The Oregon daily journal., December 27, 1908, Page 31, Image 31

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'0' MATTEK bow optlmtattb ns
may t, It must ba admitted
"that rainy day do com and
tht one needs not only prepare
(or pleasant weather, but also for the
time when Old King Sol has hidden his
head under a rain cloud. And why is it
that women have so little realization of
the proper costume for a rainy day? It
does not suffice Just to wear last year's
suit and soma old hat. The woman who
takes any pride in her appearance vhas
always at hand a costume appropriate
to wear In the rain, but which will still
be becoming- and dainty, even if the
good rays of the un break through.
How many times have you gone out in
the rain attired in some old suit, and
felt that you were at a decided dis
advantage when the weather changed,
leaving you still out and not pre
paredT Yet If you had worn a becom
ing yet small hat. a plain, well-fitting
suit and a trig neck arrangement
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THE FORMAL CALL
THE etiquette of calling Is some
times a very serious affair, and
a great deal of trouble has
brewed In diplomatic, circles, and even
In everyday walks of life, on account
otjgnorance In thla very ImporUnt
phase of social intercourse.
Not very long ago a New York
woman mo'vad out West to a mining
town, which boasted ot only three
feminine - Inhabitants: the new- ar
rival, a young girl and her aunt. Of
course. Just after the Easterner ar
rived the tint and - the young gin
paid their respects by leaving cards
turned down In the proper place. But
when the New Torker returned the
call ahe rode to the house on horse
back. Soon afterward she invited the
y ,ng girl to luncheon, and what was
her: surprise when the aunt refused
to allow, her niece to accept the in-,
vltatlon on the ground that her .call
bad never been properly - returned.
Said he: "Any one who comes to
, my house in such Informal attire' as
a riding habit cannot be considered to
know, the proper usages of society!"
So tlje woman of New York, who had
been In the whirl of gaiety all her Ufa,
was censured by the woman of the
western country town. You see how
easy it i to be neglectful . of one
small 'detail..- which may influence,
many years" ot your life. Toe New
York woman 'found that she was de
nied the pleasure of having as a com-.
panlon the1 young grlrl. the only.;
woman of her age within hundreds
.of miles. V . , !,;, ,. , - . , . . .v
Iphfe m Soda!
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you would have felt no embarrassment
whatever when the clouds did disap
pear. Look at the girl In the picture with
a dressy suit, a long- skirt and a
feathered hat. She may look very at
tractive in the sunshine, but how will
she be when the rain has soaked the
hem of her dress, when the curl, comes
out of her plume? Surely it would have
been better had she worn a more suit
able costuma or at least a shorter skirt.
How much neater the other girl looks
in her raincoat and walking sklrtt . No
shower or even cloudburst could make
her look bad, and she need have no
fear Vbat the downpour will spoil her
garments.
But even with a skirt of walking
length it is quite possible to be incor
rectly dressed. There is the picture of
the girl in the tailored suit. She looks
fairly Well, but around her neck she
wears a piece of chinchilla, one of the
dressiest and most perishable of furs,
am ' not upholding the decision of
the , too ' particular Westerner nor am I
saying that she was wrong, but a first
call is rather a formal matter and H
should be returned In the same form
as it was : made. There are certain
times when ' one makes a formal
call, and there are certain forms to be
remembered.. , It Is of these that X wish
to tell you, o you may avoid the pit
falls that await the new arrival In a
community and the commuter when he
first settles In the "suburbs" ' of song
and poem. . W'v '' --.
. In the first piace, visiting cards are,
of course, a necessity, and they should
always be engraved with the full 'name
of the owner, so he or she may be defi
nitely designated. M. Jones means noth
ing . whatsoever, While Mortimer Jones
might Immediately .lace him In the
memory of his acquaintances. A man
seldom has his address upon hie cards,
although his wife almost always does.
It Is not, however, obligatory. A girl,
unless she be ltb oldest granddaughter
In her branch of the family, cannot use
the title' tnlss combined with the last
name only - She , must use , her first .
name to Indicate that she is not the old
est child bearlna that surname. A mar
ried woman uses, of course, her title,
mlBtress, and her Jiusband's full name,
whether she be wife or widow. If she
be a divorcee, then she will usually use ,
ier maiden name combined with the
ast name of her. ex-husband. ' It Is In
thin way that a distinction can be made.
Xeyer use any abbreviation on a visit
ing card, with the exception, ot junior.
It is quite, permissible to add Junior
after, the man's name If the generation
must be indicated. .
When making the first call a wife win
always leave Jier husband's card as well
- as her own. If she' Is calling upon an
other married couple,-then she will leave :
. two of her husband's cards and one of -her
own. It there is an older daughter
upon whom she must also call, she must
leave two of each. Some people leave .
