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About The Sunday Oregonian. (Portland, Ore.) 1881-current | View Entire Issue (May 21, 1911)
JpSnreri How These Women MaKe Good in Places Held in the Past by Men Intuition Helps Them Manage People and to Get the Most for the Least Money Achievements of Some Local Buyers. T hu bon only short time since I the spot.lcht of public appreciation an! curiosity haa ben turned 00 wvmea trercftnt th buyers far d . pertinent atore. Twenty yeaxe ato latr were no women buyers: today they are e Irr port ant a factor as vo,ta In ur thsr line of work and the.r epoch taM J jt be can. At first, dwq h.a ail the responsible jvoett. rs In tie stores an J trn on ef the lee Important places as clerks. f fculonaJj a woman wouM be!p man l-t a:"Hl. That aa iirp tlonaJ. but it was how she aol her opprttxiil;y. Of late the women are oiijtln c the mn from ttietr plc on e. Mr Tsy maiie up a Urc me- Jority of th c;era, while many of the 4rs tf'parttneats are man aired and tne srola bouc.'.t bT them. Thy seem to He rrtl-ti!r!y fitted for (he trade. Intuition h'pa Ihera to manere po yle and to jprt the most out of them fir the -. money. Above a.l they lava a keen tnaicht Into what women want. The mt strlktajr nampln of womn buyers are the purchasers of thtnss fr women surh a cloaks and suite, iriillnery. rortftj. and trie like. The amount of a buyer's salary Is oas way f Rhovlnv her worth by hr Arm and thMr salaxl rane from 9.09 to t;i.Oo a year. avrdinar to the s!se of the etoiea and tue buyer's particular 'value. la lrtiand there are 1 women bay era Too wt.f tin. I them la most every department: cloaks and salts, corsets, tnlilinery. lac a llrtlr.. e it-embroideries, plctnr. Jewelry, neckwear, no r(r, 1c facte' wear, books, leather aooi, drusrs. one manages a popular ta room. Mowt of thea women make at least two trips to N'-w York each year, while some iro to Farts tn order tat fher may purchaae their merrhan cltao from the very center of fashion. Wlwre Women Win On I. In each store the members of the firm are lood In the praiae of the hrewdncits mi three' women In con ductlnic bulne,' It Is the opinion of 1 tnany that within the next 29 year women wtll be buyer of ail aroods worn by women and also be manufae- j turers if women's wearlnsT appareL Tw notable Illustrations of the I adaptability cf women to the trade la' e.iown by two of the srreateat mer chants of oir time. First, the woman who owned the Hon Marche in Farts, the Tarveet department store In the world. rarrytn from 80 to 10.00 em-r-toyeo. This woman's husband died when he was quite yoanc She took over the business and made a tremen dous surees of It. Before her deatb aha formed a corporation and put the btielneas Int It hands and thus It stands today. Second. Is the wife of the late owner of the "Bo ton Store." In rhl tfn. She was formerly an em PT V. F CHASRo IN flfty-cls-ht years the establish ment of J. Illrks. licensed Pawn broker, had suffered many chana-ra. generally for th worse. Its neigh borhood had degenerated frero smart r spertablllty to unabashed seedlnesa. Th one oignlfled reserv of Its cur- t.in"! windows Hicks had been banker by proclamation In the begln- rlns had given p:a. to th cheap al lurvmnts of unredmed pledges, frankly cfTered for sal. Within, dirt and darav had mad their horns la r.ry corner of Its neglct4 prroie. (n thins; aloa had changed for th better. Hicks himself bad been modu lated by th great composer. Tim, from a particularly vuie-mr. slf-aertlv vouneT man cf Into a veteran of Insular iraUnrH ami benlanlty of aspect. lar.y due. It must be owned, to a patriarchal beard, th most suc cessful advertising meilium th buxlnea. had vr known. 8-en through It highly refracting nvrci'im. as through a masinlfylng rlaaa. the smaileirt idrinc-i vm4 aaunlDcnt. and th moat usur ious rate ot inter.. t loomed up as ben. f.rtl 'na through Its d--ctlv mlit. la t yar muy thing had corns Into the Int. shop and gon again. Irv an, I Joy and death and blttrie., and ple!fs Innumerable, waning with th year, from the dlaltv of watche aoj vfvMlnir ring to tt e 1- gradutlon of Eat-lrocs and th bl blankets. A wir had been gtv.a Into bis car for a reason, at om rr!l of Providential unthrtft. but ha.1 been redeemed again l.i da time, and taken out of bis stricken haa!. A eon had com to him In th ways of lire's business. A bad loan. tUm and one that had cost Mm dax. Vet. now that h too was awn, th father would bav mad an van mors liberal advance to have him back. And It had somehow gradua.ly come about, through some resultant t.lat In th old man's mind. that, la a g.aeral war. h preferred his pledges tt his monev. that he relinquished them often with mantfeat regret, and the certain Immemorial Itenia of col lateral uprn bta shelves, representing money hop.!e.a'. y lout to him. had b o'Ei Bverthiea th scare of rro fcund satisfaction. Su.n