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Tuesday, April 14, 2015 PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK East Oregonian Page 7A DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Husband’s family meetings leave wife out of the loop FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE BEETLE BAILEY BY MORT WALKER GARFIELD BLONDIE BY JIM DAVIS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE Dear Abby: My husband, “Rory,” or meet a friend or relative who has and I both come from close families. been recently widowed, DON’T say, Whenever something is wrong, trou- “If there is anything I can do, just blesome, etc., in either of our families, ask.” Call the person in the near future we have meetings where the entire and invite him or her to dinner with immediate family comes together to you. It doesn’t have to be a steak din- discuss the issue. ner or anything fancy. A home-cooked The problem is, I am not invited pot roast would be wonderful. to his! It’s not like I’m a recent addi- Of all my friends, only one has Jeanne tion to this family. Rory and I dated Phillips done this several times. The phone for 15 years before getting married. rings and he’ll say, “We’re having Advice My family started inviting him to our spaghetti tonight. Would you like to meetings after we had dated for a year, come over? We’ll throw in another including discussions about my dad losing his meatball.” I get so tired of going out alone to job, my brother’s stint in rehab and more. eat, or settling for a sandwich. — Grateful Rory’s family has had lots of similar meet- Widower In Illinois ings, but I am excluded because I am not a Dear Grateful: When a death happens, blood relative. Even when my husband lost sometimes people are well-intentioned, but his job, I was not invited to attend. I was left they feel awkward and don’t know what to sitting out in the hallway with the children do. Thank you for writing and giving me the and the boyfriend of one of his other siblings. opportunity to remind them that it isn’t the I am Rory’s WIFE. Shouldn’t I be allowed FOOD as much as it is the FELLOWSHIP in on the family discussions now that we’re that matters at a time like this. married, especially ones that center on my Dear Abby: The subject is email, which is husband? Am I overreacting because I’m so how so many of us communicate nowadays. angry about this? How can I overcome this When one gets an email from a friend or rela- exclusion from his family? — Wants To Join tive, it seems to me only common courtesy in In most cases to acknowledge it with a response, Dear Wants To Join In: You are not if only to say thanks. The reply need not be overreacting. If you haven’t done so already, immediate, but there should be one, I think. discuss this with your husband. He is the one Many people just don’t reply. What do you who needs to make his family understand you think? — Tom In Palo Alto DUHQRZDIXOOÀHGJHGPHPEHURIWKHFODQ,I Dear Tom: I think some people may be their line of thinking is followed to its logi- too busy to respond, particularly if the com- cal conclusion, then no man or woman who munication doesn’t seem important or contain marries in is fully accepted. “What God has a question. joined together, let no man put asunder,” the Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Bu- saying goes. The tradition in Rory’s family ren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was creates division, and it isn’t healthy. founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Dear Abby: I have a suggestion for your Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com readers. When you attend a funeral or a wake, or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. DAYS GONE BY 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian April 13-14, 1915 7KRXJKQRFRPSODLQWKDVEHHQ¿OHGDJDLQVW the unknown man who severely cut and VWDEEHG+HOOZLJ%UHGLQJLQD¿JKWDW*HUPDQ Hall Sunday morning, the grand jury will make an investigation of the affair which will doubt- less lead to the knowledge of the assailant’s name and probably an indictment. Subpoenas were issued this morning for a half dozen or