' a card of the man's for every one In the
family, and a card of ; the' woman's for
G oncerning Health and Beauty
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while the hat 'that crowns her Is large
and on the semi-dressy order. How
much better to wear a toque, even one
of the most conservative type, and not
the vey top of the fashion! The girl
with the plain, tightly-fitting ruche of
astrakhan and the small hat Is clad In
far better taste. A comparison of the
two photographs will show the differ
ence, for even those who do not know
the Intricacies of good form are quick
to notice the slightest improvement In
appearance.
But perhaps you are wondering why
it is that I. on a page devoted to health
and beauty, am writing to you on the
subject of dress. Has not all dress a
great deal to do with beauty T Would
it be worth while for me to help you
spend hours in caring for your com
plexions and yet say no word of warn
ing in regard to dressing? Would It be
worth while for any one to have the
most perfect complexion in the world
every feminine member only. This seems
to me to be a very foolish performance,
and I consider that four cards, two of
the man's and two of his wife's, should
be sufficient to indicate that every one
had been remembered. There is one
family with whom I am acquainted who
have seven daughters. How ridiculous
It would be to leave nine of my. hus
band's cards and eight of mine!
There was once a custom of turning
. down the corners of the cards. This
has, happily, become obsolete, with the
exception of one turn in the upper right
hand corner, which indicates that it is
the first call. But even this is seldom
done, it used to be the fashion to turn
down one corner when the footman left
the cards, another for the second call
: and still another when the cards" were
left in person. It is easy to see that one
would need a complete guide for the
manipulation of visiting cards were this
custom still In force.
PAETY CALLS
The residents of a neighborhood al
. ways call soon after the arrival of a
- new neighbor., They also make the first
call upon a bride. Cards should be left
at the ho vise of those who have gone
Into mourning, regardless of who has
paid the last ealL
lUnner parties, evening receptions,
balls, wedding breakfasts and lunch,
"eona require a party call within two
weeks after the date of the function.
Tea and weddings alone require no
party call. When tea cards are sent
out it merely means that the hostess
-cU be home on a certain day to re
ceive her friends. For that reason
those' who cannot attend should mall
their cards, for a visiting card should
be regarded as the person her or him
self.' Perhaps that Is a little exag
sratsd, but I am sure that you un
derstand what I mean, that there Is
no other way of sending a proxy ex
tpt by card. .: .
f People often ask: "How can I tell .
When to call, -and how can I' tell
whether I am wanted or not?" You
cannot tell if you are wanted until
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AlRSjiENItY SXMES
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if she mar her appearance by dressing
in poor taste and in inappropriate cloth
ing? Surely I would be a bad adviser
if I were to neglect this side of the
question.
And really rainy days are quite
gloomy enough without making them
more unpleasant by appearing at your
worst. I can understand people taking
special care of their toilets In dreary
weather. I once knew a girl who wore
silk stockings on .rainy days because,
she explained, she could hold her skirts
out of the dampness with confidence In
the trlmness of her ankles. That may
be carrying the point a little too far,
but I am sure if you follow my advice
and wear only clothes that fit the day
you will feai at no disadvantage in spite
of the inclemency of the weather.
W
jou arrive at the house, when you can
easily Judge by the manner of your
reception. As for the time for call
ing, make it a point never to par
a formal call on Sunday afternoon
nor on any evening. All first calls
must be paid in the afternoon of a
week-day. between the hours of 4 and
. A call must always be returned,
and It is wise to perform this duty
within a month. After you have
passed the first stages of formality
It is not necessary to leave cards
each time you go to a house. That
Is a matter of common sense and good
Judgment.
One more point: Should you call on
a friend and find that you have ar
rived during: an entertainment to
which you are not invited, then re
main but a very few moments, make
your excuses and depart. In your
own house, in case some caller might
arrive, leave word at the front door
that yeu beg to be excused. This is
not to save you annoyance so much
as to save your friends embarrass
ment. PERPLEXITIES
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.At iht Second Marriage
DOES one give wedding presents to
widows or widowers on the oooasloa
of their second marrlasst
AN IMJCTREB.
Yes. indeed; It Is quite the thing to
do; rt makes no difference whether the
man or woman has been married before
or not In fact, widows frequently re
ceive many more presents than roung
single girls, because they often have a
larger circle of acquaintances.
Marriage and Mourning 3
Will yon kindly tell me what to 'the
eraiMr length of time to allow between th
iaalh ot a relative and the announc.meM
v of an encasement te be married T 1VA F.
Personally, I always regard an en
gagement and ' a marriages as being
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serious enough to take their own places,
in spite of the fact that the family
may be In modrning. I should,' how
ever, not announce the engagement for
a month after the death of your rela
tive, and, if you are not to be married
very soon, do not announce it until Just
before the wedding invitations are to
be sent out. If you are to be married
very soon, do not make a function ot
the ceremony. Let it be as quiet as
possible and Invite very few people to
the ceremony.
