July 16. 2008
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Dear Deanna!
1 met a guy that I thought was really
interested in me. I helped him get
employment at my company. helped
w ith his hills and paidehild support
fo r him. As soon as things started
looking up fo r him , our relationship
changed. T hings h it the fan when
he got a prom otion and moved into
another department. He is now
te llin g me that he’ s focused on im
proving his life instead o f dating
me. I heard that he's dating some
one else in the company. What do
I do? —Crying and Miserable: On-
l.ine Reader
Dear Miserable:
You set yourself up by confusing
help w ith being used and also g iv
ing up your money. You never
should m ix business w ith pleasure
because it's a guaranteed recipe for
pain. He used you to get ahead and
you can see early on that he’ s leav
ing you behind. I f you heard that
he’ s dating someone on the jo b , it ’ s
probably true. You can’ t do any
thing other than move on. be glad
that you got out early and pray fo r
the new lady who w ill be his next
sucker.
Dear Deanna!
M y nephew has left fo r college and
has completely lost his mind. When
he lived at home he was quiet, m ild
mannered and w ell behaved. I
hardly know him now that he’ s away
from home. He's still underage but
he drinks, has tattoos and has be
come loud and rude. M y sister
sim ply turns her head and says
he’ s an adult and I should mind my
business. Is this normal when kids
go o ff to college o r should I inter
vene and get him back on track? -
-Loving Aunt; San Bernardino, CA
Dear Loving Aunt:
You may be messing in business
that doesn’ t belong to you. Y o u r
nephew is an adult and his par
ents d o n 't have any issues w ith
h is life s ty le and m aybe you
should do the same. I f he’ s s till
in co lle g e , g e ttin g good grades
and staying out o f trouble, then
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he’ s fin e . You ca n ’ t im pose your
expectations on h im but you can
ca u tio n him about the d rin k in g
and any m oral issues. In other
w ords, accept his new found adult
hood and be there w ith gentle
guidance.
Dear Deanna!
I have a platonic relationship w ith
a male friend o f four years but my
fiance doesn't like it. He has begun
m aking hints that I ’ ve slept w ith my
friend and accusing me o f lyin g to
him. l ’ veonly known my fiancé for
tw o years and i f I had to choose
between the tw o men, I w ould
choose my friend. H ow can I con
vince my fiance that w e’ re only
friends and that nothing is going
on? This is becoming stressful
because I love both men and want
them in my life. Help? --Sharon:
San Antonio. TX
Dear Sharon:
Y our future husband is jealous o f
your relationship w ith your male
friend. It's your responsibility to
find balance as you seek to have
both relationships. Invite your
husband to be part o f the friend
ship so he cun understand and be
more open minded. A lso be m in d
ful o f your platonic friendship to
make sure you're not g iving your
fiancé reasons tocom plain. I f things
don’ t im prove after the air is clear,
you fiancé has issues you certainly
need to explore.
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Lodge to receive face-lift
continued
from Front
in d iv id u a ls to co ve r a d d ition a l
expenses.
Because the E lks
Lodge is a n o n p ro fit o rg a n iza
tio n , plans w ill include a d o nor
w a ll at the entrance o f the Lodge
that w ill lis t the names o f those
w h o co n trib u te d to the project.
N A M C O ’ s goal is to have the
outside o f the b u ild in g and a
p o rtio n o f the inside fin ish e d by
a k ic k -o ff celebration planned fo r
"T h e G a th e rin g " in late August.
Once completed, the public
can expect a com pletely new re vi
talized Elks Lodge and a chance to
partake in a variety o f business and
com m unity activities. To remem
ber the project, the membership
plans to create a picture collage
that w ill reflect the history o f the
organization.
F or m ore in fo rm a tio n on
how to get in v o lv e d o r donate to
the E lks Lodge p ro je ct, contact
one o f the project partners above,
stop by the elks lodge and ta lk
w ith Jennifer Dishm an o rc a ll 503
284-4853.
P ictu re d le ft to rig h t: Larry C o llin s from P.O.P.A., P a sto r M a ry O ve rstre e t a n d P a s to r D w ight M in n ie w e a th e r. P eople o f P urpose
A ssociates(P .O .P .A ) c e le b ra te th e 3 rd a n n u a l R e -tillin g th e S o il e vent. The e v e n t to o k p la ce S a tu rd a y Ju ly 1 2 , 2 0 0 8 clean-up
lo c a tio n s w ere M a p le M a llo ry A p a rtm e n ts, J e ffe rso n High S ch o o l a n d C o n n e rsto n e C o m m u n ity Church. Follow ing th e clean-up
was a c e le b ra tio n a t Irving Park w here C ool B reeze a n d The L ig h t pe rfo rm e d .
OHSU HIV Prevention Awareness
Basketball
Tournament
Huge Success
Teams from around Portland
com peted at the firs t annual
O H SU H IV Awareness 3-on-3
Basketball tournament at the Blaz
ers Boys and G irls C lub on June
21st.
The purpose o f the tourna
ment was to raise awareness fo r
H IV prevention.
The Oregon Health & Science
U niversity H IV Program hosted
the event at the Blazers Boys and
G irls Club, w ith prizes donated by
N ike and Helensview School. In
aday o f fierce com petition, M ike
W illis ’ s Team (M ik e W illis ,
Cameron Guyton and Dion Camel)
won firs t prize o f authentic N IK E
USA Basketball Olym picjerseys,
and R u ff Riders (Nate Lavinier.
Shawn K e lly and Edward R a tliff)
look second prize o f N IK E USA
Basketball O lym pic shixiting ja ck
ets. A ll 1st. 2nd and 3rd place
The Oregon H ealth & Science University HIV Program h o s te d the event a t the Blazers Boys and Girls Club.
team s a I so rece i ved a g i ft cert i ficate
for$50 to N ike from Helensview
School.
"T he 3 on 3 basketball tourna
ment sponsored by OHSU and the
Blazer’ s Boys and G irls C lub was a
fun and effective way to bring the
message o f H IV /A ID S education
to our youth and young adults,”
said K ris Persson, the Principal o f
Helensview School. “ The event
drew volunteers and spectators
from throughout the com m unity.
By com bining basketball w ith HI V /
A ID S awareness the organizers
were able to provide a fun and e xcit
ing event w hile educating members
o f the com m unity. The organizers
from O H SU and the Blazer’ s Boys
& G irls C lub are to be commended
for donating their time, talent and
e ffo rt to this event. There is a need
fo r more events like this in our com
m unity.”
The event drew volunteers and
spectators fro m throughout the
com m unity and resulted in over
$600 in equipment donations to the
Blazers G irls and Boys Club.
"T h is was an excellent com m u
p
NEW S E A S O N S
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nity event. We w ould love to see
more o f these," was commented by
a com m unity participant during the
event post-evaluation.
Given the high level o f com m u
n ity participation and team turn
out, O H SU plans to continue the
tournament next year.
“ This was one o f the most w orth
w h ile events w e’ ve sponsored,”
said Todd Korthuis, M .D . - o f the
OHSU H IV Program. “ It’ s fun to see
ourcom m unity com ing together for
a great tim e and also raising aware
ness fo r H IV prevention."
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