PRUHRIWKHZLWQHVVHVRIWKH¿JKWDQGWKH\ZLOO appear before the grand jury in the morning. Prosecuting Attorney Steiwer has talked with some of the witnesses and none seem to know the man who wielded the knife. The best infor- mation obtainable leads him to believe the man was not from this city but had been working on some farm. A good many of the witnesses are positive they would know him if they saw him but some are doubtful upon this point as WKH¿JKWWRRNSODFHLQWKHGDUNRXWVLGHWKHKDOO 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian April 13-14, 1965 $UHVWUDLQLQJRUGHUZDV¿OHG0RQGD\SUH- venting Morrow County school board from proceeding with plans to construct a new high school in Boardman. Filing the suit which resulted in the injunction were Margaret Jor- genson and Howard Gollyhorn, both candi- dates for the school advisory committee, and Maxwell Jones and LaVelle Partlow, all of Irrigon. The plaintiffs charge that the school board meeting at which the decision was made to build the new high school in Boardman in- stead of at a point midway between Boardman and Irrigon was not properly announced; that the decision was actually made at an informal session prior to the public meeting; and that the board ignored reports of the State Board of Education, its own engineers and of experts employed by it. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian April 13-14, 1990 Rebuilding Heppner’s grocery store, lost LQ D ¿UH WKDW GHVWUR\HG D FHQWUDO GRZQWRZQ block last month, could begin within three weeks. Central Market owners Forrest and Gail Burkenbine say they have asked for ELGV DQG WKDW DUFKLWHFWV DUH SXWWLQJ ¿QLVKLQJ touches on plans for a bigger store with more parking. Forrest Burkenbine said he and his wife had thought they would rebuild on the old store’s foundation, but chose to expand af- ter they bought the adjacent lot on which the Wagon Wheel Restaurant and Lounge once stood. The restaurant was the suspected origin RIWKH¿UHWKDWFDXVHGDQHVWLPDWHGPLOOLRQ in damage to three businesses Feb. 3. Bev’s Bookkeeping, accountant for many Heppner businesses, also was destroyed, although ERRNVDQG¿OHVZHUHVDYHG THIS DAY IN HISTORY DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the 104th day of 2015. There are 261 days left in the year. Today’s Highlight in History: On April 14, 1865, Pres- ident Abraham Lincoln was shot and mortally wound- ed by John Wilkes Booth during a performance of “Our American Cousin” at Ford’s Theater in Washing- ton. On this date: In 1775 WKH ¿UVW$PHUL- can society for the abolition of slavery was formed in Philadelphia. In 1828 WKH ¿UVW HGLWLRQ of Noah Webster’s “Ameri- can Dictionary of the English Language” was published. In 1912, the British liner RMS Titanic collided with an iceberg in the North At- lantic at 11:40 p.m. ship’s STONE SOUP BIG NATE time and began sinking. (The ship went under two hours and 40 minutes later with the loss of 1,514 lives.) In 1935, the “Black Sun- day” dust storm descended upon the central Plains, turn- ing a sunny afternoon into total darkness. In 1939, the John Stein- beck novel “The Grapes of :UDWK´ ZDV ¿UVW SXEOLVKHG by Viking Press. In 1956, Ampex Corp. GHPRQVWUDWHG WKH ¿UVW SUDF- tical videotape recorder at the National Association of Radio and Television Broad- casters Convention in Chica- go. In 1981 WKH ¿UVW WHVW ÀLJKW RI$PHULFD¶V ¿UVW RS- erational space shuttle, the Columbia, ended successful- ly with a landing at Edwards Air Force Base in California. Today’s Birthdays: Ac- tor Bradford Dillman is 85. Country singer Loretta Lynn is 83. Actress Julie Christie is 75. Retired MLB All-Star Pete Rose is 74. Rock musi- cian Ritchie Blackmore is 70. Actor John Shea is 66. Actor- turned-race car driver Brian Forster is 55. Rock sing- er-musician John Bell (Wide- spread Panic) is 53. Baseball Hall of Famer Greg Maddux is 49. Actor Anthony Michael Hall is 47. Actor Adrien Bro- dy is 42. Rapper DaBrat is 41. Actress Sarah Michelle Gellar is 38. Rock singer Win Butler (Arcade Fire) is 35. Thought for Today: “Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.” — Simone de Beauvoir, French author (born 1908; died this date in 1986). BY JAN ELLIOT BY LINCOLN PEIRCE