What Should be Done With
the Umbrella?
X go out very often to call with my
mothsr, but I never seam to know what to
do with mr umbrella or parasol. Should
It be taken Into the drawing room, left
outside or siren to the rvrif.T.
DEBUTANTE.
There Is no special rule In regard to
this matter, but common sense should
teach one a great deal. If the umbrella
Is wet. It mar be left In the hall; and
If It Is very wet, it may be given to the
servant when entering the house. If the
' umbrella Is dw, It may be brought to
the drawing room. However, if you are
sufficiently familiar with the family, you
may put the umbrella in the stand. A
parasol Is always carried.
Engagement Rings
Are engagement rings still tMhlonl.
No one has ever thought of engage
ment rings going out of fashion, as
they are perfectly logical presents for
a man to give bis prospective bride.
Some men prefer to give pendants, but
as they may be .worn enly at certain
times and with certain gowns, they are
very unsatisfactory.
Dinner at a Restaurant v
I am going to give a dinner at .a res
taurant neat month, and I want to know tf
it i naccaaary tohave the same number
of saSfmen. H th.jr should g
Into the dining room In pairs, the same
" it U were la ."0UiARkABBr K.
. It Is not absolutely necessary that you
should bavs the same number "
as women, but I think you will find the
party to be more pleasant If you do.
In entering the dining room of a pubUo
restaurant It Is better for the women
to precede; that Is, if 'the tables are
already engaged. The hoet or hostess
may walk first and led the way. - To
prevent a confusion and to Insure tne
right seating, cards should be arranged
at each one's place,
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Mrs. Symes Aids
to Correspondents
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WINO to the great amount ot
mall received and the limited
space given this department, it
Is absolutely Impossible to an
swer lotters iu the Sunday issue follow
ing their receipt. The letters must be
answered in turn, and this ofttlmes re
quires three or four weeks.
All correspondents who desire an im
mediate answer must Inclose a self
addressed stamped envelope for a reply.
This rule must also be complied with in
regard to personal letters.
Bichloride of Mercury
In your recipe for face bleach rou men
tion bichloride as one ot the Ingredients, t
would like to know If that isn't harmful,
for I hear It Is a deadly poison. ANNA B.
It Is true that bichloride of mercury
Is a poison and must not be taken in
ternally.' However, when it is used in
connection with so much water it will
do no harm to apply It to the face. Do
not use the solution oftener than once
every two weeks.
An Excellent Hair Tonic
Please rlre mo something as soon aa pos
sible to make the hair grow. Mine la com
ing out so (ast that I rear I will soon be
bald. FLUFFT.
In order to keep the hair in good con
dition it Is necessary that you give it
special attention; that Is, brush it often
and give It a sunbath whenever possi
ble. I am printing herewith a tonlo
which it will be well for you to use.
For Falling: Hair.
Cologne I
ounces
Tincture of cantharidee 1.
Oil of Enellah lavender 1
ounee
H dram
OU of rosemary H dram
Apply to the roots of the hair once or
twice a day. It is poeltively necessary that
the scalp ahould be kept clean. Bhamooo at
least once a week.
Is It a Permanent Cure?
In a recent paper you gave a formula for
curing bunions. Is this remedy merely to
allay the- pain, or has It a tendency to re
move the bunion? INQUISITIVE.
I do not think 'it Is ever possible to
remove a bunion, as it is caused by the
'pressure of too short a shoe, but it
is possible to cure the pain, and the
recipe to which you refer will do the
latter. I have heard that a very good
way to allay the pain and It sounds
like a simple one, too is to , wrap
twisted cotton round and round, leav
ing an open space just over the bun
ion. Then pour hot lard over the bun-
' ion. Great caution should be used If one
tries this cure, for there Is danger ot
burning the foot if one is not very care
ful. It is well to have some one else
perform the operation tor you.
To Acquire White and Soft -::v-
Hands
Will -yeu kindly publish a jrcipe for
something to soften and whiten the handsT
I would ilka some simple remedy that can
be made at h ome. HOUSEKEDTPEB.
The following recipe Is one which can
easily be prepared at home:
Lotion toWhiten and Sof teif irands,
Put "nt a bottle two ounces, of glycerine. -
two ounce, of water, four taWespoonfu of
lemon Juice and. a tvr Oropa of tarbollo
acid Shake well. After washing and art'
. Ins the h5e rub Z little of this ailature
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Chapped Lips
Mr lips chap every time X s out In tfia
wind, ana. uiougn I n
come vnr sore, what
war a. veil, they .
, do for them?
When the Up have been chapped b
cold or wind, they should have an ap
plication of cold cream every nlgbt, Be
fore applying the cream, however, bath
the lips In very warm water. Before
going out a mixture ot tosewates) a4.
glycerine may be applied. ; .
