famed Round-Up buffalo, is wild no lon-
ger. She wears a ribbon on her horn and eats from the hand
of Miss Helen Irving, Los Angeles girl who is a Pendleton
visitor. Miss Irving, who has for many years been in the
movies, became interested in the buffalo and began efforts
to tame her. Using kindness and tact, Miss Irving soon
trained Lettie to come when called and to do simple tricks.
This is Miss Irving’s fi rst experience training wild animals.
She thinks her next pupil will be Sharkey, the Round-Up
bull, for he already has shown signs of repentance and Miss
Irving believes he can be coaxed from his wild and wooly
ways.
50 YEARS AGO
Sept. 26, 1970
It isn’t summer yet in Australia, so Joe Allison decided
not to return there immediately after Round-Up. He has
been the guest of Duff Severe during his stay in Pendle-
ton, and this was not his fi rst Round-Up. His home is in
the state of Victoria, in the southern part of the continent
near Melbourne. He lives on a 10-acre place where he raises
horses. Lately his interest has been focused on quarter
horses, which are very popular in Australia now. “Last year
one stud sold for $20,000,” he said. He said Jimmy Dix, an
Australian who was a judge at the Round-Up, has bought
an Appaloosa stud and a quarter horse stud to take back
to Australia. Allison will be taking home his third Severe
Brothers saddle. He said he had heard about their saddles
before he ever came to Pendleton.
25 YEARS AGO
Sept. 26, 1995
The residents of Meacham joke that their sparsely pop-
ulated mountain village is a refuge for oddballs, thieves
and outlaws. Really it’s just a place for hardscrabble folks
who don’t mind dressing in layers. A mere half hour’s drive
away in Pendleton, memories of a hot, dusty Round-Up
aren’t yet two weeks old, but up here in the thin, crisp air
there is foreshadowing of the sort of mind-numbing cold
that comes every winter. It’s only a few days into autumn
and the mercury has already made several trips into the
20s. Meacham has achieved the dubious honor of record-
ing the nation’s overnight low seven times in the last two
months. For residents, it helps to have a sense of humor
and be of hearty stock. Nearly everyone who lives here has
some sort of cold weather story to tell. Like how it got to
52 below last January, and how one time it took 45 minutes
to boil water.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Sept. 26, 1960, the
fi rst-ever debate between
presidential nominees took
place as Democrat John F.
Kennedy and Republican
Richard M. Nixon faced off
before a national TV audi-
ence from Chicago.
In 1777, British troops
occupied
Philadelphia
during
the
American
Revolution.
In 1789, Thomas Jeffer-
son was confi rmed by the
Senate to be the fi rst United
States secretary of state;
John Jay, the fi rst chief jus-
tice; Edmund Randolph, the
fi rst attorney general.
In 1888, poet T.S. Eliot
was born in St. Louis,
Missouri.
In
1955,
following
word that President Eisen-
hower had suffered a heart
attack, the New York Stock
Exchange saw its worst
price decline since 1929.
In 1964, the situation
comedy “Gilligan’s Island”
premiered on CBS-TV.
In 1986, William H.
Rehnquist was sworn in
as the 16th chief justice of
the United States, while
Antonin Scalia joined the
Supreme Court as its 103rd
member.
In 1990, the Motion Pic-
ture Association of Amer-
ica announced it had cre-
ated a new rating, NC-17, to
replace the X rating.
In 1991, four men and
four women began a two-
year stay inside a sealed-
off structure in Oracle, Ari-
zona, called Biosphere 2.
(They emerged from Bio-
sphere on this date in 1993.)
In 1996, President Clin-
ton signed a bill ensur-
ing two-day hospital stays
for new mothers and their
babies.
In
2003,
President
George W. Bush and Rus-
sian President Vladimir
Putin opened a two-day
summit at Camp David.
In 2005, Army Pfc. Lyn-
ndie England was convicted
by a military jury in Fort
Hood, Texas, on six of seven
counts stemming from the
Abu Ghraib prison abuse
scandal. (England was sen-
tenced to three years in
prison; she ended up serv-
ing half that time.)
In 2016, Republican
Donald Trump and Demo-
crat Hillary Clinton partici-
pated in their fi rst debate of
the presidential campaign at
Hofstra University in New
York; Clinton emphatically
denounced Trump for keep-
ing his personal tax returns
and business dealings secret
from voters while Trump
repeatedly cast Clinton as a
“typical politician.”
Today’s
Birthdays:
Retired baseball All-Star
Bobby Shantz is 95. Singer
Olivia Newton-John is 72.
Rock singer-musician Cesar
Rosas (Los Lobos) is 66.
Actor Linda Hamilton is
64. Singer Tracey Thorn
(Everything But The Girl) is
58. Actor Mark Famiglietti
is 41. Singer-actor Christina
Milian is 39. Tennis player
Serena Williams is 39.
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