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March II. 2009
Dear Deanna!
My boyfriend will not tell me
that he loves me. 1 have been
with him for three years and he
always tells me that his pres
ence should answer the ques
tion. He has verbally said he
loves me about five times.
W e’ve had our problems with
cheating and break-ups but
w e’re still together. I want to
head in the direction of com
mitment but 1 need to address
his feelings first. How do I find
out his true feelings for me? —
Adrienne; Columbia, S.C.
Dear Adrienne:
The things your boyfriend isn't
sayin g speak the lo u d est.
You’ve allowed this behavior
in the relationship and at this
point, there’s a small chance
he’ll change. You have rights
in this relationship and deserve
to know his feelings and inten
tions. You need to be direct and
tell him how you feel, what you
want and your expectations on
love and marriage. Be pre
pared if you don’t get the an
swers you seek and you have to
decide to stay or keep it mov
ing.
Real People, Real
t« advice cal a inn known
fa r its fearless approach
lo reality based subjects!
anything other than move on,
be glad that you got out early
and pray for the new lady who
will be his next sucker.
Dear Deanna!
I have a platonic relationship
with a male friend of four years
but my fiancé doesn’t like it.
He has begun making hints that
I’ve slept with my friend and
accusing me of lying to him.
I’ve only known my fiancé for
two years and if 1 had to choose
between the two men, 1 would
choose my friend. How can 1
convince my fiancé that w e’re
only friends and that nothing is
going on? This is becoming
stressful because I love both
men and want them in my life.
Help? —Sharon; San Antonio.
Texas
Dear Deanna!
1 met a guy that 1 thought was
really interested in me. I helped
him get employment at my com
pany, helped with his bills and
paid child support for him. As
soon as things started looking
up for him, our relationship Dear Sharon:
changed. Things hit the fan Your future husband is jealous
when he got a promotion and of your relationship with your
moved into another department. male friend. It’s your responsi
He is now telling me that he’s bility to find balance as you
focused on improving his life seek to have both relationships.
instead of dating me. I heard Invite your husband to be part
that he’s dating someone else in of the friendship so he can un
the company. What do I do? - derstand and be more open
-Crying and Miserable; On- minded. Also be mindful of
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your platonic friendship to make
sure you're not giving your
Dear Miserable:
fiancé reasons to complain. If
You set yourself up by confus
things don’t improve after the
ing help with being used and
air is clear, you fiancé has is
also giving up your money. You
sues you certainly need to ex
never should mix business with
plore
pleasure because it’s a guaran
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see early on that he’s leaving email askdeannal@yahoo.com
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