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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Wednesday, January 4, 2017
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ
Man feels abandoned as girl
transitions to new relationship
FOR BETTER OR WORSE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
B.C.
BY JOHNNY HART
PICKLES
BY BRIAN CRANE
BEETLE BAILEY
BY MORT WALKER
Dear Abby: I am a straight man
it might help you to move forward if
who met and fell in love with a trans-
you keep in mind that all women are
gender girl I’ll call Eve. We dated for
not the same, that building trust takes
almost three years, and they were the
time, and give yourself time to heal
happiest of my life. In all that time,
before trying to replace Eve.
we never once had an argument. She
Dear Abby: I am a 23-year-old
said I had given her the strength to
woman who recently got out of a
come out to her family and begin her
six-year abusive relationship. While I
transition. I was planning to ask her to
was in the relationship, no one knew
Jeanne
marry me.
what
was going on. When I finally
Phillips
Without any indication that
left him, I started dating a man of a
Advice
anything was wrong, she dumped
different race. People are now saying
me one day and weeks later began
I moved too fast because we got
dating her friend, another trans girl. I wanted together a month after I moved out. But we
to walk away and take time to heal, but Eve had been close friends for more than a year
maintained that I was important to her and we before things started to kick off.
could remain friends.
The issue is, my family disapproves of our
For the next few months we tried, but her relationship because of his race and because
new girlfriend treated me like I was a threat. they believe he didn’t give me enough time to
While I was emotionally hurting, she seemed figure out what I wanted. I feel like I already
to take intense pleasure in showing me how knew what I wanted. I had been emotionally
happy they were together. It eventually led done with my first relationship for a good six
to friction, and now my ex thinks I caused months. My family refuses to meet him, nor
it because I was jealous, so she cut off all do they want to hear anything about our rela-
contact with me.
tionship. My family and I had always been
I stood by her when she absolutely needed close — until now.
my support, but when the time came to give
I am happy with my new boyfriend (even
a little back, I was abandoned. I’m worried my grandma sees a difference). I just wish I
I will never trust anyone again, and I don’t knew how to get my family to understand and
know how to get “myself” back. Can you agree to meet him. What can I do? — Ready
help? — Abandoned In West Virginia
For This In Ohio
Dear Abandoned: It might help if you
Dear Ready: If you are open to a
consider that there are more than physical suggestion, because you were in an abusive
changes when making the kind of transition relationship for so long, talk with a licensed
Eve was undergoing, and she may have felt psychotherapist about it. You were unhappy
that her trans friend was better able to relate for a long time, and it’s possible that the
to what she was experiencing than you were. difference your grandmother is seeing is
It was cowardly of her to just dump you partly fueled by adrenaline.
rather than tell you she had doubts about
You are an adult and you deserve to be
your relationship, and it was selfish of her to happy. If this man makes you feel that way,
pressure you to hang around as “just a friend” then more power to him. Take things slowly,
afterward. It also wasn’t realistic.
enjoy the relationship, and perhaps with time
What you are feeling is normal. However, your family will come around.
DAYS GONE BY
GARFIELD
BLONDIE
BY JIM DAVIS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 4, 1917
If the majority sentiment among the Indians
of the Umatilla reservation is allowed to
govern, the 75,000 acres of tribal lands on the
reservation will be allotted to the children of
the present allottees. At the most representative
council held on the reservation in years, the
Indians yesterday afternoon voted four to one
in favor of the division of the lands. There were
about 300 adult Indians present at the council
and it was necessary to hold the meeting in the
old chapel. After a “talkfest” lasting from 2 until
5 and during which eloquent and impassioned
speeches were made, there were 170 who
signed the petition for allotment and 40 who
signed the remonstrance against it. The others
present signed neither. The papers will be kept
at the agency for a month, during which time
others may have the privilege of expressing
their wishes. They will be forwarded to the
Indian bureau at Washington.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 4, 1967
Factual evidence of a mild winter was in
evidence the last day of the year when a local
resident picked half a dozen red raspberries
in his garden. L.G. Freeman of 825 NE 4th
discovered the berries while pruning the
raspberries. He said they were in a cluster that
had protection under some leaves. The retired
carpenter cultivates an extensive garden each
year, and says he raises about everything
you would have in a garden in this country.
At 83, he says this exercise plus tramping up
and down the trout stream keeps him in good
physical condition.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Jan. 4, 1992
Lisa Marie Hajek of Hermiston is the
mother of Joseph Michael Hajek, born at
Good Shepherd Community Hospital at 10:31
a.m. Jan. 1, 1992. As the mother of the first
baby of the new year Lisa Hajek won several
prizes including gift certificates and dinners
from Hermiston merchants, flowers from the
hospital and gifts from the hospital auxiliary.
Steven and Shelly French of Pendleton are the
parents of Trey Thomas Steven French, born at
St. Anthony Hospital at 4:19 p.m. Jan. 1. The
Frenches also won several prizes, including
gift certificates, flowers, two buffet breakfast
and a silver cup from Pendleton merchants.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
Today is the fourth day of
2017. There are 361 days left
in the year.
Today’s Highlight in
History:
On Jan. 4, 1967, “The
Doors,” the self-titled debut
album of the rock group
featuring the song “Light My
Fire,” was released by Elektra
Records.
On this date:
In 1717, France, Britain
and Holland formed a Triple
Alliance against Spain.
In 1896, Utah was
admitted as the 45th state.
In 1904, the Supreme
Court, in Gonzalez v.
Williams, ruled that Puerto
Ricans were not aliens and
could enter the United States
freely; however, the court
stopped short of declaring
them U.S. citizens. (Puerto
Ricans received U.S. citizen-
ship in March 1917.)
In
1935,
President
Franklin D. Roosevelt, in his
State of the Union address,
called for legislation to
provide assistance for the
jobless, elderly, impoverished
children and the handicapped.
In 1943, Soviet dictator
Josef Stalin made the cover of
TIME as the magazine’s 1942
“Man of the Year.”
In 1951, during the
Korean War, North Korean
and Communist Chinese
forces recaptured the city of
Seoul (sohl).
In 1960, author and
philosopher Albert Camus
died in an automobile acci-
dent in Villeblevin, France, at
age 46.
In 1965, President Lyndon
B. Johnson delivered his State
of the Union address in which
he outlined the goals of his
“Great Society.”
In 1974, President Richard
Nixon refused to hand over
tape recordings and docu-
ments subpoenaed by the
Senate Watergate Committee.
Today’s
Birthdays:
Actress Barbara Rush is
90. Football Hall of Fame
coach Don Shula is 87.
Opera singer Grace Bumbry
is 80. Actress Dyan Cannon
is
78.
Author-historian
Doris Kearns Goodwin is
74. Country singer Kathy
Forester (The Forester Sisters)
is 62. Actress Ann Magnuson
is 61. Rock musician Bernard
Sumner (New Order, Joy
Division) is 61. Country
singer Patty Loveless is 60.
Actor Julian Sands is 59.
Rock singer Michael Stipe
is 57. Actor Patrick Cassidy
is 55. Actor Dave Foley is
54. Actress Dot Jones is 53.
Actor Rick Hearst is 52. Rock
musician Benjamin Darvill
(Crash Test Dummies) is 50.
Thought for Today:
“Sometimes history takes
things into its own hands.”
— Thurgood Marshall, U.S.
Supreme Court justice (1908-
1993).
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE