Page 6B East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Wednesday, January 4, 2017 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Man feels abandoned as girl transitions to new relationship FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE BEETLE BAILEY BY MORT WALKER Dear Abby: I am a straight man it might help you to move forward if who met and fell in love with a trans- you keep in mind that all women are gender girl I’ll call Eve. We dated for not the same, that building trust takes almost three years, and they were the time, and give yourself time to heal happiest of my life. In all that time, before trying to replace Eve. we never once had an argument. She Dear Abby: I am a 23-year-old said I had given her the strength to woman who recently got out of a come out to her family and begin her six-year abusive relationship. While I transition. I was planning to ask her to was in the relationship, no one knew Jeanne marry me. what was going on. When I finally Phillips Without any indication that left him, I started dating a man of a Advice anything was wrong, she dumped different race. People are now saying me one day and weeks later began I moved too fast because we got dating her friend, another trans girl. I wanted together a month after I moved out. But we to walk away and take time to heal, but Eve had been close friends for more than a year maintained that I was important to her and we before things started to kick off. could remain friends. The issue is, my family disapproves of our For the next few months we tried, but her relationship because of his race and because new girlfriend treated me like I was a threat. they believe he didn’t give me enough time to While I was emotionally hurting, she seemed figure out what I wanted. I feel like I already to take intense pleasure in showing me how knew what I wanted. I had been emotionally happy they were together. It eventually led done with my first relationship for a good six to friction, and now my ex thinks I caused months. My family refuses to meet him, nor it because I was jealous, so she cut off all do they want to hear anything about our rela- contact with me. tionship. My family and I had always been I stood by her when she absolutely needed close — until now. my support, but when the time came to give I am happy with my new boyfriend (even a little back, I was abandoned. I’m worried my grandma sees a difference). I just wish I I will never trust anyone again, and I don’t knew how to get my family to understand and know how to get “myself” back. Can you agree to meet him. What can I do? — Ready help? — Abandoned In West Virginia For This In Ohio Dear Abandoned: It might help if you Dear Ready: If you are open to a consider that there are more than physical suggestion, because you were in an abusive changes when making the kind of transition relationship for so long, talk with a licensed Eve was undergoing, and she may have felt psychotherapist about it. You were unhappy that her trans friend was better able to relate for a long time, and it’s possible that the to what she was experiencing than you were. difference your grandmother is seeing is It was cowardly of her to just dump you partly fueled by adrenaline. rather than tell you she had doubts about You are an adult and you deserve to be your relationship, and it was selfish of her to happy. If this man makes you feel that way, pressure you to hang around as “just a friend” then more power to him. Take things slowly, afterward. It also wasn’t realistic. enjoy the relationship, and perhaps with time What you are feeling is normal. However, your family will come around. DAYS GONE BY GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 4, 1917 If the majority sentiment among the Indians of the Umatilla reservation is allowed to govern, the 75,000 acres of tribal lands on the reservation will be allotted to the children of the present allottees. At the most representative council held on the reservation in years, the Indians yesterday afternoon voted four to one in favor of the division of the lands. There were about 300 adult Indians present at the council and it was necessary to hold the meeting in the old chapel. After a “talkfest” lasting from 2 until 5 and during which eloquent and impassioned speeches were made, there were 170 who signed the petition for allotment and 40 who signed the remonstrance against it. The others present signed neither. The papers will be kept at the agency for a month, during which time others may have the privilege of expressing their wishes. They will be forwarded to the Indian bureau at Washington. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 4, 1967 Factual evidence of a mild winter was in evidence the last day of the year when a local resident picked half a dozen red raspberries in his garden. L.G. Freeman of 825 NE 4th discovered the berries while pruning the raspberries. He said they were in a cluster that had protection under some leaves. The retired carpenter cultivates an extensive garden each year, and says he raises about everything you would have in a garden in this country. At 83, he says this exercise plus tramping up and down the trout stream keeps him in good physical condition. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Jan. 4, 1992 Lisa Marie Hajek of Hermiston is the mother of Joseph Michael Hajek, born at Good Shepherd Community Hospital at 10:31 a.m. Jan. 1, 1992. As the mother of the first baby of the new year Lisa Hajek won several prizes including gift certificates and dinners from Hermiston merchants, flowers from the hospital and gifts from the hospital auxiliary. Steven and Shelly French of Pendleton are the parents of Trey Thomas Steven French, born at St. Anthony Hospital at 4:19 p.m. Jan. 1. The Frenches also won several prizes, including gift certificates, flowers, two buffet breakfast and a silver cup from Pendleton merchants. THIS DAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the fourth day of 2017. There are 361 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On Jan. 4, 1967, “The Doors,” the self-titled debut album of the rock group featuring the song “Light My Fire,” was released by Elektra Records. On this date: In 1717, France, Britain and Holland formed a Triple Alliance against Spain. In 1896, Utah was admitted as the 45th state. In 1904, the Supreme Court, in Gonzalez v. Williams, ruled that Puerto Ricans were not aliens and could enter the United States freely; however, the court stopped short of declaring them U.S. citizens. (Puerto Ricans received U.S. citizen- ship in March 1917.) In 1935, President Franklin D. Roosevelt, in his State of the Union address, called for legislation to provide assistance for the jobless, elderly, impoverished children and the handicapped. In 1943, Soviet dictator Josef Stalin made the cover of TIME as the magazine’s 1942 “Man of the Year.” In 1951, during the Korean War, North Korean and Communist Chinese forces recaptured the city of Seoul (sohl). In 1960, author and philosopher Albert Camus died in an automobile acci- dent in Villeblevin, France, at age 46. In 1965, President Lyndon B. Johnson delivered his State of the Union address in which he outlined the goals of his “Great Society.” In 1974, President Richard Nixon refused to hand over tape recordings and docu- ments subpoenaed by the Senate Watergate Committee. Today’s Birthdays: Actress Barbara Rush is 90. Football Hall of Fame coach Don Shula is 87. Opera singer Grace Bumbry is 80. Actress Dyan Cannon is 78. Author-historian Doris Kearns Goodwin is 74. Country singer Kathy Forester (The Forester Sisters) is 62. Actress Ann Magnuson is 61. Rock musician Bernard Sumner (New Order, Joy Division) is 61. Country singer Patty Loveless is 60. Actor Julian Sands is 59. Rock singer Michael Stipe is 57. Actor Patrick Cassidy is 55. Actor Dave Foley is 54. Actress Dot Jones is 53. Actor Rick Hearst is 52. Rock musician Benjamin Darvill (Crash Test Dummies) is 50. Thought for Today: “Sometimes history takes things into its own hands.” — Thurgood Marshall, U.S. Supreme Court justice (1908- 1993). 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