To 'Bleach a Swim J
Is there any wr to bleach a switch
Kins U darker thaa my growinr hair.
First put your switch Into a strong toy
Xstlon of ammonia water to remove) anjf
possible oil i then rinse ta equal quanUn
tie of peroxide of hydrogen and puraV
water. Hans the switch) la the air tj
dry. If the color Is then, not quit right,
repeat the peroxide bath and drying
process until it hag attained th ahada
fleshed, k .
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Kecipe for a Vomad
can halo me.
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I am giving; you a recipe for a pomade
which will restore shrunken and flabby
kin. Apply the mixture to the neck
very night. ,
SIL,?' ?? almonds...
ounces
ouncM
ounces
DunaM
Tlnoture bensoln . 'I'J!' u.
Rowwater ...V...." 111
Pulverized tannin
- s drams
Jaborandi Tonic
W0KK1EI.
Massage your scalp once a day with
the, tips of the fingers, and then apply
the tonic, recipe of which I am giving
you. A very good way to get the tonlo
on the scalp is to pour : little of the
solution into a saucer, then dip a small
brush-a toothbrush will do-lnto It and
then apply it to the head very gently!
Jaborandi Tonic.
Quinine sulphate ... , -
tenwuiir ""'d ounces
Kosewater Xl fluid ounct
the otherlnsrVdisnU Tadae' SSf "XZ JEZZ
into tit root at Uio hair
vry nit ht.
Massage Cream for the Bust
-S.11 J??..klP"l,.?lvt am to use
.m?W1'r '? buetT I want Some
thing that to harmless. Mrs. J, D. M.
You will find the following recipe tor
massage cream a harmless one:
I-anolin ...... s
Spermaceti ..'" " "iz 2V""
gpT.uwee7mo,Vd.:.':;::;;::- sees
cm "SZtt, bn90ia "' J Sri1
uu of neroll X drops
Mix as you would anv cream of the sort
Rub on gently at night. . n
To Reduce the Hips
,,LIV.,,oav,arclp .,or ,nrthiBg to redu'oe
the hlpsT Mine ere too Urge for the present-day
styles, A&EAC&vK.
The best way to reduce the hips is t
take exercise, and I think you will fini
the following- one very beneficial: . ,
First, raise the outstretched arms above
the head, the body retainm IU erect post- '
tlon: then bend slowly rorward from the
waist, so that the Angers eome aa near
touching the floor as possible, without
straining In any way. This is dan without
pending the knees. In recoverinc position
let the arms relax and sink down a the
body straightens up. Second, with hands
Placed lightly on the blue, the flnsra
pointing forward, let the body drop forward
easily, so that It Is bent at the waist. This
must be- done gently, aa by Jerkin more
sl tlon roll the body roun.t to the right.
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being bent over the side: then bat-k ta the
rrout, Deing careiui to do it very easily at
nrst till the muscles- have gained strength,
for an exaggeration of the movement n-ay
cause real paiu. Then on to the left and bade
to the front. ractice again, only start to
ward the left. The waist avcts as a pivot on
which the trunk swings, and the bead is
easily relaxed. Third. In this exercise the
. hands have the same position, but now the
body is bent forward from the waist j then
back: then to the right and left. . gacl
movement should occupy four counts. Taae
theee exercises genUy. but let the . move
men ta be firm and strong. Avoid the
slightest strain of the. muscles. No corsets
ahould be worn while practicing them.
For Chapped Hands
Uuring the cold weather my hands
chap every time I go out Into the air.
Will you please give me something to
make them smooth! A REAPER.
Possibly you are not careful to dry
your hands thoroughly after washing
them. Very often this is the caue of
rough and sore hands. I am giving
you below a rer pe for a cream which
you may apply to the hands every
night: -'.
' Cream tor Chapped Hands.
White petrolatum 14 ounces
Paramne
was .:,,
L ounce
1 ounce
. i.aiitmu
Water
a-..,...,,.
..lw ounces
. drops
Vi drun
OU of rose
Alcohol . . .
Melt the parefflne wax. aM the petroie-
turn and lanolin.
rwiui. Add tne
oil and alcohol ion wnr wu. . -
The Beauty of Hair
s-v-e.0 HAVE a pretty head of hair one
I take care of it. No matter
- X how tird you may U ' night,
'be sure to get rid of all combs '.i
astiuw hair, shake - the hair l'
and brush and comb it' thoroughly.
if your hair is falling out and j .
are using a hair tonlo, after well U"i -lng
the hair, apply it to the -.
It is best to use a tonio at l- t i
for it gives the scalp pinty .( i "
absorb it. ' . , , , .
If tt Is npfmmry to tU f " ' ' '
exercise Judgment 'i '
conform with the. size ati-1 t s n
of the head. ...