was No. J31 as It stood en tered upon hi book. Commercially regarded. No. 831 was a green sii'a umbrella with a heavy metal i.andl of considerable Intrinsic va'.ue; sentimentally. It stood f -r Hicks' oldest and dearest friend: psvcholoKlraliy. It supplied him. other motives being lack ing, with something to live for. Its history was a almpl one, but of quit exceptional Interest. It had been pawned ons morning tn th early years of his business llf by a respectab'. elderly gentleman, who, after some haggling, accepted for It the sum ef four dollars. With this sum and th customary ticket, he went out of Hicks' establishment, and was never citti seen thers or lsew-here. .Nearly a year from th data of this , transaction, and just before the zptra ' t'on of th term of th loan, a young run had turned up. sad had Inquired nh evl.l.nt anxiety regarding the - i isd uiubrwUs. m AsscrlpUoa was 1 ploye tn the r Jo-re department of the same store. From the day of her wed dine she kept tn close touch with her husband s afTalrs. A few years after the marriage he dl'd. leavlnc her tn f Mil chart of fcls enormous business. Hr lucrrii haa been marvelous. Hli baa extended the business and doubled the Income. Ajjutht-r case showtnc women In manufacturer lines la the case of the two women buyers from a bis; Chlrnita house. They became tired of working for their firm and determined to buy a business of the:r own. They went to New York and boticht out a small underskirt manufacturer by the name of Alaioney. In few years they have become known from coast to coast and many la rare stores all over the country buy underskirts from these women. Knotty Problem to Mvt. It la hard to appreciate the icops of the woman buyer's work, for ahe Is beset by difficulties on every band. In our srreat-sTrandmotherr time. II a merchant bought a si -a k of shawls and tier did noy sail well that year he would not worry for sooner or later he would dispose of them. Not so with the merchant of today, for If she buys suits to sell the followlnc Sprlna they must be sold the faliowina; Sprlna or not at alt. The suits ie buys this Sprlnc may have extremely short Jack ets and tlsrht skirts a 3d by tiuromer lotLa" coats and pleated skirts may be In vostue. On every hand she must meet the demand of fashion. The prob lem In her mind la to buy aroods ffcat she can sell and ft the money out of before the public la railing; for some- 1 thins; entirely different. On the buyers rest the whole responsibility, for they t irlven full authority In selecting merchandise. They must take It as seriously as tf their own money was at take. Ml.-a IxIa Bernard, a cloak and suit buyer In one of Portland's lars;e de partment stores, haa the distinction of being one of the first women buyers tn the United State. When she first began buying she was a curiosity to the trade and she was pointed out In the sample rooms and the hotels as a "woman buyer. Miss Bernard stood her ground from the first and she proved to be of superior Judgment than many of the men buyers. Chaninc Old Mc-risods. It bad been the custom to take the aulta aa they fonnd them. Buyers would select a great many of a certain style or some of each style. There were two classes of buyers the one who plunged on a certain line tn the hope that It would please bis trade and the one who took a little of each sort, and thereby secured a mediocre assort ment with no particular mode to show distinctness of style. But Miss Bernard and the first accurate, and Hicks had no difficulty la Identifying the article, and no reason for denying Its possession. "it Is most Important." said tne young man. "for for family reasons, that this article be redeemed. There Is no ob jection. I presume, to my paying the loan and Interest, on behalf of my my relative, and taking the property out of your hands. "Non whstever." said Hicks, "pro vided yon have th ticket." "Surely that t. unimportant." urged the stranger, "ao that you get your money. Suppose ws say double the amount, by way of penalty for my carelessness In having lost the ticket. "That won't do." said th broker. "Supposing It turned up?" "Hut It can't turn up." Bald th young man earnestly. 