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lum p on a log. If things d o n ’t get
done, we argue. H ow can I get
him to m eet m e in the m iddle?
- Happy hut Tired; Toledo,
Ohio
Dear Tired:
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Dear Deanna!
M y h usband is very selfish and
i n c o n s id e r a t e . W e h a v e a
healthy relationship, our finances
are good and w e are g o o d par
ents to our children. T he biggest
issue in the relatio n sh ip is the
fact he w o n ’t help w ith an y
thing. I have to do all the sh o p
ping, cleaning, planning for ac
tivities a n d e v e ry th in g to run the
hou seh old and o u r lives. If I
d o n ’t do things h e ’ll sit like a
Y our husband is a lost cause if you
d o n 't have him trained or house
broken by now. You should look
on the bright side and be glad he
has a job, h e ’s not abusive and
h e’s involved with the children
instead o f being on a milk carton
like a dead beat dad. Take an
analysis o f the pros and cons in
your m arriage and if the negatives
are m ore than the positives seek
counseling, hang in there and do
the best you can to m otivate your
husband and get him moving.
Dear Deanna!
I bought a car from a friend and it
was a huge m istake. A fter I got
the car it broke dow n, started
leaking oil and the transm ission
went bad. Because w e ’re friends,
I thought we could w ork it out and
I would get som e o f my money
back. 1 approached him about
March 3. 2010
these issues and he told me it ever, I d id n ’t expect to spend
w asn’t his problem . I d o n ’t know m oney on these kids and have
what to do because a m echanic them curse m e out and d isre
told me he had the car fixed just spect m e nor did I ex p ect m y
enough to sell it. I feel betrayed girlfrien d to sleep w ith th eir fa
and want to know if I can sue him ? ther behind m y back. T he situ a
—Melinda; Boston
tion is w orse now because sh e ’s
pregnant w ith m y baby and I
Dear Melinda:
know I should leave this m ess
Y our friend ripped you o ff by
but I feel guilty. W hat do I do?
selling you a lem on and left you
—Brian; Los Angeles
w ith a silly look on y o u r face.
T h e re ’s not m uch you can do Dear Brian:
unless you have docum ents, the It would be a good idea if you decide
term s o f the sale and sim ilar not to be stuck on stupid. You need
paperw ork you w ould norm ally to get out of this relationship be
cause you’re being used and disre
receive from a dealership. Y our
spected. As for the pregnancy, you
car is on the road dead, your
can ride the wave until the baby gets
friendship is ruined and your here because you don’t know if the
m oney is gone. It’s w orth going baby is yours until you’ve had a
to sm all claim s court because he blood test. This clown show will
d id n ’t think about you so you only get worse as time goes on and
should handle y o u r business and you need to hold onto your money
and your mind, give them your rear
get ready to see the ju d g e.
end to kiss and keep it moving.
Dear Deanna!
I’m dating a w om an w ho has
children by an o th er m an. I knew
this going into the relationship
and I know the problem s that
w ould even tu ally com e. H o w
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