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DEAR ABBY
Absence from guest list hurts old friend of groom’s mother
Dear Abby: I have had a friend,
me as her “oldest and dearest friend.”
“Kimberly,” for 52 years,
I invited Kim to all four of
ever since first grade. We
my children’s weddings. She
went all through school
didn’t attend, but sent gifts.
together. Teachers described
(Kim has anxiety and doesn’t
her as a “social butterfly.”
like to travel.) When her older
My dad described her as a
son got married two years
“phony.” She’s an extrovert
ago, I wasn’t invited, but I
with a nice personality and
sent a generous gift. Now, her
younger son is being married,
many friends. I am more of
and again, I’m not invited.
an introvert, but I do have
J eanne
a few good friends. We are
I’d like to share in Kim’s
P hilliPs
ADVICE
joy. There are people attend-
both happily married with
ing I’d like to see. I feel like a
children and grandchildren.
I moved from our home-
fool. Do you think my dad was
town 28 years ago, but we have stayed
right about Kim? Am I on her “C” list
in contact. Kim will call me on my
when I thought I was “A”-rated? I feel
birthday, etc. We talk on the phone
like a 12-year-old who was excluded
every few months and meet for lunch
from a slumber party. Should I tell her
when I go back to visit. She refers to
how hurt I am or continue the next 20
years in this “phony” relationship? —
Sucker-Punched in Kansas
Dear Sucker-Punched: Do not
quietly nurture a grudge that may end
your long friendship with Kim. Have
a talk with your old friend about your
feelings. Depending upon who has
footed the bill for these shindigs, you
may be blaming the wrong person.
Traditionally, the bride’s parents
pay for their daughter’s wedding;
more recently, the happy couples pay
for it themselves. For financial rea-
sons, they may have needed to cur-
tail the guest list, which is why you
weren’t invited. Also, the young cou-
ple may have preferred to include
more of their own friends, which
limited the number of invitations the
groom’s parents could issue.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 11, 1920
Fifteen dollars for coyote hides is the price quoted in a
new fur list received today by the local office of the United
States Biological Survey. Lynx will bring on an average of $40,
although the highest price paid for the best grade is quoted at
$70. Muskrats, whose former price was 15 cents a skin, will be
from $2 to $6. Over 1,000 of these rats were recently trapped by
two trappers in the Malheur country in 13 days. Rabbit skins
will bring 40 cents a pound. It takes 15 or 18 rabbit skins to
make a pound, but local west end trappers have been killing
rabbits by thousands and have a chance to profit by the killing.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 11, 1970
The Northwest League awarded baseball franchises to Pend-
leton, Bend and Coos Bay at a meeting Sunday. David Pier-
son, Bend, owner of the Pendleton franchise, said the approval
was based on a tentative agreement with the city and there are
still some problems to be worked out. Pierson and members of
the Stadium Committee have tried to work out an agreement
for use of Fallen Field for the Class A rookie league team. The
city has designated $5,000 and Round-up Association presi-
dent John Mulligan said the association would underwrite the
remainder needed to prepare Fallen Field, up to the estimated
$22,400. Pierson said today he has not yet received a contract
from the Round-up Association, and the Stadium Committee
and city manager have received no word from Pierson.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 11, 1995
The Hermiston Hispanic Heritage Project has brought a little
cultural pride to Eastern Oregon Correctional Institution. The
traveling art exhibit is on display for all of EOCI’s more than
1,500 inmates to see — most particularly the 250 Hispanics
who reside in the medium security prison. The project is pro-
viding an opportunity to share some of the unique experiences
of being a minority inmate, some of whom are from another
country and have cultural and language barriers. “We come to
work but can’t speak English,” said inmate Victor Elvira in a
heavy Mexican accent. “Some end up committing crimes and
go to prison. But we do not want to live like this. Do you think
we have come here to do wrong? No, we have a dream.”
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Jan. 11, 1908, Pres-
ident Theodore Roosevelt
proclaimed the Grand Can-
yon National Monument (it
became a national park in
1919).
In 1861, Alabama became
the fourth state to withdraw
from the Union.
In 1913, the first enclosed
sedan-type automobile, a
Hudson, went on display at
the 13th National Automobile
Show in New York.
In 1935, aviator Amelia
Earhart began an 18-hour trip
from Honolulu to Oakland,
California, that made her the
first person to fly solo across
any part of the Pacific Ocean.
In 1977, France set off
an international uproar by
releasing Abu Daoud, a PLO
official behind the massacre
of Israeli athletes at the 1972
Munich Olympics.
In 1978, two Soviet cos-
monauts aboard the Soyuz
27 capsule linked up with the
Salyut 6 orbiting space sta-
tion, where the Soyuz 26 cap-
sule was already docked.
In 1989, nine days before
leaving the White House,
President Ronald Reagan
bade the nation farewell in a
prime-time address, saying
of his eight years in office:
“We meant to change a nation
and instead we changed a
world.”
Thought for Today: “Je
sais que je ne sais pas ce
que je ne sais pas.” (I know
that I don’t know what I
don’t know.) — Marguerite
Youcenar, French author
(1903-1987).
Universal Crossword
Edited by David Steinberg January 11, 2020
ACROSS
1 Mall array
6 Latitude
11 Gentle toss
14 High clouds
15 Started working on
16 Two-vowel vow
17 Have the cash for that new
Mustang?
19 Turn down
20 Vex
21 Chris who won 18 Grand
Slams
22 Turn down
23 The second “O” of YOLO
25 Office fixture?
27 Work on redesigning part of
one’s kitchen?
31 Of the skin
33 Northern European capital
34 One helps move a galley
35 Early Peruvian
36 Lb. and oz.
37 Other, in Sevilla
38 Through
39 Be right for
41 Fireplace screens block
them
43 Prepare to ship something
from David’s Bridal?
46 Mic user
47 Rosemary Clooney, to
George
48 Runs casually
50 Obstruct, as a river
52 Rental car choice
56 Belcalis Marlenis Almanzar,
___ Cardi B
57 Make one penny more
noticeable?
59 Cooking spray brand
60 Insertion mark
61 China piece
62 Word after “good” or “evil”
63 Arduous journeys
64 Not on deck, perhaps
DOWN
1 Many an unrealistic email
offer
2 LP player
3 “Carmina Burana”
composer
4 As per routine
5 British honorific
6 Like some barbershop
customers
7 One may sell crepes
8 Without a smell
9 Incomplete
10 Takeoff stat
11 Record sleeve writings
12 Norse god married to Frigg
13 Like the Nissan Cube
18 Model plane sticker
22 Weed-busting agcy.
24 New Deal org. that targeted
cutthroat competition
26 To’s partner
27 Donkey Kong, originally
28 Sammy Davis Jr.’s “I’ve ___
A Two and a One by Jeffrey Wechsler
sudoku answers
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Be Me”
Teri of “Young Frankenstein”
Greek god with wings
Renee Fleming or Madonna
City north of Oklahoma City
Smarty-pants
It gets in the way
“Give me just a ___!”
You might pay a lot for one
at a lot
Blow like a volcano
Chess pieces
Apt. rental ad info
Intimidates
Make fun of
“Sure!”
Like global inheritors, it’s
said
Calf meat
Go ___ detail
Hearty fare
One of two in Albee’s
“Three Tall Women”
P.D. alert