1t Is at th bottom of th sea with th man to whom you gave it." "How can you prove that to me al, Hicks. "No. no. rr.y friend. I must have my ticket." "But the thing la worthless I will pay you tn times th loan to safe guard you against any claim twenty times! (iood Cod! he cried excitedly, "I must have tt. man: more depends upon It than you know." Hut Hicks was obdurate, and the stranger, after having exhausted bis stock of argument, entreaty and pe cuniary temptation, finally went away. VYhn he had gone, the broker took down th umbrella from Its shelf and examined It with a new interest. It was an excellent umbrella, solidly re spectable as to handle and stoutly erireab! as to fabric, yet scarcely deserving th valuation th young man had put upon it. Lwubtless Its valu was sentimental merely: and yet the claimant had been strangely eager. Thar was some mystery about It. Well, la & days It miut be solved, for If. a the young man had said. Its owner and the ticket were both at th bottom of th sea. the umbrella would become his when the loan mat'jrei. But the nukttsr turned out by no means so simply. Two days before th loan matured, the young man returned. clearly fortified with a better knowl-- edse of the business and of bis powers and privilege, paid the Interest on the loan for another yev. and thus re newed the matter for that period. Hicks accepted the money with an o.l.l sense of defeat and discomfiture, and when his visitor had gone awuy with Ins receipt he ajcaln took down the um brella, spread It. and. seating himself beneath Its superfluous shade, pondered deeply upon Its mystery, but to no sort of satisfactory result. "At least." he said to himself as he closed and replaced lt.v "possession Is nine points, even If he has scored one." In 11 months more, just as Hicks' Imagination was beginning to hover In close circles about his mysterious pledge, the young man again returned and renewed th loan as before, after again trying vainly to negotiate Its surrender. In another twelvemonth the earn performance took place, and again at the fourth and fifth anniversaries of the transaction. Each year Hicks' visi tor looked thinner and mors careworn. snd his argument grew more languid and perfunctory: but If his pursuit was lass s-er It was not lsa persistent. tiik stctdat otiegoxiax roinxArD, mat 21. 1911. ae rc hanfc5 In Portland it1 f : W I f . . - is v' '." . " '"r omrn buyers did not fallow the method of former buyer. "Look here. they aald when they wer rerlewlnir th samples dUplayed on moIoIn. "that I s, very a-ood looklna; coat, but ths skirt will not do at all. Maka us an other skirt and we will tsks certain number of tliewe. This was yrrry startllns; to the sales men, but what could they do ? Indeed, there Is" such an air of finality about statements made by women of this type and they understand their business so thorourhly that one ran only acquleare. They tolerate no arguments. The corset buyer haa a colloasal task In these days of slender Azures and no hips. She must entice her customers with all tn latest devices for reducing the Beure, she roust persuade them that bar corsets can produce the sylph-Ilk form now demanded by faslilon. That no longer means that a g-lrdle will sup. plr the demands of the stout and thin alike. A corset Is a Tory Important garment In a woman's wardrobe and must be selected with the prreateat care. The buyer or her assistant must per sonally conduct all flttlna-s. In each of the lanre department stores a woman handJes the corset question success fully. They are Miss Kstelle Kitchen. Miss KUa Hob lie and Miss Nellie Mlnoa-e. Mis Hobbs Is really buyer for two department, corsets and underwear, as Is Miss Nellie .Ml nope. That each of these women handles two departments Is really remarkable, tor both depart ments are larpe and difficult ones. Underwear Is a changeable- as suits and cloaks, for skimpy petticoats must be worn with skimpy skirts, while del icate laces and hand embroideries come and fro with each new s;ust of fashion. Making Good From Start. 'When Miss Hobbs be can to buy for her store, she was really taken as an experiment, as the members of her firm were rather skeptical about the capacity of women buyers. Her de partment grew so rapidly that at the end of the first year the firm was amased. They sent a telee-ram to the and each annual recurrence of the date found him promptly on hand to protect his mysterious Interests. Between whiles ths pawnbroker never saw him or heard from him. but there was scarcely a day that he did not think of him and of his pur suit, and scarcely a week that, in an ecatary of baffled curiosity and greed - for to his Inflamed Imagination the simple gamp had become the key to treasures untold he did not take down the article and re-examine It. rap It. sound It. rattle It. feel Its fabric Inch by Inch, and, upon occasion, curse its silent secretlveness In good set terms. Its metal head was large and heavy, solid, apparently, to all tests that he dared make, and cast or carved at the top Into th semblance of a grotesque head, with staring, deep-set eyes. Cut or otherwise Invsde the substance of stock or handle he dared not. as matter of professional scruple; and finally, noting that his frequent hand ling was causing signs of wear, he was force for the same reason, to deny himself altogether the futile pleasure of touching It. save upon rare and eagerly anticipated occasions But he hung It on the wall above his desk, and there It stood before him day by day. a beacon and a goal, a beckoning hand, a bow of promise. Twice he was sick to death, but they brought the umbrella to his bedside, and he straightway got well. He came back forlornly from his wife's newly made grave and sat down before his tails man. and was presently consoled. His son robbed and shamed him. but he knew a way to be heartened and up lifted. The Infinite possibilities of the umbrella spread themselves abov him and shielded him from the storm of circumstances. Thus time went on, the young man still coming doggedly year after year, every season oMer and grayer, soon' a middle-aged man. by and by an old man, older than his years, shabbier than once and feebler, but still un failing tn patience. He was always safely In time with his payment, but occasionally a little later than usual, because, perhaps, he hsd to journey far, or because money was scarce, and ne nan trouble to get even the Door sura needed to protect the pledge. Meanwhile the broker lived In a state of eager anticipation, the more con trolling that It was utterly undefined. Kacn year was to him a crescendo of hope, ending in sharp disappointment. His Ufa and Its affairs went on merely as the left-hand part or accompani ment to me air provided by the dis puted umbrella. Thus more than half a centurv went by, and as the SSth anniversary of wnai nan now come to be the chief event of his life approached. Hicks felt a livelier hope than usual stir within him. His annual visitor had seemed un usually feeble at the time of his last visit, and the chance that he could have survives: appeared comfortingly remote. A conviction that at length the mystery of so many years would be somehow revealed to him pene trated the old pawnbroker's mind, and as the critical date approached he felt an almost youthful eagerness of an ticipation. As a rule his visitor had turned up a day or two earlier than I store In the Middle West where they had secured her services. . It read: "ff you have another Miss Hobbs. send her at once." Now this store employs twice as many buyers ' aa any other store In town. When I spoke to Miss Hobbs about her marked success."Bhe said. "Oh. you see I am a crank on corseta Therein lies the socret of a success In any line. What woman In Portland does not know Miss Minoge or Miss Kltchln or Miss Hobbs? They have overcome the difficulties of multitudes of worried women, and like the fairy godmothers of old. given them their hearts' desire a trim figure. The Art of Selling- lists. In th millinery departments the search for fashion has no limits. It takes a keen merchant, a successful speculator, and withal a particularly snrowa inaiviauai to nanaie nats. jaiss Bertha Wagon blast haa all these re quirements. She haa Increased the business in her department decidedly slnr going Into It. She had been buy er In a wholesale house before taking her present place. Her personality is pleasing, she haa an easy manner and a very direct one. I waited while she discussed sailor hats with a salesman. Her conversation was short and to the point. When ha was dismissed she turned to me. In tares minutes she had told me what I had come to find out, given me the requested photograph, and If she had added. "That small white hat does not become you; you should be wear ing this large black one Instead." I feel quits sure I should have had the black at any cost. There la such a nice air of directness about her that smoothes all difficulties away. Art embroidery la a very Interesting department and Is usually handled by women. Miss Jean Milne has charge of one of these departments. She Is a Scotch woman and learned her art In Scotland. She came to Portland about 10 years ago and went to the store where she Is now buyer as clerk. Her JttZ - strict training in Scotland made it easy for her to work to the head of the department. Mrs. Anna Dltmar Is another buyer of art embroidery. She haa a particu lar ability that finally brought her Into her present work. Formerly a book keeper, she always possessed a rare talent for designing embroidery pat terns at which she spent all her spare time. Some one became Interested in her and helped her to secure a place In a needlecraft shop. From there she came to her present poeltlon. She Is devoted to her work and says she never wants to girt It up. Mrs. Dltmar Is one of the three married women buy ers of Portland, and while she admits that ber work is fascinating yet It does not take away her love for home. Following Fads and Fancies. Novelty jewelry makes up a very important Item In the finish of a oos- turns or the setting off of a hat. Take for example the fad for coral this sea son and the beads of all sorts. The buyer of novelties has all these fads to consider. Mrs. A. E. Roeslter, who has been In one store for 1 years. Is a buyer of novelty jewelry. She began as a clerk and worked up. At present she buys all the novelty jewelry, besides the cut glass and table silver. A woman who la particularly fitted for her department Is Mrs. Anna Older, a buyer for Infants' wear. Her success has been easier because she Is mother of two children and customers find In her a sympathetic adviser. When she first took charge of this department It occupied an obscure corner of the store. Now It occupies a good part of one floor. Subtleties of Xeck-wear. Miss Lillian North, a buyer of neck wear, must take great chances In se lecting her stock, for nothing changes style as abruptly or as often as neck wear. She must know months ahead whether the public will demand sailor shape collars or mannish tailored ones; TI4L ABSORBING ACCOUNT OF A HARD BARG AIN . whether customers will call for Irish lace or Persian silk. Pictures are a more staple article, and Miss Isabel Oilbaugh, a Portland girl, has made them her study. She has been In this department for six years and has served as buyer for four years, which is looked on as pretty rapid climbing. Another Portland girl who Is now a buyer Is Miss Leone Webber, head of a big drug department. She Is a gradu ate of the Oregon Agricultural College Pharmacy department, and has been out of college six years. Unlike most buyers she can select most of her mer chandise at home, yet she must make at least one trip a year to buy import ed perfumes and Christmas novelties. Embroideries and laces require thought and decision before being bought or the merchant stands a good chance of having to sell them for less than cost to get rid of them. I found Miss Fannie Hauley going about her task very amiably, although she ad mitted some of the buyers suffered with "nerves" after a hard season. Miss Hauley also is a Portland glrL Miss Rose Cox. tn the lining depart ment, told me very modestly that her department was small compared to millinery and some of the others. Nev ertheless, her department was - very busy and it struck me that a great many people considered it highly im portant to have linings in their dresses. She had the right kind to draw them there. Miss Mabel McCleary came to Port land from Peoria last June to take charge of the leather goods for her store. She has not always been a buy er. She began working In stores at the age of 14. and as she Is a very clever girl she understands her business thoroughly by this time and is a suc cess. Selecting the Right Books. The realm of books Is ruled by Miss Kate Armsby. "Of course, no depart ment could be more Interesting than mine," she- told me. When I asked her was necessary, but this year he had not appeared on ths morning of the final day. By the terms of the loan the owner's rights expired at noon, and as that hour approached Hicks took down the um brella with an unsteady hand and de liberated upon a plan of investigation. He had amply provided himself with tools, and only awaited liberty to use them. One.' Two! Three! Four! Five! Six! Seven! Eight! Nine! Ten! Eleven! Twelve! Hicks had selected a cold chisel from his layout, and was poising a hammer to strike, when a shadow fell upon his desk, and a familiar voice said: "Yes, you've beaten. I haven't the price. I've tried hard, but when one hasn't money to pay for food, even big ger things must go." Hicks paused in his work and looked at his visitor. He was pale and emaci ated, and could hardly stand from weakness. What little life was left him burned liufels eyes, with which ho eagerly devoured the article the two had so long contended for. "Let me show you," he said. "There Is an easier way." He took the umbrella from Hicks and. Inserting an awl in one eye of the carved face on the umbrella head with this leverage easily unscrewed the top, to the pawnbroker's amazement and disgust. The cavity thus discovered contained only a piece of folded paper, yellow with age. Upon this Hicks pounced with a kind of whine of ani mal greed and satisfaction. But the strangers' hand fell upon his with an energy of which his feeble body scarcely seemed capable. "Don't touch it!" he cried. "For God's sake don't. It is nothing nothing to you; to me It is so much. No." he urged, as Hicks strove to withdraw his prize. "Not yet, at any rate. Not until you have heard my story." He sank into a chair, his hand still grasping Hicks' 'wrist, and went on passionately: "It belonged to her father this urn brella. He was my employer, and a rich man; and I loved his daughter, and she loved me. But he found it out. and forbade me his house forbade me to think of her. But I wouldn't give her up. and she wouldn't give me up. and so we used to write one another every day, and send the letters back and forth In this umbrella handle. The old man always carried it. wet or dry. and I used to watch my chance during the day and unscrew the top while he was out of the office, and put In my letter, and she did the same at home. It seemed a great joke then to make him our postman. -"Good God! What a joke It turned out." Hicks sfbwly withdrew his hand, leaving the yellow paper between them on the desk. "Business went wrong," continued the stranger, after a pause. "The old man got involved worse and worse, tried the wrong way out of It, and had to skip. He realized on everything he had even this, as it turned out and left between two days, taking her with him. They sailed for South America on the Ginevra you remember she was never heard from never even spo how she knew what books to select. shej said: "Naturally one must read a lot;' I must know my authors. But first of all, I must konw what my trade demands." Mrs. J. B. Spencer manages and buys) everything for a popular tea-room. She has been prominent In women's clubs and women's affairs ever since she came here. She was a very suc cessful housekeeper,, so It is not sur prising that she knows what to put on the menu to please and refresh tired shoppers. When the buyer has completed her quest of fashion and merchandise and has started safely homeward, she has by no means finished her task. It has just begun. Handling the Selling End. There are the Spring and Fall open ings to think about. She must present her new styles In the proper way to her customers. They must be lured with "sales" to get them into the store. The goods advertised must be actually shown, must be fully as good as boast ed. She must have suitable names for all the new shades; there must be "Alice" blues, "Helen Taft" pinks, and "coronation" purples. Besides, she must see that she has efficient saleswomen to help her sell these goods. It Is the most efficient of these sales women that develop Into buyers for promotion arrives at no one point of the compass, but comes through hard work, pure merit, shrewdness and tact. The clerk who does not stand and pat her false hair or talk to the next clerk about the "swell" man she met last night, but the one who helps her cus tomer select goods and Is patient and Interested, whether the customer is elaborately or shabbily dressed, that is the clerk who will be the buyer of to morrow. She gets the best training in the world as to women's needs. So It is reasonable to expect more and more women buyers each year, as the depart ment store owners predict. LOUISE BRYANT. ken. And never a word from her it was all so sudden I knew that but something might have been done I couldn't understand. I guess I went pretty near out of my mind. My body Just went round without me, somehow, for months, doing the old things with out my knowing anything about It, when all at once I thought of the old 'umbrella route,' as we used to call it. It was a chance. Perhaps she didn't have any other. All their things had been scattered by sale, but I hunted and hunted. There were a hundred chances that he had taken it with him, but I took the one that he hadn't. By and by I thought of the pawnshops, and went the rounds. I guess yours was about the last, and when I got my eye.3 on the old thing, it was like com ing home. But the ticket stuck me. and I couldn't tell my story to such a man as you were then. You've changed a good deal in 58 years." He paused, and looked longingly at the letter. "That's what I wanted. I knew It was there. Her last letter to me. The last one she ever wrote. It made me wild at first to think that If I could only get my hands on the thing for a minute. I could have it out. But you never let me touch it. What'd you think tt was money?" Hicks nodded. "Money!" cried the other. "I've want ed money pretty bad, but never the way J wanted that letter. But I couldn't seem to tell at first, and by and by, when I got to know It was there, waltin' for me, it didn't seem to mat ter much, so that I could keep It safe. And I have!" he cried. "And here It Is." "Fifty-eight years," exclaimed Hicks. "You damned old fool! Why didn't you tell me this 58 years ago?" And pushing the letter toward his companion, he turned away. With a little weak moan of satis faction the stranger seized the paper and carefully opened It. It may have been five minutes before the old pawnbroker ventured to turn and look at him. Ho sat just as he had left him, hud dled together in his chair, the letter In his hand, his chin on his breast dead. (Copyright by the Short Story Publish ing Company.) Righteous Indignation. (Success.) . "So you want a divorce, do you?" said the lawyer, peering over bis glasses at the worried little man in front of him. 'Yes. sir. I've stood just about all I can. My wife s turned suffragette and she Is never at home." 'It is a pretty serious thing to break up a family, you know. Con t you think you had better try to make the best of it for a while? Perhaps it's only a passing fad." "That's what I have been doing, But there are some things a man can't stand. I don't mind the cooking and I haven't kicked on washing the dishes. but I do draw the line at running pink ribbons in my nightshirt to try to fool the children."